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I am afriad if I say no to sex it will upset my boyfriend
Im 12, and my boyfriend is 14, hes has sex before, and for a while ive been thinkin about it.! everyone says its worth it, just to get it over with, But im not sure, I mean ive done things, but im not sure about sex ive done everything other than sex, but i dont wanna upset my boyfriend..what shood i do?x ]
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My friend Cameron had sex when he was 12... there are so many diseases you can catch. And your still a kid. Your too young for that. Tell your boyfriend that your not sure and don't want to risk it. You have a one in a million chance that your gonna marry him, and if you do then you can have sex. But for now just be a kid while you can.
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First, at your age, the relationship with your boyfriend is unlikely to amount to much. Your chances of marrying him are pretty much nil. Therefore, the stake you have in this relationship isn't that great. So if you don't want to have sex then don't do it.
Look at it this way: teens have very poor impulse control because their brains are still developing. That also brings with it a good bit of ignorance and insecurity. For you, what you need to do is take control of your life. You are the only one who can live your life and you have to conduct it according to what makes you happy. Therefore, it is unnecessary to make this a big drama. Just tell your boyfriend no and if he doesn't like it tell him to hit the road. Everybody, including you, will respect you for sticking to your guns. If it ain't right for you it ain't right, period.
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look at it this way:
I'm 18, and I havent had sex and I'm VERY proud of it.
and yes, i HAVE had boyfriends.
and yes, one of them did pretty much break up with me because I wouldnt have sex with him. but that just makes him a jerk and a disgusting human being with hormonal problems.
you're only 12.. having sex right now will take your innocence away from you and basically your childhood.
when you think ahead to the future, do you see yourself happy that you havent had sex or regretting that you had sex at such a young age ? because in all honesty, i know you will regret it. YOU even know that you dont want to do this.. because sex is meaningful.. its not just something you should do to get it over with... it should be a choice you make when youre older and know more about what sex REALLY is and the reprecussions it has [like pregnancy]
seriously, think about this. dont listen to what youre friends say or what your boyfriend says. if he'll be mad, then he doesnt deserve you.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
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If your boyfriend gets upset over that he is a douchebag. You are twelve.. Sex isn't something you "get over with." I'm sorry but I wouldn't.
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You're only 12-years-old!! And he's only 14! Nooooo, you guys shouldn't even be thinking about sex! Why? Because sex means you could get a disease, you could get pregnant, you WILL get in trouble when people find out. Just tell him no way, you're way too young for that and he is too!
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Firstly, you guys are way too young to be having sex. You guys are still going through puberty believe it or not.
Secondly, sex isn't something you just do at a young age to get it "over with." In fact that's the worst thing to do. When you lose your virginity you lose it to someone whom you trust and you feel comfortable with.
Thirdly, you said your not sure. So don't do it. You say no to your boyfriend when he wants sex from you and if he gets upset you just say that your not ready. If he starts to get defensive then just don't bother with him any more because he'll only be looking for that one thing; sex. And he'll go find it somewhere else. But don't just give up your virginity to make your boyfriend happy. You have to be happy too.
Hope this helps, good luck xx
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First off, 12 is a very young age to be thinking about this sort of thing, I understand how you feel as grown up as all the rest of us, but truth is, we never grow up fully and we still all look back on decisions and think "why did I do that?" I still do it now (though I'm still young at 18).
Secondly, regardless if he has had sex before or not, you have not and he should respect that it is a big thing for a girl to do, my boyfriend currently waited almost half a year until I let him do anything at all and he had quite a few sexual partners! if your boyfriend leaves you because you say no then I am guessing he wouldn't be a huge loss to you as there are many more boys that understand.
Also, unless you know this girl he has had sex with, he could simply be lying to sound more like a man (this is common for a lot of men).
In the end, it is entirely your choice, though you should not do anything unless you feel comfortable, and if your afraid to say "no" you don't sound too comfortable, just think it through carefully, once you have done it you can't go back.
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You are only 12! You should absolutely not being having sex right now. You aren't even fully developed at your age.
I didn't have sex until I was 17, when I felt ready. I was educated in school about protection and I have a feeling you haven't even had sexual education classes yet.
If your boyfriend pushes you to have sex, that means he doesn't really care about you. If he did, he would wait until you were ready. Don't ever do something because you are afraid a guy won't like or or won't date you. You have to live your life to make yourself happy, not some guy!
You will have other boyfriends then this kid, and how will you feel if you can't give the one man you really do care about your virginity because you were pressured into doing it?
You should talk to an older person you respect, like your mom, a teacher, etc. If you are too embarrassed, that probably means you aren't mature enough for sex. With sex comes responsibility, and you have to be able to communicate what you need. You can't be afraid to buy condoms or talk to someone about it.
I would really think about this hard before you do anything. No one regrets waiting to have sex, but many people regret having it too soon.
-Abby
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