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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


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(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



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Well yesterday i sae my belly button had a few small black hairs around it so i decided to but some hair dye on it and i did it started itching and left a lighter skin tone to the rest of my body!! the black hairs have gone now but i have my belly button pierced and wondered if it would have got infected or anything please help lush me xxxxxx

why would you dye the hair on your stomach? that makes no sence, next time just get it waxed

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i was going out with this guy john secretly (i broke up with him though) b/c my friend alexia said taht if i went out with him then she would turn everybody against me. i didn't think that was fair so i went out with him secretly. but she found out and so did the whole school. i denied it but john didn't. everyone beleved me. but then my friend set me up and alexia was on the line listening. now she is REALLY PISSED at me. she is hella mad and might drop me as a friend and turn the whole school against me. she even said she was thinkn about it. i dont know what to do b/c SHE WILL turn everyone against me. she's already done it to some people. i just really dont know what to do. im not blaming anyone but myself. Please what should i do??!!

don't blame yourself, she's just being a jealous bitch, it's obvious that alexia likes this john guy or else she wouldn't make such a big deal out of the whole situation, tell her to fuck off and don't back down, even if she turns the whole school against you (which i doubt that she could turn the WHOLE school against you, i bet you'll still have one or more friends and those are the one's that matter) i really hope i helped you
*~*shan*~*

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What are some signs that a guy is going to break up with you?

the biggest one is if he gets distant, like not returning your calls or not talking to you when you see him. or even breaking plans
*~*shan*~*
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please help me. my ex-boyfriend, who i just broke up with yesterday, is now all of a sudden going out with my best friend!! i have no idea what to do, any advice?

WHOA! major major breech of the "girl code" i hate to say this but maybe you should back track to when you and your boyfriend where dating and find out if he was cheating on you with her. and if she was any kind of friend to you she'd never hook up with your ex at all. that's just not cool
*~*shan*~*

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Ok well, I think this is gonna be kinda long...maybe. But the other day at a birthday party one of my friends Sam she was like PMSin or something. And like she started being all rude and everything and then like she and Marlo and the other Sam and Anjelite were at the back room talking trash about me and Brittany (my friend) and now like they're all mad about nothing. And i didn't even do anything! It was her who started all this bs!!! Please hellp me!!!!
-Cowgirlie

PS:I'm real stubborn so I'm not gonna apologize first lol...just the way I am!! toodles!

hell if i was you i wouldn't apologize first either, sounds to me like they're just being immature and you're better off without them, just let them be children and you and your friend brittany just chill like you always do
*~*shan*~*

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ok ive been "going out" with this guy "Adam" for about 3 years now, and i am truelly in love with this kid. You wouldnt believe. He has told me that he loves my, and all that jazz, but the outher day, he told me he waas falling for another girl. Not as hard as he fell for me. he was all like " i just thought you should know, and i still love you more than anything, and i still wanna hang out, because you are the only girl i have fun with" My question is, should i really be woried, and another thing is i dont know how to talk to him about it. I rate high!

well i hate to say this but if he's looking at another girl maybe it's time for you to start checking out other guys, a while ago me and my current boyfriend broke up, so i started to see other people, while i was doing this he realized that he still loved me and it worked out very well for the two of us
*~*shan*~*

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hi i am fourteen years of age and i have never had a partner, which means ive never been to any of the bases!! is the first kiss always the worse? i dont know what i am supposed to do when i am going to kiss somebody, like what your supposed to do with the lips, teeth, and tounge, and i am scared! i dont want to feel akward when i really suck at kissing..and im not really talented!! someone please tell me what i should do!

i think that most people who haven't had their first kisses feel the same way. your first kiss is one that you will never forget, there's really no advice anyone can give you, when the time comes for your first kiss you'll know what to do, it's like second nature
*~*shan*~*

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ok sorry if this is kinda long....this is really hard for me to talk about ive never talked about this with anyone other than my aunt...
ok so my 28 year old aunt came and visited me and we are really close...and i was telling her that i think my parents are growing apart...and she said "no offense sweetie, but ive kinda always had a theory that your dad is gay, i mean me and your mom talk and the last time they had sex was when your brother was concieved...10 years ago" and naturally, i did take offense but i didn't tell her...the truth is is that ive always kinda thought the same thing but i haven't told anyone. ive been thinking about it recently because i caught my dad flirting with his boss (who is gay and tells everyone that he is) and my parents haven't spent there last two anniversaries together! my mom was out of state so my dad decided to spend them with his boss!! my dad also uses phrases like "oh my gosh" and "whatever" in a velley girl way...and he is very into fashion...and he is very feminine in everything he does....i mean hes not tall and buff actually quite the opposite...hes about 5'3 and 160 lbs.! I don't know what to do...some of my friends have asked me if hes gay and it really hurts me...but now...im starting to believe them...please help me! What should i do?? should i talk to my mom about this???

- hurt deep down -
Ill rate for anyone who actually takes my feelings into consideration...

try talking to you dad, let him know that you love him and that you want to know if he's hiding anything from you, make sure that you let him know that you're not asking him because you want to judge him, let him know that you're asking because you care and you love him. and if it turns out that he is truly gay, there's nothing wrong with that, i'm sure that you will totally love him all the same. hope i helped
*~*shan*~*

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Most of my friends dads look at porn! My friend told me almost every dad does it! But I thought my dad would never do it but one day i saved my paper I wrote for school and went into my dads documents and I saw all these things like adults only! Then I was going to savethemusic.com and when i typed in s i saw like sexmania.com or somehting like that! So is my dad looking at these things? Well duh but how do I deal with this situation? I wanna tell my mom but what?

talk to your dad, this might be aqward but it needs to be done, tell him that you know about his habits but he needs to stop
*~*shan*~*

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I have a major problem. I'm best friends with this guy. The only problem is I have a crush on him. Do I tell him and risk losing our friendship or do I not tell him at all? Please Help!

let him know how you feel, but tell him first that no matter what, your friendship is more important, butthat's just how you feel
*~*shan*~*

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well me and my best friend have been friends for 9 months. and i love him to death! i was thinken of asken him who he liked/loved or something today but then i found out he was talking be hind my back!!! calling me a slut and a bitch! he gets mad at me very easy. what should i do talked to him about it? i don't want him to get mad at me ! please help

i rate high

it's time to stop being so shy about it, if he's talking shit then you need to be very vocal about it. if he can't say anything to your face that he's saying behind your back, then he's no friend of yours
*~*shan*~*

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Im head of heels for this boy (you honestly couldnt even imagine). He's absolutly perfect in every way imaginable. Well almost.. he's not brad pit (lol) but his personality shines through and makes him beautiful. What's my problem? He introduced me to his best friend who is equally wonderful.. and he is brad pit (if you catch my drift). Im not dating either one of them because Im not allowed to date. But it was sort of understood that him (the first boy) and I were together. But this best friend of his has jumbled my heart. I've fallen for both boys in completely different ways. Should I choose one or leave them both to save their friendship?

first of all, you're not in love, you are in like, trust me there is a difference, if you were truly in love then you wouldn't have a problem because if you were in love with the first boy then you wouldn't have fallen for the other one. you're just going to have to leave them both or else you'd ruin their friendship and lives
*~*shan*~*

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I used to like this boy and I found out he was a total idiot. I used 2 like b in love with him and I don't even know why. The sad part is I lost him to an "Artificial Plastic Barbie". This girl so plastic its scary. She dyed her hair blonde and its like bleach blonde. She wears globs of eye makeup like you can't imagine to cover up wrinkles she has and thats why I consider her "artificial". I don't kno why he likes her, but now they both talk about me behind my back and say how weird I am and stuff, and I didn't even do anything to them! Now this feeling of love that I used to have has turned into hate. I have never hated anyone really, and I have never hated anyone this strongly. I hate her and him for just liking each other. It bothers me. I can't concentrate in class, I can't sleep, I can't have a normal conversation with my friends anymore without mentioning how much I hate them. I don't want to be this way, but I just am. I really need some help!

~ Doesn't wanna b a hater ~

you're not a hater, she's just a bitch, that's all

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My boyfriend and I have been dating since I was in eighth. He is currently a senior and I'm a junior. I haven't made a decision as to where I'd like to go to college yet because I don't want to be far from my boyfriend. Yes, I know I am young but my boyfriend and I wanted to eventually get married and live together when we both got out of highschool. My question is this: Do you think it's the wrong thing to do choosing to go to the same college or one near the college your boyfriend is going to, just to be near to him? I know people that would think it's a stupid idea, but I want to be with my boyfriend. We've talked about it alot and I'm not sure what I'm going to do! I was even thinking about this back when I first started dating him 4 years ago. These four years have gone by fast and I figured I'd have a plan in place by now. I just need help. I don't know where I should go! Also, I don't even know what I want to do for a living, so I was going to see if there was anything at the colleges that he chose. Does that seem like the wrong thing to do? PLEASE HELP! I'm so lost and confused.

if you know that you two are going to be together and get married, then the only thing that anyone can tell you is to do what you think is right, just follow you're heart (i know it sounds cheesy but it worked for me)
*~*shan*~*

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okay so im goin out with this boy and im like crazy about him and hes known ta b a playa and im aware of that. and ive kinda been holdin back. well he told me that hes liked me more than ever! and that he is really happy with me and that he relly does love me and that he never wants ta b apart from me.. well this valentines im scared ta buy him n e thing this soon cuz everyday i wake up thinkin hes gonna break up with me and he knows how i feel and he kinda gets upset but we can talk about n e thing! and we do! we talk about every thing i guess im just paraniod but wut shouldi do? does it sound like he really does like me?!?

here's what i've found out, once a player always a player, there's no getting around it, just be aware that he might break your heart
*~*shan*~*

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i need an answer with in 25-30 mintues
alright so theres a guy basketball game at 6..my best friend wants me to go and she just called the thing is my boyfriend is over protective like that so he mite care if i went to a guys basketball game but..hes playing football sot heres no way i can call him and ask him or w.e for a while..should i just go and tel him and tkae the chance or should i go and say i went shopping with ym mom or should i just stay home?

if you want to go to the game then go, he's not your parent if he doesn't like the fact that you want to go to the game he's just going to have to deal
*~*shan*~*

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im a girl, and latley (the past two months or so) i feel so sad and ive been really bitchy. at first i thought i may be PMSing. but not for two months! everything just feels sad and i cant seem to think happy thoughts or look on the bright side of anything. and surprisingly it doesnt bother me. like its no big deal, i dont contemplate suicide or anything like that and i dont cry or act all wierd, ive just been really quiet and to myself. i just feel so empty and broken. like nothing matters anymore and everythings worthless. but like i said, its not bothering me, i just wanna know why all of a sudden i feel like this, and what i should do. please help me out, just tell me what you think. thanks

you could be suffering from mild depression, it's a possiblity, talk to your mom and let her know how you're feeling and why YOU think that you feel this way
*~*shan*~*

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I cut myself. When i feel super bad i cut myself. And i know it's a horrible thing to do. I need to stop. Does anybody have any suggestions about how to stop? Going to an adult is not an option. Please help.

talk to your friends or call a hotline, i used to cut myself a lot to the point where now i can't wear pants because of all the scars on my legs, but i found out that i could talk to my boyfriend about things that were bothering me and he could help me feel better by talking to me and helping me work through my problems, if that doesn't work the try writing some things in a journal, and why is going to an adult not an option? anything can be an option as long as you're open to it
*~*shan*~*

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13/f. OH MY GAWD. K so like I just have a 5 person orgy. (we usd condums) but the guy I was doing at the time has an std and he wore a condom but it broke and he spermed in me. And then I had sex with 2 other guys and rubbed my vagina on a chick. We all might be in danger. Today my vagina was bleeding! What do I do? I might be pregnant and have an std, and Im apposed to have sex again today with a different guy! Wut do I do?!?!?! help me!!

xoxo

P.S. Dont call me a slut cause im not!

hunny, you're a slut, deal with it, sometimes it's ok to be that way, and if this is a joke (which i half suspect that it is) then you're pretty twisted, first off you're too young to be having sex and second you're retarded for letting a guy come in you or even having sex with a guy that you know has an std, use your brain!
*~*shan*~*

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ok theres this guy at my school whos a junior and im a sophmore and hes soo sweet..hes not really that HOTT but hes not ugly..and he has the BIGGEST crush on me ever...we hang out everyday and stuff and we went to a bonfire together and we held hands and kissed...the thing is...i have a boyfriend of 6 months who i really do love....and ive never cheated on him til now...i totally regret it..and wil never do it again but i feel so bad and now ryan (the guy i kissed) is all upset because i told him i cant cheat on my boyfriend no more and stuff and hes all hurt...but some of my friends knew about what happened and they want me to tell my boyfriend soo bad but i dont want to..i just want to let it go and never do it again :( and ryan calls me 24/7 even when im w/my boyfriend!! idk what to do please help me... :(

you've got to tell him, if he finds out from someone else it'll be a million times worse
*~*shan*~*

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