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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

advice

i like a guy who is my boyfriend's best friend and he has a girlfriend too. at the beginning he gave reaction to me but later he stopped. i want him back so badly but the problem is with him i dont know why. what should i do exactly to make him want me?

if you're in a relationship, you should NOT be trying to make anyone want you, especially not your boyfriends best friend.
and hes not giving a reaction to you because he has a girlfriend who he probably really likes and since you are both off limits, he's not going to give into you until you are both single because if he gave you a reaction before and isnt now, then that clearly means he is VERY into his girlfriend now.
so if youre not happy in your relationship, just get out of it. how would you feel if your boyfriend was doing this with your best friend ? if you dont care, then dont be with him. if you do care, then you need to be dedicated to him.
so instead of asking, "what should i do exactly to make [my boyfriend best friend] want me?" you should be asking, "what should i do exactly to make my BOYFRIEND want me?" or even.. "what should i do exactly to make my BOYFRIEND and our relationship better so we're both happy?"
i dont mean to be harsh, but its not fair to him that youre doing this and its not fair to you either because youre not being honest to you or your boyfriend.
good luck ! xxo.

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What is the best way for me to show my girl friend that she means the world to me and that i fully trust her and love her with all of my heart?

just be yourself and be cute to her.
ill give you some tips that my boyfriend did:
- he wrote me a poem for no reason at all.
- he buys me flowers and surprises me with them for NO REASON :]
- when we're cuddling and he thinks im sleeping he'll whisper in my ear, telling me how much he loves me.
- he remembers the little things :]
- he takes me out to dinner, or we'll cook together :]
- he tells me his secrets.. things no one knows.
- he listens to me.
- he cries infront of me.
- he tells me im beautiful and that he trusts me and loves me more than i know.
- we made eachother 200 reasons why i love you lists.
- he gets me hot chocolate [even though my skin AND waistline cant take everyday hot chocolate haha]

and i mean, im not a material girl, but if you would like to give your girlfriend a presnt, you could get her an engraved necklace with both of your initials on it and maybe like the word forever or the date you started dating her on it.
the main thing is not showing your grilfriend, but telling her and proving it. and when i say prove it, i mean tell her how much you love her everyday and dont break any promises or anything. just love her for who she is and i promise you, she'll know.
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo. :]

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How do I get over being dumped without even an explanation or a phone call?

:[ im sorry. i know how you feel. with my last ex, i never got a phone call OR explanation or closure or anything and its going to take some time, but you will get over it.
you just need to occupy yourself and look for other fish in the sea, because there are PLENTY.
go out with your friends, have a good time, eat chocolate and ice cream, watch hilarious movies, have FUN. you dont need a relationship or the person who broke up with you.. trust me.
listen to music.. pump up music, not that sappy sad stuff.. but empowering music because you need to be lifted up not knocked down.
talk to other people.. delete your ex's phone number, pretty much just delete him off of everything including your life. do your best not to think about him, and if you have to.. act like you dont care and that youre fine because in due time, you will be. keep your head held high and a smile on your face, because if you trick yourself into think youre fine, you eventually will be and you wont have to trick yourself anymore :]
write about it, like write out your feelings. maybe even write your ex a letter telling him/her how you feel but dont send it, because you know that he/she doesnt deserve an ounce of your time or words.
vent to your friends, that also helps.
just know that youll be okay :] good luck, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

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can a brother make sex with his sister

incest [noun]: the crime of sexual intercourse, be intimate, or marriage between persons [family] is legally forbidden.

thats the definition, in other words: NO. thats just gross. like really gross. and unless you live in kentucky, its not even LEGAL.
but its still disgusting.
so no. a SISTER and a BROTHER can NOT have sex TOGETHER.

xxo.

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How can I turn on this guy and make him want to have sex but just tease him because I dont want to go all the way yet?

uhm, okay. im gonna state this pretty bluntly...
unless he's your boyfriend, and you know eachothers boundaries, playful teasing or any teasing at all is NOT okay.
like all of the advice below me, teasing can get you into trouble. a lot of girls can get raped or have other bad things happen to them because of teasing. boys can be aggressive and some arent going to like to be teased.. hormones take over and thats when things take a turn for the worse.
if you dont want to go all the way, dont tease anyone. go as far as you want to, be safe and make it clear that you dont want to have sex.. and any of your other morals.
and turning him on is easy.. just kiss him, make out with him.. kiss his neck and stuff, but dont tease him. seriously.
good luck ! hope i helped ! xxo.

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I have a HUGE crush on a guy and I really wanna know if he likes me back I HAVE NO IDEA on how to tell if he likes me or not He flirts with lots of girls but lately hes been treating me really nicely and trys to talk to me when im at lunch,walking down the halway etc.

aww :] well, here are some things to look for to tell if he likes you:

- his body language: if hes leaning towards you when you talk or approaches you first and neither of you step back.. thats a really good sign :] [he also might try to talk badly about other guys to make himself look good]

- eye contact: if he tries to catch your eye or is staring at you and/or TRYING to make eye contact with you.. its good.

- touching: if he lightly touches your arm or leg or something.. maybe even goes in or a hug or puts his arm around you, thats also a very good sign :] or if he doesnt move if your leg happens to touch his or something.

- if you notice that he goes out of his way to talk to you or see you.

- smile: if hes constantly flashing a big smile at you, its good.. i mean, smiles usually arent a bad thing in general haha.

- laughing: if he tries to make you laugh a lot :]

- talking: he might get nervous or a little tounge tied around you because he wants to impress you :]

- he might show off in front of you, or his friends will tease him and stuff when you walk by because they know he likes you or something. [its little hints like that]

- compliments: he'll probably send some compliments your way, like maybe tell you that youre hair looks good or that youre cute or funny.. anything along the lines of a compliment are good signs.

if you want some more tips and stuff, check out this website: http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You

i hope i helped ! and i hope this works out for you :] good luck ! xxo.

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Thank you for the advice! Normally, I would've told him everything and asked him everything in the first place, but I'm too scared to. Yes, I know it's natural to be, but not usually for me. I've been known to take risks.. but I really don't want to screw anything up like, with our friendship... the little friendship we have. I just want everything to go back to the way it used to be, when we were just talking casually. I know you're probably going to tell me to tell HIM that, not you. And I really should, because that's the same advice I just gave someone else on here. I just don't wanna ruin anything. What if I do tell him everything, and he says that we shouldn't talk anymore? I know, I can hear it now, "if that's how he's going to be, then forget about him! He's not the only guy in the world". But I still don't understand why he would've wasted his time in the first place! If he thought the age thing was weird, why would he (for lack of better words) lead me on like that?

youre very welcome :] and okay. i'll relate my life to your situation..
i went out with this guy frehsman year, it was awkward.. we only communicated via technology and i broke up with him via technology haha [it only seemed like the right thing to do] and we legit cut off all communication, i honestly never thought wed talk ever again, but then.. senior year, this year, we started talking again and ive been with him for almost 6 months now :] ANYTHING can happen. im a true believer in that, so dont think that it could never happen, because i think it could, and not just for that reason but i also think it could work because you guys have talked and you have a bit of a friendship with him, so its not like you are both perfect strangers who youve been admiring from a far, yuh know ?
and yes, i know how you feel. im not going to tell you to tell him how you feel right now as in right this second after you read this, but i am going to tell you that you probably should sometime in the future, when you have the confidence to. yeah, youre probably always going to be scared shitless to say anything to him about your feelings, but if you build a better friendship with him and let it go for now, your chances of possibly being with him will definitely get better. so i say wait. thats my vote. talk to him like this never happened and go from there.. everything will fall back into place, trust me.
and okay. lets say you DID tell him everything and he DOES say that you guys shouldnt talk anymore .. then let it go. yeah, hes not the only guy in the world, but if this were to happen, then why keep trying ? being rejected is not fun, and some guys get off on knowing they can get girls to like them.. even though that guy may seem totally different, theyre not. [not all of them, but just some] if he was leading you on, it was for his benefit and for his e-go boost. yeah that sucks, but thats reality. i mean, everyone likes being liked.. its undeniable, so knowing or having a hunch that you like him couldve made him feel more confident and he likes having people like him.. but this is all IF he told you that you guys shouldnt talk anymore..
which PROBABLY wouldnt happen. most guys dont just say that, because its way too harsh.. and from what youve told me, he seems really chill and nice. i dont even think he wouldnt want to talk to you anymore, i mean, it could be awkward for a couple days, but i really think that since he's "different" than the average jock, hed be sweet to you and not even be like.. well eff off. yuh know ? i think youre psyching yourslef out with the what ifs. just go with the flow :] he probably wants to be your friend and not have anything be weird, so just think about that.
good luck ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

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First off, I just want to say that I've read A LOT of your advice on here and I wanted to ask you this personally because I think that you could really help :)
I was in gym one day. We were doing our dancing unit, and we were line dancing. There was this guy that was in the front row that always looked back at me. And yes, I know it was me, because he did it in the hallway too. But I had no idea who it was. Then, I found out.. I recognized the name right away. He's a junior, (I'm a freshman, by the way) and one of the best athletes around.. you know.. one of them jocks. I immediately thought I had no chance with him. So I added him on facebook and talked to him one night. I was surprised.. he was soo nice!! haha and when I asked him if he even knew who I was he said "not really I think you're in my gym class though." I thought that was good.. wouldn't you? I mean he knew who I was.. that was a start. So we've been talking for the past couple of months since then. He's also been staring at me like crazy in school, which has been weird, but hey, I don't hate it. One time when we were talking I told him that I was good at soccer, and he said "I bet I'd beat you". All of my friends completely FREAKED when I told them about it, 'cause they thought it was a good thing. I did too, until a few days ago. My friend was talking to him and she told him that one of her friends likes him. He kept begging for hints and stuff.. but she didn't wanna give it away just yet. So she told him that he probably wouldn't like me.. we're complete opposites. He still wanted to know. Then she told him that I wasn't in his grade and he replied, "oh so freshman" and he said he knew who it was. This is the rest of the conversation: "her: so should I tell her about this or are you going to talk to her about it? him: probably not just don't say anything. her: that bad.. huh? him: no im just not looking for anyone." Then at the end of the conversation he said that he didn't even know who it was. The last thing he said was "dont want to know". So that made me upset. Obviously he knew exactly who it was and didn't want anything to do with me.. right? After all of that happened, I sent him a message that said "sorry.. thats all I can say." and he claimed he didn't know what I was talking about. So obviously he doesnt wanna talk about it, or talk to me. But he still looks at me in school. A while back, like a month ago, everytime I'd try talking to him on chat and he wouldn't say anything, he'd say that he was on his phone and he didn't get the message. I believed him, but it got old. Today I tried talking to him and he didn't say anything. Is he "on his phone"? Or is he just ignoring me like I always thought he would? And also when he said he wasn't really looking for anyone at the moment, I half believed him and half didn't. I'm pretty sure he likes a girl in his grade, he's always with her, and one of his friends said that he thinks he likes her, but he's not positive. Then I start to think that maybe he's really not looking for anyone. Or maybe he just said that so I wouldn't feel bad.. but he DID tell her not to tell me about it so why would he try not to hurt my feelings if he knew she wasn't going to tell me about it? And this was all before I sent him that message, so he couldn't have known that I knew about it yet. I'm just.. extremely lost. I mean, everyone (teachers, peers) says that he's really sweet.. and also really quiet a lot of the time. Not like the "obnoxious" stereotypical jocks are. He really is different.. and like I said he wouldn't have even said one word to me or looked at me or flirted with me if there wasn't at least a little something for me in his heart. Am I over thinking this? Am I worrying too much? Am I missing something? Help..?

well, thank you for reading my advice :] im here to help !
so, first off... boys are complicated. i dont care how the saying goes, its not girls who are more complicated than the boys, its the boys. clearly.
anyways, to answer your questions: no, youre not over thinking this. you have every right in the world to be thinking about this and going over every little detail in your head and thinking what if or why this and why that. its NORMAL. trust me. yes, you are worrying too much and you shouldnt let this consume your life, because in a few years from now, this is something youre going to laugh about. and yeah, i think you're missing something.. i actually think youre missing a couple things;
1. you're a freshman and hes a junior. there is a big age difference.. and i know it might not seem like big deal to you right now, but when he turns 18.. it will be. this could be a VERY big reason as to why hes not pursuing anything with you because of your age. for example, when your friend was talking to him and told him that the person who likes him wasnt in his grade, he immediatley knew it was a freshman.. and he said, "oh so freshman" ... its what he DIDNT want to hear because freshman are FRESH out of middle school. some guys dont think that frehsman are mature enough for them yet, if theyre older and some guys just dont want to have a relationship with anyone younger.. its how some boys are raised and just how some feel. so age can be a BIG factor in why hes acting this way towards you now. but thats not your fault at all.
2. another thing that could have turned him off was the whole.. your friend talking to him about "someone" liking him thing. a lot of guys dont like that, youd be surprised. they would rather the girl who ACTUALLY like them or is interested in them to say something instad of getting their friends to do it. it shows confidence which is a major turn on for guys and it also shows maturity. he played along with it at first because obviously, if someone was saying that to you.. youd be curious too and you would want to know also. he was curious. but then when he figured out it was a freshman.. he got back in his "oh" zone. its not you, its your age. im almost positive of this.
3. yes. he flirted with you. telling you hed beat you and all of that was playful flirting, but it was also just that.. playful. he knows your age, he HAS noticed you because im sure youre a very sweet and pretty girl, but even though guys find girls attracted does not mean that they are going to try and BE in a relationship with that person. thats exactly why he was looking at you and all of that.. because he noticed you. he noticed who you were :] which always means that there are other guys noticing you too.
4. hes avoiding talking to you and all of that because yes, he doesnt want to hurt your feelings. he doesnt want you to feel like youre not good enough for him, yuh know ? thats why hes a nice guy.. and not the sterotypical jock. which is what drew you to him in the first place.
but in all honesty, if you really want to know whats wrong with him, you need to talk to him about it. YOU need to be the one to say, hey.. i know you know what im talking about and then tell him exactly what youre talking about and how it wont hurt your feelings however he answers [even though it always hurts a little bit] and that you just want the truth and to be friends because you dont want your friendship to be ruined because you think hes a nice guy. if youre not attacking him, he'll listen and hopefully respond :]
i hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo. good luck hun.

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Me: 13 (almost fourteen)
Him: 14
Both in the eighth grade

Today, I finally took a stand for myself. My best friend (who is a guy)had jokingly called me a bitch for the past three weeks, and he treats me like nothing. So I finally told him that, and he called me dramatic and won't talk to me. He's now running off with girls that he knows don't like me, just to make me jealous. I really want to keep being his friend, but I really don't know. I

Help?

boys are stupid, hahaa. [not all of them, but the ones who act like your best fiend does, are.]
you have a couple ways you can go about this:

1. do exactly what hes doing and go around talking to guys or girls that HE doesnt like and make HIM jealous. you dont NEED him, so show him that.

2. you could just ignore him all together and not play his games.. which is basically the mature route. it would also probably make him jealous or even mad because he would see that what hes trying to do doesnt effect you.

3. try your best to talk to him calmly about it, in person [which is best since he wont talk to you right now] or over the phone [verbally] because writing notes or e-mails/IMs could get turned around on you or even twisted. tell him how you feel and let him speak also, even tell him that it really hurt you and that you dont want it to ruin your friendship. and if that doesnt work, he's not worth anymore of your time.

plus, if he treats you like you're nothing, why try to be his friend ? what do you benefit from it ? ... feeling more worthless ?
Consider those questions hun :]
hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.

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i want a really cool nickname preferably emo nickname my real name is renita n i dnt rele like thanks in advance .p.s im a girl.

hmmm.. here's a few suggestions:

- rain
- rain disaster
- Razor
- Raven
- Scar
- Scars
- shadow
- slam
- shade
- acid
- trix
- kidda [pronounced like, kid-duh]
- killuv [pronounced like kill-love]
- Ivy
- Poison Ivy
- slash
- bones
- dice
- ashes
- edge
- hellacious
- Trauma
- shatter
- nebula

you can mix and match these, combine them to make a full name such as.. "raven razor" yuh know ? i hope i gave you at least one you liked or some inspiration.. good luck !:] xxo.

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My ex is obsessive and I want to him to go far far away. I've told him "no contact," he just doesn't listen. How do I make him go away?

I know EXACTLY how you feel.
You need to block him on every website you're on [of you're on any] and take his number off your phone [if you havent already] then call your phone company and actually block his number so he cannot call you or text you.
You also have to ignore him and do your best to avoid him at all costs. If you don't give him attention, he will eventually give up, but if he doesnt and its getting really bad to the point where you're afraid or paranoid that hes always around, then contact the police and get a restraining order.
Threatening your ex with a restrainging order won't do anything, it will most likely just make him more determined to call your bluff and he'll get more obsessive.
I know this isn't a simple and fast solution, but eventually, he'll go away.. and hopefully he finds another girl to take his mind off of you.
hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

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Does the guy Jizz when you give a hand job?

if it feels good to him, then yes. he does.
xxo.

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can i have sex
? i am nine years old.

wait.. this cant be a serious question...
nine years old ?
NINE ?

.............

if this IS serious, do NOT have sex. you CANNOT, just like the other advice you have gotten below me, you WILL harm your body.. nine year olds arent MEANT to have sex, and your body isnt made for that at such a young age.
xxo.

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Im 12, and my boyfriend is 14, hes has sex before, and for a while ive been thinkin about it.! everyone says its worth it, just to get it over with, But im not sure, I mean ive done things, but im not sure about sex ive done everything other than sex, but i dont wanna upset my boyfriend..what shood i do?x ]

look at it this way:
I'm 18, and I havent had sex and I'm VERY proud of it.
and yes, i HAVE had boyfriends.
and yes, one of them did pretty much break up with me because I wouldnt have sex with him. but that just makes him a jerk and a disgusting human being with hormonal problems.
you're only 12.. having sex right now will take your innocence away from you and basically your childhood.
when you think ahead to the future, do you see yourself happy that you havent had sex or regretting that you had sex at such a young age ? because in all honesty, i know you will regret it. YOU even know that you dont want to do this.. because sex is meaningful.. its not just something you should do to get it over with... it should be a choice you make when youre older and know more about what sex REALLY is and the reprecussions it has [like pregnancy]
seriously, think about this. dont listen to what youre friends say or what your boyfriend says. if he'll be mad, then he doesnt deserve you.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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how do i tell him to tell his best friend to stay out of are relationship??

So.. your boyfriend's best friend is getting himself involved in your relationship?

if that's not right, then just disregard this whole little advice thing.. haha :] and i apologize if i didnt fully understand your question.

anyways, the first thing you need to do is stay calm and to not start a fight. If your boyfriend feels like its his fault or that youre attacking him also, you wont get anywhere.. so you just need to stay positive.
Talk to your boyfriend and bring it up nicely. you could say something like, "your best friend is awesome, all of your friends are cool, but i kinda feel like your best friend gets into our business and i thought that maybe you could ask him to just chill out?"
you see how thats not negative ? and not attacking or hurting either one of them ? something like that will really help and get him to talk to his friend for you :]
good luck ! i hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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i get scared at night and im 13 and i wanted to cut my jeans into a skirt but my mom said no i kept saying please and she screamed at me and said NO!!! so i said when will i b ble to do things on my own and she said when you sleep in your own room and not act like a 3 year old nd i cried and ran in my room what should i do/say!!!!

hmm, well.. just don't talk back to her, im 18 years old and ive have 18 years of advice to give you... talking back gets you NO where, trust me.
If you really want a skirt, cutting your jeans might not be the best way. heres somethings you can do/say:

- ask your mom if you guys can go shopping and have some bonding time, then when you go shopping, look around for skirts, and ask her if itd be okay if you at least tried one on. after that, if she agrees, tell her youd really like to have one. :]

- do NOT cut your jeans without your mom's permission. thats a BIG nono and she'll be furious, which will result in you never having a skirt.

- ask her if, instead of cutting your jeans, if you could go out and buy a skirt.. if she says no because of money or something, tell her that youll do chores around the house to get an allowance and pay her for it. this shows that youre trying to be responsible.

- definetely apologize to your mom. I know you might think that you shouldnt and that you did nothing wrong, but it will help. trust me.

- if she wants you to sleep in your own room, i would try doing that if i were you.. it would show her how much more understanding and mature youre being.

basically, just be calm, dont scream or overreact and give her some time to cool off. do not beg or complain, and it'll all work out :] good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.

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so my bf and i have been gng out for awhile and everytime he comes to kiss me like french kiss i get all nervous and pull away and its starting to worry him. i know its stupid but its also starting to worry me..... any ideas????????

Just go with the flow.
theres a first time for everything and i know its scary, but if you never try it, youll never get better at it.
honestly, "french kissing" is so natural. you just have to start out slow [like everyone else said] and get into it. itll help you not think about it as much. and if you mess up, laugh about it.
practice makes perfect hun.
xxo. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me.

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Hi, thanks for your advice last time. Actually he likes to act like a cheerful, normal guy in school.But he told me before that he is really depressed, and he said that no one understands how he feels. He only talks to me about that, so I'm kind of his "counsellor" . Anyways, I already said that I don't like him, but he said he will keep trying. But I'm being as friendly as possible, despite him irritating me. Thanks for your last advice anyways :D

No problem !
it sounds like youve got it under control :] keep it up and keep your cool :] haha.

xxo.

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My boyfriend and i make out a lot, and when hes on top of me i feel his boner. were really close but i dont want to ask him about it, i think hes uncomfortable about talking about it but how do i know if he likes it or not?

I dont really know what you're trying to ask.. but if you're asking if he likes making out with you, uhm.. yeah. hahaa, his boner pretty much sums it up.. guys get that when theyre turned on, so youre obviously doing everything right.
but if youre asking if he LIKES having a boner when you guys start making out.. i mean.. im not a guy, but im sure it can get uncomfortable or maybe even embarassing if its not "taken care of" ... other than that, hes just really into whatever you guys are doing.
and when you guys get closer, youll be able to talk about these things, so dont worry. patience is key :]
hope i helped ! xxo.

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is there a way to have sex with a garuntee of not getting pregnant?

Nope.

condoms or some sort of birth control/contraceptive is the only way you can TRY to prevent it.

xxo.

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