Hey i'm Mallory,
I've been through a lot and i dont judge because of it.
Yeah i like to give advice, but isnt that why we're on this site?
I am myself, and i get looked down because of it, but so what? I'm not going to hide who i am.
I am not dating until college.
I dont respect cheaters.
i dont take life so seriously. Come on. We only live like this once. enjoy it =]
And toilet paper is better than sliced bread :D
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Well, I'm a 17/f, I'll be 18 in a month. My exboyfriend just turned 18.
Well here's the thing.. We were together since 2006.. and just like any other couple, we broke up a few times. A couple times my emotions got the best of me that it caused my family to build a great hate for this guy. A lot of drama has gone on with us and our families. Our families don't like the thought of us being together at all. Some of my friends don't either. They tell me that i'm better than him and i deserve better.. but it's just so hard. i've taken him back everytime, he never cheated on me, jus broke my heart a few times. he has left me for a girl before. just once.. and we didnt talk for a solid 3 months. then we came back to eachother because i believe it was meant to be.. i told myself the last time we broke up, which was in february, that i would never look back, and never take him back, but the thought runs through my mind daily. i've never loved someone as much as him. ever. he's my everything. i just don't know what to do.. because i know our families don't want us to be together.. so how would it ever work??? my family doesn't like him, his family doesn't like me.. (keep in mind that at one point my family absolutely loveeeddddd him and his family lloved me) a lot of shit has just happened between us for it to get so bad.. and we have gotten over it.. our families just won't! i'm stuck!!!! i'm scared that if i be with him again, that the same thing is just gonna happen ovr and overr again.. last time we were together.. i basically lost my family cuz of him.. thinking he would stick by me. and he left me and said he wasnt in love with me anymore.. but recently comes back to me and tells me he just cant help himself and he gets so wrapped up in me..and always asks whats up with us.. i'm his first love.. so i know hes notfaking his feelings... we're both the most comfortable when we're together... hes the one guy i can just do whatever and be myselfff and not everrr be embarrasseddd..
we're just good together..
someone give me your thoughts on this..cuz i'm absolutelyt stuck :[
its driving me crazyyy
thanks so much (link)
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You have to realize, youre only 18. He seems to be your first love, which is hard to let go.
You probably thought the first time you guys broke up and got back together, you thought that would never happen again.
But it did.
He left you for another girl!? What makes you think he wont do that again?
You DO deserve better. Dont let any guy treat you like that.
I encourage you to let him go and start moving on.
i'll be praying for you, with whatever decision you make =]
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My ex and I have been broken up for several months. We don't talk at all and go to the same college. I don't see him daily, but we'll cross paths ocassionally and I do know his schedule. Some days I will change my route or come early/late just so he will see me and possibly say something. It's ridiculous that I still do this when the relationship has been over for awhile. I even ask myself "what are you doing?" while I'm waiting for him, but he still gives me those butterflies. How do I get over this? Time has not helped and my friends and family are way beyond tired of hearing about it. (link)
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How long were you dating him? It usaully takes that much time to get over someone, and its not easy.
Hopefully you have supportive friends who can walk you to class.
It's really really hard. He probably is still getting over you as well. Hang out and concentrate on things-always be busy. Either on projects or even exercising.
Ill be praying for ya =]
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OMG so my curler broke, and i really need my hair curled, but i want to do it myself, so how do you curl your hair with a flat iron? i youtubed it and wikihow.com but it just didnt work out as well as id hoped...actually it sucked. and it was terrible, like i had to shower to actually make my hair presentable. I need a step by step explanation and really detailed. thanks! (link)
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Make sure you have a pure ceramic flat iron when doing this, and make sure the plates are small-other wise it may not work to well. Also make sure your flat iron is very very hot. If its not hot enough, it will not curl. Here are some good ones. http://www.folica.com/appliances/straightener.htm?s_cid=gg_kwd5457&s_kwcid=flat%20irons|2897064381&gclid=CIjo5tjFiZoCFcxL5QodPXMDEg
You will be able to tell when you start. First grab small pieces of hair. Clamp the plates at the top of the pieces, hold the iron straight up, and turn the iron half way around the hair and go down on the hair. This should curl. Make sure you have a good flat iron though.
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Hey, I've never had a boyfriend before (just to get that out there), but I HAVE been asked out by a lot of boys.
Here's the thing though--I have this really weird issue with getting mad at the boys who ask me out! It's usually if I'm talking to them, like, alone (usually over the internet) and they ask me out, I begin nicely and say "I'm sorry, that's really sweet, but I just don't really like you like that." and then it allll goes downhill from there. I usually start accusing them of playing ZAP (a game that forces people to ask certain people out) or I get creeped out and I refuse to speak to them, or I just plain get mad if they say one little thing wrong (ie. "I can't believe I was scared to do that", I would say "what, am I not good enough for you to ask out?").
It always makes me feel really really bad because I know boys are scared out of their minds to ask girls out, but I just can't help it! Please, can someone tell me how to NOT get mad? Or how to react at least? THANKS!! (link)
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They're asking you over the internet. Maybe thats the problem. Because they could be playing ZAP.
Next time someone asks you out over the internet, tell them to ask you to your face. I think that might be it.
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OK SO HERE I GO I WAS DATING THIS GUY FOR ABOUT A
YEAR,THE DAY BEFORE V-DAY 2009 HE TELLS ME THAT HE
IS IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE AT FIRST I WAS LIKE SPEECHLESS,THEN THE NEXT DAY IT HIT ME I GOT MAD THAT I TOLD HIM OFF HOW BIG OF ASS HE WAS TO DO THAT TO ME.So a few months later he text me and
wanted to stay friends i agreed to stay friends i dont know why mabe because part of me wants him back.But now things are ackward because he will text me and ask me to go hang out with and he will this person he left me for.So how can stay friends with him if i am always going to feel ackward when i am around him.. i dont know what to do please help me.... (link)
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You pretty much cant. Kick this guy out of your friendship. You dated him for almost a year, and he says he's in love with someone else? Thats cheating.
He does not deserve to be your friend or in your life anymore.
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What should i do to get an abercrombie body? I'm a guy, 17, and want a Vcut stomach and abs to match. (link)
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work out. Crunches-all those good ab exercises.
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My back is so sore what should i do? (link)
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try a massage. Some can be expensive but worth it. I dont know if you muscles are hurting...? or whats up. But a professional massage would be your best bet.
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when is the best time of day to work out?
when is the time that you're going to lose the most weight...does it matter? (link)
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the best time to work out if when you're awake and energized.
the time dosent matter.
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right, i'm with this guy
& he's like a bit smaller than me.
everyone takes the mickey outa him, they say hes fat and horrible. but I definatlely don't see that.
Sure, he isn't the buffest guy on this planet, bu the has the sweetest heart and I wouldn't have anyone else.
His best friend lies to him, saying i call him fat and ugly. But he is really good-looking !!
i would never say that.
So please, help.
What should I say to stop all of this ??
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Tell your guy exactly how you fell about him.
I dont know if he believes his best friend, but really talk to him about this. Talk about the trust you two have as well.
And pull his best friend aside and ask why he's saying these untrue things to his friend. He may be a little jealous of you two
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17/f
I really like this boy. Hes like everything i ever wanted but I feel like he is too hard to sort or get him I suppose. I dont even talk to him. :S
Its just too hard and I can't do it and I think he is too good for me anyway.
Anyway one of his friends who is fun and really nice is chasing me. I have only just started thinking about him more often. Like wondering what it would liek to be with him. I only started thinking like this after I found out he liked me. Yet without a doubt I would love to be with the other boy so much more.
I don't think I have a chance with the first boy I really like and I've got no confidence at all around him, yet around his friend I am confident and he likes me.
So is it better to keep loving the first boy or to give it a chance with his friend, although I might not be as happy and I would still be in love with the other boy
Please help me, I'm confused.
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Since you know that you wont have a chance with this boy you really like, i think you should move on, and give the boy who likes you a chance.
i dont see how youre "in love" with the boy you dont really know. You may not be as happy as you think you would with this other boy, but you dont know that yet.
i think you know what to do.
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Yesterday i told my bf i had cybersex the day he buried his grandpa. so i told him that he could have sex with this girl that liked him. So now he is at a hotel having sex with a girl for revenge because i said he could do it. Is it really fair for him to do it? Did he have to listen to me and actually get revenge? (link)
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i think that maybe you guys should have taken a break, but no he should not have had sex with another girl just as much as you should not have had "cybersex"
you guys really need to break this off for awhile because you both will be bringing these issues up in your relationship, and you'll both be unhappy.
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Four weeks ago, I had my ears pierced at Piercing Pagoda with white gold earrings. I'm allergic to nickle. I came back four weeks later for a checkup; they said the holes looked fine and I could wear anything that wasnt heavy as long as they had a straightbacked post. I went to Claires with my mom and we got me some cute pairs from the Sensative Solutions collection, not dangling. And I have some sterling silver from my mom.
But I couldnt get the original piercing earrings out! When I finally did and switched them with another pair, it hurt to put them in. It wasnt terrible, but its still pain! Any idea why this could be? I put the original earrings back in, cleaned them, and decided to wait another few weeks. Also. How long should I wait before I wear those pairs of...huge hoops without the post? Just an example. Lightweight metal or plastic of course. I dont my earlobe ripped straight down the middle. Hah :]
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and make sure when you do put your earrings in, you twist them so that where they were pierced, dosent heal on the earring. It will be a lot easier to take out the next time if you twist them occasionally.
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ok well as usal guy problems.the guy gthat i asked a question to in my last thing broke up with my friend for me and she nos it she isnt mad because she wants me to be happy do i go out with him or make sure they go back out? (link)
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woa woa woa. Sounds like you have a friend who wants to keep you as a friend. Im pretty sure this girl is upset, so be a friend, dont date the kid, its not worth it.
and dont try to put them back together, just leave it as it is, you and your friend staying friends.
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I am 15 years old and i am a female and i currently like this guy named torrey.
he is sucha sweetheart and he really knows how to treat a girl proper!
The other day we were playing a game of 20 questions and he asked me if i had ever liked him and i said yes and so i asked him the same question back and he said yes, and then i asked him if he still liked me and he said yes and i told him that i still liked him, but he said he wanted to take things slow, so im not sure if were a couple or not. He keeps saying how badly he wants to kiss me and i told him i want to kiss him really badly too. I really hope he is planning on asking me out becuase i like him ALOT!
Anyways im supposed to be going to his house this week to watch scary movies(his choice) and i don't know if i should ask him to make us official or if i should wait?
SO please Help!
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Just wait. Im pretty sure he'll ask you when you go to his house, or maybe try to grab your hand, kiss you whatever. So just see how it plays out.
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Okay, my friend Emmy has introduced me to her older brother, Alex(he really isn't her older brother), and her bf, Nick(my really close guy friend that he is my older brother). Alex and Nick are the one of the very rare nice guys around the Earth, they try to call me back, they give compliments, they are respectful, just all around nice guys! But here is the problem, I really like Alex! He just broke up with his gf, that is a good thing considering that he seems to be happier lately, and he is completely single. But, Alex just wants to be my friend. He knows how I feel and even Emmy has explained to me that I shouldn't go after Alex because there are some other people he'd rather be with. And considering that I just moved a few miles away from him has really made things hard. I think I may have gotten in to deep, and I think I am getting on Alex's nerves because I do try to call him everyday and try to be his friend. But I just don't feel like a friend. I am so lost and I am soo in way too deep! Should I keep talking to him? Should I leave Alex alone? HELP!
PS: Sorry for it being too long. (link)
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yes! can he breathe?? jk.
but seriously give him a little time. Guys dont like it when girls are clingy, and you're being quite clingy.
Stop calling. him give him time, if he wants to talk, he'll call you.
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on the outside of their penis? (meaning theyre uncircumcised) and ca a female get it on her lips and pelvic bone but NEVER on the inside of her lips?
thanks in advance! (link)
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Yeah you can get herpes about anywhere, even on the inside of your lips and on. And yeah on your penis too. You should google pictures for that if you want more info.
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so on myspace i know how you can hide this and that and so on but my old friend has his "add me" and "message me" thing hidden. any way to add him? (link)
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make sure you have mozilla for this. once you're on his page go up to the tool bar on the mozilla thingy and click view. Go down to page style and click no style. this can help you find the message and add button. (you can also see hidden comments as well)
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I reallyyy want to see ghosts. How can i? is there anyway i can try to connect or talk to people who are on the other side? (link)
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um. no? not really. Ouija boards can do some sort of thing like that.
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me= 16/f
him=17/m
we've been dating nearly a year and im in need of ideas of gifts to give him on our 1 year. I love him with all my heart he's the sweetest guy ive ever met and a lil emotional. i want the gift for hjim to be amazing and remind him of me since he's gotten me many amazing gifts such as a ring, neclace, and an adorable stuffed animal to cuddle with. I dont want the gift to be something to do with his interests cuz thats more of a christmas/b-day gift. I want it to be just something that reminds him of Us and our amazing year together. we havent taken many pictures so a scrapbook wont work im thinking that for our 2 year when we have more things to put in it.
give me as many ideas as possible i need a ton!!
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well there are 12 months in a year. So write him 12 notes. and in each note write 12 things about him
like
12 things i love about you.
(list 12 things.)
12 things you do that make me smile
(12 things)
12 songs that remind me of you
(12 songs)
guys do appreciate these types of things
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16/female
I'm depressed
i dont really know why
im always sad unless im with my boyfriend then i can never frown otherwise people are always asking whats wrong...and i never really know what to say i just feel like i need to be sad almost all the time. i'm constantly tired and dont feel like doing anything im actually starting to eat more and i really dont want to.
Is there anything i can do to help rid of this without going to a doctor and getting pills that could cause me to go suicidal...i know how important life is and i wouldnt think i would ever be dumb enough to take away such a gift but lately idk if just thinking it wont do it is good enough i just wanna get rid of it.
please help! (link)
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well, you do have all the signs of depression, and im about your age and i have it it too. You're tired, sad, and you have irregular eating habits.
A therapist would be a start. Really. Than if necessary, they will prescribe you with anti-depressants. For some reason the first few weeks into the pill, whatever you take usually does make you more depressed. In my case I had to go to a hospital for a week because of the mood swings i was having because of it. Also, the medicine usually makes your stomach hurt the first week as your body adjusts.
In the end it really is worth it when you find the right pill. It may take awhile, but dont give up.
But the first thing i would do is find a good therapist.
Please message me if you have any more questions, i've been through this, and i want to be there for others when they go through it too.
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