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is age just a number?
I have officially met the love of my life.He treats me better than anyone ive ever known. he says he wants to take care of me for the rest of my life, and hes proven that in many ways. there are only two problems: 1. he has a girl living with him- they used to go out, but now theyre just sharing living quarters.hes moving soon, and shes not coming with.2.(the main issue, at hand)there is about 15 or 16 years between us, and i should probably mention that i am defintely not 18. its so hard to keep this a secret and lie to everyone around me, i hate it, but i love him so much. PLEASE give me an honest opinion on how you, personally would handle my situation. thanx for any advice you can give.
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i would say don't go out with him. here are my reasons (most are probablies, not positives!):
1. he is older and could take advantage of you
2. he could hurt you deeply
3. he can lie to you more believablywith more expierience
4. he has more experience, wether god or bad
5. date other people untill you are old enough to be with him
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For one thing I think he's lying to you about the girl living with him.
For another...pedophiles are really nice to young girls/boys. That is how they get you hooked. Regardless, his age makes dating you very illegal.He could (and should in my opinion) go to jail for a long time. If your parents find out he's gone for sure. I think you need to tell him that if he keeps bothering you that you are going to call the cops. It is an act. He knows better. Get out of this relationship before you get hurt worse.
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As you are just a teenager (I hope you're that old, anyway) it is kind of doubtful that he is the love of your life.. I mean he could be, but your tastes/personality changes as you get older... now that I've said that...
Age IS important in this case, because if you are under 18 it is illegal for the two of you to be dating (at least in some states...) And just the fact that he lives with another girl... I wouldn't trust him, sorry to say.
Personally, I wouldn't even be dating this guy in the first place... not only is it illegal, but he lives with another girl, and you have to lie to so many people...if you hate what you're doing, you probably shouldn't be with him. Even if you do love him. And even if this doesn't apply to this guy, I have to say it.. most guys who date teenagers are just looking for sex. So please, be careful!
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I know that age is just a number, but I think when someone is as young as you, it's a pretty important number. Consider where you are both going in your lives. See if your life plans really work out together. Consider school, work, owning a home, having children, and anything else you can think of. Sit down with him and really talk about where you are both going in life. If everything works out, and you are both truly happy then stick with it.
I would be slightly suspicious of him living with another girl. I've never known a guy that can live with a girl (especially one he's had a relationship with) and truly stay faithful to the girl he's with. However, your guy might be different.
Yes, it is possible to make it work. However, I've never seen anyone make it work.
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i know alot of people who love other people like 10 -15 years difference. I dont think theres anything wrong with it but i would maybe wait until your 18 before you get into anything seriouce. But yea theres nothing wrong with it at all.
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First of all ewww. How do you know that him and his ex are not doing anything and plus just b/c he syas that stuff does not mean anything they are just words every guy uses them anyway, you need to be more into people your own age relationships always end with people a t a big age gap like that. trust me
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Well, you don't tell your age, and I' not sure if you mean you are under or over 18...
Anyway, as for me, I think 15 or 16 years is a significant age difference between partners regardless of how old they are, but it may not affect a relationship when both are over 30 and have compatible qualities.
If this is your case, and if you are sure you love this man, then perhaps it's time for you to start to accept him for what he is, and to be willing to face any people's reactions towards your relationship with this man.
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erm...your not 18 yet? isnt it like illegal for him to go out with you?? and also..why is he living with his ex?? you should probably think about all of this.and dont lie to your friends and family. maybe they can help you
*hope i help*
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ok.. well this is a first for me.. ive known about people with a 4 or 5 year difference in relationships but never as many as 15 or 16 yrs. im sorry but this just isnt right. it is just a number but your pushing it - alot. im sorry but you cant do this. - especially if your not 18 yet! you havent stated your age but even if your 17, if hes 15 or 16 more yrs than you then hes at least like 32 or 33.. you need to end this - soon. im sorry but this is not the 'love of your life'. you could get in serious trouble and him even more than you. good luck.
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id try to forget. under 18 dating someone over 18 is bad enough. an adult dating someone 15 yeaRs olser is bad. seriously this guy is like twice your age. and you could get him in SERIOUS trouble because youre a minor. age is just a number but only to a point, and this is crossing the line.
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