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HEY THIS IS HAILEY! I AM 13 AND I'M IN THE 8TH GRADE. I'M ALSO ON THE BETA CLUB, EVEN THOUGH I NEVER HAD STRAIGHT A'S; I GUESS THEY JUST LIKED ME. I HAVE 1DOG, 2CATS, AND 1PARAKEET. I LOVE TO GIVE ADVICE BUT IF I DONT UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEM, OR WHAT U WROTE, THEN U JUST MIGHT HAVE TO ASK SOMEONE ELSE. NOW U KNOW A LITTLE BOUT ME, SO START ASKING AWAY!
~~~~~~~~~HAILEY~~~~~~~~~~

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the guy i like likes me but i dont know if my friend likes him or if i really like him, but i know he likes me and he might like my friend, so should i like him or should i tell my friend who might like him to go after him. or what if he likes her but not me and she says go for it and i cant because he likes her and they fall in love and i become the bridesmaid at their wedding and the day before the wedding i realize that i really like him? and then pounse on her and break her back and then she hates me but he and I get married and live happily ever after what then? please help!!

Wow you think wayy to much. Now my head hurts... Before you start thinking about marrige you should probably think if you really like him after all. And if your friend hasn't said if she liked him yet she probably doesn't. So just hang around him [but not so much it gets annoying] and hint that you would like to go out [and I don't mean saying something about bfs, gfs, dating, or anything envolving you future between you two]. Oh and if your friend says something about you being around him just say you didn't know she liked him.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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ok me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 4 or 5 months now. And like all my friends say he loves me soooooooooo mcuh, and i feel the same way. He is sooo sweeeeett to me, but like when in 6th hour i have alot of friends in there and he doens't really have nay in that class, except me, and he flirts with me all the time when im with my friends, but like when hes with his friends, he just totally ignores me, like he will look at me then walk away, and i feel like h doesn't wanna be around me. A few ppl said i should get rid of him because i don't deserve to be treated like that, but would talking about it to him help? And if so, what would i say? and like other night i wanted to cry because we went to a football game together, and i only got to talk to him once because he left me for his friends. And like i would feel stuped if i was crying over that, cause what if we did start talking about it and i started to cry....just help me!

Ok you have to talk to him about it, even though it doesn't sound like he deserves a chance. And it's ok if you start to cry, we all do, maybe he'll even notice that he's really hurting you. But if he doesn't change then dump him because he's obviously not worth it.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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I was talking to my best friend on the phone yesterday. (She's a girl, im a guy.) And she said she liked me. I like her too, and I told her that. It should be easy to figure what to do next but it's not. We want to be more then friends but were afraid of ruining our friendship if something happens. Also, she is afraid it would be too weird but I don't think it would. So I guess Im asking, should I ask her out? Or should we just stay friends even though we want to be more, just so it won't be weird?

If you just stay friends it'll still be weird because you both know you like eachother. And plus she'll start thinking that you didn't like her all that much in the first place. So yes ask her out. Besides there's no reason not to go out, I mean you both like eachother.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~`

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14/m
There's a girl in 2 of my classes that looks at me and stares at me a lot. It doesn't bother me, it's not like she just stares at me constantly. Girls do this a lot, and girls tell me that I'm cute. This one girl that I notice, who I think is attractive, looks at me during class. I will be looking around during class and I will see her looking at me and then look away. We've talked before, but we're not friends. I have known her since 6th grade (11 or 12). People don't think I'm weird or anything, so they're not looking at me beacuse of that. Sorry if I worded it wrong, but it was hard to explain it, and sorry that it's long. But, do you think that she likes me?

Yes she does like you. So start talking to her, not that immature crap I know a lot of guys do. Oh yea and that was not long, actually it was really short compared to most.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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hi iam thirteen and i am a female i use to like this boy name pete. we did like each for a while until our class got into it he told me he didnt like me any more. I was devastated thats when this year i respected that he didnt like me but every time i turned around he would stare at me for a long time. then he would look at my butt. to tell you the truth i dont know what i am feelling for him i cant tell my best friend because each year this goes on and were in the same class. This love triangle been going on since the six grade. Can you tell me if he likes me or not i can usually could tell but i am just trap i need some advice and sorry for writting this so long.

Ok who's in the love triangle? Pete, you, and your friend? Or Pete, you, and your butt? From what I can tell there's a part of you he likes, but you probably won't like him liking it. Your butt.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~hailey~~~~~
P.S. Trust me I've seen longer questions, but that's because people try to explain everything.
P.S.S. Write normally it's hard to follow you when you say things like 'we did like each for a while until our class got into it'.

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So..there was this party that was happening.. my boyfriend invited me but I had to go out of state for a sports related conflict. Anyways, he told me he was going to go without me because it was one of his best friends parties.. so, reguardless, he cheated on me (not only nonstop-make out- but fingered and felt up a girl)- keep in mind he was drunk. it still questions me though- how do you get so drunk you forget about your GIRLFRIEND completely?? Should I stay with him or not? He claims it was because he was so drunk and horny, but he really does love me. TOUCH CALL. Thanks in advance.

When guys really love girls they do things for them. They'll buy gifts for you occasionly to show they're thinking about you, they'll hold open doors, they'll wait intill they know your ready to do things with them because they don't want to loose you, they don't look at other girls because all they can think about is you, and they talk to you daily because they're crazy about you and can't stand to go a day without hearing your voice. If he doesn't do even two of these things he doesn't really love you like he says he does, so leave him. But talk to him before you do anything and ask him if he really does love you, why he did that, and if he knew that girl he did that to.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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This one is for girls. Do girls like guys that are cute or hot. Not both, one or the other.

A lot of girls I know like hot guys (because hello they're hot). But hot guys are usually jerks, so I like cute guys better. Well inless a cute guy is younger than me, then I mean cute as in sweet.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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Alright my situation is kind of long.
and I'm going to start from the beginning.

Me and my boyfriend tyler were dating for about 6 mnths, and me being 15 and him being my first boyfriend I got scared of being tied down and broke things off with him. he took it pretty bad and was crying, and asking why. But after a few weeks he acted like he had a better grasp on it, but I knew it was still killing him inside. Well about 3 weeks ago he told me he had a girlfriend, and that triggered something inside of me. I basically told him I wanted him back, and he just said he didn't know what to do, but he wanted me. Well, he, at this point in time, is my boyfriend.
But I think I saw something I shouldnt've. Cut marks. I guess throughout this whole situation he's been cutting, I got him to kind of talk to me about it but he wouldn't go that far into detail. Now I used to cut, and I know what he's going through,
but my question is how do I approach him about it, what do I say, and how do I tell him to stop?

Just ask if he wants to go for a walk one day. Go somewhere like a park and tell him you are going to talk about somethings he may not want to discuss but he needs to hear. Then tell him everything! Tell him you broke up with him before because you were afraid of being tied down, and that you'll never do that again. Tell him how you felt when he was going out with that other girl. Tell him how you feel about him cutting himself. Tell him that you will never hurt him again. Tell him while he's hurting himself, it's killing you. And finally tell him you know what it's like to be a cutter, and you will be there for him while he gets help.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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I really like this girl but am to afrain to ask her out or talk to her from fear of rejection. I really like her and want a relationship but i dunno what to do. Any advice?

Well you can't stand on the sidelines forever. Just talk to her every now and then, become friends, and then after awhile ask her out to a movie or something. For the talking part see if there are pictures in her locker, or binder, and ask about them. Or ask her a question about schoolwork. Don't be afraid of rejection, because if a person knows you (and I don't personally mean you) then they don't won't their friend to feel bad.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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2 guys asked me out yesterday and I don't know which one to say yes to. I like them both the same and they both have really good things about them and some things arn't so good.

Guy 1 Good things :
hes really funny
hes super cute
he really loves me
hes got a nice personality
we have so much in common
hes only 1 year older then me
hes like an older version of me
hes a virgin
he lives near me

Guy 1 bad things -
he wants sex i'm not ready
he tries to act gangster but hes white
he used to smoke i dont know if he still does
sometimes i feel like he uses me
he invites me to his house every day and it gets annoying
alot of people hate him they say hes a poser
he gets pissed off easily and starts cussing me out

Guy 2 good things :
hes really sweet
hes romantic like me
he likes to kiss
hes really hott
he tried to finger me but i said stop and he listened
he respects me

Guy 2 Bad things -
everyone says hes litarrly special ed in 1 class but he says he isnt
he stayed back 3 times
hes 3 years older then me
hes not a virgin
he smokes
he stutters a little when he talks

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I really like them both in different ways. Guy 1 is more like me but Guy 2 respects how far I'll go sexually. But Guy 1 is closer to my age. I really don't know who to pick. If you had to choose 1 according to those facts, who would you choose?

Pick guy #2!! Who cares about the age difference! If guy #1 loved you so much he wouldn't do half that stuff. Sorry this is all I have but I'm half asleep.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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OK. So my girlfriend is a little younger than me and I am really hot...literally. I know that she loves me but when we kiss I have to ask her for a kiss. I am also the one that has to try to start the romance. I am only 14 but I am really attracted to her.. I am going into the 8th and she is going into the 6th. But what I am afraid of is when she starts school at the end of the month is that she is gonna find another boy.. See she has already broken up with me once. but had to have my sister tell me that it was over then about 1week later she came wanting me back. I took her back but I am not sure if I broke up with her and things didn't work out with a girl I like if she would take me back. I think that this girl that is my age and is only 1grade below me is straight out cute. her name is morgan and she is cute.. I know she likes me and I like her.. I know she likes me because we like to play basketball every sunday before church. also I was at my youth ministers last night and she was there. we were sitting right next to each other and playing all the games with each other. The only thing is I think my girlfriend was jealous because she was there and so was my sister.. What should I do.. Should I express my feelings to morgan and see what she thinks or should I just see what happens between me and my girlfriend? Please ADVICENATORS!!!!! HELP ME!!!!!!!!!

Do you have stronger feelings for Morgan? If so than date her already! Whenever you feel something more for someone else its wrong to not go for it. (Besides you shouldn't have to ask your current gf for a kiss, she should want to.) Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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Why when a 17 year old says she has fallen for a older guy ( over 20 ). People say go for it or wait till your 18?

But if a older Guy ( over 20 ) Said i fallen for a 17 year old everyone says grow up & date someone your own age?

I think everyone kind of thinks that anyone younger than they are are immature, anyone older are either cool or totally rude. I think this because last year I was a 7th grader and I kind of envied the 8th graders near our classrooms and liked almost all of my classmates. Now I'm an 8th grader and the 7th graders are soooo immature, they're just little monsters.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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hi, im 14 and im a girl and i have been going out with this guy for almost a year, on and off, and now that we're going to be in highschool, its going to be a whole different story. this is kinda a long distance relationship and we dont hang out alot. and we are going to different highschools. and then theres this other guy. hes going to be a jr and he really likes me and stuff, and i kinda like him back but i hear from people hes a player. and i dont know what to do. do i dump my boyfriend and go out with the other guy or do i stay with my boyfriend and forget about the other guy? and i mean its kinda hard because i have toi worry about the cheating thing. and i just dont know what to do.

Do you trust you bf? I mean really trust him, we have all gone through peer pressure but do you trust him to be loyal to you? If so keep going out with him. It's hard finding a good guy.
And forget about this other guy. Players know how to get a girls attention and once they get what they want, they leave.
'How do you let the other guy know you're not right for him?' you ask; well act like you don't care about anything he says (saying things like 'Yeah' and 'Sure'). And if he asks you out say, 'Sorry, but you just aren't my type' and leave.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~~

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im 16/f and this guy is 14 i know age difference but i dont care..

i started to kinda like this guy before he got a girlfriend. we always flirted and he would touch me and we would wrestle and i would get on top of him but then when i find out he asked this girl out that he liked i was kinda..heartbroken

Forget him and find someone else. You don't need him. I can't tell you exactly how to get over him, everyone is different, but find another guy. Not to get your mind off him or take his place, but to make you happy and want this new guy. Someone who'll care for you, talk to you, and will never hurt you. Maybe ask this guy you want to know for help (for instance your bag strap breaks, ask if he would help), when he's done look him in the eye, smile and say thank you.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~~

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i gess this would go in love life..well i have a boyfriend and im in 7th and hes sposed to be in 9th but he stayed back so hes in 8th and my family are fighters like gangs and stuff like that so im used to that but he is peaceful and it seen weird also hes a loner or what some people would call a loser and i think im going to get madefun of for going out with him plus hes emo and i kinda am and i cant brakeup with him becaue he has tryed to kill himself also my family would kill me if they new i was goin out with him and i feel bad that i have to keep it a secret but i really like him but my family would never alow it and so dont say talk to them im so confused i need help

Why do you care if you'll be made fun of? You like him he likes you, that's what matters. And about the parent situation.. Sometimes you have to bend the rules a little.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~
P.S. There's no reason to feel bad about lying, you're helping someone. He tried to kill himself once, but knowing you are there it'll give him something to live for.

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so i have a real big problem..i dated this boy for about a month and it was real intense but then he just dropped me out of no where and i was hurt and i never fully got over him so then about a month and a half passed and i started talkin to my old boyfriend and we started dating again and things were going great and then he all the sudden popped up again and started talkin to me again and i know i still have feelings for him and he told dat he had feelings for me still and now i don't know what to do i don't know if i should tell him how i feel about him or just try my best to get over him and try to work it out with my boyfriend? i really need some help if you give me good advice then i'll give good rates

I know it's hard but you have to get over that other guy. He hurt you once before, your current bf didn't. Chances are he'll do it again, you don't really want to feel that pain again do you? If you do you're crazy, and chances are he'll do the same thing again. So my advice is be happy with the person your with, and forget the other guy. But before you forget him have some self control over yourself, walk up to him, and ask why.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~

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My name is Jay im actually a coulmnist on this website but would like advice from someone else for a change.

The thing is i moved to Spain 4 years ago and i fell in love for the first time and the girl is great. But now i have moved back to my home country and she has moved to another country and the only thing i have is her e-mail adress. But since she didnt even notice me when we were in the same place how is she supposed to talk to me on MSN or anything. I have no clue what to do, i cant get over her.

What should i do? Im 14 by the way.

You should still e-mail her, everyday if possible, just to let her know you care about her. I'm not trying to let you down but truth be told, a lot can happen with that much distance and time.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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Hello,
I am a 14 year old guy...

...I realized I liked my best friend for the 3rd time around Valentine's Day. So, I told her that I liked her, and she said, "No offense, but you need to get over me,". Well, since then, we've barely said a word to each other. My friends have been trying to get her to say something to me, so she did after I gave her a birthday card. I asked her to talk about what had been going on between us, and she said, and I quote,
"Not to be a beyotch, but I just don't feel like talking to you. I don't think we have the connection we used to have,"
After that, I was so upset. I didn't know what do to... I'm still upset, as she now has a boyfriend who is a complete jerk to me. What should I do???

It sounds to me that she only ever wanted to be your friend. But then again with her bf being a jerk maybe she does like you, that could be why he acts that way toward you. Or he could just be trying to tell you to leave her alone. My advice is to give her some time and when she says sorry ask her why she did it.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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so theres this guy who i really felt something for..
like i was in love with him..
and we did something for love like sexualish.
then he went off with another girl in a different state..
so.
and hes moving on we werent going out yet but he sure did make it seem like we were..
always talking about it and stuff..
and now i learned he does what he did with me with every other girl..
anyways..
i had sex for my first time with this one guy im not sure if he got it in it was painful but not supersuper painful like everyone says..
but i did it because i wanted to feel what i felt with the other guy..
so my question is..
should i go back to the other guy?
and not be mad at him
and talk to him instead of ignore him because im pissed?
what do i do?
I RATE 5S.

Forget that lousy mother ******!!!!! You don't need him! Go on with your life one way or another. He might even ask to be forgiven later, do not accept. He'll just leave you, and I'm not saying that because there's something wrong with you it's just how all of them are. So find someone else that's worth your time and forget him.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~

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ok well me and my "bf" want to go somewhere special and we dont want to go to the movies been there done that to many times! and not my house b.c heres the thing i want to tell him i love him for the first time!! and he has something to give me and things like that so not my house to many people, there is like 8 people there. not his house his mom is all over his kids when girls coome over, well thats what he said. so any ideas its tongiht or tomorrow but i need answers quick thanx!

A resturant or a beach, if there's one nearby. Pick either one and it'll be a romantic night.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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