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There was this guy we were going out four years ago and I broke it off. I had not seen him since four years ago, then I decided to call him because I felt guilty for the break-up. I mean I am more mature now. We started hanging out again and he has been flirting a lot, I thought he like me, so I started having feelings for him..I told him how I felt last night and he totally rejected me. I wonder why? I thought that being together, I mean after not seeing each other after a long time, was meant to be? I am so confused? what happend? (link)
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He may have a fear of getting rejected by you again, so he feels the need to reject you before you reject him. I would ask him about it, and have a serious talk with him. I really think he's feeling insecure about starting a relationship with you again, and is probably worried the same thing that happened the first time you two broke up -- will happen again. So I definitely recommend talking to him about it, and see how he's feeling.
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today in forth period the guy i used to like who has a girlfriend talked to me for the first time he said you live in SF yes i said and yeah i like men expecially neal that senior well any advice would be helpful. (link)
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I'm sorry, I don't know exactly what your question is. However, just to add some advice -- maybe, you shouldn't go after this guy because he does have a girlfriend. Being as he has a girlfriend, you don't want to step on anyone's toes, it's not a good idea.
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look yes i do beieve that i can do it if i can get over talking in front of audience's then i can do it he's just a guy yes a senior but i will meet someone else who i am able to talk to in the future so tomarrow i will say hi any advice would be helpful. (link)
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Okay, great. I wish you the best of luck with that, I'm sure everything will work out for you. You'll meet your Prince Charming one day, it comes all in time and good decisions. :)
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i am to scared to ask him i really never talk to guys i like inless they talk to me and why would he not have a date he's so cute and has alot of girls as friends he could ask to prom why whould i ask him i am to scared and he is not really interested going to prom with a sophmore that he will never ever see again after he graduates in may. any advice would be helpful. (link)
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I'm more concerned on your self-esteem, than I am on you having a date for prom. Because the more optimistic I am and give you good things to do, the more you put down yourself and disbelieve. You have to fight that voice inside your head, and have confidence in yourself. Guys like girls with confidence as well, but you also shouldn't have it just for a guy. You come first, not the guy.
And you can always ask someone else to go to prom with you, that you know doesn't have a date. Or if you have a friend, like a girl, you could just go and have a good time with your friend. A lot of girls end up going to prom with their friends and having a good time, just like hanging out.
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is it bad if im 14 that is 5ft 10???? tell hte truth (link)
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I'm going to assume that you're a girl, and if you are -- Of course, it isn't bad. I'm not far behind you, I'm almost 5'9". Personally, I love being tall and embrace it, so I think that's a really good thing.
If you just so happen to be a guy -- It's a good thing for guys to be that tall. :)
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first of all you don't know what i look like and you will never find out and second i don't have any guy friends i can ask because they all have dates to the prom i can not go to the prom bu myshelf my parents will not let me last ao all i am to shy to ask a guy to the prom i do want to go with that senior i like but i dont want to fill like a embarresbent if he already has a date i guess i will wate entill next year any advice on next year. (link)
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First of all, no, I don't know what you look like and I never will. However, I believe that everyone is beautiful, in some way. Even the most physically beautiful women can be the ugliest people you've ever met in your life, visa-vera.
Second of all, even if your guy friend have dates, you can still ask the senior. One sure way to find out if he has a date, is to ask him. Just be casual, and say, "Hey, prom is coming up, do you have a date yet?" If he says no, ask him. If he says yes, and if he asks you if you have a date say, "Not yet, I haven't figured out who I want to go with..."
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are there any self tanners that arent tons of money that dont make you orange and dont leave streaks or marks or anything? please only tell me products you have actually had experience with thank you (link)
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I recommend Jergens Natural Glow, because it never leaves streaks or turns you orange. It works efficiently to give you the color you want, and the glow you need. I have had personal experience with this product, and still use it to this day.
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i am over weight but there's alot of girls that are and they still got asked to the prom actualy all my friends are going to propm not me though i wasent asked its probably my looks whish stinks because my 2 cosons are also going to prom even though they got to a different school which is a total of 15 froends of mine going to prom how can i get over of not being asked to the prom any advice would be helpful. (link)
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You are beautiful, and you are worth getting asked to the prom. If no one asks you -- it's their loss. Maybe, you should consider asking a special someone. It's not a bad idea for a girl to ask a guy to prom, guys like that -- especially, the shy ones waiting for a special someone to ask them. One of them may be waiting on you!
You should have fun at prom, with or without a date! Who says you need a date, or a guy to ask you to prom? You definitely don't, and as I mentioned before, it's totally their loss. I think you should ask someone to go to prom with you, even if he's like your best friend. Lots of girls do that, it's something I wouldn't mind doing. With or without being asked to prom.
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hey, well.. you said that you'd be willing to help me with my problem, so here it is.
14/f.
mmk, well I knew this kid, who was like my bestestestest friend ever. like, i asked him for help with everythinggg. & he always looked out for me. & then eventually, we dated. for a couple months. then, he broke up with me, but a couple months later, we were best friends again. & it was like we were dating. but we never made it offical. considering, i just had gotten out of a bad relationship at that time, + i wasn't 100 percent sure if i liked him & only him completely.
that all happened in 6th grade. [ i met him in like 4th grade, & we became like best friends at the beginning of 5th grade.]
so anyways, 7th grade rolled around, me & him were still the best of friends. & i was like wow, yano we've been friends so long, most girls i know dont stay that good of friends with guys for so long. so then, at the end of 7th grade, in the summer, well, i have a sliding glasss door in my room, which leads out to my deck, & like, its confusing.. my house is like on a hill, but anyways, its really easy for boys to sneak up there.. & stuff. so i had alot of visiters during that summer, most of the boys that i didn't really care too much about. but then, my best friend [the boy] was like omg your so hot. & i'd so wanna do you. & i was also talking to my old best friend at the time [well she was still my best friend then] & i was like hes tottaly kidding right? & shes like oh yeah deffinitly. so i kinda played along with what he was saying. but then he got all weird. like he was like, do you love me? tell me you love me. & i was like wtf is he high. & he just kept saying stuff like that. so then, he was like ok im comin over. & im like.. its kinda late bud? & he was all like it would be fun. & i was like whoa nooo. & he kept insisting. & like, it wasnt like him, for awhile i didnt even think it was him. so hes like, hayley you said you loved me. & all this stuff like that. & i was like, idno i was starting to get mad. so hes like..whatever i'm coming over."
so he came over alright. & i was like, well you should've known before you walked here, i wasnt going to do that. i'm only 13. i'm not a slut. & all this stuff. eventually, i told him to go home. he ended up being really mad at me. we talked for a couple months longer, & then, that ended that. he like tottaly just stopped talking to me, completely.
& i was like so upset. because i then felt like so wrong & guilty. i mean, i didnt know he was being serious. i never thought, that he actually would have came. i never knew i dont know. so then now, i go to his school. hes in like 5 of my classes. & my lunch period. so i see him alotttt. & he looks at me alot. like alot. but he hasnt talked to me yet, & i've been there for like 2 months. & so, also, some of the kids he hangs out with, like hate me. & stuff. &thats not fair, because he basically twisted the story. saying i liked him & everything.
so, now its basically screwing things up there too. like there like, oh wait.. your that girl?
so, i don't know what to do. am i suppose to go up to him apologize? or should i just forget it?
& its like so confusing. because people though keep walking up to me. & theyll be like, wait you dated him? yeah, he always talks about you, in a good way. so like i don't know. i feel weird going up to him & just being like hey.
what should i do? i cant just forget about him. & i'm always feeling so guilty. how do i make it better? & show him that it wasn't my fault, that i didnt know. (link)
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You shouldn't feel guilty, because he shouldn't have been mad at you for not allowing him to come into your house, late, and trying to do something that he shouldn't have. So honestly, you have no reason to feel bad -- you did the right thing.
People change, and I think he's one of those people, and he's changed into a jerk, really. I'm sorry to be so blunt, however, if he really liked you and cared about you -- he wouldn't be mad about that night and he would still be talking to you.
I think you should move on, and let this guy go. He doesn't sound like the good guy type, who is worth waiting for to change. And you can't spend your life waiting for that to happen, because it may never.
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i see these girls in school and they look like super models and me we i am fat and not attractive i have been on the same diet for 2 months and i am eating healthy and exercising right and still have not lost anything what should i do any advice? (link)
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Confidence and self-esteem start from the inside, not on the outside. If you're eating healthy and exercising -- that's great. If you are not overweight, I wouldn't be concerned about this. However, if you are overweight and think you're weight is putting you into some risky health problems, I would consult a doctor.
If you ask me, I would be keep exercising daily, just don't overwork yourself. If you run often, on a treadmill, around the block, or whatever else you'd like -- I'm sure that would help you at least tone up, if not lose some weight.
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ok so i think i have bacterial vaginoses( i cant spell hah) or maybe i just have a lot of discharge. but its gross and embarissing, i no a lot of teenagers. but i dont care, i dont want it, and i dont wanna tell my mom cause its embarissing, so is there any way to get rid of it without going to the doctors? pleaseeee help.
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Discharge is completely normal, even at excessive amounts. However, if you experience a fishy smell or a bread-y type smell -- have it checked out, because it could be an STD or a yeast infection.
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on my old column it was set so that the questions & answers were in bold,but idk how to do it on my new column.please help?
and can someone give me the url for becoming a mod?
thanks. (link)
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Here's the URL for becoming a moderator, as I always say, "When all else fails, read the FAQ."
http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?t=13
I'm not sure how you can permantely set your font to be in bold print, unless you have a paid account. However, you can do it the way I do, and it will make the particular word(s) in bold --
insert word here
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any advice on guys would be helpful. (link)
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Communication is key in any relationship, especially, when you're dating someone. So always talk to your better half, and make things open, honest and clear between the two of you. Otherwise, you have nothing.
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i don't see how tampons work for swimming.. wouldn't it absorb all of the water? then turn it into reddish-bloodish-water and it get all in the water? or the tampon would get so full that it could absorb anymore blood? i don't get it.. please explain. (link)
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No, the tampon won't get absorb any water because it's deep into your vagina. You would do it just as if you weren't in water, change it about every two to three hours.
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Hey. Well, I'm thirteen and I've only made out with a guy [more than one guy, though]. I'm wondering if it's normal for me to not want to go any farther than that..? (link)
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Yes, this is absolutely normal. And in my opinion, a very good thing. You're young, and have plenty of time for something further, when you get older. I really commend you for not wanting to go farther, and standing your grounds.
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I still do not understand why the one whom I love still flirts with me even though he said all the impossible things for not becoming a good boyfriend? Even though he has rejected my feelings, we still hung out for at least once a week together by going out for a walk, supper or for a movie not 1 on 1 but in groups of course. I just do not get it why he would say "let's get together" when I was walking with him alone that day while we got separated with our group of friends. I also do not know why he likes to prove things to me that he is innocent such as, now his friends will tease him with another girl's name while I sometimes will teased him too but he will definetely scold me that its not true or he will explain to me that they are both actually nothing. I do not get it why he does so much on explaining. Is he a flirter or dropping me hints that he loves me? Why is these things happening to me? I am puzzled when these things just hit me like a rock. Anyway, can I know what hints will a guy drop when he loves a girl? (link)
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He may be explaining so much to defend something that could be actually true. So he feels the need to be defensive. Or it could be the opposite, and he could be telling the truth, while liking you. I'm not sure if he's in love with you, but I think only you could tell that, rather than me.
The only for sure way to know if likes/loves you, is to talk to him and ask him about the two of you. Why did he tell you, "let's get together"? And all of the other questions you need answered.
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I think i have genital herpes - how do i know if i have it? I have dots on my testicles and my penis is getting itchy and whenever i itch it, it becomes red. Should i tell my parents? Please tell me the symptoms of Genital herpes. THANKS! (link)
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I think this should be of help to you --
http://www.cdc.gov/std/Herpes/STDFact-Herpes.htm
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14/f Okay, so I had a boyfriend that was absolutely amazing to me, and we went out for almost a year. Well right before our eleven month anniversary, I started talking to another guy, and he started flirting with me. Then I broke up with my boyfriend for him. After 2 months, I realized that I had had what I was looking for all along, and I wanted that back. SO i broke up with the guy I had been going out with. And now my ex-bf (the one i went out w/ for eleven months) barely talks to me, and I just want him to forgive me and for us to be friends(actually more than that) again. I miss everything about him, and I just wish I hadnt made all the mistakes I made. How can I get him to forgive me or take me back? (link)
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I know this is a very hard thing to do, but you need to be honest with him and tell him the truth. Let him know exactly why you broke up with him. Otherwise, he's probably not going to forgive you. Which is something you obviously don't want to happen, so I recommend talking to him, honestly.
Once you talk to him, it will give you ten times more of a chance at him forgiving you. Rather than not telling him at all.
Good luck!
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is there any way i can stop my vaginal lips becoming loose or any way to make them normal again (link)
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No, I'm afraid there's no way you can do that. It's most generally normal, so as far as medically, you have nothing to worry about.
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In school I sit next to this boy and he flirts with me all the time (and everyone says he likes me) and I never know how to act around him because I really like him too and I don't want him to think I don't like him because I act akward what do I do? (link)
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Your best bet right now is subtle flirting. Be sure to talk to him on a daily basis, and maybe, even ask him to hang out with you sometime.
http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/flirt.html
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