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going further...
15/f
okay so you've probably heard this before but i need some advice. my boyfriend wants to "go further" as he put it. we've been dating 7 months and i'm open to that, but all i've ever done is makeout. like i have no idea what i'm doing and i don't really know how far he wants to go but i'm guessing like bj's and stuff. i don't really know what to do you know and i don't want to be like super nervous so ha is there any like websites that give advice on this? only reason i ask that is you're not allowed to get in detail about this stuff on here.
and please don't tell me i'm too young, i'm not not not goiing to have sex, i know i'm not ready for that. thanks in advance =]
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Well first off, it's good that you made the decision that your weren't going to have sex and that your not ready. Most kids your age now days make the mistake of having sex knowing they're not ready, and just jumping into things when they could wait. But, if you think your ready for smaller things than sex, but more than making out, then when you and him get to that stage, you'll know what to do. It'll probably just come kinda natural for you and things will fall into place. Of course at first it's going to be kinda weird probably because you haven't done anything like that before. But, just make sure that you and your boyfriend talk it out before anything happens and make sure that he isn't going to want to go all the way because your not ready for that. The best thing in that department is to wait. But, if you think your ready for the other, then go ahead. It'd be better for you to do something like that than go all the way at the age of 15, especially knowing that your not ready for it. Hope everything works out for you!! Good luck...
~ Skyla ~
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first thing first, stop worrying girl. you may only be young but you seem to be mature as your in a long term relationship..
if you feel ready, and so does you boyfriend.. then let it happen...
dont be pushed into it, and dont think your doing it "wrong". you cant do it wrong, you can just get better the more you do it. he wil tell you whats nice and whats not..
& you will do the same..
if you feel your in love. then it wil be even better
relax & just enjoy sweetie :)
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What you need to do is talk to him about it. Ask him what he wants, tell him what you're comfy about. Couples who are sexual should first be secure enough with each other to talk about it openly.
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Communication is key in any and every relationship. Your boyfriend should know every thought that runs through your head, if it concerns you and him. If you'd like further advice, I'm sure any user on this site wouldn't mind helping further [some of us have our screennames posted on our column] seeing as you can't go into detail and such. Don't do anything you don't want to, you wouldn't want to regret it later. [:
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The most important thing before going further in any relationship is talking about it. It's crucial for many things: safety, happiness, and being comfortable. If you cannot talk openly and comfortably about these things with your boyfriend, it's definitely not a good idea to take anything to the next level. You need that communication to establish boundaries and get a feel with what your partner actually wants. That takes care of the guesswork.
Sit your boyfriend down and ask questions. Allow him to do the same. Ask what he expects from you, ask what he is comfortable with at this point in the relationship, etc. If he acts shy or nervous about the conversation, he's not mature enough for this stage of your relationship yet. If he does talk with you comfortably about it, you'll know what he wants, he'll know what you want, and there won't be any "accidents."
So anyway, way it comes to actually doing the stuff, I thought this web site had some good tips for blow jobs.
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Basically, it's all about the attitude when you do get a little more physical with your boyfriend. Experiment with it and I'm sure you'll understand what I mean.
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ask him exactly how far he wants to go. or... find out what he wants to do exactlly.try going to
www.ehow.com .just type in what you wanna know how to do.like oral sex,phone sex.etc...
hope i helped.
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