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me & my boyfriend had just broken up, he said because he doesn't want me anymore.. which really hurt me, i started crying for 2 hours straight. then.. later on, he wanted to get back together with me.. but i told him it was kind of too late. and then i said if he wanted to, then i think it's best to be single for a while first. and he asked if we can still have the "no talking to opposite sex promise".. because he's scared he'll loose me to another guy. and i told him that i think it's best if we can talk to the opposite sex to be able to trust each other. and he said "forget it, we're not gonna get back together then." and it's very frustrating, because i need some time to think it over if i should or not, and he rushes me. and then, he got mad at me because i added guys on myspace, when we went single.. because i first saw myself off of his, and had a girl comment him. so i thought he added all the girls back, then i added all the guys back. and he got mad at me when we were single.. and he told me that he was gonna delete me out of his life and burn everything and etc. and then he said all of these harsh things to me and stuff. and then he called me so i had to pick up, and he was crying.. and he said "why'd you do this to me?" and he also said "i hate my life because of you" and all this stuff, which made me cry because he was crying really hard. and he asked to start over with me, but i told him i needed some time to think about things, and he finally gave me time to think it all through. and he said it was his fault for breaking up with me in the first place.

and yesss.. we did have alot of difficulties in our relationship, that's why i said we should be single for a while till we're ready to start over.. and to talk to the opposite sex while we wait, but he doesn't wanna do the opposite sex.

so what should i do? i don't know what to do anymore.. i'm very confused. PLEASE HELP ME! i'm stuck in between. i wanna be with him, but yet.. yeahh..

To me it sounds like he really truely wants you. And if you truely want to be with him be with him. Waiting can ruin everything. Don't be immature about it.. I understand what you mean by the myspace thing. My ex and I had a big deal about girl friends and guy friends on myspace and comments. In the end that all doesn't mean anything. Its just myspace. Don't let all that stuff get you down and make you think that you shouldn't be with him. Try to work things out. Make compromises. Talk to each other. Hope I helped. Good luck with your situation. Lemme know if you need anything else.

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my boyfriend (weve been dating about a month) has TONS of posters of halk naked, playboy girls all around his bedroom. Like, "hot" girls in skimpy bikins and sexual poses. and of course, way more gorgeous and curvy than regular girls. the posters make me so uncomfortable. he also sometimes talks about other hot celebrities and such around me. it somehow makes me feel, like, not good enough. ill never look like one of those girls on his walls and it makes me feel so horrible. what should i do about this?

I understand where your coming from. When my boyfriend talks about celebs and everything, it makes me feel not good enough as well. I just remember what he tells me about how he thinks of me. I suggest shrugging it off. Don't let it getto you. Just remember that they are fake, MOST LIKELY computer edited to be perfect, and probably full of STDS. Remember that you are real and his right now and they are just girls he would only dream to be with pretty much. They are nothing compaired to you.

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14/f
i know that alot of people have problems with other people dating with ehh kind of a big age difference..well i met this guy, he is the best, sweetest, kindest person with the most respect for someone,he would give you the shirt off his back to some one who needed it! and he is also protective but in a GOOD way!i love everything about him!! he has always been there for me, i can tell him anything!! he always keeps an open mind and listens to what i have to say. he NEVER gets angry with me! well we dated and i ended it because i was to affraid of my feelings, they were growing to quick. and well i love him and i cant help it. but see i have spoken to his gf.. and she really likes him.. and i dont want to let her get hurt for something that i could cause..i already tried to not talk to him but....and also he doesnt live where i do anymore. i was thinking that maybe just maybe when i get out of college and stuff that i could try to find him again..? all i can do is wait..and if i dont wait (which i dont think i wont wait) i dont want to hurt anyone and i dont plan to..should i just try to date other guys until then? i KNOW i will still love him. and by the way he is 17..
i know that he still cares for me but he thinks that we are best friends..true and real friends.
all i can do now is just be there..

help would be sooo great!

The best relationships, the ones that last, usually always start with true friendship. Waiting is a good option, but it wouldn't hurt to try to talk to him. Maybe you can talk to him about how you feel and see what he says about it.

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my best friend (we'll call him Bob) and i have decided that we both like eachother and we're about to go out. but then i found out some disturbing news. bob has this friend, (Gretta), and they had sex. my other friend, (fred) told me this. it happened about a month ago. fred kept saying that he had to tell me something about bob before we could go out. and he said i really should know because its important and ect ect ect. so he told me that there are two stories to this: GRETTA'S STORY: she fell asleep and bob was next to her. she was drunk-ish. (and shes 13, if that says anything, shes also a real slut. so yeah.) so she fell asleep and he raped her. she called her brother and told him and he was about to come and beat bob's ass for it. bob's brother got a gun to scare him off and it worked. and now gretta isnt speaking to bob. but see, the thing is, gretta has been known to either stretch the truth or lie completely. anyways, BOB'S STORY: gretta and bob were messing around. gretta was shitfaced and pulled his pants off and they had sex. then she got freaked and called her brother and lied to him and then the rest is the same. and the thing here is that bob used to like gretta. and they went out. and it didnt work. and he's allegedly still liked her while liking me. and hes also not known to lie about something like that. he i know for a fact he DID NOT WANT ME TO KNOW. he'd kill fred if he found out fred told me! but i need him to know that i know! i dont want there to be any tension between us because of this! please give me any advice on how to let him know that i know. in a subtle way. sorry this is so long but it was a long story! THANKS!

First off, I'd bring up being a virgin. say "I wanna ask you something, though its kinda a personal question." Then if he says go ahead and ask, then you can ask him if he's a virgin or not. See what his answer is and maybe ask him about how many girls he's had sex with and blah blah. You might be able to get it out of him. If he wants to know why your asking then say its something you want to know before you go off and date people. Or you can confront him right there about it, but that wouldnt be the best thing if your not supposed to know about it. As it sounds, I REALLY don't think he raped her. People are stupid like that. If she's so defensive saying he raped her, she's probably out for attention. She shouldn't of gotten drunk and let herself be so easy. I wouldnt really worry about it.

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Okay so I met this guy (we are both 16) and we hit it off. spent like 10 hours together he was totally flirting holding hands cuddling and he would just stare at me and would always sit next to me and he tried to kiss me and such.. (it was a church retreat. We were helpers lol for the little kids) so at the end of the night when its time to leave and we are right next to each other in the seat but my friend is between us and he got up and kept looking back at me and then he just left no good bye and didn’t ask for a number or anything! what does that mean? What happened?

aight so your friend got up and dint say goodbye maybe he was mad or jealous or just thought something see if you can ever see him again at your chruch and talk to him about it

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Hmm, okey..
I was just wondering which one of these is best:
WinMx
Bearshare
Kazzaa
Imesh
e.t.c
I've heard some of them give you viruses?
So which one is cheap and doesnt give your computer any viruses?
I appreciate any answers =D
Sorry about the spelling mistakes, just that im in a hurry :P
Have a nice day ;)

get limewire the free version unless you want to pay for the other one

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Well there is this guy that i really like and he likes me. He even broke up with his girlfriend for me. He always tells me about how much he loves me and everything. He is .perfect.!, but there is one problem..AGE. His mom won't let him date me bcause he could go to jail. Some of his friends have been giving him hell about it too. Others say we should hookup. His best friend is trying to tell him he wont go to jail. I really love him, what should i do!?

ive got one thing to say to you nothing can keep 2 people apart if they are connected with love not even age

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my boyfriend just broke up with me and he gave me this necklace while i was going out with him and it meant a lot to me. i want to give it back to him but not to his face, i want to put it in his locker with a note. i don't know what to say in the note. ive thought of everything and nothing feels right to say its got to be short and meaningful. something that says "i'm over you", "its your loss" and stuff like that...but i dont want to say something MEAN b/c i dont want him hating me...i want it to say basically "i've moved on", and "you missed out." something like that Please Help Me. I really want to leave a big MEANINGFUL impression on him....HELP.
(the phrases i put in quotes...i dont want to use those exactly....)
xoxo Arielle

say i dont need this anymore sence your no longer mine it can stay with you bc if its from u then it deserves to miss out too or sumn like that haha

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I'm 14 and I've never had a boyfriend. Usually it doesn't really bother me but I've seen so many couples who are younger than me and it makes me feel so sad and worthless. I'm ugly and shy and boring so I suppose no boy will ever want to go out with me, and even if a miracle happened and I did get one, I wouldn't really know what to do or what to say =\ People think I'm weird because I've never kissed a boy or even been out with one, I feel so different and frigid =[ I guess I was made to be single but I just want to know what it feels like to be loved.. How am I ever gonna get a boyfriend when I look like I do and I'm as shy as I am? I like this boy at school but he doesn't really like my friends because they're so immature, so he most likely thinks I'm like them and hates me too - I'm not as immature as them though.. Please help? Thanks xx

your not the only one i no people who are in the same situation as you are one day you will find someone there is someone out there for everyone

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Hi, I'm a male 35 yrs of age trying to choose a wife. (1)why do woman dress provocitave like show alot cleavige? (2)why do some woman like to glance or look at a mans crouch? (3)why do some woman constantly talk to thier co-worker about sex/men and penis size what kind of woman is she and how does she realy feel about men? (4)when a group of woman go out every weekend to a nightclub/dance/bar, after exchanging phone numbers and meeting a couple of men, what are thier real intentions? (5)why do woman dress nice/tight/sexy for work, when thier job workplace involves sweat, dirt and lifting boxes? all woman love to look beautiful,but where do u draw the line? All woman love to recieve compliments ,but which are out to seek them? Which is the nice girl and which is the slut? Please include:other websites, links/books/ect.. thank you, needto choosemissrite

wow you are totally hopeless...

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i need help writing a poem or any ideas about poems. does anyone know any sites with good love poems by teens? i tried searching but it was no use. =/ the topic is, this one guy and i e to be close and stuff and now it all just drifted away. if anyone can help, let me know, I'll IM you or something. Thanks =) I rate GOOD!

www.allpoetry.com

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Theres this guy that I have been friends with forever and he has always liked me. The other night we were in his room and we kissed but it was just a peck. I didn't even like him and now after that I am starting to like him. Theres only one problem. He's a really mature and great guy and hes my type exactly and I think he'd make a terrific boyfriend except for my mom thinks hes too young for me. I'm 14 and he's 12. I promise you, I think he's more mature than me, hes definatly more experienced he already lost his virginity. I'd have to keep this relationship from my parents. I really want to date him because personality wise, he's great. Looks wise, he needs to have a growth spurt. He will soon. Should I wait a few years till he does? And then my parents might let me, or should I sneak it and date him now and take the risk of humiliation? I really am liking him and I don't want to wait! But I think it might be best...I need opinions!

go ahead do what you can before its too late

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I have glasses and I think that is the reason why no boyz like me. My friend, Zoe, is beautiful, gets all the boyz, all the girlz wanna be her friend, and she gets like an I-POD and an electric gutair and stuff. But, anyway, I think I am nice, cool, quiet, all my friends even say so, so I just dont understand why no boyz like me. I think its just becuz I wear glasses and that hurts. What can I do to get a boy to like me?

I am 13 years old.

get contacts

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My GF and i have been together for 8 months now and every once in a while she will get kinda upset at what i do sometimes but we always work it out. there are somthings that she does that bothers me too but i never bring it up i always ignore it, do you think i should bring it up or not? i need some help

hahaha go ahead and ruin your relationship

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i have a really close guy friend we close but we cant be nothing but friends because on long distance and i hate long distance realtionships because the never work out. ok but n-e-ways sometimes we act like lovers and sometimes like friends but even when he had a gf we did the samething because he always liked me more then his gf even though he broke up with her for me but i still didnt go out with him and like now i dont know what to do i do love this guy and like he perfect for me and all but i am really confuessed?can you plz help i wil rate! thanks!

i think you should try it it might work out if u love that much good luck

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i dont know everyone always says "your to abusive" because ill hit guys and stuff just messing around but i guess that is my way of flirting with them but it dosent work aparently what are some ways i could be nicer or just flirt in a more gentle way? thank you.

poke them and give them hugs

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i'm super confused. I think i may be a lesbian but i'm not sure. see, i find myself flirting with guys like any normal 14 year old. but i find myself checking girls out too. i'm not afraid to be a lesbian but this has been going on for quite sometime now so can somebody just help me decide? am i a lesbian or not?

you are comparing yourself to them but its weird its kinda automatic

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Ok well I was the one who asked the question about my boyfriend got shot and is now in a coma and might die! Well he did die! I slit my wrist one night I cry my self to sleep every night And I hate my life I used to be a prep but now I have gone goth I guess skipping classes and crying! I went to his funerl and saw him in his casket I just broke down right then and there I fell down on the ground and cried I refused to get up for about an hour and I went bye him like you all said and spent his last hours alive with him but it wasnt good enough he still died. I left the funeral and just went to his house (his parents were at the funeral) and went in his room and cried I swear I smelled him and saw him for 2sec then I just cried! What will I do?

i dunno i would die to tell you the truth
thats sad

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okae yeah i'm one of the people who give advice but this time i need the advice. lately i just haven't been thinking straight and i don't kno why. okae well i have been going out with this guy for a while and well i don't kno maybe i'm jealous or something but he spends more time talking to his best friend who is a girl and is his ex girlfriend than he does talking to meh. i kno their best friends and i have to respect that and i really am trying but i mean is it wierd that she so happens to be his ex girlfriend too and like they flirt alot. and the girl is always in my face saying meh and him blah blah and she even hooked us up. my boyfriend even said if meh and her were ever in a fight he's take her side. i don't know what to do. he says he loves meh sooo much but i'm not sure if i should trust him. sorry if its longgg.

wow hes a fag

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i always write before i go to bed because im a young author, and well, i always leave my light on because i forget because by the time im done writing im really tired. anyway does sleeping with a light on really give you lukemia?

HAHAHAHAHAAHAHAAHA lmao

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