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I liked my friend, and now she hates me.... What should I do
Hello,
I am a 14 year old guy...
...I realized I liked my best friend for the 3rd time around Valentine's Day. So, I told her that I liked her, and she said, "No offense, but you need to get over me,". Well, since then, we've barely said a word to each other. My friends have been trying to get her to say something to me, so she did after I gave her a birthday card. I asked her to talk about what had been going on between us, and she said, and I quote,
"Not to be a beyotch, but I just don't feel like talking to you. I don't think we have the connection we used to have,"
After that, I was so upset. I didn't know what do to... I'm still upset, as she now has a boyfriend who is a complete jerk to me. What should I do???
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It sounds to me that she only ever wanted to be your friend. But then again with her bf being a jerk maybe she does like you, that could be why he acts that way toward you. Or he could just be trying to tell you to leave her alone. My advice is to give her some time and when she says sorry ask her why she did it.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~
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It's really awful when this sort of thin happens because, truth be told, there's not a lot you can do.
I understand that you like this girl a lot and by the sounds of it, you have done for a while but she really doesn't sound like a particularly nice person and she's not being a very good friend to you either. Given this situation, the only thing you will be able to do is to write it off as a bad experience and let it all go. Easier said than done, I know but she isn't worth your time and by the sounds of it, you are a nice guy who can do a lot better than that.
Your best bet is to steer clear of the both of them. Avoid them as much as possible. They seem to have the very wrong idea about you and this is the only way you will be able to convince them otherwise.
In the meantime, please don't be too upset. There will be many other girls out there who will truly appreciate you and the wonderful person you are. You just need to get out there and find them.
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Aww that really bites. Your girl friend is making the wrong choice with going with that other jerk becuase you sound sweet =) Talk to her and her boyfriend at the same time, but don't try to pick any fights with them or else it would turn into an even worse disaster. If you have liked her before, maybe it IS time to move on.
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Dude, I've been here before.
It sucks, doesn't it? Real bad.
I will tell you what got me through this, and that is time. Time will eventually heal all things. For me it took me a month of holding in everything to finally tell this girl who was my best friend that I liked her, and after that we were still good (slightly shakey, but good). But then I made the most idiotic mistake and went with some girl who liked me. I hardly even freaking knew her and I soon found out, I was neglecting everyone for her, and I didn't even like her but I thought I did. So after the eventual breakup 3 weeks later, I was right back to my old best friend, who was very hurt at what I did. And it took her getting a boyfriend and to completely turn everything I felt into a muffled emotion, suppressed. I hit alot of walls the night I found out about her and her boyfriend, because he was a complete jerk and ended up breaking her heart, which has earned him my undying vendetta.
Time must run its course if you are to overcome what you feel. Your friendship has deteriorated, much like mine had. All you can do is let time wash over you and wait for the eventual healing.
I would suggest though, that you write about it. I started writing to myself in the third person, like there was a person talking to me. And I wrote about how I shouldn't be feeling the way I do and had to get over it, and I wrote it over and over again, covering every detail. And to the most extent, it worked.
I'm sorry for the long rant and personal story, but I felt it was necessary for you to know so you could understand why I can give you this advice. Any person can say let time heal your heart, but it takes some expierencing it to mean it.
I hope I helped and I sincerly feel for you about this.
-Ryan
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You're not going to like this, but she's made it really clear that there's no chance for you with her.
So for your own sanity, you need to drop her. Pretend that she's dead, if that makes it easier; yes, I realize that you'll probably be seeing her a lot in school, but still, if you can find some way to amputate her out of your mind as much as possible, you should.
The alternative is to continue to torture yourself. And you don't deserve that, do you?
Delete her from your universe. I know that you'll still think about her; you can't help it. And that's natural. But give her and everyone else no sign at all that she means anything to you.
Get busy. The busier you are, the less you'll hurt. Fill up every minute of the day, and time will do the rest. If you can stay busy enough for long enough, the pain will fade.
Take a long hard look in the mirror and think about it. Do you want to spend the next year or so suffering, bleeding inside over a girl who doesn't even want you?
Or do you want to pull yourself together and do your best to forget that she ever existed?
Either way, I can tell you this: it may take six months. It may take a year. It might even take TWO years (although I really doubt it). But you WILL fall in love again. And with any luck, it will be with a girl who loves you back.
Good luck!
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homiee!! you need to get over this chicaa..she dosent like you (NOT TO BE MEAN!) so obviously you can do betterr! and for the dude whose a jerk hes only being a byotch cuz hes intimidated by youu..
:-D
xoxo
sammy
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meh....not too big a deal. i find it annoying that so many people figure things like this will be the primary factor in what happens to them in life.( i do this alot to, so i guess that makes me a hypocrite)
get over her, do whatever helps....well not drugs or cutting or any of that.
I play vidio games to get over things, and to pass time, and to start converations, and to....umm play video games.
I like video games......Alot...
"until my eyes bleed, i have no reason to stop playing video games"-Ethan, http:www.ctrlaltdel-online.com
reading comix, writing poeitry. or singing, or some poker or soemthing. just move on... but be careful not to date, out of lonelyness. it would make you quite shallow to do so.....
Solemnstar
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Take her advice and get over her.
She isn't interested in you at all. She has been very clear. There is nothing you can do force her to like you; you need to take a step back.
She feels like you've been pressuring her, and you have been, especially if you've been using your friends to try and get her to talk to you. That's kind of like bullying her, no wonder her boyfriend is mean to you.
If you can accept she isn't interested and just be friendly to her, you might be able to be her friend, but if you keep trying harassing her with your 'feelings' or what's going on 'between us', she will only get more upset with you.
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