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Ok guys here's my problem. I'm 16 years old and a sophomore at my local high school. I have been dating my boyfriend (almost 18) for 9 months now. We've had our ups and downs but I've been usually the one causing the downs. I am a big flirt and guys intrest me. I love goofing around and being myself, but my personality is outrageos and flirty. This has landed me awkward positions and back in mine today.
It's not that I like them, but sometimes it leads to me getting a crush. It has happened before. Once was just a simple "Out of state visit" crush and didn't last long. Once to the point where I broke up with my boyfriend to be with someone else. When that wasn't what I wanted I realized how much I really needed my guy.
We had things to sort out but we eventually were back to being us. We were better then ever, and happy to be together.
So things were back to normal. But then, there was another guy that liked me. He's really gorgous and I flirt with him alot. We were at a baseball tourny in NY and I really wanted to flirt. We did. Alot. But I told him to promise me that he wouldn't let me cheat. He agreed. I told my boyfriend about all of this. This guy still erks him and he's still worried when I'm around him. He's just so cute. I can't help myself.
Then something else happened. One of my guy friends got the wrong idea and tried to kiss me! It's not just that he's my friend that makes it wrong, it's the situation behind that. It's who he is. (But I can't get into that) It came as a shock. I didn't kiss him but I kept this from my boyfriend because I didn't want to ruin what we had.
Eventually, we took that next step and I felt that I had to tell him. He wasn't too upset, but he wished that I had told him. I did too.
So things were back to normal. We would fight, be fine and fight again. Usually ended in apoligies and kisses. So here's my current problem.
A friend of the guy that tried to kiss me began talking to me to set straight what had happened. Keep in mind I do know him and he's totally gorgous. (Used to work at Hollister. 18 year old Brazillion...yeah. I know. Hott) Now he's flirting with me and telling me that he thinks I'm beautiful and we talk all the time. He's such a nice friend but sometimes I see myself...actually being with him. It's weird. But we do flirt alot, but I have done nothing wrong. I have never cheated on my boyfriend and I never will.
I have not told my boyfriend about this guy but I don't think I want to. He doesn't have to know about every guy I talk to and I don't want to ruin what we have. I know I'm young and that's why I don't feel so concerned about this.
Please help me. I really don't know what to do. I really do feel like I AM A WHORE and I don't want to feel like that anymore. I can't help the flirting but I do love my boyfriend. It's just...idk.
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you have to learn to control your hormones on the flirting thing it seems as if your boyfriend really loves you and is really tryin to make things work with the way you are you need to learn to control your flirting because your boyfrined is waitin for you to stop and soon hes not gonna be able to take it any longer everything dats happened between you and other guys has to be hurting little by little everytime he finds out you are talkin to other guys. I dont think you're a whore because you talk to lots of guys and have been put in typical situations where you feel as if you did somethin wrong by even being there it happens get over it just tell your man the guys is only your friend and you have no intentions in getting with him the feeling you get when you imagine you and him actually being together is only because you feel he understands some of the things other people dont get about you theres no attachment if you love your boyfriend make sure your friend knows that you guys cant work out and one more thing whore is a sex thing if you sleep wit every guy you ever meet yea ur a whore but if you just flirt you're innocent dont worry bout it
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what are some moves i can make to get my bf to kiss me? (link)
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I love theone's advice its totally true but another thing you can do is ask if you can kiss him unless you're too shy i mean there's nothin wrong with wanting to kiss but how bout you put your hands around his neck when you're huggin and whatsoever... and while you're huggin lean in for da kiss trust me im a girl i've done it before lean in for the kiss it'll work. im guessing he's shy too so maybe he needs some assertiveness to wake him up.
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So I had a boyfriend, that i was extremely good friends wtih when i met him last august, well we talked alot and i always went to bed with a smile on my face after our conversations. He asked me out in the beggining of november and i couldnt have been more happier, it was the time i was happiest. he dumped me mid march because hes moving soon and didnt know if he wanted a girlfriend still. so he was known as the goofy player type. and i thought i had changed him from that, but the day after he broke up with me, he went back to his playerish self and was all over girls. now when he broke up wtih me over the phone, he told me he still wanted to be friends. now i see him at dances and gatherings like that, and its so awkward because he is all over everyone, and it hurts. the day after he broke up with me when i saw him, it was an awkward hi and hug, and my friends werent being that nice to him so i felt really bad. but i talked to him at it and he even got a bit teary eyed, but i didnt know if he actually cared or not. parts of me think he did and parts of me think he just wanted to make me feel better. well the day after that, i called him to make sure he was okay and he said yeah and that the question was if i was okay, and i said im alright, and im like i guess, i just felt really bad about how people were acting. well now its a month later, we had a dance, he was with this one girl and his one guy friend knew how i was feeling and told him later that night, so then my ex apologized and said he heard i had looked dissappointed and said he shouldn't have done that and asked if i was okay, and i told him he can do what he wants because i have no control over that, and i just dont move on as fast as others, especially because this is my first relationship. i saw him saturday, we hugged and said hi then when we were leaving he said bye and lifted me up, but i dont know. he was even trying to flirt, dance, and kiss my friends? im like oh thanks. i miss the friendship we had, and i feel like whenever we talk its awkward, or i have NO CLUE what to say. and i just want the friendship to be how it used to be more than ever. I feel like i have no time because hes moving in june or july. i feel like the more i cared the more i made it worse and the more pain i caused myeslf. people tell me i deserve better, but they don't know what i saw in him when i went out with him, it was when i was the happiest, if anyone could tell me what i should do, or how i should feel, it'd be really apreciated, i apologize for the length of this! lol
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i disagree wit dat answer i understand how u feel because i'v felt that way before everyone was tellin me move on forget about him but how since we used to be close well talk to him tell him you just things to go baq to the way they were before you guys commenced into the relationship. That way he'll know you want to stay friends with him, sounds to me like he kinda still cares how you feel about things apologizing and what not about the way he acts. Go on, give it a try you'll never know how he really feels if you dont get it out of your mind. Who knows? maybe he's hiding behind his player games because he doesnt admit he lost somthing really good for him and so he wants to get it with alot of other girls. It is true you are the only one who can decide what makes you happy. Yes you were the happiest you've ever been with him but you should feel like he lost somrthing good for him and he knows it.
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ok welll heres the thing i use to like this kid named anthony untill he started going out with my friend alex... then i had to get over him, and i did. buttttttt anthony nd i are really close like we can talk bout anythin and everythin w/o judgement. now i've been having family problems and i go to him for advice and he consoles he n shi#. so when i'm talkin to him but it n shes comes around i jus stop. she thinks i'm tryin to get wit him, but i like another guy and girl.(im bisexual)so should i save my relationship wit the girl who i'm friends wit but wouldn't normally talk to nd stop talking to the guy whos like my older brother or keep talkin 2 the guy nd tell her to go fuc herself?
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please help my head hurts
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oh dear....jeje
uh well i think you shudnt throw any of them anywhere how bout you try to talk to them about the situation nd if she dont like wat you got to say then you shud tell her to fuq herself nd talk to him im sure they'll understand where you're comin from....
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what's the best way to meet new guys.
i'm 17 and i'd like some more guy friends to maybe start dating. (link)
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well i think it would be best for you to go to the mall and put yourself out there be loud have fun im sure when someone sees how much fun you really are they'll come to you just dont go looking for someone to be wit cuz you'll never find what you're looking for let them come to you and while they do live life freely and happily.
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hi my name is chelsea. the other day when my boyfriend and i were having sex, he came and his come was green. help!! (link)
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girl you needs to get your man checked professionally before you go and have
sex with him again please hope it helps
at least a little bit.
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17 F
My boyfriend and I are two years apart and we're perfect for each other and age isn't a factor.
I'm African American and he's white and Mexican. He's a dancer and isn't into all the "gangster" stuff (thank God).
I've always dated or been associated with older guys who are black.
So my problem is a lot of guys are still trying to get with me and of course I tell them I have a boyfriend, but they always have something to say. I'm SICK of them talking about my boyfriend and us. Yes, I know they're jealous, but gosh SHUT UP. Whats the best thing to tell them? (link)
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the best thing to do is just when they holler at you ignore them completely or tell them off you dont have to curse just tell them leave me alone wat the hell i dont got time for your lil games i got a man now back off cuz lookin type desperate and it aint cute in your own words if you prefer thats just how i speak jeje hope it helps
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alright, i really dont want any rude comments or anything like 'thats bad.' or 'thats unsafe' or something along those lines, please?
so, i met this guy in jan. ive never met him and he lives way up north while i live in the south. we've never met. we met on this website. its like myspace, and its not a dating site. so yeah, he's all over coming down here to meet me and finally be with me and i was all over it too. we've been going out by the way. and uh yeah. he's going to work the whole summer just so he can get enough money to come down here and stay for 2 weeks for my birthday (which is in september) and so yeah, i was total stocked about it, but now that ive actually thought about it, im not so sure i want him to come down here. i still love him and all ( yes, i love him. even though i've never met him, i knowwww, going out with someone off the internet is unsafe and theres a lot of creeps out there, but im positive hes not one of them and im also positive that i actually love him) soo uh yeah, i dont want him to waste his summer away and come down here and meet me and find out ima be the biggest dissapointment in his entire life and realize i wasnt the great person he thought i was and he'll probably never want anything to do with me ever again after he leave, or once he meets me. so, basically, i sorta kinda want to break up it him, cause i never thought it would get so serious, but i dont. cause im afraid that once i do, ill realize i made the biggest mistake ever and want him back and he wont be there this time. and im getting 2nd thoughts about him coming down here. ughh. i dont know. what should i doooo? :/ (link)
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Well, I wudnt be the one to talk about dating someone off of myspace since i myself used to date a person off myspace so we all good. but wat i can say is think about how wud ur life be witout him...obviously he cares very deeply about seeing as he is using HIS summer to come spend a special event with you i say give him a chance he might turn out to be a great person and as for you dont bring yourself down. if he likes you the way you guys have been communicating he'll like you when you actually meet. dont worry things work out the way there suppose to. relax. stress doesnt make it any better for you. im sure if you be yourself he like you. he liked you before why should it suddenly change. well hope i helped.
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