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Q: ok i need help i cant decide between 2 parties, both are this saturday & i know its my decision & all but i just need input

ok so Party A:: the girls whos throwin it i mean we both know each other but weve never talked to each other but shes 2 of my other friend's friend too. i kno a buncha people that are going to this, its gonna be like one of those big blow out my-super-sweet-16 kinda deals. i got invited to this one first. the down side is i need a semi-formal dress haha

Party B:: one of my friends from last semester is havin it. its a pool party and i only kno like 3 people that are goin. i wasnt invited to this one till i had pretty much already decided i was goin to the 1st one [although i hadnt RSVP'd or told anyone i was goin]. but the thing is this girl is actually one of my friends from last yr although i havent seen her at all this yr. i dont wanna upset them by goin to the 1st party esp. since a lotta ppl dont like the girl whos havin the 1st party [personally i dont have anything against her i dont see why a lotta ppl are like 'dont go to hers' and stuff]

so basically id kinda rather go to the 1st party but the thing is i dont wanna let my friends down, + id have to go buy a dress anyway.

what should i do?

I would go to the first party. You want to go there more and you would prob. have more fun.

As for your friend, tell her that you got invited to this other girls party first, and you already told her you oculd go (even if you didn't) Then tell her that you two should hang out one day after the party together. She will understand.

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And for the dress, I wouldn't worry about it. You can go to DEB, Dillards, Boscovs, there are so many places to grab one!

Q: i keep trying to make this boy jelous so he will like me more...sometimes i feel he doesnt like me even tho he really does. should i keep trying to make him jelous..help me out!!

I always try and get boys to be jelous. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. If you have been trying for awhile and it's not working, I would suggest stopping. He may just be getting annoyed at you and will like you less and less. You may look desperate. I guess it depends on the guy, but I would try stopping. But if he is doing it to you, continue with it!

Q: how do i get my hair scrunched? like that curly hair u see girls have. i dont want it like a wet scrnched though. and i want it to stick with all the humidity that we have in new orleans. my hair is like an inch below my sholders and i straghten it everyday and now im gettin sck of that look. k thx. 5's

Get it pretty wet. Like when you get out of the shower. Then take gel and rub it around in your hand then starting at the tips of your hair, grab it and make a fist with the hair in your hand and bring it to your part. You continue to do that. Try spraying it with hairspray to stay for the whole day. I actually use this Hilary Duff stuff.. a conditioning, shinying, and someother kind of spray and it workd great!

Q: haha so yeah tomorrow i'm making out with this guy that likes me, and i like him, and i'm really excited BUT I've never made out with anyone, let alone kiss him, and i'm soo nervous and anxious and stuff. like.. what if just freeze andi don't know what to do (that happened to my friend) and... ahh! anyone help? cause i'm really nervous :( lol and how do i start it?
any help is great
thank youuuuu

Start of kissing..suck on his lower lip. Then let go and just rest your lips on his if he starts to kiss you deeper, go for it and follow him. You could push your tongue into his mouth then he pushes his tongue into your mouth. It's kind of like a game. Just relax and have fun.

Q: my boyfriend and i have been going out for a little under a year. i love him so much and care about him and i found out that he's been doing something i dont really approve of. but its not what hes doing that upsets and worries me, its that he's been lying to me about it, and then said he's never lied to me. i dont know if i can trust him anymore. i dont want him doing what hes doing, but if he's going to i want to know about it because i dont like being lied to. i want to talk to him but i have no idea what to say? any ideas? i really care about him and love him and don't want anything to happen to him. :-\

Honesty is the biggest thing you need to have in a relationship. Drinking is more then stupid, exspeccially under age. It cna get bad and he could get caught and his life may get ruined. I think you should say to him that you know he has been drinking and that he has been lying to you. And that if he doesn't tell you the truth.. well hunn... you should take a break from him. It may hurt but it will help. If he confesses, say that he neeeds to stop and tell him the consequesnces if caught. I know that he could go to jail. Belive me, this will help him and YOU!

Q: I'm a LONER,a LOSER,a complete chatter box, and people think I'm anoing,I don't have any cool clothes either,Ialso don't stick to anything a start for exsample:baseketball,music lessons...! How do I make friends or even have them to want to be friends with me and maybe get a guy too like to go out with me? P.S. I'm 13 years old, Female,and super shy.

BE YOURSLEF. ONe say, just start a convo. with someone...this school yr is a new yr.. go ahead adn change yourself.. then people will love you... reading the Clique Books cna help A LOT too! Flirt with guys.. and your there! PLease come to me for any more questions.. or IM me at xo3maris3ox... please! PLease rate me!

Q: ok i have been going out with this guy for like 2 months and i really like him, but we havent kissed yet, should i make the first move? and he doesnt call me..what is up with that? i think he is just shy, and there is this other guy that told me he likes me and i kind of like him but i dont want to brake up with my boyrfriend for him what should i do?

Hey! If you feel that your boyfreind maybe just isn't into you... like not calling hugging holding your hand and stuff he is probably just shy. Maybe one day when you are in the movies or somewhere together.. talk to him say.. "Is it just me or do you not want to be to intimate with eachother?" When I say intimite I don't be making out and stuff just like kissing and hugging and etc. The only way for you to see what he feels is to talk to him.. talking to him won't hurt, and like you said he may just shy. For the other guy.. if things don't improve in about a month I think you should go with the other guy.. only if you really like him by then.

Q: does anyone know how to fade freckles?
.:~*I rate 5's*~:.

Use make-up...... for example cover-up.

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Q: okay well my two best friends go out... why does that bother me i mean i dont have feelings for my friend [hes a boy] but why does it bother me?? please answer people keep sayin i like him but i dont i need help soon

u may be a lil upset that ur friends r goin out and u arent. dont wry though, u no when the time is rite. maybe ur friends arent even ready yet! beleive me, its better to wait then rush 2 do sompin. hope i helped! good luck!

xoxo, maris

Q: Ok me and my 2 friends lyke this guy and i found out that he lykes me should i go with it cuz i really lyke him but i dont want to hurt my friends! Plz help

First, ask your friend how she feels. If she says I'm ok with it, go out with him. If she feels a lil uncomfortable, don't. The only thing is, you also like him too, I don't think you should just make the world revolve around your friend. I mean what would she say in this situation? Also, I TRUE friend would say yes to you for going out with him. Overall, I think you should ask your friend and go with it. Make sure your friend knows how you feel! Hope I helped! Good luck! Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: Hi everyone...I hope yo all can help me. I am looking for things to do with my Boyfriend that are sweet and romantic, but cost next to nothing. I am up for almost anything, any sugestions would be great. Thanks a Bunch ! xoxoxoxoxox Christin

Go take a nice walk in the park. Bring a blanket to sit on. Talk to him, love him. It's sweet, but very romantic. He'll prob. love it! Hope I helped! Good luck! xoxo, Maris

Q: Male 15
Why is it that i am never able to ask a girl out?
Most people say im just a stupid chicken and make fun of me. I need help :( Wats ur opinion?

You have to just go for it! If she says no, she says no. She would be a loser to say no to you, plus there is alot more fish in the sea! The best way to ask a girl out is not having to talk to her face to face! The phone is good, but IM is better! You don't have to talk either! Hope I helped!
xoxo, Maris

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Hey! I am Marissa and I'm 16. I live in South Carolina and I love to dance and laugh. I liek to give advice and help people a lot so feel free to ask me anything and I promise I will get back to you! &hearts