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The right thing to do?
My boyfriend and I have been dating since I was in eighth. He is currently a senior and I'm a junior. I haven't made a decision as to where I'd like to go to college yet because I don't want to be far from my boyfriend. Yes, I know I am young but my boyfriend and I wanted to eventually get married and live together when we both got out of highschool. My question is this: Do you think it's the wrong thing to do choosing to go to the same college or one near the college your boyfriend is going to, just to be near to him? I know people that would think it's a stupid idea, but I want to be with my boyfriend. We've talked about it alot and I'm not sure what I'm going to do! I was even thinking about this back when I first started dating him 4 years ago. These four years have gone by fast and I figured I'd have a plan in place by now. I just need help. I don't know where I should go! Also, I don't even know what I want to do for a living, so I was going to see if there was anything at the colleges that he chose. Does that seem like the wrong thing to do? PLEASE HELP! I'm so lost and confused.
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if you know that you two are going to be together and get married, then the only thing that anyone can tell you is to do what you think is right, just follow you're heart (i know it sounds cheesy but it worked for me)
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Ordinarily, I would say it was a bad idea to base your college decision on your boyfriend. In this case, though, since you've been together so long and don't really have a strong preference on where you go to school, I say go for it. As long as he's going to a decent school (or at least near one, so you could go to it), then why not? It's pretty rare, but some high school sweethearts do stay together. Good luck!
S
Hmmm, I am going to disagree with S's answer on this one. You shouldn't base your decision on where you are attending school based on your boyfriend. I married my high school sweetheart, and we went to college in different states. Once you get away from home though, you may decide that theres a whole other world out there and you may or may not decide to stay together. If it's meant to be, it will be.
J
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I'm going to make a departure from my usually rational advice and tell you to go for it. :)
It's totally normal to not have a clue what you want to do. If your boyfriend is going to a University, it should have plenty of options available for you. You can enter as "undecided", and make up your mind later.
If your boyfriend is going to "Party U." on a sports scholarship and the school's only programs are football and underwater basket weaving, then you probably don't want to go there. :)
If you don't know what you want to go for, picking any reasonably good college for the first two years should be fine. When you decide what you want to do, you can decide if you will need to change schools.
I usually tell people not to make big decisions like this based on teenage relationships, but one of the very few things I regret in life is doing the "right and rational" thing and going to the "good school" rather than following my heart when I got out of high school.
Good Luck, in your choice of schools and your life. :)
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well ii dOn`t thiink it`sz wrOng because if yur planniinq a future with him then maybe stayiinq close together wud be best b/c what if one of yu cheat b/c yur soo misrible without each other.. so i doN`t thiink its soo wrOng! hOpe this helpS! xO
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Hye
1) no, you want to be close to him it is perfectly fine!
2) What is your b/f majoing in? Maybe you can mayjor in buisness and help him in his buisness!
♥ Michelle
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