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Ok. My mom just had surgery on her foot yesterday and since then its like everything I do is getting on her nerves. Its like I can't do anything right anymore. And I understand that she is tired and hurting but I have been trying to do all that I can to help her and make her comfy without getting on her nerves but she gets mad at every little thing and she never says thank you or anything when I do something for her. Now its starting to piss me off. I know that she is not her normal self right now and is on pain meds and stuff but its like she has to complain about every little thing and she neverd 'asked' me to do something...she yells at me to do it.
I have been trying to just let it pass but it seems like its just getting worse and worse and I don't know what to do. A little while ago she fell on her foot and I heard her screaming and she never told me to come in there and help her or get her anything she just tried to do it on her own then she ended up blaming it on me....like its my fault that she wanted to get up and didn't want me to help her...I don't what to do...I feel guilty about staying in my room because she might need something but if I stay with her she finds something to yell at me for...
what do I do!!!!???? (link)
i know its bad now, but it will get better. surgery and pain meds can mess with peoples moods, but she will be back t her normal self soon enough. just take it, shes your mother and she put up with alot worse from you when you were a baby. it wont last long, but if you do something mean/bad now she will remember it so just try to be as pleasant as you can be and put up with her yelling at you, and next time she falls help her.


I have to give an oral presentation in fron otthe whole class, but I suck at public speaking. I start getting really red and then i start to shake and I stumble over words. Right now I am absolutly terrified at the thought of giving a speech. What can I do to overcome this fear?

Please dont give me an answer that says "you will fail everytime" (link)
this is a hard one, i dont really have trouble with public speaking. i mean i tense up when i have to do it, but i do it anyways. thats my suggestion to you, feel the fear, and go for it. getting red is no big deal, the stumpbling over words is a bit bad. are you going to be using note cards? the best way not to stumble is to actualy write out the speach word for word. i know your teacher probably told you not to, and it wont look natural but you wont stumble. and theres no shame in correcting yourself. teachers tend to understand that some people just have trouble with public speaking. just try no to go too fast, and pay attention to your words.


I'm an aspiring artist who is in the market for a solid-body electric guitar. I need suggestions on guitar manufacturers and companies. And opinions on the following: Fender, Gibson, Squire, Washburn, Epiphone, Ibenez, and Dean. Any advice from people who own/have owned any of these guitars is appreciated. 5's for all even if you're being a jerk. (link)
fender is the best


so my friend seem tyo hate me and came up with 170 things they disliked about me i know i should just leave them but my friendship with them has existed for over a year and its hard to make new friends this far in the year so im trying to be better and more normasl but cant they just accept me for what and who i am i think that if i can at least try to keep the friendship in tact then so should they i just want 3 things in life: acceptance friendship and to never be lied to if i have not lied to them unless its really stupid like ive been to mars but honesty i wish theied just accept me
long story short how do i fix the friendships.

Solemnstar (link)
they really dont seem like very good freinds if they came up with 170 things they dont like about you. the fact taht they are making a list, no matter how long is bad enough. im not saying be mean to them, still say hi if you see them in the halls and such but they are not your friends. i recommend joining a club or some other organazation taht is the easiest way to make friends.


I have this gigantic crush on this guy named bob, and i think he likes me too. But, theres also this other gut named billy who i also like.Now, i know for sure that billy likes me, he's even said so!I mean both guys are smart, funny, cute and nice, so who should i pick? (link)
hmmm why dont you try which ever one asks you first?


can a doctor or whatever tell if u have already had sex? i mean how can they tell? cuz your hymen can be broken lots of ways other then sex.... and if they can tell otherwise.. then how can they tell????????????? (link)
no they cant tell, and even if they could they wouldnt be able to tell anyone unless you allowed them to, its called doctor-patient confidentiality.


420?? what does it mean? (link)
it refers to weed


I have a friend and we used to be best friends, but now i dont want to hang out with her or anything because i've noticed that shes always making fun of me and trying to make me look bad so i dont want to hang out wit her but she always is making plans that include ME.
so how can i tell her that i dont want to hang out with her without hurting her feelings? (link)
"hi sorry i hate you know..." yeah pretty much no matter how you do it its gonna hurt. why dont you talk to her about it instead? a friend is a terrible thing to waste, just tell her its making you feel bad when she makes fun of you im sure shell stop.


Can someone explain the bases to me plz? I feel really stupid, but whatever. (link)
ive seen this many times before

1st:Making Out
2nd:Gropping over clothes
3rd:Oral sex, and hand jobs and the like
4th:Sex


I have this wicked hard homework and its getting me very very very angry. I already have the answer but i dont know how to get it without guessing and checking.. anyone wanna help? the problem is:

The tens digit of a 2-digit number is twice the units digit. The sum of the digits is 12. Find the original number.

PlEaSe HeLp!

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chop it into two numbers, X and Y. X is the tens, Y is the units.

X=2Y
X+Y=12

voila two equations, two unknowns


is it bad to leave your cell phone on while you are charging it? (link)
no, and if you have a newer cell phone with a longer battery life its actualy probably better to.


I have officially met the love of my life.He treats me better than anyone ive ever known. he says he wants to take care of me for the rest of my life, and hes proven that in many ways. there are only two problems: 1. he has a girl living with him- they used to go out, but now theyre just sharing living quarters.hes moving soon, and shes not coming with.2.(the main issue, at hand)there is about 15 or 16 years between us, and i should probably mention that i am defintely not 18. its so hard to keep this a secret and lie to everyone around me, i hate it, but i love him so much. PLEASE give me an honest opinion on how you, personally would handle my situation. thanx for any advice you can give. (link)
id try to forget. under 18 dating someone over 18 is bad enough. an adult dating someone 15 yeaRs olser is bad. seriously this guy is like twice your age. and you could get him in SERIOUS trouble because youre a minor. age is just a number but only to a point, and this is crossing the line.


Yeah.. I was at a 'get together' with a group of friends.. and we decided to play a game of some sort involving the opposite sex.. we were choosing which game.. and "Honey if you love me, smile" came up.. except I have no idea what that is.. ofcourse we chose a different game.. but for future reference.. how do you play. (link)
from what i remember a person sits down, and the other person trys to get them to smile by doing fun "things" and saying honey if you love me smile


my friend wants to have sex with this guy and she was too shy so i had to talk to the guy for her. and after a while he started hitting on ME and asked me to one of his parties i thought i might havefun but i thought about my friend. i now kinda want to go but ill feel really bad for my friend and she might never talk to me again. please help me (link)
ok first off, to your friend, if she isnt mature enough to talk about sex with her parents or some one who knows she shouldnt be having sex, if she isnt mature enough to talk to her partner about it, she shouldnt even be thinking about sex. no to you, you if you get with your friends boyfriend she will probably hate you for the rest of her life, you need to figure out wahts more important, her or him.


hi i posted this but I need your advice!
My guy friend and his girlfriend broke up, and he still likes her alot. She likes him still too but she doesnt want to get hurt and they will be going to different schools. My guy friend asked me to help him get through this because I'm the only one he can trust. I want to help him in any way I can because I want to be close with him. What should I say to him to make him feel better? Thank you so much!
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You want to be close with him? Im gonna go out on a limb here and assume that you mean you like him. My advice would be not to rush yet, dont be the rebound girl. it would also be breaking his trust taking advantage of him at a vurnerable time. you should just be his shoulder to cry on, you really dont need to say much of anything at all.


When i was seven years old my mom [lets call her tina] and her friend [lets call her jenn]went away and i was left with *jenns daughter shauna at *jenns sisters house [lets call her jamie] well *jamie has a son john who was 14 at the time. Shauna was asleep and john had his friend jeff over, also 15. john made me do it with him and go to third with him and he said if i didnt then he would kill me.. is this rape? i am asking this years later because it still bothers me=/ (link)
yeah its rape, not sure of the statute of limitations on that though it might be to late to press charges


Ok im 15 years old and umm, i've masturbated with shampoos and conditioners and hand lotions and stuff, im not trying to be offensive or anything but like one half of my uhh johnny is like a lighter color and there is a like ring around where one side is darker and the other is lighter, can anyone tell me how to make this go away? ive tried just not doing it but i couldnt go for more than a week and it didn't help, please help (link)
sunbathe naked its basically a tan line. or masturbate with shampoos etc.


this may be weird but i was just wondering if you could bleach hair on your body with regular laundry bleach. please help and ill rate (link)
yeah sure.... if you wana die. the smell of bleach for long enough can kill you, putting it on your body is a baaaaaaad idea.


i want to give my boyfriend a blow job but how do i make the first move and i am sorry but how do i do it ?! (link)
"i want to give you a blowjob" with that sentence you not only gurantee that it will happen but you also gurantee that he wont be dumping you anytime within the next year. seriously there isnt a guy alive that has to be convinced to get a blowjob, especialy by his girlfriend.


How long does it take for a symtom of an STD to show up? I just gave my boyfriend a blow job last night for the first time and now i have a sore in my mouth. Could it be an STD and should i be worried? Thanks so much. (link)
well it really depends on the STD, but most take a long time. umm if you got a sore from giving head, the only STD that i can think of that that could be is herpes, in the mouth it really isnt that big of threat and it goes away. your boyfriend however has it on his penis and as such it is pretty permenant. now there is also a chance that its simply a cold sore which developed on its own, and timing is a coincidence, in which case dont give him any more blowjobs becasue you will give him herpes. my question, you know that there is a chance of getting an STD from oral sex, why arent you using a condom? they have flavored ones that not only protect but make it taste better




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