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A question very simple, but not the answer
Do I need to trust anybody ?
Is this world just business ?
People do cheat. In that case, why do I have to trust someone and be broken ? Cry ? Be disappointed ?
I know many of you might have experienced this.
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Life is risk.
Every friendship, every meal, every word, every choice. All of it. It's all risk.
Some people will cheat you and will betray you. Most wont. Often you'll misunderstand or be misunderstood and that will lead to pain.
Other people will not think like you do, will not judge things the same as you do, and will not feel the same as you do.
When people ask why they should trust someone, often what they are really asking is "How can I make sure someone will make the exact same choices as I will? How can I understand someone perfectly? How can I know they will feel the same way I do?"
And the answer to all of those question, is You Can't.
But can you still trust people, even knowing all that, and you need too, and you already do. Everyday you trust the chef who cooked your meal at the restaurant not to poison you. You trust the people who pass you on the street not to beat you and rob you. You don't trust them because there are laws, or because they are being paid for a service - you trust them because deep down you know that the vast majority of people are at least TRYING to be good.
Most of the time in this world, when someone betrays you or cheats you, they are still trying to be good. If they aren't, then yes, you cry it out. You get disappointed. You get the law involved if you need too. Then you walk away knowing that most strangers on street are going to give your wallet back if you drop it, call 911 if you are hurt, that most of your friends are going to try to tell you the truth, and most of your lovers are going to try to love you.
You can decide that you aren't going to trust people anymore. But functionally, you'll have to trust at some level, even a very low one, and the hypocrisy, madness and loneliness of trying to never trust others, will destroy you.
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You know... it's sad how reading this. I feel like i wrote this myself. I've been in these thoughts, I STILL have these thoughts.
No you don't need to trust anyone. Hell some of the people in the world don't even trust THEMSELVES. Sad but true. And yes it is true that i guess... it's kind of lonely... but then again being single is supposedly lonely and there are some people who don't feel that way. So depends on the purpose.
This world isn't just business otherwise a lot of the idiots in this world would not be here. Unless the idiots are the consumers in this equation... hmm.. makes sense right?
And yes, people cheat. Unfortunately they do. Whether in relationships or just "cheating" at life in general. And you don't have to trust someone, just like you don't have to cry, and you don't have to be broken and disappointed. but crying is human. Feeling broken can sometimes happen and when it comes to other people disappointment can be expected.
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I can see you seem to be very heart broken. I've been there most of us have. To get more to the point yes you should definately want to trust people. Trust is very important with any relationship I consider it one of the most important things. Basically if there is no trust it's an unhealthy relationship that won't work for you. I sometimes have big trust problems. I'm very careful with who I trust. Some good tips when putting your trust in people is look at the relationship. How does that person treat you if they respect you, give you space, and haven't ever given you a reason not to trust them you should probably test their trust with you. However if they are the opposite with pretty much any of those things no I wouldn't trust them. It can be hard trusting because of the emotions like you don't want to get hurt, but good relationships with good people with take you far and help you through a lot of things later in life when you're maybe to that point of done trying. I wish you the best sorry for the length!
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You don't NEED to trust anybody, since you can trust yourself, but it is going to get very lonely if you don't trust at least one person in your life. and I know how hard it is to trust people, I have been screwed over soosoo many times in my life, it's like not even funny and because of this, I have major trust issues. but there are those few people, like my family and a couple of friends that I trust. but the only person i can truly trust is myself.. and my dog.. but thats self explanatory hahaha.
this world is not just business, because you wouldnt be able to mix business with pleasure ;]
yes. ive been cheated on. emotionally, and im pretty sure physically.. but people also cheat when it comes to lies and all of that. so everybody at some point, cheats.
but you dont have to trust anyone and be broken, but also know that not everyone is going to break you.. the fact of life is that people's true colors come out eventually.. sometimes the outcome is good, sometimes it is not. but its those sucky people who break us who show us how strong we truly are and they help us realize that we can get back up. never let anyone completely break you, also know that they cant, unless you let them.
crying sucks. especially over a broken heart. but wounds heal.
dissapointment is inevitable. everyone will be dissapointed at some point in their lives also. its a part of life, but that does not mean you cant trust anyone because people might surprise you. i think that everyone deserves at least one shot to prove you wrong.. and if they dont, or you get a bad feeling about them, then cut them out of your life.
but life is about taking risks. and taking that jump and hoping you dont fall. yuh know ? but i promise, not everyone is un-trustworthy. take it from someone who LITERALLY knows.
hope i helped. xxo :]
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