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I want him to want to have sex with me, but I only want to tease him
How can I turn on this guy and make him want to have sex but just tease him because I dont want to go all the way yet?
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Well your into playing with fire. Men are biologically set up to finish the sexual courting ritual with ejaculating semen inside the female portal (vagina) in order to propagate the species. It is difficult for men to short circuit the drive of hormonal release and the need to copulate to the fullest extent. Communication would be the key beforehand with strong boundaries, but even that may not work. Be cautious, your are tempting the kundalini serpent which has a life of its own.
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Guys will hate you. You will be forever known as "....the cocktease." In fact, they will hate you so much they will start passing rumors around that you are a far more immoral person than you actually are.
Now if you just want to go as far as third base because you aren't ready for sex then that's fine. But you need to tell the guy that up front. You guys can do stuff like mutual masturbation and oral sex.
And the truth is that you can merely make out with him without letting him feel you up and he will be majorly turned on. It doesn't take guys your age much to get horny. But be honest about what your intentions are and then he can choose to kick you to the curb or stay with you.
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This sounds like a question a female friend of mine would have asked... and we are neither friends or on speaking terms anymore.
If you like him but don't feel like you are ready to go for the home run yet, fine don't, but don't lead him to where you are not ready to go.
Maybe it's just your phrasing, but the way you posed the question makes it seem like you don't really like him and would just like to exploit him using your sexuality, in essance a bully...
"live by the sword, die by the sword."
G'Luck!
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uhm, okay. im gonna state this pretty bluntly...
unless he's your boyfriend, and you know eachothers boundaries, playful teasing or any teasing at all is NOT okay.
like all of the advice below me, teasing can get you into trouble. a lot of girls can get raped or have other bad things happen to them because of teasing. boys can be aggressive and some arent going to like to be teased.. hormones take over and thats when things take a turn for the worse.
if you dont want to go all the way, dont tease anyone. go as far as you want to, be safe and make it clear that you dont want to have sex.. and any of your other morals.
and turning him on is easy.. just kiss him, make out with him.. kiss his neck and stuff, but dont tease him. seriously.
good luck ! hope i helped ! xxo.
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Don't tease him unless you plan on doing something with him, that's pretty mean.
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you're damn right adviceman.
Why in the hell would you want to tease somebody like that? What possible reason would you have to do this, other than being an evil manipulative child!?
I promise you, one of these days, you're going to push it too far, and then you'll get hurt.
knock it off.
-Gunner
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I am one of the older advisers on this site.
I don't recommend teasing your boyfriend in this manner. You don't say how old you are or how old he is. You also don't say how far you willing to go with your teasing. If you go to far you could end up being raped.
The biggest problem with teasing is that it usually ends up going further than you plan; for one of two reasons. The first is simply you get caught up in the moment. The second is not as nice. Your boy friend,getting mixed signals follows his instincts and just simply over powers you and takes what he wants. Then he says it is your fault for leading him on. He's wrong for stop means STOP; he has just not learned that yet.
Your desire to tease him as in the second scenario leads to two ruined lives, possibly three if he impregnates you as well. He has a record as a sex offender, you are traumatized by the rape and could be an unwed mother. Is it really worth it?
Would it not be better to tell your boyfriend what your limits are and then hold to them?
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We as guys, are assholes. Big, impatient, dick-headed assholes.
If you keep teasing him, he will leave and not even want you at all. So i suggest thinking about this more. Guys are impatient. Just remember that.
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