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what seems to turn on your man ladies?
well...when me and my bf are fooling around he doesnt seem aroused.most of my friends has bfs that are aroused when they fool around.i was just wondering what could turn him on from our perspective.i am willing to try new things.
fyi-yes we have done it & yes we used protection
15/f
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To the person who suggested viagra: that is absurd. She's fifteen years old, and I would assume her boyfriend is young as well. He would not legally be able to obtain viagra and even if he is of age to do so, that is a simplistic solution to what may be a complicated situation. I suggest you put far more thought into your answers in the future.
But anyhow, the best advice I can give is to talk to your partner. Sitting down and discussing it rationally always has it's virtues, but if you're a little embarassed, try asking during foreplay. It can be very seductive to simply ask what he wants done to him, maintaining eye contact and pressing yourself against him all the while. :P
The other thing is, some men take longer to become aroused than others do. This can be due to nervousness, stress, physical factors, or simply a difference in the way they operate. Don't expect there to be any 'normal' way for a man to preform sexually, and just enjoy and accept the way he does. The more loving and understanding you are, the more comfortable he will be around you. And being comfortable may in and of itself improve the issue. :) Always praise and compliment him on what he does well, and make sure to convey that you are genuinely enjoying yourself. The better he feels about himself, the more into it he will be.
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You know what, when I was younger, I thought I would go out deer hunting. So, I got myself a deer hunting license and a rifle and I jumped in my truck. I drove around looking for a deer to shoot all day and just as the sun was going down I saw him. I jumped from my truck and though he was looking right at me, he did not move. As I trained my new rifle on him, I suddenly heard him speak to me, he said, "Please don't shoot". I asked him why, the reply came back, "because I will get mad at you". I said, "So, why should that bother me?" "Because, I paid a lot of money for that lawn ornament, so get off my property", came the farmers reply from his front door.
So what is the moral of this story? Is it that I'm crazy? Though that may be true, it is not the moral. The moral is that you should not think that you can just go out on your own and do something you know nothing about.
Sex is often that way, you go into it expecting it to be this great and wondrous thing and when it's done, you realize the hype was better then the deed.
What is great in life is not sex, it is walking and talking, learning and growing. Sex will not bring you happiness, only babies. It is fun, it is engaging, but because he has more then likely realized that it is not the end all and be all he expected it to be, does not make it your problem to solve.
Stop thinking of sex as being all there is, engage him in other things until he trust you enough to tell you how he feels and what he likes. It can take years and there is nothing that can speed it up. Stop looking for instant gratification and realize life is work and then go work at it.
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kisssss himmm everywhereee. tease him a bitt ! makee him want more, dont just the more out there, usually around the ear kissing or chin and upp then eventually slowly kiss down his chest, believe me theres plenty of ways . just be a lil bit more teaseable =P makes it more fun
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have you tried viagra?
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