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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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All my friends have a crush on my boyfriend.Basically my best friend! She already promise that when me and him broke up she would date him.I AM SO PISSED OFF AT HER!!!! She a freak (like a wierdo)like shes puts eyeshadow on her lips.She is trying to break us up by saying lies to us about the other.She even told him I was datin him for a joke!He didnt believe her (I think).she calls him every day!!!What should i do!!!

Tell her to back off. He's your boyfriend, and he's interested in you. If he wasn't, he wouldn't be with you, he'd be with her.

If she was a true friend, she wouldn't be doing this to you. Obviously she's really fake, so you shouldn't even be friends with her. Friends who care about you would never do what she's doing.

Ditch her, continue your relationship with your boyfriend, and if she keeps messing around, leave him too.

heeyy..
am a 16 year old female.. nd i already got too tired from life.. i wanna gt away from it.. its all that i want right now..
i just wanna know the best way to do it..
and please answer me as soon as possible.. cuz i wanna do it by next week max..
thnxx all xoxox

I'm not going to be rude, but I'm going to be forward. Nobody here is going to help you commit suicide. You need to suck it up.

Life is going to throw a million and one obstacles at you, and whether you're ready for them or not, you need to deal & accept them.

I don't know what you've went through because you didn't say, but trust me when I say that I understand where you're coming from & probably what you're going through.

I have been to hell & back in life. I've had friends die in Iraq, friends steal my boyfriends, people backstab me, my parents almost divorcing, my mom kicking my dad out, meeting my dad's mistress, everything. Not to mention, I was a cutter for many years, and I'm proud to say I haven't cut myself in almost a year.

I always was in the position where I thought my life was over, and that I should end everything because nothing was going to get better & that I would never find happiness.

However, I was too much of a chicken shit to kill myself, so I never did, and I kept going & dealing with my life. And then last year, my life got insanely better.

I met this awesome guy who turned my life around, and changed me for the better. Since meeting him, I have been doing things completely different, and have even moved out of my house.

I think you really need to see a psychiatrist about what you're going through, or talk to someone. A trusted adult, a parent, a sibling, a friend.. Anyone you trust is someone good to talk to you. They may not always understand, but they're always going to be willing to help, or to get you the help you need if they themselves cannot supply it to you.

If you need somebody to be there for you, I am more than willing to help you. You can message me on MySpace, or Facebook. I am also willing to help through IM and E-Mail. My email is 123abchristina@gmail.com, and my sn is on my column as well as my MySpace.

My link to Facebook is: http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/profile.php?id=638268869&ref=profile

Feel free to message me anytime, and I will always be willing to help you, because I understand, and I know that this isn't it. You're not alone even when you think you are.

if you have butt sex are you still a virgin?

No, because you're still having a form of sex.

okay so i live in austin texas and i went to SXSW last weekend at Emo's and i saw a bunch of bands including 3OH!3, hit the lights, the secret handshake, the maine, and so many ohers, and while i was there i saw this really good band and I DONT REMEMBER THE NAME OF IT! it started with 'the red' and i cant remember the rest. and no its not the red jumpsuits apparatus. does anyone know who played or can anyone guess who it was? they were the same music genre as all those other bands so if anyone knows that would be great! thanks in advance :]

I was looking in last month's Alternative Press issue, and the band you're thinking of was called Red Car Wire. :)

can anyone tell me 3 different types of chemical fertilizers for marigolds? and 3 different types or brands of natural fertilizers for marigolds? its for a science fair project.

I am going to be quite direct with you.

We are an advice site. We are not a homework help site. This is not homework, but falls under the same category because it is school related & you WANT the answers. You are not asking for help, you're asking for the answers straight up and we are not going to contribute to cheating and lazyness.

You were too lazy to Google it, so I am too lazy to give a proper answer. :| Sorry!

16/F

is it normal for a 16 year old girl to have some gray hair? I was looking through my hair and found strands of gray hair ...I don't think its genetic because my mother started getting gray hair when she was 25 ..why am I getting gray hair at 16?? Is there any reason as to why and how to stop it?

It could be stress related. My older brother (who is 23) and he has stress as well.

If you pluck them & they grow back gray as well, it could be a pigment related problem. If they grow the color that your hair really is, then I guess it's just stress.

Just try & relax every once in a while before you do something you know could be stressful.

I hope this helps!

k theres this guy lets call him eric, and were like bff's but 2 days ago he said he loved me more than a friend &&i reacted badly and told me ididnt see him that way && a day later he started dating anotehr chick and tells her he loves her but never tells me he loves her is it just me or dusnt this make sense ?? is he just somneone to avoid b/c he tells people he loves them regardless or is he doing it to get over me? idk. help.plz! x0x

I think he's doing it to get over you. Obviously he doesn't love the girl if it's only been a day. Yes, it doesn't make sense, but then again, everyone copes differently & that's just his way.

Obviously you should talk to him about it.

So I dont kno if I am still a virgin or not I have been with 2 guys and when it came time to having sex they barely put their head of their penis into me. So what wold that be?

If they just put the tip in, I would stay it still counts. They're penis still went in you, so no. You're not a virgin.

18 female
I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, nearly 10 and we havnt had sex!
we have stayed over night with each other and went through all the steps but when we get to the stage of actually having sex he pulls away!
I know he isnt a virgin because I know a girl he has slept with! is it me?

First off, props for going this long without sex. You may see it as a bad thing, but other kids jump into sex WAY too quick & it ends up ruining their relationship.

Anyways, why don't you talk to him? Something is telling me that either he respects you too much to go that far with you, OR he had a bad experience with sex prior to dating you. You should talk to him about it and see what he has to say. He probably hasn't said anything to you about it because he's shy, embarrassed or doesn't know how to bring it up with you because he's nervous about how you'll react.

Just talk to him & see what's up. I doubt it's you sweetie. Don't worry. Good luck!

K...so my Boyfriend always talks about how he likes about other girls.Like in gym today,he kept on staring at girls when they were playing volleyball.but heres the thing....Hes joking about the whole thing! just to get on my nerves.
I know hes joking,but it still hurts. hes always ,Can you just tell me what to do? please plz!

You need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend. I'm glad you guys are open with each other, but he's hurting your feelings by some of it.

Talk to him about it & tell him how you feel. Tell him that even you know he's joking, it still hurts & you would really appreciate it if you didn't say stuff like that anymore.

If he agrees to stop, but still continues, sit him down again & give him an ultimatum.

Ok im an 18 year old male. I recently met this 22 year old girl, she is turning 23 in like july or something. Im pretty sure she is into me. My question is, is she too old for me to date?

No, she's a good age. I'm your age and my boyfriend is turning 25 in July.

Just keep the ages in mind because things like marriage or children could come up. I think as long as you're smart about it & you know what you're doing, things will be fine.

Good luck! :)

Well I am a 16 year old female.
I really like this guy who is older.Alot older.(6 years older.)We met through my dad and spiritual beliefs.I spent so much time with him and his personality slowly grew on me, so I fell for the guy.We got caught having sex by my stepmom and now my dad hates him.I miss him alot and occasionally still talk to him.How do you think we should handle the situation?

I honestly do not blame your father for being upset with you & for hating this guy.

He is 22 and you are 16. You are a minor, and he is an adult. What he did is disgusting, and ILLEGAL. He committed a crime & your father has EVERY RIGHT to hate him.

The only thing you can do is respect your father & stop talking to this guy. I'm surprised your father has not called the cops on him. :|

for the last two weeks my boobs have been hurting but only when i tuch them! like a little sore. Than i have also dont seem to be in the mood to have sex in the last 2weeks i havent had sex till yesterday! and i wasnt really in the mood. it was just that i felt sorry for my boyfriend. could i be prego?

Have you skipped your period? You need to take a test to be positive before you jump to conclusions about being pregnant.

http://the-new-90210.com/2008/12/08/jessica-lowndes-shops-at-bebe/26818pcn_jessica01/

does anyone know where i can get a dress like this??
with the lace on the top??
thats not super expensive??
thaanks

You should try Forever 21, or Charlotte Russe. You might find it there. If not, try department stores like Macy's.

I have a really good friend. We are basically "online" friends, although we go to the same school. The thing is, he is too shy to talk to me in person, what should I do?

Talk to him first! Go up & say hi & carry on the conversation. I realize he's shy, but there's no reason why you can't initiate a conversation.

15/f
Im going to a party this week and i know there's going to be drinking. im scared if i get drunk ill let my secrets out that i dont want people to know. will that happen? even as small as they might be?

thaanks

I recommend you don't drink at all. You're 15 so you shouldn't be drinking anyways. Obviously I am not your parent, but it would be smart if you listened to this & didn't drink.

Ive seen a few people with a new style of a myspace layout. I cant find it anywhere.can i get a site with layouts? or explain how to do it

That's the new version of a MySpace layout. It's called Version 2.0. You can get it by editing your profile like you normally would, but you click Profile Editor once you get to the edit page. Then you change it to 2.0 & there you have it!

ok i'm 17/f and a virgin.
but every time my boyfriend comes over or i'm around him for long periods of time, it feels like my vagina sweats. and my underwear is wet when i go to the bathroom to check and see if my period came early or something. sometimes there's tons of clear discharge too. is this normal? it's always worse right after we've made out a whole lot, like i got kinda turned on or something. what causes this and is this normal for girls?
thanks!

You're getting turned on. When that happens, your vagina gets wet which is basically what's happening to you. It's completely normal.

My boyfriend and I are thinking of having sex but I'm worried. Is it possible to contract syphilis, AIDS or other seriously dangerous diseases if the guy has a condom? He, I know, is not a virgin, and who knows who his ex-girlfriend slept with before him...

It is possible to contract it if the condom breaks. But as far as I know, they do protect you from HIV/AIDS & STD's.

Here's a website containing more information that you might find helpful:

http://www.avert.org/usecond.htm

Please be safe. The risks are endless, and it helps so much to be responsible. Also, be sure you're ready because if you're not, you'll regret it highly.

My friend's a Chinese and he's currently in Spain touring. He told me this:

"yesterday when i was gg back to collect my luggage before heading to the bus station, got this guy with 2 frens and his infant son started pointing at me, saying something, i just ignore and kept walking

then he approached me for cigarettes, i said dun have then quickly enter my hostel"

Also, he told me that while he was in Munich, he got stared at by some people as well.

Are they being racist? I don't really get what is going on here. Can someone maybe tell me why are they behaving like so? I'm a Chinese too and I'm not from Spain so I don't really understand what is going on.

Well, they're either racist or in awe of his features. They probably don't get many Asians coming through their country, so they don't see it a lot & it causes them to stare. They probably weren't trying to be rude, but they were by staring & pointing.

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