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My name's Kendal and i'm 17. I've been through quite alot of stuff, from heart breaks, to messed up parents with drug addictions & not being together, to fights with just about anyone about anything. I'm the youngest of 7 children, 4 brothers & now two sisters. In school I use to be the kind of girl who thought they were better then everyone else, and was the popular bitch who played varsity basketball & softball as a freshman. Alot has changed. After my older sister died things sort of started coming into perspective. And i just wanna help ppl out now. If you need anything about anything. I'm here to talk, help, listen, whatever. I dont judge, and i usually can understand where the ppl are coming from. My lifes had alot of ups and downs and i really just wanna help out. I wish i would of known about this site a few years ago! Currently i have a boyfriend, Chad. And i usually hang out w/ him and my friends after school and on the weekends. I'm super social, and i think easy to talk to. So ask me anything! Btw the user name's from the song, from the tv show; 8th and ocean. If anyone was wondering. ha. MUCH LOVE!
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okay this may be long im not sure.but sorry.
in the third grade i switched teachers because my assigned class was full and in my original classs was a super cute boy. in the fourth grade a boy grabbed a piece of paper and had to lean across from me. in the fifth grade this boy was in my class.
i was a "nerd" in fifth grade and he was a cool kid. and we would occasionally joke around and make fun of eachother. then in the sixth grade i found out he lived right down the road from me and hung out iwth my best guy friend. [oh and in middle school i wasnt a nerd anymore i had "popular" friends but stayed true to the original few] i sometimes ran into this boy at my bestfriends house. because they lived across the street from oneanother. then those two stopped being friends and that kinda limited me from seeing the boy. ever since 5th grade i developed a crush on him. and so did EVERYONE else. and i would help my two best freinds with their realitionship issues with him, never telling them my feelings. well they have both moved on from a MAJOR crush and i havent. in the summer before seventh grade i CONSTANTLY hung out iwth him and our other friends [one girl and two guys] and we kissed once during truth or dare. he would always make my friend [the girl] call me to tell me to come over and he would always im me and just compliment me and be so amazing. then in the beginning of seventh he told me friends if i asked him out he would totallly go out iwth me. and i was sooooo happy. but i oculdnt do it i wanted him to. then he would always high five me inthe hallway even infront of his friends and talk to me on the bus and just wow. then he made new friends and i dont know if they turned him against me or wat but im going into ninth grade and havent talked to him in months. honestly, i know i love this kid. i see him in theh allway or even in the class we shared togethre and he looks at me then to the floor. we both have had realitonships since this, but idk.. its love for me .. what should i do please help. i just want to be friends atleats, im not asking to end up marying this guy..i just want that high five in the hallway back..
First of all, i think its VERY cute how you have liked this boy for A VERY LONG time. It shows that you do reaaaally care about him.
If i was you i would start trying my hardest to talk to him & stuff again. Maybe have a small get together at your house before school starts & make sure he can come, then invite a few of his friends & a few of yours (that dont like him) that way you guys can all hang out, it wont be awkward & you'll def. talk to him.
But i might be kind of weird to just all of a sudden invite him over, so i would def. just start making small talk w/ him again first. Just start asking him about whats been going on like if he plays a sport - hows it going .. or like something like that. You could even say "hey i havent talked to you in forever, how have you been" if you guys both have im that might be easiest.. but i dont know how much you go on the computer or how much he does during the summer. Plus since its summer i can see how it'd be harder to see him, maybe ask someone that talks to him to have a small get together & that way you both are invited & you'll see him. Or simply have one of your friends call him & be like "do you remember _______ (your name), shes here right now here you can talk to her" hahah anything. But make sure you start talking to him, and then start hanging out w/ him.
Hopefully you'll get whatever you had back. :]
Hopefully that helped. Goood Luck ♥
i am a girl 14 and i like my neighbor who is 15 and i told him how i felt but he never said anything bac from then on it was really awkward between us but now i have been seein him more and he has become so much nicer he even IM's me now he go's to all my softball games and all that but i still don't know if he likes me or not he never told me what should i do?
If he's being nicer to you, & coming to things & becoming closer to you i would guess that he likes you. If i was you i would totally go for it, i would start hanging out w/ him more & more. & maybe eventually you two will date. its'd be a huge benefit as him as a neighbor. you'll be able to hang out w/ him alot more. Maybe let him know again, but ease into it. Like saying that you still feel the way you did. & keep inviting him to hang out. :] good luckkk Hopefully that Helped!!
Hey- so i really like this boy and he likes me alot too and we flirt alot when we hangout and on the phone and online and everything, but my friends always tell me to make the first move because i want to makeout with him but hes very shy and doesnt like to jump on girls..any advice?
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You def. dont want it to be awkward, so just start being closer to him .. just laying on him when your at places & when its dark & the moments right just lean up and start kissing him. If he really likes you alot too, i'm sure he'll enjoy it & start kissing you back, and then from there you can makeout. Dont take it super fast tho, if the boys shy you might have to wait a while. Well good luck & hopefully that helped! :]
hey- okay so i am a 15 year old girl and im gonna be a sophomore and i have liked this boy for a while now about since february. we were really cute until at the end of march i did something that hurt him and even though we were hardly together, we both got mad at eachother and that spread us apart and make us afraid of the future, now after a while we are so cute and so strong except that we fight alot and he is very shy..what can i do to stop the arguments and help him to open up a little to me because i like him alot!? thank you!
=)
For the fighting - i would just basically tell him that you dont wanna fight, and when a fights just starting. Say that again.. and say that you do really like him & that this really hurts the relationship. Plus dont let little things bother you. To make him open up i would def. just start opening up to him .. even more then what your probably already doing. Tell him what he means to you, and it'll make him feel more comfortable.
Hopefully that helps :] Good Luck
I've heard a lot of words that I can tell are sexual and I figured all of them out but two...
1) What does it mean to be "fingered" (ex:Would I mind if he fingered me)
2)Being hitted on (ex: he was hitting on me)
I've been so confused, thanx
Fingered is when the guy sticks one or more of his fingers up inside you (where you would insert a tampon) & being hit on - is when someone is flirting w/ you, usually means they wanna get w/ you as well.
hopefully the helps & your not as confused now :]
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 9 months now and he said he loves me..How long do you have to be going out to know if you love someone. Or is it not time constrained??
Def. not time constrained. You'll know when you love him to, it seriously is a gut feeling. like when you know you can be completely comfortable in front of them. I dont know if you've ever read the quote like saying something like wanting a boy you could go to in sweatpants, makeup running, hair a mess or something like that and he says he loves you. I think really thats how its gotta be, be able to wear no make up, a old t-shirt & sweats & your hair just dryed from being wet. Completely natural, and he still thinks your beautiful.
As for you knowing when you love him. Its def. not if your questioning yourself about it. I mean you probably REALLY like him, but you'll know when you love him.
Aw! Well hopefully that helped! & i hope your in love&hearts :]
i'm completely stuck to my past. there's there two boys, let's call them cole and tommy. now, cole was my first boyfriend and tommy was my first love. somehow, one day, they popped in my mind. both of them. and now, i act like i'm going out with them, getting jealous with every girl that talks to them, being selfish. it just seems weird that they suddenly comes back to my life, and everything that happened between me and them just comes back to mind. now, i just want to be part of their lives all over again, and be more than friends to them. but they seemed to have moved on. and i guess i need to, too. but i can't do it. i want them back. i want everything back. now i'm just cherishing everything i had, and blaming myself for not being able to know what i had before i lost it. and last night, i suddenly had the urge of asking cole out. i would feel weird, but i do like him again, but i don't wanna seem like i'm desperate for a boyfriend or anything. what should i do? i really need perspective on this, from everybody. thanks in advance.
I think i kind of understand where your coming from. My friend use to call me at night crying that she couldnt get over boys that didnt like her anymore, but that she had been w/ in the past. Its hard. If they really dont wanna be w/ you then i dont know what to tell you other then to move on. but if there is even a slight chance that the do, stick w/ it. Show them that you care for them & you wanna be really good friends, or for Cole maybe more. Your not desperate for a boyfriend, so dont even think that or let anyone else. Your in love. I dont know how long its been since you've been w/ him, but if it hasnt been that long chances are that he still has feelings for you too. And as for getting jealous of every girl that talks to them is COMPLETELY NORMAL. i get jealous of some girls talking to my best guy friends, that just shows that you care about them.. which is good. So yeah, i think start becoming friends w/ them again. Good friends. & if your nothing more, just stay good friends w/ them. I think if you show "Cole" that you like him, that he'll eventually ask you out too, if he has feelings for you as well. Well goood luck :] hopefully that helped!
As you know, I recently put in a question. I'm doing a lot better and have a new little puzzler for you. If you have't read my other question, my boyfriend is moving to Belgium. I was just wondering what i should get him for a going away present. Something really special and personal. Love, ringo8mybaby.
First of all thats incredibly sad that he's moving & i'm sorry. But as a gift, i think a scrapbook to remember you of him & you would be perfect. And very personal, he'll know that you took your time on it. Also if i was you i'd make him a blanket, i dont know if you've ever seen those ones that you like knot on the sides but they are really easy to make. (if you dont know what i'm talking about, just ask i'll explain it to you - like how to make it & stuff) & that way he could have it w/ him when he goes to bed & stuff. Obviously i would pick out like his favorite colors or something, not like girly, but i think he would appreciate it too :] That's personal too. Also i would write him a letter [maybe put it in the scrapbook] just saying how much he means to you, how much you'll miss him & stuff like that. VERY PERSONAL. and he'll love to re-read it when he misses you. Lastly - save a little money for yourself, or money for him to have a plane ticket to go visit him or him to come back & visit you. If you have that much money. That will give hope that you'll keep in touch ♥ Well good luck & tell me what you end up doing!
Hey,
Im 15, and I still have not had a boyfriend, or hooked up with a guy...
it never really bothered me before but lately it has been.
My best friend since 4th grade (who lives in Texas) (I live in Philly) has had alot more experience with guys than me.
It makes me kind-of jealous, and i dont want to be like...behind her if that makes sense?
alot of girls at my school just give in and do any guy that is willing to do them. There's not alot of people who are in an actually relationship.
I hate my school. All the guys are a-holes.
and i have confidence in myself too i model, im sweet, im funny...
im just really shy.
now im just babbling.
To get to the point I dont want to just hook up with some ass hole who doesnt care about me. But.. i dont want to be prude.
Thanks.
-Anna
I think its good that you havent hooked up w/ some random guy at your school, especially if their all "aholes" keep w/ your morals. The right guy will come :] and then you can experience w/ whatever you havent done. But i can see how you wouldnt want to not do anything at all, so in the mean time if i were you try meeting guys at other schools. I'm sure you'll find at least one guy & then you can actually have a relationship w/ him ♥ Good luck!
I miss my boyfriend i havent seen him in a while, is there any way i can contact him if he doesnt have like a cell phone?
Thanks in advance!
If you know some of his good friends, then i would call them. Or call his house. i dont see the problem there. :]
Hello, this july will be me and boyfriends 6th month being together. I wanted to do something special for him for this day, but i cant really think of anything creative, so i was wondering if any of you can think of stuff. The 6th anniversary will also be on my birthday, so there's something you may think of. I am going to turn 15 and he's 16, just to help ya out a bit.
Thanks a bunch,
-Racquel
Thats super cute first of all that you're going to have your 6th month anniversary. I've never been to creative w/ things like that for my boyfriend. But i could tell you some of the things that my friends have done.
One of my friends got the number of days they've been dating of different colored paperclips and hooked them all together, and put them in a small box, he pulled them out of the box and on the bottom of the box it said "__ (so many) days since i've been loving you" - kind of corny but cute. And then made him some cookies, and they had a picnice sort of thing at the beach.
But if you wanna do something more like fancy. You could take him to get his favorite food and then get him 6 of something he likes like small little footballs, or something else just as a cute little gift. I really dont think it has to be that big or anything as long as its cute and meaningful.
Or one of my friends, bought him a nice watch & a calender & a piece of paper said, so you can tell when our next year together has been or for you our next 6 months has been.
One of my friends has just wrote a note before saying how much she loved the pass months w/ him. and things like that. or you could just use what i have said and done something else like that. Sorry if that wasnt that helpful! Those are just some ideas. Good Luck. And tell me how it goes, or what you end up doing! :]
My boyfriends birthday is very far away [october]
but I keep TRYING to think of stuff to get him but i dont know what im thinking of concert tickets but i dont know..
he gave me a very expensive camera and i dont want to give him a petty gift
HELP!
Concert tickets actually seems like a good idea, they arent cheap & then you both could really enjoy his birthday too. But yeah boys are VERY hard to buy for. Camera's are a really nice gift, and i could see how you dont wanna give him something equally as nice. If you dont like the conert idea anymore, i think buying him a good bottle of clone, and then something else like a watch or something would be nice. But if hes not that kind of guy then i would stick w/ the concert. But you do have some time. So keep thinking. And i'll let you know if i have any other ideas too :] Good Luck!
ok....so me and my ex just started "dateing" not going out..dateing..I dont really like this idea cause it means we could make out and he can makeout with another girl and I just have to deal..we say we love eachother..but if tats true why wont he ask me out??
help!!!!!
Me & a boy went through something similar to this a while back, i was the one however that wouldnt go out w/ him if he asked. I didnt want the commitment. That might be the same with this boy, some people are just scared of commiting completely to the person, they feel that they cant talk to other girls and that they have to be really serious w/ you, and do things for you & treat you better. Its just stressful for them, and this way you guys can have the same relationship just without the entire boyfriend girlfriend deal. If i was you tho, i would definitely put boundaries. Say what you can and cant do w/ other people. This way its not just he does crap with you, and then with another girl. And you'll understand if it does happen.
Hopefully that helps :]
how long is a guys penis when he's 15?
Well, every guy varies. It especially matters how far they are through puberty. Average guys when their that age though are about 6inches. Could be bigger tho depending on if their done w/ puberty, or if their just a bigger guy (by bigger i mean taller) and things like that. If their a smaller boy, their might be smaller. But yeah about 6inches is an average around that age. Hopefully that helps ♥
i like this boy. hes sooo cute and nice and just plain out perfect for me. we get along really well and we talk online like everyday. i like him so much. but i dont think he is interested. i think he just wants to be friends and i cant stand it. i flirt with him as much as i can without going overboard. i always invite him to hang out to, he always says maybe but then we never do. i dont know what to do. when i asked him if he liked anybody, he said "eh idk. kinda..but not really" ahhh what can i do?
Ask another friend to talk to him for you, not asking if he likes you in particular cause that would make if obvious, but asking him who he likes. He could not wanna tell you b/c it is you. And then afterwards ask him to hang out w/ you, that same friend & a group of other kids so it isnt awkward. Make sure you talk to him while you guys are all hanging out, but not to clingy b/c that kind of turns of guys. But continue to talk to him online, maybe not everyday. You sort of have to play hard to get. So make him im you every now and then. And when you hang out, talk to other guys then just him.. but dont "flirt" with the other guys, which could be tricky. But def. keep me updated! And tell me how things work out :] Good Luck.
Hi! im a girl and i'm 17 ..well my sitiation its that my bf and i had a big fight and we broke up.. I LOVE HIM ..but he seems he he doesnt care.. y talked to him and he said we are just friends.. sohuld I quit talking to Him?..and i also dont want go out becauase im sad..i quit eating asnd all that stuff... what can i doo!?
Well first, you need to start eatting again. That's not good for your body at all, and if you go to long w/out eatting the next time you eat something your bodies just gunna hold on to it. And its really not good at all.
And about the guy - well i would def. still keep talking to him. Even as friends for now, and if you guys are meant to be together & that was just a fight. Then you'll both realize it sooner or later & get back together. And if not, its good to be friends w/ someone you use to be w/, they tend to understand you better. Well hopefully that helps. :] much love
SORRY THIS IS SOO LONG!
but i just need advice..
how do i get a boys attention? oookay yeah this might sound selfish or conceited or whatever you wanna call it but i love gettin attention from boys..i mean who doesnt =p but i have this one boy in mind. he goes to a different school than me but i hear that he cant get over his ex girlfriend...and they are always talking. but my cousin actually talks to him sometimes..just never hangouts with him. he plays baseball..so im thinkin i should go to one of his games with my cuzin ...but the only thing im worried about are the girls that go there. because if they see me they will be like whose that? why is she here? she doesnt even go here? and all that shit. i know this one girl i dont like will be there...and that other girl i was talking about that this boy cant get over. i wanna like go to the baseball game and have him notice me..like thinkin wow whos that cute girl? havent seen here before....wish i could talk to her...like i said im not a bitch or anything or conceited..but how do you think i could get his attention? like i bet after the game all those girls i dont like will go up and talk to all the guys...and me and my cousin will probly just go home!! i mean i wonder if he has seen me before? because ive seen him many times..sometimes at a distant tho....and at his hockey game one time my cuzin was like OH MY GOSH THERE HE IS!! and i guess he walked by?? and i was like huh where i didnt see him!!? and shes like are you kidding me..he was staring like right at you...but the only prob. is my cousin always says stuff like that around guys i think are hott..and them girls i was talkin about earlier were RIGHT behind me so i bet he was lookin at them (since they are very pretty). i dont see myself as pretty..or attractive so i dont think that helps and i for sure dont have the confidence to march right up there and talk to him. i dont have any cute clothes....i cant just all of a sudden go on a shopping spree you know..i never know how to where my hair...curling it never works only straightening it does. i am an unperfect girl
i just want this one guys attention..or even talk to him ..anything!!!
so if anyone could please help me with my situation i will for sure rate you 5!!
thanks for everything guys
♥
GOOOD IDEA, GO TO THE GAME! And if the other girls there start giving you dirty looks, brush it off.. smile at them at first and be friendly, but if their bitches just ignore them completely. You came to see the guy, not start drama. Next-make sure you stay till the end and talk to the guy w/ your cousin, just a cute Hi and introducing yourself sort of talk will at least make him know who you are. Also for what you look like, go ahead and straighten your hair, if thats what looks best. But a clip in it on one side maybe, depending on how you part your hair. And for your clothes. Nothing crazy, but nothing like a sweatshirt and shorts. Just a cute pair of jeans, flip flops that match the shirt your wearing, and a cute t-shirt would be cute. And if you dont like your clothes, borrow from your cousin, or another friend. But i'm sure after he talks to you, you'll be fine! Have fun, tell me how it goes! and Good luck !! Much love ♥
hi im 13 and my boyfriend is 16 yes i know thats an age gap. well i understand that he likes drinkin and ya i do to sadly. but i dont really do it as much anymore. and he told me staright up he was gonna stop. then he went out and did it again and i asked him why he said that when he didnt mean to and he said because he just wanted to. well sometimes i feel like he would rather be drinking and other stuff then rather being with me like beer is more important. how can i stop myself from feeling this way.
p.s he ditches me to go do that stuff
It's def. normal to feel that way. And at 16 the boy really just wants to have fun i bet. I dont know how close you are, but you should tell him that. Tell him that it feels like that, and that since your not really into that kind of stuff anymore its awkward. Go to those kind of things w/ him, and just dont drink. Keep him busy, and he prob. wont either. And if he does tell him straight up that its annoying how he would ditch you for beer, and that maybe this isnt gunna work out. 13 & 16 is a big gap at age. And i hate to say it but i dont know if you'll last that long. I mean its def fun, but if thats how he is, i personally think you could do better.
"If they're not there for you, then they're not worthy of you either"
Well hopefully that helps. Good Luck! :] Much love
ok so i am 15 and i have this friend and me and her are great friends but she considers me as a brother and not a boyfriend....i have told her s everal times that i feel like we can be more...and she doesnt want to ruin anything even though i know i would never let anything come between us EVER...she currently has a boyfriend of like 3 months but i kno he doesnt care for her because when ever she wants to see him he makes up an excuse not to and when i want to hang out with her she does the same thing to me...it just doesnt make sense and i dont know what to do...what should i do? i was considering sending her the link to the song For You I Will by Teddy Geiger..is that a good choice?
First of all i think that is the cutest thing ever. How much you like, would never let anything come between you guys, and how you would wanna send that song. BUT, she has a boyfriend. And until she realizes that your the better man, and that your into her more, your gunna have to let her me. Thats the one reason that song might now be the best idea. it might scare her a little bit, and think that you're like in love w/ her, what could be intimidating to her. Let her know that you like her in other ways. Just always be there for her, and call her and things like that. You could even kindly say that you think her current boyfriend is just making excuses. And even when he does make excuses be the guy thats willing to hang out w/ her anyway. You seem like you really like this girl, and she seems pretty lucky & blessed. But if after you tell her these things she still thinks of you as a brother, be that brother. You dont wanna lose the current friendship that you have. :] Hope that helps. Much love
ok hey. so, i'm in highschool (i'm a sophomore.). i'm a female (pretty obvious?) and i need advice. duh. i haven't dated/liked ANYONE since llllaaaasssssttttt year. i really want to find someone that i can like and will like me. all my friends have boyfriends, and they are neglecting our friendship to hang out with their stupid boys. this isn't just about them, though. i really want someone who i can be with romantically. do you have any advice to help me when i don't have a boy, or to help me get one?
Ah, sophmore year. So fun. My advice to you is, have one of your friends that has a boyfriend throw a little get together, her boyfriend, some of his friends. Def more then one tho so it isnt awkward and doesnt look like their trying to set you up. And then maybe another couple or something. This way it wouldnt be awkward and you could def. meet some ppl. That or if you find a guy you sort of like, go to things that he would be at to, and always just hang out w/ him a little bit more then anyone else. But not to much, clingyness is unattractive. But even if you dont get a boyfriend, its not the end of the world. Boyfriends come when you least expect it. Make it look like you dont want or need a boyfriend, what boys cant have they want. So play it off like that. i promise eventually someone will come, and they'll want you ;)
♥ MUCHO LOVE