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do he like me or not??
Hii ... 15F!*
So I'm crazy inlove with this guy. But he had a gf. They broke up and we held movie night and I invited him. Whe stated cuddeling and he kissed me on "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ hand and head and whe kissed and french kissed. Whe held hands. There was another guy just sitting loanly so I asked him to come sit by me and "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ crush said he can. But before we took them home the guy(who sat next to me) wantes to give me a hug. And then "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ crush said no. Does this mean he likes me??
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When you invited him to a movie night, his acceptance was an indication that he was at least attracted to you. The fact that he got close with you real quick this first time together could mean that he has feelings for you too, or he is a guy who is playing games with girls. Watch for it and you should soon know his true colors.
Do you even know the "whys" behind his break up with his ex? The story he tells is going to be only one side. If you know the other girl and see problems later, you might go ask her if she experienced the same.
Two common reasons a teen guy is playing with a girl is wanting to gratify himself sexually and all he wants is into the girls pants. It could be just hormones but sometimes when a guy on a first meet is cuddling, touching and kissing a girl, he's trying to speed up getting to the point of having sex. the reasons guys break up with a girl they only went after for sex is when they sense shes developed too deep feelings for him or become too clingy and is pressuring him to do other 'couple' things together besides just the sex.
The other problem is a guy whose ego gets a boost and they are addicted to the feeling of triumph in the chase. He may go after a girl, courting her until she is finally deeply hooked but now that she's hooked, the thrill he gets from the chase is over and he craves that thrill of the chase stage so he breaks up and goes to the next.
Just kissing a guy doesn't mean that you have made a commitment to be his girlfriend and date him exclusively. However most teens don't seem to get that. So he technically has NO say over what you decide to do because it's not a joint decision since you are not an "official couple". A girl gets so excited over the attention of a boy that she can fail to see if he is acting like he has 'ownership of you' and gives his permission or not and basically controls you. If you allow a guy to control your moves, it will turn out badly for the relationship. All males respond better to females who had strict boundaries of what she will and won't tolerate, knows what she wants, has inner confidence and speaks up and wont take sH*t and gives him ultimatums if he tries.
First, crush boy "gives his okay" for another guy to come sit by you. That was your decision only, not for crush boy to give his approval to or for you to ask for his approval of. When the other boy wanted a hug from you, that again was your choice to give not his to say no to. Most teens have a self image problems, guys included and it could be his immaturity and confidence issues that made him forbid you hugging someone else. It may be nothing at all, or it could be the first signs of a controlling personality and abusive behaviors.
So does he like you because he said NO? There's no way to tell. He could have said no simply because he felt jealous and incorrectly assumed, even though you crush on him too, that you both had the type of relationship and commitments to each other that would make interacting in such ways with someone else feel inappropriate. I will not say that hugging another guy ever, even if you're married is wrong, because it depends on the situation. A guys or gals natural personality may be friendly and touch and hug ALL people consistantly, not just single you out. Its part of who they are and thus mean nothing as far as flirting or cheating. I would safely say he is "attracted" to you. But he hasn't spent enough quality time getting to know you and do stuff other than cuddling and kissing to really know if he likes you. You can't know from looking at a vegetable if you like it right? You have to taste it. You may not like it plain but may like it in several different recipes. Its like that with relationships. Best relationships are built on two things: Attraction and Friendship. You know by his reactions that he feels attraction. Now you wait to see if he desires to get to know you as deeply or deeper than your girlfriends do. If he's not interested in being best friends also, then his attraction is only skin deep, just driven by the hormones to want to explore sexually. And that is okay as long as thats all you want to. Just don't get your hopes up that this means he has the same deep feelings that you may have. And be careful, if this goes much beyond kissing and petting, you'll want to go to Planned Parenthood and get on birth control
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That story was a little bit all over the place but since he just broke up with his gf, I can only say maybe. It seems he may have an interest in you and maybe it will develop into a crush. But just make sure everything between him and his ex are completely over because you don't want to be just a rebound or a way to get back his ex.
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