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alright, i really dont want any rude comments or anything like 'thats bad.' or 'thats unsafe' or something along those lines, please?
so, i met this guy in jan. ive never met him and he lives way up north while i live in the south. we've never met. we met on this website. its like myspace, and its not a dating site. so yeah, he's all over coming down here to meet me and finally be with me and i was all over it too. we've been going out by the way. and uh yeah. he's going to work the whole summer just so he can get enough money to come down here and stay for 2 weeks for my birthday (which is in september) and so yeah, i was total stocked about it, but now that ive actually thought about it, im not so sure i want him to come down here. i still love him and all ( yes, i love him. even though i've never met him, i knowwww, going out with someone off the internet is unsafe and theres a lot of creeps out there, but im positive hes not one of them and im also positive that i actually love him) soo uh yeah, i dont want him to waste his summer away and come down here and meet me and find out ima be the biggest dissapointment in his entire life and realize i wasnt the great person he thought i was and he'll probably never want anything to do with me ever again after he leave, or once he meets me. so, basically, i sorta kinda want to break up it him, cause i never thought it would get so serious, but i dont. cause im afraid that once i do, ill realize i made the biggest mistake ever and want him back and he wont be there this time. and im getting 2nd thoughts about him coming down here. ughh. i dont know. what should i doooo? :/
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Ok.
Repeat after me.
It is impossible to love someone until after you've met them in person.
Online, you see only what someone wants you to see. You only know about him whatever you've been told by him. You cant see his flaws, his mannerisms, what he's really like on a daily basis.
You love the idea of him, but you dont actually know him for anything. Once you've had a relationship that lasted a few years, and you know them so well you can finish their sentances, you'll understand what I mean by this.
Now that that's covered, a second lesson.
You won't ever enjoy your life if you sit there not doing things because you're afraid something bad will happen. You need to learn that its not the end of the world.
If this guy comes and you two don't hit it off, it doesnt even have to be your fault. Ive had plenty of first dates that didn't go any further based on mutual disinterest. In a year, if you two meet and never talk again after, you won't really care. You'll have found a new guy to crush on by then.
To finish, a wise quote from, ironically enough, an unwise movie.
Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive.
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Well, I wudnt be the one to talk about dating someone off of myspace since i myself used to date a person off myspace so we all good. but wat i can say is think about how wud ur life be witout him...obviously he cares very deeply about seeing as he is using HIS summer to come spend a special event with you i say give him a chance he might turn out to be a great person and as for you dont bring yourself down. if he likes you the way you guys have been communicating he'll like you when you actually meet. dont worry things work out the way there suppose to. relax. stress doesnt make it any better for you. im sure if you be yourself he like you. he liked you before why should it suddenly change. well hope i helped.
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First off, you really shouldn't have these negative thoughts about yourself! If you've been honest and yourself with him when you're chatting with him online he should know the real you and if he didn't like it he wouldn't be with you now most likely. If you two get along well you should be fine when he comes to visit.
If you're still a bit anxious about seeing him, why not talk to him about it? Knowing his thoughts on this may reassure you and help you make a decision.
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well if he knows you so well, he probably knows your not gonna be disapointment, and i doubt you will either. if ya'll are right for each other yall can have a good time with just each others company. theres no way you can be a disapointment. and he isn't going to waste his summer away if he really truly likes you! he most likely does or else im pretty darn sure he isn't willing to work ALL summer just to come see you! if someone did that for me, i would find it very sweet and flattering. don't worry about it. you'll most likely have a good time with him. especially if you think you are in love with him.
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