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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.

I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.

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i just found out that i am preganet my last menstrual cycle was aug 31st to sept 5. i cant remember if i slept with the other guy the week of my period or the week before my period. and i splet with my boyfriend they week i should have been ovulation confussed is there any chance the other guy can be the father i am about 8 weeks preganant

Sorry for the repeated post, Must of been an error thing!

13/f
I gotten really close with this one guy (I'm a freshman and he's a senior). We text everyday and he is really nice to me. He tells me I smell good and my hair is cute and offers to be my pillow for bus rides (we are both in band). He even gave me a cute nickname and tells me he loves me all the time. Yesterday, when I fell asleep on him on the bus ride home, our section took pictures of us and made fun of us for the rest of the day. He told me that they think I like him, but he doesn't mind as long as it doesn't bother me. Earlier he asked me if I like him. Does it mean anything? Btw he has a girlfriend.

There are a few things weird about this

1, He is a senior, He is or either soon going to be 18 and that would legally make him an adult.

2, He has a girlfriend and is willing to risk his relationship he has now to cheat with someone else.

Really, You don't find it at all weird that someone that is 18 years old would be showing interest in someone who is 13? There is nothing wrong with being 13 but someone who is of his age should not be looking at people your age.

Also, Do you really want to put yourself in position where you would possibly be the girl he cheated with? Imagine how his girlfriend would feel if she ever found out. Don't be his rebound, That is exactly what it would make anyone who cheats on their partner. It sounds to me that he may not necessarily like you he likes the idea of using you. Guys think about sex, Sometimes unfortunately the older guys go for the younger girls because they are more vulnerable and believe almost anything. He has a girlfriend, I think your best bet is to let him play someone else a fool. You should know well enough that someone who cheats isn't right for you never mind the fact that he is too old for you as well.

21 female. Tony 19

This is kind of long, but I need some real advice.

Me and my boyfriend have been officially together for 2 months now, but have known each other for a long time. He's honestly different than any other guy I've known, he treats me SO good. He tells me he's falling in love with me and no girl has ever made him feel this way. He says I make him want to be a better person. I know he's not just a player with smooth words, I know he's sincere.

The thing is, something is bothering me. He's only had one girlfriend before me. They were together for like 8 months I guess but she cheated on him so he broke up with her. This was like a year ago. When we first started dating, Tony was like "Wow my ex girlfriend would never do ____ like you do" or he would tell me his ex girlfriend would never want to hang out alone, she would always have to be around people. He would like compare me with his ex girlfriend constantly. But in a good way I guess? But i was thinking okay is he not over her, why is he talking about her so much ...even though it wasn't in a good way. I asked him before if he still liked her, or if he was over her and he said yes he was over her and that no girl has made him feel the way he does like I do.

Well then we were at his grandparents house downstairs alone and his ex girlfriends sister requested me on Facebook and I said something like do you know who this is? And he goes that my ex girlfriends little sister. Well then he goes "Yeah Brooke (his ex) texted me the other day asking how I was doing and how my family was and that she knows I have a girlfriend but she just wanted to see what I have been up to" I was like okay, whatever you know not a big deal. But then I go on twitter (I don't personally have an account) but I knew my boyfriend does even though he didn't tell me and I like to see what he tweets. Well he tweeted his ex girlfriend two days ago saying "I'm shocked you haven't decided to follow me yet #disappointed"

I'm really starting to feel like she is a threat to me. I know there not friends anymore ..he told me that he hasn't talked to her since they broke up (well other than the day she texted him) but I'm kind of worried how he brings her up randomly and now is tweeting her. And the thing is he hasn't tweeted ANYONE EXCEPT her. I don't want to be a jealous girlfriend. Am I just overreacting? I just have this bad feeling though that he's not over her and he's not telling me the truth. I don't know what to do!!! I don't ever get worried about other girls, which is why I feel it's weird I'm getting worried about her. I don't want him to know i was creeping on him on Twitter either ha. What should I do!? :\

He isn't over her, If he was he wouldn't have the need to talk to her nor try and get in contact with her again. The hint when a guy isn't over a women is when they constantly talk about them and same thing goes for women who talk about men. Talking about your ex while in a relationship with someone begins to make the person feel insecure and overtime they feel drained in the relationship. I don't care if this guy has the excuse of trying to remain friends with his ex, Reality is exes are generally nothing but trouble and drama. This guy is supposed to be in a relationship with you, You should be his main priority not whether his ex has tweeted him on Twitter or not. If you want a real relationship with someone then I suggest you find someone who isn't hung up on their ex because as long as you stay with someone who is you are never going to find what you seek..

Ok so like I haven't pooped in like.....4 days....is that normal and when does it become NOT good. Is that when you haven't in 8 days or something. Just curious. I know this is totally TMI and everything but uh...I usually poop 4 days apart. I just wanted to know.

You are not going to die if you haven't had a bowel movement in 3-4 days. However, I would recommend eating more fiber. (Chicken,Veggies,Apples, Almonds, Beans etc.)

Are you constipated?.....THIS is where I would start to worry. If you are constipated for long periods of time (24 hr period) Then it could be toxic to your body and the toxins can become deadly. Really, If you are concerned you could go to the doctor. I think if you add more fiber to the diet you will see a big change in your bowel movements. If you have trouble passing bowels then I would recommend taking stool softeners.

I found my bf cheating on me whit my sister. I told him its over but he just kept asking me to have take him back what should I do I mean I want to but he cheated Help “
U. I am a girl and I am 14

When a guy cheats it proves their lack of commitment, This guy cheated on you and of all people he cheated on you with your own sister. Not only is that a slap in the face but why the hell would you even want to take someone like that back? Sometimes in order to find what we are looking for we need to learn from our mistakes, He's a mistake. Someone who cheats is a liar and is just not trustworthy, Why take him back? He is nothing but a liar and that only tells him it's okay to cheat on you. You have self respect, Get rid of him and find someone else.

Hello 16f

I'll try to make this short, and I guess this isn't as big of a deal than I think it is but still..

Well, I met this guy on this one site I was using and we started talking about one of my favorite movies I like, Heathers. Our conversation was simply amazing, and it was the best convo I had with a guy since my ex and I first started dating.

He was afraid to tell me his age, after I told him mine..later on I find out he's 28. It didn't really bother me since I just liked talking to him, nothing more. We talked on MSN, for a lonnnggg time and he told me he doesn't want to talk to me anymore because of his age.. and I hate this because just when I find a guy who I can relate to, he's way older than me.

He's apparently married to.. so ;/ Oh well, I just wondered if there was any POINT of us even talking..and relating like we did? I know we just talked for one day, but I never related to someone so well.. and it's depressing.

I don't want to hear .. oh he's a perv blah blah.. I know he's to old for me and I have no meaning to be with him. I know there is NO chance..but I just want to know what the hell the point was? I just want to find a sweet guy..that's all.

Thanks. ;/

There is no point

This man is much older and is likely looking to cheat on his wife, He told you he doesn't want to talk to you consider this a smart move on both of your behalves. A man over the age of 18 who has intentions of trying to have a romance with someone much young obviously has issues. You know it, He knows it. If you want someone to talk too try talking to someone on facebook that you know or go to school with.

Okay. How do i ask my boyfriend if he is circumcised. I don't mind if he's not. i just want know. So what is the best way to ask him??
Any advice would be appreciated!
Thanks
:)

Why do you care? You are his girlfriend and you should love him none the less. Whether he is or not shouldn't even be a concern, To a man that is a pretty insulting thing to ask.

How can I fuck a woman/Girl when she was sleeping condition?????

This is rape, It's not okay and it's a crime.

A person cannot consent to intercourse when they aren't awake and alert, Unless you have this permission to do so I advise you not too.

Hello well I have a best friend and her bday is comming up and she is like a siter to me well i want to get her a gift but she doesnt want 1 the gift that I want to get her is $40 +tax so is it really worth it.

If she doesn't want it then just give her a gift card for 25 bucks. No need to blow 40 bucks on someone who can't just be thankful.

Okaaay , so i am 15 years oldd. I live in Floridaa . I have been with my Boyfriendd for a year & i cant figure out the Law for thiss. If you are Dating & both parents knoe & agree is it still consdered Illegall ?!

If you are talking by law, Of course it's illegal. In many cases it would be considered statutory rape if anyone 18 or older had sex with a minor.

If the parents approve that only means you are safe from them pressing any charges but really doesn't mean you are approved in the eye of the law.

Hey, so i'm a jr. in high school. I have a Sadie Hawkins coming up... should I ask one of my close guy friends or ask my crush??? idk which would be more fun? my crush i don't know as well as my guy friends, but i know he'd never hate me for asking... but then i'm afraid one of my close guy friends wouldn't be asked, but sometimes i think my close guy friend thinks i like him more than a friend and don't want to give him the wrong idea... what would you advise? thank you!
-female jr. in high school

Ask whoever you want to ask, The most your crush can do is say no. If he says no then you can just ask your close friend. If your crush says yes, I'm sure if you and your friend are that close he will understand.

What is it

This explains it pretty well

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masturbation

Ok so there is this boy in my class and he is so nice to me.I actually have a crush on him.He always smiles at me he compliments me and I sometimes catch him looking at me during class.We are good friends like we talk to each other.Does he like me? any advice is welcome:)
-Jane

Sure sounds like it, Ask him out

I'm 5'5" and 145.
If I eat 1200 calories and work out can I lose 20 pounds by December 25?

It's certainly possible, However make sure you eat properly and exercise but just don't over do it.

can a 43 year old man turn into a woman?

Sure, Why not?

If you are talking surgery, Anyone can change their sex at any age.

I few years ago my mom passed away leaving the house to my sister . My sister was very abuse to my mom and had my name taken off the house..she also told my mom that I would give away the house to stranger's. To make a long story short. My sister is a bum that works a few days a week. Her bum son who us in his thirties and two kids and wife have lived there for three years in my moms house. What really gets me if things go in natural sucession my sister will die the bum son gets the house and chances are his wife could end up sole owner either by divorce or even death . How do I get over the pain of knowing a stranger got my mothers house and not me her daughter. I would have never given that house away. But a stranger ends up getting it anyway....I wish I could open up a window to heaven and say look mom you didn't want me to gave. But someone who isn't blood gets it. Any advice

This is a matter that would need to be taken up with a lawyer. If you can get a copy of the will, I would do so. Other than that there isn't a whole hell of a lot I can tell you. I do know that this is a court situation.

Hi I need some advice I'm 19 years old and I think that my 31 year old science teacher might like me here are some things he does

He always gives me nicknames and calls me by my surname
2. If I’m sat at my table he always walks down in between the next table and mine and the stops and looks at me and then goes off and then does it again and sometimes he always sits opposite me for no reason.
3. When he tells jokes he always looks at me see my what my reaction is
4. He always makes fun of me
5 iv seen him a couple of times looking at me
6 today in science I asked what units were doing with him and he said reproduction and then says no we can not do practices for that I was like i wasn't even think that.
Last week I asked if he is going to the year 13 ball and he he goes why you inviting thanks j I was like ok
Recently we have been doing experiments and he’s touch my hand a few times
One time I was ment to go to sixthform parents evening but couldnt go so I phoned the office to get them to email him and the next day I went to his lesson and he goes where were you last night you stood me up and I said that my step dad had to go to work I did tell the office to email you and he goes well I stayed here all night For you to come I was like ok.
If I’m listening to my iPod he always plays with it and Asks me what music I’m listening to.
He doesnt do this witanyone else . I forgot to says hes married he hasnt got any children
Hope someone can help thanks and sorry I just would like to know
Even if he is i know nothing is going to happen .

Your teacher is a little over the line, For some reason the creepy teacher's seem to be on the loose these days.

Really, Report him. The school system has a zero tolerance for teacher student relationships. Your teacher was also hired by the school system and giving the higher authority and as a teacher his job is to set an example to his students not try and seduce them and come on too them. His actions will get him fired, I understand that you may be legally an adult but your teacher is breaking the school policy and that policy is one that will cost him his career. My best advise is to report him, If anyone ever reported inappropriate behavior while he could be fired you would be questioned. Do you really want to draw yourself negative attention? because normally that sort of stuff spreads like wildfire. Report him and let the school handle it.

So, I turn 19 in December and there's a guy who's 24. I really like him and he likes me, but is that age difference too much? We are both sophomores in college (I have a late birthday for my year and he took a few years off). Any advice/opinions are appreciated!

You are legally an adult, You are free to date whoever you wish. If you were under the age of 18, I would say wait but as a 19 year old you are an adult and you are capable of making your own decisions.

Hi, my boyfriend and I were dry humping on last weekend friday or saturdaay I don't remember. I was laying down on his bed on my stomack and I had all my clothes oon. And he had his clothes on . So I wore leggings and he had his pants on so he came on top of me. After he came he got up and I saw a big moist part on his pants se he was wet. So now I'm worry can spperm pass through leggings? Its because I didn't wear jeans can sperm pass through leggings?? And he changed himself but he was wet and that spottt soo can u guys please give me some right information ?? Btw I gave him a handjob a week befor that and he was lying down on his bed and he came under his shirt so he didn't get up but his put his dick under his shirt and after we went wash our hands but. Also because my hand got tired I used my feet but I washed my feet too so any risk in that ?? Right information please

If you both were wearing clothing then you are not pregnant. If you don't want to become pregnant I highly advise you to use caution at all times. Just because something may be unlikely doesn't mean it's impossible.

mmmkkkaayy i wrote on here like last week the love of my life moved ....cant talk to him and so on so on. well its been like 2 weeks and i still really care for him right but now that he is gone ALOT of guys been trying to talk to me no like 5 or 6 but like 10 or 11 ..... like no joke but i only think some are cute and some i would love to date but i feel guilty that my ex moved. i mean he probably doing what he does and im here not wanting to do anything bcuz of that .what should i do ... i cant call or talk to him bcuz i dont have a phone and i miss him terribly /:
thxx :D

I agree with the user below me

One can never truly move on if they are still hung up on someone else. If you aren't ready to date and you are feeling overwhelmed then tell the guys you aren't ready to date. I think it's good to take a little time off anyway, There is no need to jump the gun. Wait until you are over the guy that moved and then try again.

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