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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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we know eachother and shes a shy and quiet girl but adorable anyhoo i confessed my love to her and asked her out i think she likes me but idk and she said that she doesnt want to be in a relationship right now cause of school but she said she'll end up having a relationship with me idk what that could mean i thought it meant that either she wants me to wait for her or something anyhoo then i said to her that i would wait for her and she said thats really sweet so i assume she wants me to wait what do you think it might mean?
I think she likes you but she has her priorities right now which is that school comes first.
I think that eventually you will be together with her, but right now it's not going to happen.
Just be patient, wait as long as you can, and then go from there :) I think it'll all work out for you in the end.. It is very sweet of you to wait for her !
Good luck xxo ! Just go with the flow.
am scared of sayin yes to guys coz i dont wana get hurt by them what shuld i do
If you don't ever get past this fear and actually start dating guys, you'll never give one of them a chance to NOT hurt you. Sometimes life is about taking chances and if you get hurt, it's not the end of the world but you can't think so negatively.. You'll be okay :) just try !
Hope I helped xxo
Do I need to trust anybody ?
Is this world just business ?
People do cheat. In that case, why do I have to trust someone and be broken ? Cry ? Be disappointed ?
I know many of you might have experienced this.
You don't NEED to trust anybody, since you can trust yourself, but it is going to get very lonely if you don't trust at least one person in your life. and I know how hard it is to trust people, I have been screwed over soosoo many times in my life, it's like not even funny and because of this, I have major trust issues. but there are those few people, like my family and a couple of friends that I trust. but the only person i can truly trust is myself.. and my dog.. but thats self explanatory hahaha.
this world is not just business, because you wouldnt be able to mix business with pleasure ;]
yes. ive been cheated on. emotionally, and im pretty sure physically.. but people also cheat when it comes to lies and all of that. so everybody at some point, cheats.
but you dont have to trust anyone and be broken, but also know that not everyone is going to break you.. the fact of life is that people's true colors come out eventually.. sometimes the outcome is good, sometimes it is not. but its those sucky people who break us who show us how strong we truly are and they help us realize that we can get back up. never let anyone completely break you, also know that they cant, unless you let them.
crying sucks. especially over a broken heart. but wounds heal.
dissapointment is inevitable. everyone will be dissapointed at some point in their lives also. its a part of life, but that does not mean you cant trust anyone because people might surprise you. i think that everyone deserves at least one shot to prove you wrong.. and if they dont, or you get a bad feeling about them, then cut them out of your life.
but life is about taking risks. and taking that jump and hoping you dont fall. yuh know ? but i promise, not everyone is un-trustworthy. take it from someone who LITERALLY knows.
hope i helped. xxo :]
Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this?
you were both vulnerable.. which is why you both kissed eachother. parts of you probably wanted to prove to yourselves that just because someone broke up with you or you broke up with someone, it doesnt mean you cant have fun or be with someone else. sometimes things just happen.. sometimes theyre meant to happen.. you both just acted on your impulses, its okay. youre both single. so neither of you were cheating.
dont be disgusted with yourself. people make mistakes. its not the end of the world. it happened. now its time to deal with it and move on from it. a couple months from now, itll be funny to you :] dont worry.
and things will only change because of this IF you want them to or if dwell over what happened. its your choice.
also, talk to the guy. tell him how you feel and that you really dont want anyone to find out. and that you dont want what happened to ruin anything, even the friendship that you both have. communication is key, and if you express that you want this to never be spoken about, im sure he'll agree.. he agreed before.
just be calm, cool and collected. if you spaz about this or obsess over it, people will find out. just pretend it never happened and go from there, because nothing did happen.. it was just a kiss. thats it. nothing major. youre both single, and nothing bad happened. youre fine.
good luck ! hope i helped, my inbox is always open ! xxo.
i liked this guy in my class
and everyone keeps on telling both of us that we make a great couple
but im not sure if he likes me back
he:
looks at me during class
he tells me everything(and im always the fist)
he always compliments me
he always laughs at my not so funny jokes
he keeps on telling me that im beautiful
he always listens to my advice and always gives me advice
my friends say that he doesnt ever stare at someone not even a girl the way he does(in a good way)
but today i was on msn with him and he randomly tells me that my best friend just asked him if he liked me(but he never told me his response)
Does he like me or not
(we are both in 6th grade)
yes :] it sounds like he does like you.
maybe you should ask him for advice, and give him hints that you like him throughout.. like, "so i like this guy, hes my friend, and we always talk and he calls me bautiful, but i dont know what to do."
or you could just ask him if he likes you.
or you could tell him you like him.
or you can just wait for him to tell you :]
anyways, good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
Okay so here's the thing, I'm a 13 yearold girl and one of my best guy friends liked me, but apparently he stopped cause he has a girlfriend and I don't really like her and I dont wanna see them go out cause I don't think there good together. But the day before they started going out I started to get feelings for him. I dont no what to do and I know I shoudlnt be upset by this but I am. and sad, so if anyone knows how to help me with this. PLEASE do :)
i know you like him, but you dont want to break up him and his girlfriend by telling him how you feel. just because you dont like her, doesnt mean she shouldnt have a chance with him.
theyre going out now, and youre only 13... theres plenty of guys out there, youre young. so is he. they probably wont be together forever, so youll eventually have your chance [if you dont find someone else by then ;)] but for right now, you dont want to get the label as "home-wrecker."
lets put it this way:
if you were his girlfriend, and a girl felt the way you do now, and she didnt like you and wants to be with your boyfriend, possibly try to break you two up... how would you feel ?
.. im sure you wouldnt feel too good about it. so i suggest that you just let everything play out by itself. see how things go for now, and then talk to him about your feelings [if you still have them] later on. but just keep your options open and try to catch some other fish in the sea ;]
i know youre sad, but youll be okay. hes stll your best guy friend, so just keep it that way for now.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
Is it normal for me to be jealous? My GF broke up with me a month ago. I've been getting over it, but lately i've been seeing her with guys and I see her pics on Facebook with guys and she is hugging them and having fun and smiling, and i'm just sitting her pissing and moaning about it. Is it normal for me to be jealous like this? I mean, its been a whole month. Shouldnt i be over it? And when i see her at school, it kills me inside when she is hugging other guys. How do i deal with this?
Yeah, its totally normal.
even though youre a guy and its pretty sterotypical that "all guys move on super fast" .. its not true. you have feelings too.
theres no specific time period when you should be over someone or something that happened, its different for everyone and in your situation, it also depends on how much you liked her and all of that.
i know its hard. but with time, youll move on. but let her hugging guys and hanging out with them be your motivation to get a move on with your own life too.
dealing with it, you need to hang out with your friends. occupy yourself and be around people. start talking to girls and go places where your oppurtunity to meet girls is pretty good.. like an amusement park, mall, park.. something like that. you could also put your frustrations into athletics, and go running or even play a sport like basketball with your friends, maybe even hit the gym.
eat LOTS of chocolate [if youre not allergic, it seriously helps. comfort food is awesome] you could also listen to music, but nothing depressing.. something that will empower you.
also. if you see her, look away. dont watch her. dont try to find out what shes doing, im not saying that youre doing this, but dont because youll just be torturing yourself some more.
if you pretend youre okay, itll make her crazy. and the more you pretend, the quicker youll feel okay and finally be okay.
theres plenty of fish in the sea, as cliche as that sounds and you will find someone else. you seem like an awesome person, dont let one girl ruin that, show her how much better you are without her.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
What other type of gum will make your breast grow
this is impossible. there is no such thing.
sorry to burst your bubble. [no pun intended]
xxo.
At parties when i'm a bit tipsy i always feel like i make a fool of myself, but i've always portrayed an 'i don't give a fuck what you think of me' attitude. Secretly though i do, am i just being self consious?
everyone has insecurities.
everyone masks those insecurities.
everyone.
so its totally normal for you to act one way, but feel another. like with your attitude at parties and secretly feeling like you actually do care what people think of you.
i wouldnt say youre being self consious, just being human.
good luck ! keep up the confidence, because you have it. dont doubt yourself :] hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
he has a girlfriend an i know its wrong for me to like him because of that but he is always flirting and telling me that he would not mind dating me and also he stares at me while hes with his girl and sometimes she would even give me stares,what should i do im a female and 16 years old?
ive been there, done that.
dont go down that road.
honestly, it is NOT worth it in the end. even though you're not, you WILL be called a homewrecker and people will make your life a living hell.
unless he breaks up with his girlfriend, tell him that its not fair to you or his girlfriend that he doing this and that he needs to stop.
you could also tell him that unless he breaks up with his girlfriend, you guys cant flirt with eachother or talk like you are now.. just FRIENDS is all you can be.
you dont want to be the other girl, i know you dont. and if you were his girlfriend and he was doing this to you, wouldnt you be upset if you ever found out ? .. im pretty sure youd be furious.
i think that you should talk to him and tell him exactly what i told you to.. if he bails out and decides to stay with his girlfriend than its HIS loss and his girlfriend's loss since he will probably continue doing this with other girls if someone [you] doesnt talk to him about it.
but i mean, i know hes your friend. so you probably dont want to ignore him.. but if you do and he asks you why youre being so guarded, tell him and let him know that this needs to stop and he needs to figure out what he wants because you wont wait for him forever and you sure as hell wont be used.
good luck ! i hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo :]
I have a HUGE crush on a guy and I really wanna know if he likes me back I HAVE NO IDEA on how to tell if he likes me or not He flirts with lots of girls but lately hes been treating me really nicely and trys to talk to me when im at lunch,walking down the halway etc.
aww :] well, here are some things to look for to tell if he likes you:
- his body language: if hes leaning towards you when you talk or approaches you first and neither of you step back.. thats a really good sign :] [he also might try to talk badly about other guys to make himself look good]
- eye contact: if he tries to catch your eye or is staring at you and/or TRYING to make eye contact with you.. its good.
- touching: if he lightly touches your arm or leg or something.. maybe even goes in or a hug or puts his arm around you, thats also a very good sign :] or if he doesnt move if your leg happens to touch his or something.
- if you notice that he goes out of his way to talk to you or see you.
- smile: if hes constantly flashing a big smile at you, its good.. i mean, smiles usually arent a bad thing in general haha.
- laughing: if he tries to make you laugh a lot :]
- talking: he might get nervous or a little tounge tied around you because he wants to impress you :]
- he might show off in front of you, or his friends will tease him and stuff when you walk by because they know he likes you or something. [its little hints like that]
- compliments: he'll probably send some compliments your way, like maybe tell you that youre hair looks good or that youre cute or funny.. anything along the lines of a compliment are good signs.
if you want some more tips and stuff, check out this website: http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You
i hope i helped ! and i hope this works out for you :] good luck ! xxo.
how do i tell him to tell his best friend to stay out of are relationship??
So.. your boyfriend's best friend is getting himself involved in your relationship?
if that's not right, then just disregard this whole little advice thing.. haha :] and i apologize if i didnt fully understand your question.
anyways, the first thing you need to do is stay calm and to not start a fight. If your boyfriend feels like its his fault or that youre attacking him also, you wont get anywhere.. so you just need to stay positive.
Talk to your boyfriend and bring it up nicely. you could say something like, "your best friend is awesome, all of your friends are cool, but i kinda feel like your best friend gets into our business and i thought that maybe you could ask him to just chill out?"
you see how thats not negative ? and not attacking or hurting either one of them ? something like that will really help and get him to talk to his friend for you :]
good luck ! i hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
Hi, thanks for your advice last time. Actually he likes to act like a cheerful, normal guy in school.But he told me before that he is really depressed, and he said that no one understands how he feels. He only talks to me about that, so I'm kind of his "counsellor" . Anyways, I already said that I don't like him, but he said he will keep trying. But I'm being as friendly as possible, despite him irritating me. Thanks for your last advice anyways :D
No problem !
it sounds like youve got it under control :] keep it up and keep your cool :] haha.
xxo.
me and a guy used to be really close. Then i intoduced him to my friend and for almost two years now it's like i don't exsist. I have liked him for a really really long time like about 2.5 years. He never asked me out when we were close but in the first couple of months that he new my friend he asked he out twice. My heart is compeletly broken and to make matters worse. Last year my friend told him that i liked him. Infront of all these other guys and girls. I didnt say anything but i felt my face turning really red. He just looked at me with this sympathatic look but nothing ever changed. He started to ignore me then after a really long time when i compeltley igrnored him for a really long time he wanted to be my friend again. Then i figured out that he is only my friend to get help with homework and studying. I hate him and i love him at the same time not to mention he's exteremly hot. HOW IN THE WORLD TO I GET OVER HIM. IT'S ABOUT TIME!!!!! no matter what i do it just doesn't happen i just get sucked back in. Help, please.:-(
honey, you dont deserve that. you have to think about yourself right now and look back at the facts:
1. hes using your friendship and your feelings to benefit ONLY him by getting help with homework.
2. he never talked to you about you liking him.
3. he ignored you after he found out you liked him.
4. he broke your heart and made you feel worthless.
do you REALLY want to be with a guy who has done all that to you ?
.. i hope your answer to that is no, because honestly, you can find SUCH a better guy. There are plenty of fish in the sea [and i know that is so overrated] but, seriously.. there ARE other attractive/hot guys out there who will adore you. he is clearly just missing out on a wonderful person like you. seriously, and he WILL regret it, i promise you that.
but to get over him, you have to completly cut all communication from him.. i know, i know, that sounds hard, but you can do it. you just have to find the strength, which i know you have in you.
basically, you just need to let him go. start talking to other guys, keep your options open and just dont talk to him or about him. delete him from your life. its the only way youll get over him.
and its going to take a little time to get over him, its not going to magically just go away; its not that easy, even though i wish i could tell you it was. but just vent to your friends and even write about it, draw out your feelings.. something to get your emotions out, but just dont talk to him. even if he tries to talk to you, prove him wrong. give him what you got from him for 2.5 years. just go out with your friends and have a good time :] youre better off without him, trust me.
good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo :]
What does it mean if a boy smiles every time he hears your name? I'm 15/f and he is 16/m.
It most likely means that he likes you :] just think about it .. when someone says or has said the name of a person and you heard it an smiled, it means that you like them and have happy thoughts about them.
same thing goes for guys. talk to him :] see what happens, if hes smiling just by hearing your name, he'll be GLOWING when you talk to him. i guarentee it.
good luck, hope i helped and if you need anything else, let me know ! xxo. have fun.
I like nick jonas. But so does my friend and she heert me really bad because I love him soooooooooo much and she does not know how much I really care.
look at it this way..
theres about 13748595 million other girls out there who also feel the way you do about nick jonas; its something you ALL have in common. so just bond with your friend over how "cute" he is or what a good singer he has become and all of that and just dream away :] you guys can have fun together while crushing on him together along with the 13748595 million other girls all over the world. maybe go to a concert together.. just be happy you have someone that you can crush on nick with.. its always fun. look at the girls who are in love with twilight and more importantly.. robert pattinson and taylor lautner ;]
dont worry, you guys will get past this.
good luck ! xxo.
Okay, so recently to sum my story up short, My Boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5years. In the past I have caught him maybe 2yrs ago lying about girls he had slept with and he put it all out on the table who and what he lied about. 2 years later here we are he lied to me again saying he was going to sleep Friday night because he had to "work" saturday morning an I didn't trust him at all because his whole story about working had been changing, because he lives out of town also! He just recently moved away as well, so he said basically he couldn't come into town because he had to work. I trusted that he said he had to work even though things were sketchy! SO I called his friend later that night he picked up the phone an hungup an I heard music playing , eventually he called an chewed me out saying he was sleeping an stop calling him. I just so happened to check his account and see he was lying and at a nude bar? I kept thinking why would he lie, I caughthim an drove all the way to south carolina to fix things with him NOTE:i didnt do anything wrong, I think any female would have done the same an checked up on their bf of 5 YEARS. So he is wanting to break up because I went on his online banking and he foundout tuesday I tried logging in again and he changed his password so I couldn't go on an I assumed maybe he was hiding stuff and questioned him about it? I wrote him a long email saying if he wanted closure I will give it to him an called him that night to talk, this time he wasnt yelling at me on the phone he listened an just commented saying I dont trust him an never did, an that's why he did it an tried to get away with it because he knew I wouldn't approve of him going out like he did. Well needless to say we ended the convo on good terms he said he would call me and hasn't called yet, it's been about a day now! SO I want to know am I wrong? What can I do to fix it? I told him I would go to counseling to do whatever it took to make it work an would trust him but at the same time he has to gain that back from me? I don't know what more to do I have talked to al kinds of people at work, managers everything and have no clue what to do?? ANY advice would be appreciated , Thank you SO much!
ohmygod, NO! you are most definetely NOT wrong, he is, in EVERY way possible. it is normal and justified for you to look into what is going on and what WAS going on. he LIED to you and then fessed up about the "true" stories of his sexual relationships. I mean, yeah, good for him.. but thats the first strike. the second strike was when when he lied about sleeping and in actuality, he was at a nude bar. the thrid strike was when he changed his password so that you could no longer have access to his personal information.. this just screams, "im guilty." it really does. and if he wants to break up with you, its because he knows that you're not going to let him get away with lying and you're not going to let him think that you're gullible enough. AND on top of all of that, hes trying to turn this entire thing around on you to make YOU seem like the bad guy by saying that you dont trust him and never did.. uhm, YOU DID TRUST HIM, at one point, until he broke it.. multiple times.
dont take the blame for this. you did absolutley nothing wrong, and he should be fixing this, not you. but you also have to ask yourself the question: do you want to fix this? is it worth it?
i mean, think about it, do you want to stay in this relationship being paranoid that he is lying to you or hiding things from you ? like thats goig to be the biggest thing, and i know 5 years is a LONG time, but do you want to spend another 5 going over the same thing ? lies, betrayl.. ?its up to you darling.
but if you want to fix it, you have to talk to him. communication is key. sitting around, waiting for him to call you is not going to solve anything. and dont do it over the phone. meet face to face and talk it out. suggest going to couples therapy, and if youre serious about that, then look up a therapist who specializes in that field that is in your area and gie him the information. and yes, youre exactly right.. he does have to gain that trust back from you.. youre not just going to grant him it. sure, you can forgive him.. but never forget.
i hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] good luck and be strong, youre an awesome person and you deserve an equally awesome guy, xxo.
If you had to pick one thing that bothers you about your relationship that you feel needs to change so that the relationship can be successful what would that be? Please elaborate...
cool question :] but anyways..
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7 months.. and we've been through ALOT, but personally, there is nothing that bothers me about my relationship.. anymore.
I used to feel that he took me for granted, and i didnt trust him with other girls and i didnt feel that he stook up for me when need be.. I mean, I would always tell him how i felt, so I dont believe that there was a lack of communication. I just think there was a lack of understanding where the other person was coming from. or what they had been through that made them the way that they were.
so i think if anything, every relationship needs a common ground where there is a mutual understanding and once you get that understanding, everything falls into place because now that we undertsand eachother, and the differences between our past relationships, everything is great :] like, it couldnt be better. i mean, theres always room for improvement in every relationship, because no one is perfect, but also.. every relationship is different. some need more communication, some need understanding, or even space or more love/caring. it all depends.
well, i hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to ask me :] good luck, xxo.
Recently, my friend has been talking about how "hot" he thinks his teacher his. He keeps saying he fantasizes about her and he worships her. He said he likes walking past her room, he said he wants to buy the yearbook and school newsaper just to oogle and "jerk off" (masturbate) at any pictures of her in them. Worst of all, he said he wishes she was a pedophile and if she wanted to molest him he'd be all for it. Its kind of funny but its also kind of creepy to me. II always thought a teacher is someone you respect, not look at in that way. Is this normal
I don't know what grade you guys are in, but since 8th grade and throughout high school [im a junior in high school] I know that boys talk similar to the way your friend is talking about an adult/teacher. Boys are very hormonal, don't get me wrong, so are girls, but boys tend to be more open about their fantasies. If he sees it doesn't bother you and it isn't making you uncomfortable, he's going to keep saying things like this. It's not necessarily weird unless it gets out of hand and he starts to become obsessive, for example .. if it starts effecting his life and if he acts on his fantasies/impulses. then there will be a problem. But as of now, it's harmless thoughts of a VERYY hormonal boy. Just be like, "are you joking.. thats kind of sick." and see what he says. If you think this could potentially be/is a serious problem, talk to him about it first and then tell your parents or an adult about it.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! :] xxo.
14/f
thhooouuuugh I don't think this is a romantic thing or anything, so it is a slightly different approach...
anyway today we had free time in class and our teacher is awesome so we can sleep till the bell if that happens, and so I was napping a bit and I wake up because someone burped real loud beside me, and I find this boy I've been talking to a little bit for a while watching me with this really sincere grin and so I smile a bit and say, "Hey.. I'm kinda sleepy, haha."
His eyes crinkle up with more smileyness and he says "Yeah, I know. I was..." and then he gets dragged into a conversation with someone else.
Now, some romantic girls may say "Ooohh, how sweet he likes you and thought you were cute sleeping~" but no, I don't think so. He does look at me sometimes, and if I'm talking to another guy he tends to take notice and gets in the middle of it (discretely, though I know he does this on purpose because any time I'm talking with a girl he never pays any attention) and he'll tease me, but the thing is he's a flirt as it is. He's always picking fights with girls to see their reactions and stuff.
so yeah, the main question here is--
......seriously, is a sleeping girl that freakin' funny?
I know I'm not ugly, even though I'm not a beauty queen, I don't snore (according to every family member who has shared a room/bed with me), I don't talk in my sleep, according once again to the family...
so what the heck was so funny or cute or whatever it was that made him smile?
Simple answer: boys will be boys.
In depth answer: like the previous advice given to you, he may only be 13 or 14 and still a bit immature. Girls mature faster than guys, it's a proven fact haha. From the way I see it, he was wither laughing at the burp or he was laughing at what you said. Sometimes, guys laugh or smile because they want to draw you in and flirt with you. or he could have been laughing at the way you just woke up and was like, "hey.. i was kinda sleepy, haha." if you laugh, he's going to laugh too because he doesn't want to make you uncomfortable. He wasn't trying to be a jerk about it, if that's what you're thinking. He probably just thought it was cute by the way you just looked at him and everything. all guys have different likes and dislikes ... just liek you may think something is cute or funny, but some other person may not.
Just don't read into it so much and keep flirting ir talking to him if you want to get to know him and are interested in that. if not, just let it go. good luck ! have funn :] and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.