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ok grl im like in a ttl trap cause my best friend(boy) is like ttly cool but he likes me and i kinda like him. his friend also likes me and i have no idea wat to do cause his friend is also reallly cool and i think maybe i shud give him a chance. i mean i kinda like them both but i've known my bff longer. i have to c my bff tonite and he's gonna want to know who i wanna go wit. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!Plz dont' DELETE!!! i rate HI!!

thnx SO much

Go for your best friend, deffffffinatley. It's true that if things don't work out, it could make your friendship weird, but if will DEFFINATLEY make the friendship weird if you go for his friend. He'll think "Well we've been best friends forever, why doesn't she like me?" And best friend relationships usually do work out because you already know everything about the person, except now there's kissing and hand holding and stuff involved. So yeah, go with your best friend.

i guess this might be a stupid question, but something kind of depresses me. my boyfriend asked me last night would it be okay if he spent new years with his guys this year. he said that him and i spent the last 2 new years together and he wants to hang with his friends. ofcourse i said yeah, because im not the controling type. well, even though i said yes, it makes me a little sad knowing that he doesnt want to spend it with me. its like, why cant i chill with his friends too? its not like i never had. do any of you guys think i should tell him how i feel? or do any of you think that im wrong for feeling the way i feel?

thanks for your time.
18/f

I don't think you're wrong to feel that way, but I think you should keep it to yourself. He did spend the last 2 new years with you. And when guys hang out alone, they can do stuff that they can't do with girls around. Like they feel more comfortable and don't have to worry about upsetting you. I'm not saying your overly sensitive, that's just how guys see girls and it really isn't going to change. Why don't you hang out with your girl friends on new years? If you've spent the past 2 with your guy, that means you haven't spent it with them. You'll have fun.

Mkay.. im 13 and i am really falling in love with my boyfriend. Like i want to be with him for the rest of my life and ive never felt this way before. How do i know if this is really true love? Is it to eairly to have a serious relationship?

p.s. my aunt found her true love in Jr.High. they got married so maybe it will happen to me!

I know a couple who started going out when they were 13, and it's been almost a year and they are still together. It depends on how long you've going out. If you've only been going out for 1 or 2 months, it's too early to be thinking about marriage. If it's been 1 or 2 years, then I think you are in a serious relationship. Don't mention marriage to him though. He might get freaked out and run away. Wait for him to mention it.

So basically, yes, I think it could be true love.

Okay so I met this guy online like a couple weeks ago or so. And I really feel like I'm falling for him, I love him so much. Do you think this is crazy or actually possible that I can be in love with him?

I don't think it's possible to love someone you've never met. When you love someone, you share experiences, like holding hands, going to the movies, laughing with each other, and stuff like that. Seeing someone type "lol" on the computer is not the same as hearing them laugh. That's just my opinion.

And just a heads up, but one of my friends thought that she loved a guy she met online, so she gave him her phone number, and now he calls her a lot and asks her to have phone sex with him.

OK on Friday I'm going to my boyfriends away game. His mom is driving me there with her and I know im going to be so nervous. I dont want to say anything thats going to make me look stupid, but I know im going to end up doing that.. I always do. I was just wondering if you guys had any adivce on what I should do to be less nervous or not say anything dumb that I'll regret. Thanks SO much!!

Try to sound smart, but not smarter than her. She'll probably ask what you're doing in school. Whatever you do, don't say nothing. Tell her what your doing in 2 or 3 subjects, don't tell her your whole schedule. MOST OF ALL be polite. This is VERY important, especially if it's the first time your meeting her. When she picks you up, thank her taking you to the game, and when she drops you off, thank her again.

Okay, sorry if this is a little long, but please read it. There is this kid I met at the beginning of this school year. He's in some of my classes and I talk to him online. I like him, but I'm not sure if he likes me. He talks to me a lot online, and he looks at me in class. He also waves to me sometimes. I just met him too, so it's not like we are close friends. So what do you think about this? Thanks!

I was in a similar situation. I talked to him online and a little bit in school, and it turned out he liked me. I heard this from a couple of reliable sources (I heard from his friends, and he told some of my friends, who then told me) but he never asked me to be his girlfriend. I think that if you like him, you should make the first move.

Besides identifiable sexual attraction, how can one tell the difference between a crush and great love for a friend? If a friend really wants physical contact with another friend, but not necessarily sex, what is that?
Please answer. I really will rate.

Love isn't just about sex. If you really want to kiss someone or hold their hand, then you might be in love with them. A way to tell if you love a friend or just really like them is this: Think about going to the movies with this friend (alone, on a date) and holding hands. If it's awkward to think about, then you just like him a lot. If it seems like that's something you want, then you love him.

Im goin out with a guy who is 2 years older than me and he lives an hour away and we can never see each other and our parents don't approve of the relationship.He can drive on his own in January so then we'll be able to see each other but as of right now we can't and well im not really sure if i should stay with cuz well shouldn't relationship partners be able to see each other at least once a week?or at least once every 2 weeks?Anyways there is this guy who lives in the same town as me and is only 15 minutes away and he really likes me and i kinda like him and well im not sure if i should dump the other guy and go out with this one or stay with the other one.Anyways I really need help so plz offer as much advice as possible...thanks....

Boys are very Confusing :(

It sounds like it isn't working out. You seem very sad that you never see your boyfriend. It's not worth feeling this way. I think you should break up with him. Tell him that you don't feel like you can handle a long distance relationship. Wait a few weeks to get over him, then go after the guy who lives in your neiborhood.

what do skater guys like in gurls?

I know that they really hate it when girls pretend they can skate when they can't. I've talked to some, and they seem to like girls who are their own person, and don't freak out if they break a nail.

This is to the question you answered for me about my boyfriend going away. We were talking about college because I'm goin to be starting college on September 5th and he was suppose to too but he changed his mind yesterday and decided he is going to start the second half. He had me all upset and I was crying and trying to find a way he could take out loans and everything. We were in my car when I told him about the loans and he said he didnt want to take one out so I got upset and started crying again. He asked me to drop him off which got me a little mad because we don't have that much longer to be together untill I go away for 3-4 months. I told him I wasnt going to pick him up for the rest of the day again. I might of even said tomorrow in there also. So he shut his phone off at around 4 after he got out of my car n told me I was making it harder for him (not going the first semester) and so he has had his phone off the whole time still right nwo its off. I left him voicemails and he hasnt called. I know that his friend was going away 2 hours from here on vacationa nd coming home on Sunday but my boyfriend said he wasnt going to go unless I went because his friend is just going to be picking up girls the whole time. I called his sister this mornign ebcause Im friends with her n because my boyfriend didnt go to work this morning (he works for my dad) and she said he didnt go home last night but he went by her work with the kid thats on vacation. So I cant stop crying because I can't get a hold of him and plus I don't know if its over yet and its killing me inside. I just don't know what to do. I'm 18 and hes 19 and we have even planned on gettin married around 24ish. I called his friend too and he isnt answering his phone.

I understand now, that's a bit different. For him to do that was really rude and immature. I think you should think about if you really want to marry a guy who will go hook up with other girls just because you got in a fight. People fight a lot during marriage. It sounds like your boyfriend overreacts when you fight. You two deffinatley need to talk to each other when he gets back.

What do I do if my boyfriend went away on vacation and didn't tell me. He left 8/17 and wont be home untill 8/23. He shut his phone off too but I called his friend to see if he was wiht him and I could talk to him, but his friend isnt answering my 2-ways. At first I was crying and crying and crying and still I do because I don't understand how he could just up and leave and not tell me but now I'm kind of mad. What should I do? I've been with him for 6-8 months and I could marry this guy. Or so I thought.

It was wrong of him not to tell you he was leaving, but really, he's going to be gone for 7 days, not 7 years. It also might have been an emergency thing, one of his relatives might have gotten sick. If he's just going on vacations for leisure, then it was a bit inconsiderate, but I don't think you need to break up with him because of it.

What do you get guys for gifts????

Candy always works, a tee shirt with their favorite band, a mixed CD of songs he likes, a gift certificate for a store, or maybe take him to the movies or dinner and pay for everything.

I'm goiing into 8th grade and have never had a b/f and i think i no y. In school and in my neighborhood i'm constantly playing sports. I've always loved to be involved with the diff. kinds of sports and wen i'm playing(which is A LOT of the time) i'm mostly playing wit guys. So i've been known as "one of the guys" wen i'm playing basebal nd stuff. Since i like never do any of that gurlie stuff no guys have crushes on me(or even like me as a girl). Are there any ways I can SHOW them that Sports aren't my life and get them to take me seriously?

If these guys don't like you for who you are, then they arn't worth it. Don't try to change yourself to please someone else. I bet that some of the guys that you place sports with like you. I think you should ask one of them to go to the movies with you. Wear a little bit extra makeup and a skirt or dress. Then he will know that you have a girly side and a sporty side.

my friend's parents dont think that teens know what love is so shes getting as many people as she can to tell her what they think about love and stuff like that. but she doesnt have that many people. if some of you could please help and tell what you think about love then please do. thanks.

Love is when you care about someone more than you care about yourself.

ok when im with my friends i always say tha tlike the jocks & stuff r hot.. which they r and alot of the times ill like them.. but when it comes to actually likin sumone and being in relationships i choose the guys that my friends think r not hot.. like i go for personality not looks... a good body is just a plus.. and my friends r always like y r u with him, hes ugly, u could do so much better., but i dont want to do better i like the guys that im with... how can i make my friends see that id rather have a guy with a soso body & a great personality than a guy with a great body but cant even make me laugh...???

average people liker......

If you go by personality instead of looks, you will be a lot happier and more likely to get who you want. Who wants to be around a hot guy who only cares about how you look? I think you're doing the right thing. I think you should ask out one of these nice guys, and then when your friends see how happy you are, they'll quit bitching and see that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

I'm 13 and a girl I hate dumping people and my boyfriend like me a lot and I dont really like him any more does any one have any good ways to dump him I need help with out breaking his heart...thnx

Sorry to tell you this, but there's no way to break up with someone without hurting them. The best technique is to slowly start hanging out with other guys (don't kiss them or anything) and maybe flirt with them a little bit. That way your boyfriend will be more prepared when you dump him, and it won't be such a huge shock.

Okay. i wrote the stuffing tha bra thing..let me clear sumthyn up.. when i was doing that i didnt know what i was thinkyng..i was so inlove wid him dat it didnt matter. I knoe tht it wus wrong and stupidd..and dat if he relle liked me he wuld have liked me for me..but wut shuld i do? bc everytime i go to chyll wid ma best friend i c him..so i always have to wear 2 bra's and tht relle sucks! and its not comfortable but i dont want to stop chylling wid ma friend. Its not even about the boy anymore..its about how can i stop? so i could go there comfortable??

I think you should either get some padded bras or push up bras. Padded bras are more comfortable than push ups, but push ups make you look bigger.

so i had sex with my boyfriend and stuff .. anyways .. a day or two after we did ithe got really sick .. and then he got rushed into the ER .. they said it was either std .. or UTI .. and i was the first person hed done it with .. and .. but i'm checked.. then he told me that like .. he could've gotten it from like .. lumberjack days .. idk something with a dumpster .. he didn't exactly tell me the whole story.. but ..the doctor said that it was probably something to do with the dumpster .. because of all the germs and stuff .. but now, he doesn't wanna hang out with me. He says he still loves me and likes me and stuff .. but he's not gunna do anything with me anymore. He thinks i'm diseased .. what should i do!?

I think you should get tested again and show him the results, then he has to believe you. If he still doesn't, than he doesn't trust you, and you don't need a boyfriend who doesn't trust you.

Hey i just got back from a vacation and i met this really great guy well anyways he was so cute and i never got his email or anything. i dont kno how to get over him any advice? should i try to find him with the info i kno or give up?

Assuming that you know what county he lives in and what his first and last name is, you should find a phone book for the county he lives in (you could probably find one by looking it up on google) and then you would have his phone number and address.

I have been talkin to my best friends ex boyfriend a lot lately. and i think i like him. when we were talkin online he asked for my email address and eh emailed me a picture of himself. (hes cute too!) well when i was tlakin to my friend she was like "you don't liek him do you cuz that is a nono!" and i told ehr i didn't because i ddn twant her to get mead. but i really do like this kid any idea what i shoudl do??? I'll rate if your answer helps at all!!

If you haven't met him in person, I don't think that you can be sure that you like him. If you haven't hung out with him in real life, then how do you know how he really is? He might sound nice online, but if your friend doesn't think you should go out with him, then there must be something bad about him. If your friend just doesn't want you to go out with him because she isn't over him yet, then keep talking to him online, and when your friend is over him, go out with him. If your friend doesn't want you two to be together because he isn't nice, than arrange to meet him in person to see how he acts.

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