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my boyfriend
my boyfriend is perfect
he knows im not into a lot of things
im really christian
but he understands that and doesnt ask me to do anything ever
but now i want to
because hes so amazing
and i dont know what to do for him that would make him happy
without going against my beliefs too much
help??
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Hmm.
First, a tip.
Obviously, sex isnt on the menu, nor are most things that would sexually gratify him. (Example, oral sex)
So without being able to give him an orgasm, be careful. You don't want to do a ton of foreplay or even just making out thats going to get him incredibly horny, and then not be able to finish it. The reason is simply because it won't be much fun for him.
Best suggestion is massage. Perfectly innocent and you can make him melt into a pillow, couch, bed, whatever like he was jello.
When I say massage, I'm not talking about a hard deep tissue massage, I'm talking about light rubbing and such.
Types of touch:
1) Finger tips. Finger tips are a light touch that feels very good. You can run your fingers up and down parts of him.
2) Light palm. One hand flat on him you can rub and cover a larger area. Basically just lay your hand on him and move it around.
3) Heavy palm. I'll talk about the spine in a second, heavy palm you need to be kneeling next to him or straddling him for this so you can put a bit of downward pressure. Sometimes two hands one on top the other for extra pressure can help. If you're smaller (like 5'3" or under) you can sit on his butt while hes laying on his stomach and use two hands and pretty much put your weight on him through your hands and it will feel good.
4) Nails. Nails are wonderful. You dont scratch, but very lightly rub with just your nails down. It feels absolutely wonderful and pretty much is guaranteed to raise goosebumps inside 2 minutes. Some kinds of rubbing are appropriate for only some places, but nails works everywhere.
Places to touch.
Ok, imagine your boyfriend in a pair of shorts and no shirt. Everywhere from the waistband up feels good when rubbed. Sometimes different stimulation different areas feels great for different people. So try the types of touch I just described everywhere.
A few places to start.
1) Neck and head. The back of the neck up into the hair and on the scalp is a sweet spot of every guy I've ever heard of. Want a guy to say yes to anything you want? Rub his head. No, seriously, its that effective. It makes us tingle from head to toe in that "I want to melt into and become one with whatever I'm laying on" kinda way. Nails and fingertips are your best bet here. Sides of the neck are also good spots. Soft palm can be good too but don't press down unless he asks you too (it can hurt)
2) Shoulders. These differ from person to person. Some people like their shoulderes rubbed really hard, others like it really soft. Usually reccomend a soft or hard palm touch, nails are fine too, fingertips usually doesnt provide enough feeling on shoulders.
3) Spine & Back. Soft or hard palm or nails. The above mentioned sitting on his butt is a great way to put pressure on his spine from the top of his butt to the base of his neck. Usually you want to use a little more pressure here, and on the back to the sides of the spine. Or nails. Because nails are wonderful.
4) Sides. Nails, figertips, maybe soft palm. His sides you don't want to put too much pressure on because it can be uncomfy with the ribs. But nails or fingertips usually feel great because sides are usually a bit more sensitive than the back is.
5) Arms. Rubbing up his back while sitting on him and out to the sides up his arms can feel great as well. Usually you want nails or hard palm for arms, because they aren't usually that sensitive between the shoulder and the elbow.
6) Front side. Generally, soft palm, fingertips, or nails. Anything from his stomach to his chest you want to use softer pressure on, its never comfy to have someone press down hard.
So, you've got some basics. What you need to do is just have him lay with his shirt off sometime, and start rubbing him. Every guy has different areas that are more sensitive, every body is different. Just rub him and use different types and ask him what feels best.
A good recommendation, you want to relax him at the beginning so that his sensitivity level rises. So start out with soft palm touches and maybe even a little hard palm back massage, and then move out to the sides and his neck and shoulders with softer touches, finish him with nails everywhere.
Do that, and he might just pass out asleep when you stop rubbing him, he'll be so relaxed and happy.
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You could take him out on a really nice date or do something special for him. Like surprise him, do something unexpected. Take him to his favorite restaurant or cook him his favorite meal! I'm sure he'd appreciate it!
good luck
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If your boyfriend accepts your beliefs as a Christian, and dosent want to do anything agaisnt them, there is a 100% chance you already make him happy.
But, writing him a love letter saying how much you respect/love him for respecting you should make him feel great, without going against your beliefs.
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