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Q: so my friends having a party and he invited all of my friends, except me..what should i do? should i confront him? or just leave it go?

PS.
it made me mad to know he did this but w/e
I would definitly comfront him. You can be like joking and say so hows your party coming along? Or you can be serious and say Am I your freind. HE will prob. say yes then say, then why wasn't I invited to your party. I know how it feels when you don't get invited to a friends party.. I would definitly say something to him because I know it can hurt.

Q: ok its a wierd quetion but here goes. i am a guy who loves to try new things and i recently have felt the urge to try new sexual things such as with my best friend who is a guy tha always brags about his size i have been wandering if his braggings r true and if it would be fun or not im kinda adventuras please tell me if i should go for it or not and explaine also please thanx in advance
ok well this is a hard question.. go ahead and do it if you want to. don't feel pressured to do it. if you really want to do it go ahead bcause that doesn't reall ymean you are gay. if you are gay you must have intimate feelings for this guy. go ahead and have fun with it because you don't know if you will ever be able to do it again. !! hopd that helped... drop one in my inbox if u need more help!

Q: ok i take modern, and as you may or may not know, its basically ballet without any shoes. I have a problem though. I cant turn because my feet always get stuck. Ive tried putting powder on them before i leave my house but it doesnt work. How can i make my feet tougher and easier to turn on? thanks
-a desperate dancer
I don't know if your allowed to use them at your studio, but at mine we use these shoes. They are called modern shoes and they help. Or put lotion, or rason on them!!

Q: Okay so I'm wanting to get something new. I was thinking about getting some side sweep bangs and having my hair cut into layers.

I've been cursed with very fine hair and I'm looking for something that would make my hair appear fuller and thicker and something that is easy to maintain as I don't have alot of time in the mornings.

If you have any suggestions PLEASE post some pictures that I can bring in to my stylist.

Thanks!
ok well sorry.. you asked for help and I gave you all I could do. almost every hairstyle now -a-days have side bangs and layers. you can try angles but almost every celebraty have that. thats almost all you can do with fine hair!

Q: sorry i didn't know what catagory to put this in.

ok i'm 13 and i just got a straightener. i heard that if you use it too much your hair gets really dry and it's unhealthy...so for people that straighten your hair...how many times would be too much? like how many times could you straighten your hair in a week without it becoming unhealthy? thx!
I straighten my hair everyday! Sometimes even twice a day and my hair is really soft and silky. That's because I use these products from a company called Aquage. It works great! Here is the website:
http://www.aquage.com/index.html

I use the straigtening ultragel and the beyond shine spray! If you decide to get it, drop one in my inbox and I will tell you how to use it!

-Make sure you wash your hair with shampoo AND conditioner.

Hope that helped!!

Q: Hey
Thanx for heping me. I was wondering when should my period start? i have been having cramps and i also have been so mean lately? And please dont aswer like this " it should be coming soon but enjoy not having because when it comes it hurts"
Well I'm not EXACTLY sure when.. it depends on your age kind of and how far along in puberty you are. If you are 12 or younger you may not have it soon. But if your 13-15 you will probably have it soon. If you have like size 32-16 As then it also may be coming. If you have been having a lot of discharge you may be getting it VERY soon. You may just have to go to the bathroom if you have cramps and also you may just be in a bad mood... you those aren't the only signs... Well I hoped I answered your question enough!!

Q: I masterbate but i haven't had my period. I have big boobs so I would've thought I should of had it by now, but I don't. I can't ask my mom when she had hers because she died, so do you think masterbating affects my period?
Nope not at all... be thankful you don't have your period yet though!

Q: how can i tunr a guy down easily like because hes really cool but i dont like him that way i dont want to hurt his feelings because hes like sensitve like that


please help



brittany
You could say that you don't want a boyfreind right now. Or be like, You are really cool and I love being freinds with you, and I really don't want to loose that. I want to become better friends with you. You can say that you don't like him that way, or you like someone else. But compliment him like say, I feel like I can tell you anything but I don't see how this is going to work out. Or something.... he will understand, I promise

Q: 14/f
i've never really been like, close with my mom. like we're not really friends. but umm i just got my period and ummmmm i know i have to like tell her sometime! but i don't know how because it would be soo embaressing. should i just tell her or like...? idk!
What I said was, "Mom, I have this brown stuff in my underwear." Then she said you prob. got your period yadda yadda ya. I would say that... I'm really close with my mom too and I didn't know how to tell her. Don't worry and just relax, count to three and say it.

Q: i have been getting discharge for about 6 months, and i asked waht it was when i first started getting it. i was told that it means that i am going to get my period soon. but it has been a half a year and i still dont have my period. why is this and when will i get it? and please don't say, "oh you are so lucky not to have your period don't worry about it it will come when it comes it isnt something you want." because that is not my question. my question is why i haven't gotten it even though i have been getting discharge for a long time, and when will i get my period.
I got disgharge for 2 and a half years before getting my period. So, it really depends on the person. If you are pretty developed and on the puberty scale of about 4, then you should get it soon. Also, you can get your period around the same time your mom got it. If it's really heavy (your discharge I mean) then you should get it soon. Otherwise, you may not get it for a while. It also depends on your age, if you are 14 or 13, you will get it soon. If your older then 14 you will def. get it soon and if you are younger then 13 then you may not get it for a little. It's different for everyone. Hope that helped some!

Q: how to tell if a girl likes me?!?

age 13
gender male
p.s. girl i am asking about is a grade younger then me
Here are some ways
-she IMs you right when you get online
-she flirts with you
-wants to hang out with you
-listens to what you are saying and responds back
-lights up whenever she sees you or when you say hi
-always says hi to you
-invites you places
-if their freinds talk about her with you and asks you if you like her ---> that one is a definite!

There are a ton! I hope I helped, write back if you want some more help!

Q: I'm 15/f, and I have a major problem flirting. I'm really bad at it. I never know when I'm doing it too much, and coming on too strong and going to scare a guy away, but other times I'm too quiet and the guy doesn't even know I like him. How do I flirt successfully? How much can I get away with without crossing the line?
Flirting is one of the best things ever! It's so much fun. All you need to do is act natural. Relax and have fun. Here are some ways:
1) Laugh at his jokes
2) PLay with an earring or necklace.
3) Smile
4) Make sure you are honest and don't be like oh yes I play tennis, when you really don't.
4) Make sure you are looking at him and not somewhere else.
5) Respond to what he is saying. Ask questions, or be like OMG I know she's such a hard teacher or w/e.
6) Lightly touch his arm or something.

Here is a really good website that could help more: http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/flirtbasic.html
and here is ADVANCED flirting tips (for in the future) ;]: http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/proflirt.html

So I helped that help and check out those websites.. they help! There is one about guys and stuff too: http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/flirt.html

BE CONFIDENT AND HAVE FUN!

Q: Okay so i've got a BIGGG habit of biting my nails! what can i do to stop? and don't tell me to put my hand in dog poo or anything like that because thats gross lol!

thankyou sweeties xo
My mom used to have this problem. She used this like clear nailpolish that tasted bad. So, when she started to bit, she would pull away her hand quickly because it tasted awful. It wasn't really nailpolish, I know you asked for something different then nailpolish.. but you can find what I'm talking about at a drug store.

Q: Okay, so I'm on birth control pills and my periods are always evenly spaced apart, but this month I got my period like a week early. A day and a half before I got it though my boyfriend and I had sex a few times. Could that have made it come early or is there something wrong with me that I started so early?
No it's fine. Don't worry. It's so common to have irregular periods every now and then. It's just irregular and you may stay on this cycle. Bottom line, don't worry you are fine.

Q: what does birth control mean?
It's to help you so you don't have a baby until you want to. So like if you want to have sex, you don't have to worry as much at getting pregnant if you don't want to. There is also a birth control pill.

Hope that helped!

Q: How do you make out? How do you know when you use your tongue? Where do you put your hands?

Thanx.
Making out just comes naturally. Start of kissing (mouth closed) then he will open his mouth and his tongue may push into yours. Explore his mouth. Run your toungue over his lips, his teeth, his tongue etc. You could push your tongue into his mouth then his tongue into your mouth and back and fourth. As for the hands, you can hold his hands, or put them around his neck and kind of massage his neck. For more information you can go to the websites:
http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/kiss.html
http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/french.html

Hope that helped!

Q: ohkay so i have naturally wavy hair, the only thing i can do with my hair is straighten it, i really want to be able to like scrunch it or curl it, does anyone have any ideas on like a mouse or spray i can put in my hair as to where it will scrunch or curl easier (( please not expensive!!))

thanksss bunchesss
When I scrunch mine I get it really wet. Then use this mega hold gel. It works great. Then I use this curling spray and shine stuff. (It's from that stuff by Hillary Duff...don't be fooled it works!) Then I finish it with hairspray and I sometimes blow dry it.

Q: Ok is their anything that I can eat or do to make my boobs BIGGER?!?!
There are pills and stuff but nothing else. Or you could wear a super padded bra. But remember, your boobs should be porportional to your body. If your smaller then smaller boobs look so much better. If your skinny smaller boobs look so much better too. If you ever see models all there boobs are like size 32s-36s!

Hope that helped! Be happy with how you are!

Q: some guys that i know.. not really MY friends.. but we kinda have some same friends.. text me and are like "ur flat" .. and i think they all think that. and i know i shouldn't care and whatever but is that all anyone thinks? it's so annoying and idk what to dooo

i rate highhhh
You should just ignore those dumb-ass guys. Your just not fully developed yet. I am really flat but one of my best freinds, he's a guy, said if you are skinny, small boobs look better. They are just being perverted. If you really care, buy a padded bra or something. Or say something mean back to them like, well at least I don't have pimples all over my face or something like that. Or be sexy and say why are you looking at my chest? Or Oh so you noticed? Or you can just say So what why do you even care? Just don't worry about it pretty much! Being flat is betting then being too big!

Q: Im really small. 75lbs.
How can I gain weight and get well bigger breasts and stuff.
Ill rate 5's.
Eat more calories and carbs. Your boobs will grow as you get older. Remember they don't completely stop growing until 18-21 years old. So don't worry. I'm small and have like no boobs but I don't care cause it fits my body size-small and skinny. I'm porportional, which you are too. So eat more carbs and calories and you can do it!

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Hey! I am Marissa and I'm 16. I live in South Carolina and I love to dance and laugh. I liek to give advice and help people a lot so feel free to ask me anything and I promise I will get back to you! &hearts

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