If you guys have good communication and honesty in your relationship you should be able to tell him what is bothering you. And it's not overreacting at all. We live in a world where cheating is beyond easier than it use to be. Social Media actually being the reason why. So if something like this sends a red flag don't let it go and don't let them build up over and over.

Honestly he might not feel like he is bUT he is technically degrading you. Making you feel inferior. He is your typical "alpha male", dominant guy. He sees it his way or the high way. You should talk to him let him know he makes you feel bad about youself when he says these things and that he has to work on compromising. My only warning is to not expect a complete change. Take pride in his small compromises and moments he makes you feel appreciated. If he gets worse or you aren't seeing any change, start looking for someone who sees you as your equal not their companion

I\'m very straightforward when it comes to relationships but this advice all depends on your relationship. You could just ask him be like I found out your on there and I want to know why, that\'s what I would do. BUT if you\'re afraid to confront him you can look closer into his profiles and see if there has been any current activity in your relationship, if yes... then you\'re going to have to say something.

My parents were really against me dating too (more of a double standard thing) but once you hit 18 it\'s your choice. You\'re an adult. I would try talking to your mom first. Woman to woman, tell her how long you\'ve been dating and that it has effected your priorities and that you love him and would like if you guys met him and could invite him to dinner. And see where it goes from there.

Like pretty much everything all the other advicenators have said think about what you are going to say. If you can text him or even call and leave voicemail say what you have to. Apologize for things you\'ve done. Tell him you want to make it work. But only if that\'s really what you want, be certain you really do want to be with him and you\'re going to change because if someone treats me like crap i don\'t give damn if they buy me a bmw and leave 1000 voicemails, they better come back intent on treating me right. So if you think you can make it work and you\'re going to try to change your ways for him. Go for it. leave that voicemail. send those texts. and hopefully everything works out.

I mean she\'s obviously not straight. Her sexuality isn\'t important, really the problem is her using you. If she has these supposed feelings for you whether she can\'t date you or not why does she have a boyfriend? These are questions you should wonder and ask her. The only advice I could really give you as a woman who has dated women also, ask her straight up what is going on? And if she beats around the bush, no pun intended that make it clear that you guys should only be friends if she can\'t even talk to you about what is going on. But it sounds like something is there.

It\'s oral from both ends. It\'s being in a position where you are not only recieving oral sex but giving it. It can be sideways. standing up/hanging upside down, and regular someone on top with someone on bottom. and etc.

Here\'s the thing...from reading what the other two advicenators said I get what they are saying BUT you said you feel you are ready you\'re just not confident. And it\'s like that for most girls. Let\'s face it, we\'re insecure creatures and sex the first time whether we\'re ready or think we are is awkward. One I wouldn\'t recommend shaving because when it comes back it\'s thicker. So if you can wax or get some sort of hair removal cream (that says you can use it down there) unless you have to shave but if you do end up shaving you might want to buy one of those bikini bump creams or something along those lines. And maybe before going the full way experiment with some other things sexually wise like oral, handjobs, fingering. because if you\'re not comfortable with all that you might just realize you really aren\'t ready. But if by doing those you figure out you are ready do whatever you want with the first time. If you don\'t feel comfortable with your body. You can wear a long tshirt, a dress, or a skirt. because you can leave all those on and still have sex.

You are not overthinking it at all. And i'm going to assume you are in a military relationship from what I read (me too, wooooo Milsos!!!) And you are not being a brat my birthday is in welp less than two weeks and I don't expect to hear a happy birthday or recieve a present because that's not only how my s/o is but with the long distance thing sometimes s/o's just don't show us the appreciation or attention we need and crave because we are so far apart from each other. and as Adviceman said this happens a lot, this is why people get lonely in long distance relationships. this is why there is so much cheating stereotypes in military relationships. BECAUSE it's so common for one person to kind of forget the other sometimes. and even in some situations both people sort of forget about the other sometimes. I honestly think you should say something to him, don't hold it back because communication emotionally is so important when you are in a military relationship because half the time you aren't even sure how your S/O feels about anything because they have to keep up this guard and distance.
I really do hope everything works out for you. and something I've learned as a military girlfriend we go through some things and some emotions that no one who hasn't been in our position will ever understand so stay strong.

She is probably very insecure and there might be some other issues in there relationship that you aren't aware of nor is it your business. And there also might have been some relationships in the past for her that made her that way. I do have to say you as a woman shouldn't hang out with a woman's husband especially if she is a friend alone without her knowing because that puts you in a very bad position and if I walked in on my friend and husband alone, I don't give a damn if they were planning my surprise birthday party, I'm going to be on high alert and me personally i'm a firecracker so I would have freaked. Another reason that she could be that way is because she's the one cheating. A lot of people do that. control the other and act like they are always doing something wrong when they are the ones doing it. It's a disgusting hypocritical trait and if you know that is what your friend is doing, as a friend you need to tell her that is not right. especially if you have a friendship with the husband. otherwise I'd leave this issue alone unless your friend comes to you for advice on how she acts.

First of all, don't worry about what everyone else is doing. Worry about yourself. If you don't feel ready, don't do anything you aren't ready for. Especially because everyone else is doing it. And if the guy is pressuring you, tell him to kick the bucket. Hard. And as a girl who has happened to have had sexual experiences with other girls I can tell you, you probably are thinking too much into your vagina's appearance. It's easy to be a bit insecure about that area. But just like everything else private parts come in varieties and when you do finally feel ready I'm sure the other person involved won't be judging.

Maybe he really does think of you as a close friend, I've had guy friends most of my life. Even my best friend now is a guy and pretty much what you described has been most of our friendship. Hopefully the flirting part is just part of his personality meaning to him he's sees it as harmless. And the fact that he mentioned a gf is kind of a sign that he really does see you as a friend. BUT.
Playing devil's advocate here there is always the possibility he does like you. And even threw in the gf card to see how you'd react. If that's so be careful. Someone who can have feelings or even try to get with someone else while in a relationship will do the same thing to you.

That story was a little bit all over the place but since he just broke up with his gf, I can only say maybe. It seems he may have an interest in you and maybe it will develop into a crush. But just make sure everything between him and his ex are completely over because you don't want to be just a rebound or a way to get back his ex.

Sorry, but this is an advice column. I recommend matchmaker, eharmony, meet me, tagged... anywhere but here. Have a good day.

You shouldn't just be mad at her, be mad at him. I hate when girls do that, blaming only the girl. You can't just blame and be mad at the sister, because you two were talking and he slept with her?! the heck?! Now about your sister, she probably for other reasons because the fact she smirked and laughed in your face, there is another issue there. In fact she probably doesn't like the guy she just knows you do. Now, i'm not saying you should hate your sister, or pretend she doesn't exist but I am saying there is nothing wrong with not being so close to family, especially if they screwed you over... probably on purpose. But yeah, forget the guy. He can go fall off a cliff, cares about nobody else. and your sister she has problems. so just do you. but keep your sister from a distance until the day you can talk about things and she realizes she was wrong for that.

I'm going to be brutally honest, eff that girl ... okay? She doesn't deserve you. And the fact she can say she loves you and then go back to that guy... she doesn't love you or at least she doesn't know what love is. She probably wanted a break because she was seeing that guy and she picked him over you, there is no doubt with that statement. and she choose him not once but twice by opening her damn legs for you and giving you all that pillow talk yet she is with him now? You can do better. You will do better. And she will learn karma is a b-word.

Welp, because you probably didn't have the type of feelings you have for L that you had for K. You weren't being mean to L on purpose, you just probably didn't have strong feelings enough for him to overlook those little pet peeves because when you care for someone a lot you do tend to overlook those annoying little things.

Of course you should break up with him, not to be the b*tch here but if you know you love someone else, you don't want to be with him, and you know you are wasting your time you should have been dumped him. You are being selfish and you are leading him on. You said you are in love with someone else right? So imagine if you started seeing that person and they secretly wanted someone else and was still acting like they wanted a future with you but knew they really didn't and even knew they were leading you on? You say you can't stand the thought of hurting him but you two are bound to break up at some point if this is how you are feeling so either way he is going to get hurt whether you tell him you don't want to be with him or he starts to realize you don't and starts to become insecure about himself and the relationship because you didn't have the guts to tell him.

I tend to go for the most awkward sexual things to say during a slow dance. Great icebreakers. Just ask them if they've ever let ice cream melt down to their genitals. They might propose right there.
JK.
Anyway, well. Really? There isn't a specific things to talk about during a slow dance it's like normal conversations just talk about things similar or random things. Maybe mention that you like the song or they dance well. Or it's a nice dance.

Well truth is you can't make anyone like you, you can change your personality to the one someone likes or even change your appearance to the one someone likes but in the end that wouldn't be you they like. Just keep being yourself and if she comes around, she comes around. And if she likes someone else you can't really change that. Just keep doing your thing because even if she doesn't like you, best believe someone even better will come around who does.

Hi, thanks for coming to my column.

The name is Diamond but Dia is fine.

20, female, jersey girl at heart. mixed race taurus natured woman.

So...the reason I made this was during the start of my senior year of high school I had reached a point in my life where I didn't want to live anymore. I was tired of fighting and didn't see the reasons to fight. It was a random stranger that made me realize I would be stupid to take my life and to stop fighting.

So if you think I'm going to tell you life gets easier, I'm not. Let's face it, it doesn't get easier. Through pain you get stronger and learn to open your eyes to those things that give you strength to live.

Mine happen to be music, writing, dr. pepper, anime, the color black, the way rain sounds, and an amazing boyfriend. What gives you strength to live?

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