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Do you follow any religion at all? I really value your opinion. And just because i'm 13 doesn't mean i'm immature, and I think I handled what you said pretty well. I'm more mature then you think I am, matter-a-fact, I have knowledge and wisdom beyond my years. And yes, I know what a chemical balance and all of that is. What I want to do with my life is in the field of psychaitry FYI. And me and my mom aren't close enough for me to think everything she say's is right. Anywayz, answer my question. Are you? Cause if you are, then you would know that there's more out there. Think about death for instince. Just think about that. Nothing I say will probably change what you think because you're one of those difficult, close minded, smartasses that believe you're higher and more intelligent then everyone else. (link)
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An interesting perspective from a 13 year old.
In actuality, yes I am Christian. I don't follow any denomination because I believe that organized religion in almost every form it takes is wrong. I think that Bhuddism comes closes to the form and structure that religion should take, but yes I am functionally Christian. (Believe in Christ, all that)
And yes, I am one of those difficult smart asses who believes he is more intelligent than most people. I believe that because most of the time, its true.
Forgive any references to your age. Few people at 13 stand above the crowd, and almost every 13 year old believes that they do. I don't know you obviously so I couldnt say which you are, but at least you have more clarity of thought than most. The lack of constant teen slang terms in your posts was a good sign.
Regardless, my answer stays the same, perhaps there is more evidence that you didn't put in your post, but what you did put is pretty telling. Your mother seems to me like the type who clings to a feeling of special-ness and who does things like what happened in McDonalds in order to prove it to others so they continue to think she is special. The fact that she refuses questions about it also is evidence in that direction
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my boyfriend is perfect
he knows im not into a lot of things
im really christian
but he understands that and doesnt ask me to do anything ever
but now i want to
because hes so amazing
and i dont know what to do for him that would make him happy
without going against my beliefs too much
help?? (link)
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Hmm.
First, a tip.
Obviously, sex isnt on the menu, nor are most things that would sexually gratify him. (Example, oral sex)
So without being able to give him an orgasm, be careful. You don't want to do a ton of foreplay or even just making out thats going to get him incredibly horny, and then not be able to finish it. The reason is simply because it won't be much fun for him.
Best suggestion is massage. Perfectly innocent and you can make him melt into a pillow, couch, bed, whatever like he was jello.
When I say massage, I'm not talking about a hard deep tissue massage, I'm talking about light rubbing and such.
Types of touch:
1) Finger tips. Finger tips are a light touch that feels very good. You can run your fingers up and down parts of him.
2) Light palm. One hand flat on him you can rub and cover a larger area. Basically just lay your hand on him and move it around.
3) Heavy palm. I'll talk about the spine in a second, heavy palm you need to be kneeling next to him or straddling him for this so you can put a bit of downward pressure. Sometimes two hands one on top the other for extra pressure can help. If you're smaller (like 5'3" or under) you can sit on his butt while hes laying on his stomach and use two hands and pretty much put your weight on him through your hands and it will feel good.
4) Nails. Nails are wonderful. You dont scratch, but very lightly rub with just your nails down. It feels absolutely wonderful and pretty much is guaranteed to raise goosebumps inside 2 minutes. Some kinds of rubbing are appropriate for only some places, but nails works everywhere.
Places to touch.
Ok, imagine your boyfriend in a pair of shorts and no shirt. Everywhere from the waistband up feels good when rubbed. Sometimes different stimulation different areas feels great for different people. So try the types of touch I just described everywhere.
A few places to start.
1) Neck and head. The back of the neck up into the hair and on the scalp is a sweet spot of every guy I've ever heard of. Want a guy to say yes to anything you want? Rub his head. No, seriously, its that effective. It makes us tingle from head to toe in that "I want to melt into and become one with whatever I'm laying on" kinda way. Nails and fingertips are your best bet here. Sides of the neck are also good spots. Soft palm can be good too but don't press down unless he asks you too (it can hurt)
2) Shoulders. These differ from person to person. Some people like their shoulderes rubbed really hard, others like it really soft. Usually reccomend a soft or hard palm touch, nails are fine too, fingertips usually doesnt provide enough feeling on shoulders.
3) Spine & Back. Soft or hard palm or nails. The above mentioned sitting on his butt is a great way to put pressure on his spine from the top of his butt to the base of his neck. Usually you want to use a little more pressure here, and on the back to the sides of the spine. Or nails. Because nails are wonderful.
4) Sides. Nails, figertips, maybe soft palm. His sides you don't want to put too much pressure on because it can be uncomfy with the ribs. But nails or fingertips usually feel great because sides are usually a bit more sensitive than the back is.
5) Arms. Rubbing up his back while sitting on him and out to the sides up his arms can feel great as well. Usually you want nails or hard palm for arms, because they aren't usually that sensitive between the shoulder and the elbow.
6) Front side. Generally, soft palm, fingertips, or nails. Anything from his stomach to his chest you want to use softer pressure on, its never comfy to have someone press down hard.
So, you've got some basics. What you need to do is just have him lay with his shirt off sometime, and start rubbing him. Every guy has different areas that are more sensitive, every body is different. Just rub him and use different types and ask him what feels best.
A good recommendation, you want to relax him at the beginning so that his sensitivity level rises. So start out with soft palm touches and maybe even a little hard palm back massage, and then move out to the sides and his neck and shoulders with softer touches, finish him with nails everywhere.
Do that, and he might just pass out asleep when you stop rubbing him, he'll be so relaxed and happy.
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f/19.
i've been with him for 4 years, and counting.
my boyfriend went to get an x-ray at the hospital and ran into an old hight school friend, her name is marlo. she wasn't gorgeous, but also wasn't completely unfortunately looking. anyhow, he felt the need to text his friend saying, hey i saw marlo at the hospital, 'she was looking too fine' . i read his texts, which he doesn't mind, he reads mine all the time, but back to the point.. it really hurt me. it made me feel worthless, i honestly can say that i don't go checking out guys, i really don't. and this hurt my feelings. and made me feel so ugly on the outside. how do i get over this feeling, i feel so turned off now, i don't even want to have sex with him anymore. oh and this isn't the first time i found a text similar to this in his cell. (link)
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As stated below, you are insecure. This isnt a relationship problem.
A lesson about guys. Guys do not stop looking at other women. Ever.
Ever.
I'm in a three and a half year relationship, but if a girl walks by whos attractive, I'm going to notice. Guys don't do this because we're jackasses, we do it because we're hard wired that way. This also doesnt mean it poses any kind of threat to the relationship, or even that he finds you in any way less attractive than other people.
You also need to realize that when talking to another guy, guys are different. We often feel the need to maintain some level of "machoism" so that there can be no questioning our manliness. Yes, its stupid and juvenile, but I blame it on the testosterone. Which leads to talking about hot girls we've seen and conversations about cars and the need to make sure everyone around us knows that we know how to fight. But we were born with this testosterone, we didnt get a choice.
Thats right, its Gods fault. Not ours.
How do you get over it? You talk to him about it. You let him reassure you that he finds you attractive. Keep in mind, that he is dating YOU, not Marlo. He even trusts you. Do you think that he'd let you read his texts whenever if he was worried youd find something harmful? No.
That means that in his mind, its completely harmless and innocent. You have nothing to worry about except dealing with your own feelings, and a little communication should help with that.
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OK. My mom recently told me that sometimes she see's spirits. She's highly Christian and so am I. She told me that she's never told anyone but me, and she told me that she hated her girft and asked God to take it away from her. Now, every scince I was like 11 i've been VERY interested in the like unknown. So naturally when she told me this I got kinda interested, and I started asking her questions, but she gets upset when I ask her question. My mom is straight up psychic and alot of things lead me to believe that, not only can she see spirits, but she can sense things. Like, she can touch u and know that you're sad or upset even if you don't show it. And like at Mac Donald's, this woman who you could tell had something wrong with her, was mumbling to herself, and started laughing this weird laugh. The woman suddenly stopped laughing and stared at me. My mom goes "Kiara she's possessed, don't look at her". And i'm like, How do u know? And she didn't reply. But anyways! I just wanted to know if i'm gunna get her gift? And no, she's not crazy, I would have never known. She said she didn't get her gift till she was about 16, and i'm only 13. (link)
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Statistically speaking, theres a better than 99 percent chance that your mother is mentally unbalanced (meaning crazy) and yes, it is possible that traits like this can be passed genetically.
Now, at 13 what I just said might seem a little insulting. It wasnt meant to be, I'm serious.
Throughout history, Christians have used their faith to describe anything that they do not understand. Often times, christians would apply God fearing beliefs to things that had nothing to do with God or faith.
Case in point, Christians have held for years that people would be "possessed" or some such. In actuality, the evidence of "possession" was usually the outward signs of some kind of mental defficiency. Autism, downs syndrome, alzheimers, etc. These are examples of medical conditions that the human race was never able to diagnose until the last 50 years.
So religion made up their own explantions. Thats what your mom did at McDonalds. She has no clue whats wrong with the woman you met. But at 13 you are too young to automatically question something like that. Take what your mother says with a grain of salt, shes not as right about everything as you think, and as you grow older you're going to start figuring that out more and more.
I'm not discounting the existence of the supernatural. There are things in this world that cannot be fully explained by human science today. But nothing that you've said has given me the slightest inkling that your mother has any kind of gift. Being able to tell if something is wrong when a 13 year old can't is just experience at reading people.
I can do that too. I look at someone's face and the subtle tension in jaw mucsles, the way their eyes move, the way their expression changes when they believe no one is looking at them, are all great clues to someones mental state. Its not supernatural, its psychology. And its no surprise that at 13 you can't read people that well. You're just hitting the age where you start realizing that theres more going on with someone than what they obviously tell and show.
Your mother isnt gifted. More likely, shes too into Christianity to seek answers outside of her religion and she is unwilling to give up the feeling of being "Special" that her belief in her own "gift" gives her.
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ok my bf suggested we try anal sex, because it can't get me pregnant and we don't really have a way of getting condoms. has anyone on here tried it before? how bad does it actually hurt? can i damage anything inside of me? (link)
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Anal sex is not a replacement for sex.
Its something a couple can explore in the course of a normal sex life. It won't be fufilling for you the way sex is, its basically just a way for him to get off.
If you are young enough that you "can't really get condoms" then you are far too young for sex. Part of being ready for sex is the age, willingness, etc to keep yourself safe.
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Why do people drink if it tastes so bad?
I personally think it tastes disgusting, like I'm drinking some sort of household cleaner. Do they just not care and suck it up I guess?
Or why do YOU drink? (if you do) (link)
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Everyone's pallete is different.
Example, I hate beer. It all tastes disgusting, even the really good micro brewed kinds.
But I love liquor. A good tequila, bourbon, or rum, on ice or with a good mixer, is always enjoyable.
I can tell you one thing, if you're on this site asking this I'm willing to bet you're under 21. In my experience, people under 21 buy really crappy liquor. Skol and everclear were pretty common as I remember, and yeah those both taste absolutely terrible.
Thats what happens when you're young and poor and underage. You get the tablescraps. Not that I'm encouraging you to drink them.
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so im taking sexy photos for my boyfriend (dont judge me!!!) :)
andddd im wondering
should i..you know...somehow remove my hair down there?
like whats more appealing to look at?
id ask him but that seems like such an unsexy thing to ask (link)
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1) Do not give naked pictures to ANY guy unless a) You're a pornstar b) He's 30 c) you've been dating for a year and he's 30.
2) If you are under 18 both you and he can be charged with production of child pornography, indecency with a child, corruption of a minor, possession of child pornography, and a host of other felonies that will basically ruin your and possibly your families lives.
3) Hmm. If you take them with film, you cant get them developed because you could either have them turned in or the developer will make himself some duplicates to make sticky later. If you take them with digital...
Well, lets just say that you should NOT commit nude pictures to files. The internet is a scary place. 5 minutes on kazaa and 30,000 old pedophiles will have your picture. And its so hard to make sure you deleted all the copies of anything. A disc, a CD, an e-mail, a hidden folder. And then after the break up, its all over myspace.
I read a news story the other day about some stupid 19 year old who posted his 15 year old girlfriends naked drunk pictures on his myspace. Yeah, hes facing felony charges, but her pictures are now all over the internet. Once its out there, you can't call it back.
4) Sending naked pictures via e-mail is just asking to have the FBI knock at your door saying "Did you send this? Ah! These handcuffs are for you!"
Basically, unless you're 25, and he's 30, and you've been dating long enough to know that hes not going to ever show them to anyone without your permission, its a terrible idea. Angry men become irrational and have great capacity for being assholes. Why do you think "Some girl gave her boyfriend pictures and now everyone's seen them" has actually become a cliche'?
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I'm 15/Freshman/Female, my really good friend is 17, and he's a senior and is graduatiing in about a month. We both know there is sexual tension between us, but I think we are both trying to ignore it beacuse he has to go away in the fall for school. He's actually only about an hour away but still he'll be in college and I'll be a softmore..
Have any of you been in this situation?
Is it better to just ignore it , and stay friends?
Should I even bother?
..Help. (link)
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Oi.
Stay friends.
Why?
1) He is constantly going to be around girls more mature than you are. I'm sorry, but its true, they've just got age on you.
2) You don't want to chain yourself to a guy whos in college, who isnt in your circles anymore, who has reason 1 on his plate.
3) If you like him, stay friends. If you stay friends for a while, maybe you'll go to college too, maybe near him. Maybe when you're a freshman in college have that "I'm not jailbait anymore (barely)" appeal sparks will fly again.
Basically, its not a good idea to latch yourself onto someone who will be gone in 4 months. Seeing him a few weekends a month, not reccomended.
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i am a 18 year old female and i have met these two people online. they are a couple and are interested in maybe getting together to hook up.. i have been feeling like i am maybe bisexual and maybe this could help me figure that out. the thing is i'm kinda scared to meet up with them just because they are strangers and all. but i have talked to them and they seem real and not creepy. i just need some advice on what to do because i really want to but something bad could happpen. please help. (link)
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You know, its an interesting thing, the answer below me. So much misdirected fear.
I love the "you might get raped while meeting this couple _for_a_threesome_" part, personally.
You're 18, I'm going to assume you aren't a complete retard. Approaching this from that perspective, I believe you've stumbled upon a slightly open couple who want to experiment.
Now, a quick lesson. Couples in their mid to late 20s and early 30s who like bringing someone into the bedroom usually like bringing someone younger. It gives both of them some feeling of control (being older and more experienced) and that makes them more comfy with the whole "sex with strangers" thing. Plus, the guys usually prefer younger girls for ... other... reasons.
Hence, you.
Now, the first thing I'll say, is if you choose to meet, make it somewhere public and bring a friend. Plan for that to just be a "hi, nice to meet you, lets talk a bit and plan another meeting" meeting. If that goes well... well whatever. Have fun.
On the other hand, a word of caution that has nothing to do with rapes and beatings and kidnappings.
You don't know these people. That means you don't know their _relationship_. You don't know what boundaries they have and its sure as hell going to be a while before you guys would be comfy around each other to talk about it. The fact that these arent friends who both want you, but a couple who wants "a girl" means that you are basically a sex toy for them. Whatever happens is going to be all about their fantasies, their desires.
Are you ok with that? And are you prepared for a potential shitstorm of drama if the relationship isnt sound?
Something to think about, in any case.
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I'm sorry this is so long.
When I was 12 or 13 this guy in my grade had a crush on me. I was not into it, and at at that age I wanted nothing to do with anyone like Billy. Billy was really sexually active, even at that age, and I wanted to distance myself from that. One day in school he came up to me and put his hand far up my thigh and I pushed him away and he replied with "What, are you a lesbian or something?" in a joking manner. I said "no" but as a way to get attention from me he started this joke that I was a lesbian. At first it was a joke and I really didn't know how to handle it as a 12 year old. I sort of laughed it off. Some guys caught on about the joke and four years later, they still call me a lesbian and dyke and joke around. I have explained CLEARLY that it upsets me and I asked them to stop it because it's tired, and old, and not funny. They still think it's hilarious. They'll say HEY LESBO, LESBIAN!
I have a lot of friends and am well liked, but it's really hurting my self esteem. In two of my classes, everyone has a picture on a computer database which we go on. One of my friends said they were flipping through the pictures on the disk of one computers and all over my picture someone wrote DYKE and drew horrible things on my face. I can't wrap my head around it! I've done nothing to these kids, and I'm sure it was one of them. I came home a bawled my eyes out. My feelings are really hurt, and it's harassment now. I cried one time last year because of it during school, but they still call me "lesbo, dyke, lesbian" and laugh as if it's the most clever thing in the world. Half the guys that say things to me now don't even know or care how this all got started in the first place. It's cruel. I don't want to go to the guidance counselor or anything. I've tried to ignore it lately, but things have gotten worse. Help (link)
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Two easy solutions.
1) Ignore them. Don't let it bother you. They'll do it less when you don't react at all, and pretend that they don't even exist. When I say this, picture them talking to you and you don't react at all. You look through them if theyre standing in front of you. It'll piss them off to no end to get no attention.
2) Agree with them. When they call you a lesbian, respond with something like "Yep, and I've got a sleepover with the girls tonight, so at least I know I'm getting some tonight" or something along those lines. Be creative, but it will ruin their fun if you have fun with it too, or again it won't bother you.
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second hand smoke worse then first hand smoke (link)
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No.
Second hand smoke is basically inhaling a much smaller concentration of smoke than the person actually smoking, plus the person smoking's lungs have already absorbed alot of the cancer causing materials and tar.
Second hand smoke is mostly harmless compared to a smoking habit. Lets say smoking half a pack a day would give you cancer by 75, lets say second hand smoke from half a pack smoked in your presence every day would give you cancer by 150-200 years old.
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well where do i begin, back in 1995 my wife thought that i was cheating on her because i would have cybersex when the internet first cranked up. so she got real close to a co-worker of mine and they started playing a game on me and after about 2 years i was watching my friend/co-worker literaly dating right in front of my eyes. i was the third wheel. ok he was married also, but i felt the tension so strong between them that one night we all got drunk and had a male,male,female threesome. But the deal was before we did this was that one day i get my turn back with a female,female, and me threesome. Ok i held up to my part of the bargin but she doesn't want to hold up to hers. i have suggested ideas and people to return the favor but she tells me that it's not going to happen she made a mistake. why is she doing this and why won't she let me do what she did? i don't want to be 90 when she dicides to let me have my turn at the fun i let her have. i don't think my relationship is fair at this point and she says, sorry life isn't fair. what can i do. (link)
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Wow.
Ok, first of all, you are both idiots.
Anyone who has ever had a decent open relationship would tell you that the WORST thing you can do is bring someone else into your sex life when your marriage isnt sound, and most especially on any kind of condition.
A threesome is something that should only ever be approached as a mutual desire, regardless of the makeup. Bringing in another guy because you want a shot at having another girl was stupid. And someone your age should have enough sense to realize that a woman's emotions are fickle and that you had an 85% chance of having this happen when she decided she wasnt into having another girl. Something like this only works when everyone in the situation wants everyone else.
You arent going to have a threesome with her and another girl. Shes not going to come around, and its not as if you can force this.
Basically, from an outside perspective, you're both a little screwed up. You're both willing to compromise the other person's mental well being to achieve your own sexual desires. A relationship with that as a basis...
Seek marriage counseling. As in, stop reading this now, and google for marriage counselors in your area.
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15/f
okay so you've probably heard this before but i need some advice. my boyfriend wants to "go further" as he put it. we've been dating 7 months and i'm open to that, but all i've ever done is makeout. like i have no idea what i'm doing and i don't really know how far he wants to go but i'm guessing like bj's and stuff. i don't really know what to do you know and i don't want to be like super nervous so ha is there any like websites that give advice on this? only reason i ask that is you're not allowed to get in detail about this stuff on here.
and please don't tell me i'm too young, i'm not not not goiing to have sex, i know i'm not ready for that. thanks in advance =] (link)
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What you need to do is talk to him about it. Ask him what he wants, tell him what you're comfy about. Couples who are sexual should first be secure enough with each other to talk about it openly.
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I'm not a tomboy or anything like that. I love clothes, shopping, and basically being a girl. But I won't deny that I like to get down and dirty and play football with the guys.
But I feel like guys don't want any girls like me. I feel like they only want girls who go around (this is just a stereotypical example, because I can't come up with anything else) going "Omg, I broke a nail!".
I'm not like that, and I don't try to be. But I feel like no guy will ever want me because of that. (link)
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Heh.
Alright. I want you to think about a few things.
Teenaged guys are STUPID. They don't know what they want in a girl because none of them have enough experience to know what is good and bad in a girl. All they know is what they've been taught by movies and peers.
Second, high school is not representative of real life. You are going to change alot in the next 10 years. You'll only remotely be the same person. In that time, you'll meet all kinds of new people. Also, in high school those "OMG I broke a nail!" girls are easy to impress. You just have to pretend to be a badass. Later in life, they turn into spoiled princess bitches who require lots of money and attention and then cheat on guys who treat them well.
You, on the other hand, will eventually be found to be a catch because you aren't a pain in the ass .
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alright, i really dont want any rude comments or anything like 'thats bad.' or 'thats unsafe' or something along those lines, please?
so, i met this guy in jan. ive never met him and he lives way up north while i live in the south. we've never met. we met on this website. its like myspace, and its not a dating site. so yeah, he's all over coming down here to meet me and finally be with me and i was all over it too. we've been going out by the way. and uh yeah. he's going to work the whole summer just so he can get enough money to come down here and stay for 2 weeks for my birthday (which is in september) and so yeah, i was total stocked about it, but now that ive actually thought about it, im not so sure i want him to come down here. i still love him and all ( yes, i love him. even though i've never met him, i knowwww, going out with someone off the internet is unsafe and theres a lot of creeps out there, but im positive hes not one of them and im also positive that i actually love him) soo uh yeah, i dont want him to waste his summer away and come down here and meet me and find out ima be the biggest dissapointment in his entire life and realize i wasnt the great person he thought i was and he'll probably never want anything to do with me ever again after he leave, or once he meets me. so, basically, i sorta kinda want to break up it him, cause i never thought it would get so serious, but i dont. cause im afraid that once i do, ill realize i made the biggest mistake ever and want him back and he wont be there this time. and im getting 2nd thoughts about him coming down here. ughh. i dont know. what should i doooo? :/ (link)
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Ok.
Repeat after me.
It is impossible to love someone until after you've met them in person.
Online, you see only what someone wants you to see. You only know about him whatever you've been told by him. You cant see his flaws, his mannerisms, what he's really like on a daily basis.
You love the idea of him, but you dont actually know him for anything. Once you've had a relationship that lasted a few years, and you know them so well you can finish their sentances, you'll understand what I mean by this.
Now that that's covered, a second lesson.
You won't ever enjoy your life if you sit there not doing things because you're afraid something bad will happen. You need to learn that its not the end of the world.
If this guy comes and you two don't hit it off, it doesnt even have to be your fault. Ive had plenty of first dates that didn't go any further based on mutual disinterest. In a year, if you two meet and never talk again after, you won't really care. You'll have found a new guy to crush on by then.
To finish, a wise quote from, ironically enough, an unwise movie.
Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive.
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Why do people believe that 9/11 was a conspiracy and was pulled off by the government just because they watched well edited movies like Loose Change and Zeitgeist? Doesn't anyone realize the lies and half truths they are being fed? Why doesn't anyone do any of their own research?
Thanks, I just want some reasoning to this disturbing trend in America's youth. (link)
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RE:Re:Re:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Y_85EiSeXg
Theres one. You can clearly see flashes that are consistent with the pattern of base charges on a controlled demolition. I can't seem to find the one where it looks like a primary charge blows out a series of windows early before the collapsing portion went as low as it was supposed to for the charge to go.
Re: I don't have the documentary anymore (it belonged to a friend) and I can't find anything on youtube, but I'll see if I can dig it up somewhere.
Why do people believe it was a conspiracy? Because we have been very obviously lied to.
Video footage of something the size of a missle hitting the pentagon exists. The government claims it was a plane.
Statements from Airmen who were piloting fighters meant specifically to deter arial threats exist saying that they were ordered away from their usual routes which would have put them in a position to prevent 9/11.
Video footage of a base charge blowing out the side of the building exists. In watching the floors collapse, you see windows blown out several stories below the collapsing rubble in exactly the manner usually associated with a controlled demolition.
When the pentagon was hit, nearly all the staff just happened to be on the opposite side of the building.
The list goes on, and while a conspiracy theory simply springs from the fact that the US government definitely knows more than its letting on about 9/11, we have as yet no definitive proof of who knew what and what was involved.
These are not lies or half truths. The story the press and the government fed us, these are the lies and half truths. And no, I'm not a conspiracy theorist. I'm a normal person whos seen enough seriously worrisome evidence to finally come around.
The disturbing trend is the people who staunchly refuse to contemplate that our government could or would do something like this.
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I am a man in my 20s. I've had this female friend since I started college, and she's one of the best friends I could ever ask for.
Thing is, I have had a crush on her since she and I met. Now, the attraction never changed, but I know that she will not see me as anything more than a friend. In fact, she's maintained friendships with people who were attracted to her, because as she says, "Why should she let that change the friendship?"
The thing is, I don't know how to tell her. I'm afraid that I'll be the exception to her rule. And I know she and I will not be together like that, but I want to be honest with my friend.
Help me be honest without losing my friend. I know it already seems like she would accept me anyway, but still, I'm afraid. (link)
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You are being used. Yeah, she likes you as a friend and doesnt want to change that. Why? Because the constant hope that she might change her mind makes you malleable, agreeable, and eager to please.
She is using you, wheather either of you realizes it or not. But its not entirely your fault. You enable this.
Guy to guy, stop being such a pussy. I really can't put it any other way. Every guy deals with attraction. Hell, I want to sleep with virtually every girl I'm friends with. Animal attraction and a high sex drive make that slightly inconvenient. But unless its a two way street do not let it evolve past attraction. Falling in love with friends who don't love you back is stupid and unnecessary, and evidence of a severe lack of self control.
I say this because it WILL eventually destroy the relationship. You can't want a friend, not get her, and be OK with that.
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Exactly how does one know they are polyamorous? Is it just a cop-out term to justify cheating, or is it a real condition? (link)
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Cheating is defined as going outside the sexual or intimacy boundaries set down in the relationship. If kissing someone else isn't ok, then doing that is cheating.
Polyamory is when you have few or no boundaries there, and so its not cheating at all. The trick to it, is that polyamorous people in those kinds of relationships, it has to be co-operation. Both people have to want that.
But yes, it is real.
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This might be a silly question, but I just want your opinions.
When is the age that you should (well, not 'should'... you know what I mean) start dating. Like really be looking for a long-term relationships and even potentially a future husband? I've never really dated seriously before, and I would just like to know what a good age/stage in life would be to start looking for a potential husband.
I'm 17 and a half, and I would to get married at 21-22. (I'll be done with college when I'm 21, and I want to have a kid before 24... LOL I know I'm weird).
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Ugh.
Don't plan it like that. Simply put, if you plan out the ages you want to do something, you are far more likely to just marry the guy who fits in the schedule. And if you get "behind" then you put yourself in a bad situation because you can put unneccesary pressure on a relationship because you feel like you should have been married already.
I would say, don't get married before 25 unless you find yourself in a relationship of more than 2 years and you both decide that you want it. And don't marry the first guy you date unless you fall in love with unless you date a few more before the marriage.
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me and my bf have been going out for 7 months and we are in love. for some reason i cannot get over the fact that he has gotten a bj before, one time [i think] from one girl. by the way i have never given a bj or aything before. idk what my problem is. we haven't done much sexually (were taking it slow pretty slow :] ) but i don't think i would be able to progress sexually with him until i am over this stupid issue. but like the whole thing kills me inside. he says he kinda feels the same way that ive gotten fingered before but besides him i've only gotten fingered once or twice by one other guy, and my bf has fingered numerous other girls before so its definetly not the same. idk does anyone understand how i feel or any advice of what i can do to get over this? by the way saying something like oh its in the past now and theres nothing you can do about it does not help :/ (link)
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First, you need to recognize that jealousy is not cause or justification to treat him any differently. Your jealousy is your problem.
Second, you need to recognize that you don't own him. You are dating him. Its different.
Third, you need to sit down and figure out why it bothers you. You need to talk to him about it once you figure it out. When I say why, I mean specifics. Does it bother you because you are afraid he will be more experienced or will judge you as not being as good as her? Does it bother you because you think he shouldnt have? Does it bother you because you are possessive and want him to be only yours? Etc etc.
Communication is required. So think first, then go talk to him.
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