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One night last week I was talking to a friend (that is a guy) and I had liked him for some time. We were talking and I told him I had a boyfriend. He got really angry and was like "I cant talk to you if you have a boyfriend" He told me that he liked me and I told him that I had liked him for a long time. He said that if he had known he would have asked me out along time ago.
I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend 1) because he cheated on me and 2) because I liked the kid i talked about above^^
Now my guy friend never really talks to me. I feel like he probly doesnt like me anymore and im really pissed off because I could see myself being with him for a long time. last night when I was talking to him he said "why would you wana talk to me anyways you have a boyfriend" and I told him that I broke up with him. and he goes "ouh well im out bye"
What should I do? I really like him. Maybe Im not ready for another relationship but I like him alot and I have for a while. Do you think he doesnt like me anymore? HELP!
15/f by the way
sorry it was so long
It could be a posibility that he doesn't like you anymore, but he seems to be overreacting if he got "angry" at you. You can write him a letter and explain to him how you're feeling, why you broke up with your boyfriend, etc. Most likely he'll read the letter... Hopefully things work out.
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hey im 14 i have a question..ive been going through alot of problems lately and now everytime i get mad or kinda annoyed my heart starts to hurt...and then my fingers kinda hurt when that happens..i dont know what it is but im worried ..thx!
You can sit here and ask questions on it, but the best thing to do is to tell a parent. Just tell them that when you get annoyed or mad at something your heart feels funny. Tell them that you want to have it checked out. You should probably go to the doctors or something.
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Id like to know how to do more hair styles. I dont want my hair to be boring. I like it when my hair brings out the good things in my facial features. What are some simple to do but pretty hair styles. and how do I do them?
You can buy a straightener & straighten it. Its kind of on the simple sides. For awhile, I used to have a spray bottle mixed with salt and water and if you spray it in your hair it gives it a wavy/beachy feeling. If you don't have layers, you can go and get some layers in your hair. Also, side swept bangs are cute whether you leave them down or even pin them back. Maybe get some highlights or lowlights in your hair?
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Well I have a friend who is extremly bossy. I have tried talking to her about this but that didn't work. I have actually talked to her more then once. I noticed she doesn't only boss me around she bosses everyone around. The other day she was bossing her mom around a little even. I don't know how to tell her to stop and still be nice. I don't want to turn this into a fight. I love her but I am not going to be bossed around. I have started not doing anything she "demands" me to. But she still does. Please help!!!!!
Well she can't force you to do things. Yea she might be your friend and you feel like you have to listen to her and do what she says but really, you don't have to. If she tells you to do something you don't want to do, kindly tell her no. "No thats all right, I'm going to do this." or something along those lines. Hopefully sooner or later she'll get the hint. Maybe keep a close track of things she's demanding and around the time she's demanding it. So when you talk about it with her you'll have some back up information and it will be really hard and stupid for her to deny it.
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i've had this friend for a couple of years now, we're in different grades (i'm a grade higher than him) but we're good friends. well recently when we speak on MSN we've been playing "truth & dare" and talking really sexual and intimate with one another. i do enjoy it, but i'm starting to think it might make things weird between us from now on. also, i kinda have a boyfriend. well, we haven't met yet.. it's an online relationship, but he's coming to stay with me in november. i don't really consider us together until he comes here, but i still feel it's sorta disloyal and "Cheating" for me to act like this with another guy. My bf and I never discuss sexual stuff for the record.
should we stop doing this? is this going to make our friendship too awkward? and i can't tug the feeling that it's cheating somehow, and i feel incredibly guilty about this..
..thanks.. i will rate
If you don't feel right about it, then yea... most likely you should stop. If I were you it would make things awkward for me. Just get back into the habit of talking to him regularly and when you see him, try not to think about your old convos. Put those in the past! If he questions, just tell him its getting a little old. Good luck, hope I helped.
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I'm usually either very lethargic or very pissed off in the morning and I figure I can fix that by adding something a little more enjoyable into my routine. I'll wake up earlier if it seems worth it. Does anyone have anything special they do in the morning that helps them not be a zombie/grump? (Note: going to Starbuck's every morning and other such expensive things are a bit out of the question).
Taking a shower helps. Haha, yea sometimes going to Starbucks everyday isn't that good of a habit (( I should break out of that... )) but maybe making your own coffee @ home? My parents HAVE to have coffee in the morning but they make their own. You can always do some stretches, that might wake you up. What helps me, is washing my face. Once I wash my face, put my facial mask on for 1O minutes & then wash it off... I'm usually awake. Try some of those things. Good luck.
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I have crush on this really cute boy.I've heard rumors that he likes me and hes also told me himself.I want us to be together but I don't to sound like im rushing into things. What should I do?
Just talk to him. Just be casual, go up to him & strike up a conversation. See where things end up.
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13/f. I’m having a problem. There’s this guy who likes me. He hasn’t told me directly, but it’s still totally obvious. And I don’t like him back. He’s a good student, but the thing is, he’s really unattractive…..he’s got loads of zits, a humongous head, scary blue-gray eyes, and his vocal chords are all messed up. Because of this defect, he talks really quietly in this bizarre falsetto. It’s almost impossible to carry on a conversation with him. I’m a little creeped out that he likes me, and I hate myself for it. He has feelings and can’t help the way he looks and the way he talks. I feel so shallow for not being able to get beyond his physical appearance. I know this from personal experience, because boys used to be freaked out at the idea of me liking any one of them because I’m an unpopular loner, I’m clumsy, I don’t wear nice clothes, and I’m crazy about operas and musicals, and I have a really brutal sense of humor. I had resolved that I’d never judge a person just by trivial qualities, and now I’m being a hypocrite. I feel guilty whenever I have my eye on guys who have…….a normal voice.
Im having a mental conflict. What should I do?
Heeeeeeelllpppppppppppppppppp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Either tell him straight foreward he seems like a nice guy, but you're just not interested. You can tell him you're not looking for a boyfriend right now, tell him you're too busy for anything right now. Tell him you have a boyfriend from another school (( haha )). Or just simply avoid him. I know some of these may not be very nice, but honestly--they're what I would do.
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i'm 17/f (well, almost 18), my boyfriend is turning 19. instead of buying him something that he'll never use (i don't like the tie idea, and he's got all the music and movies he could ever want), i'm going to take him to the park for a picnic tomorrow afternoon. luckily, it will probably be a very nice day!
but i'm having trouble thinking of things to bring along, mostly food-wise. any ideas?? and also, do guys like doing this at all (provided there's enough delicious food, of course... :P )?
thanks in advance!
Aw, thats actually a really cute idea! I would ask him what his favorite foods are & make something for him. Sandwhiches, you can pick up some chicken or whatever. Make him dessert like cookies or brownies or something. I would either figure out what he likes and make it for him or getting some sort of take out. Good luck & have fun.
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I don't know if I wanna go to college, but I know I'm at least gunna try it out. I'm not really the scholar though. I've taken tons of slack classes in highschool and stuff. A few questions...
1: If I find that college is not for me, what do I do with the rest of my life and work/money?
2: Is it true that businesses don't pay much attention to your college GPA? (Do they only care that you got a degree?)
Thanks!
Before you freak out and say "I DON'T WANT TO DO THAT! I DON'T WANT TO DIE, ARE YOU CRAZY?!" just hear me out.
I wasn't sure if I wanted to go to college as well. My top choices were UC Santa Barbara & UC San Diego. Because I got a few C's my sophmore year I was told I couldn't get in. Not to mention the fact I didn't take Chemistry so I'm not even qualified for a 4 year college. Theres always another option that most people don't even think of unless "you're a drop out & have no other choice". Not many people know that you can go into this, make it a successful career, retire & live well off of what you did. You probably already know what I'm talking about--the military.
I'm a senior in high school and I was like you. I didn't know if I wanted to go to a college since I wasn't qualified. I felt I was better than just community college and I wanted to travel, experience new things and make new people. I joined the Navy in October. The reason why I picked the Navy is because its the most laid back branch and its the best place for a girl. I ship out August 22nd of this year. I'll go to bootcamp for 9 weeks. Bootcamp isn't really what people make it to be. Sure you do some activity but its not all "drop down and give me 100". You learn how to fold your bed properly, etc. && you spend a lot of time in a classroom environment (( not to mention by the time you get out, you'll be thinner because of the eating schedules, etc! who DOESN'T wanna be thinner? )). After bootcamp I'm going to Mississippi for 7 weeks to train for my "job". The schooling you go to after bootcamp is kind of like college. You room with like 3 other girls (( assuming you're a girl )) in the "barracks" which is like dorms. You go to school and train for what you're going to be doing in the Navy. No, it doesn't all have to be shooting people in Iraq & living in ditches, carrying a gun. Yea, I have to learn how to shoot one in bootcamp but I'm not actually going to carry one. The job I signed up for is called Yeoman. I will basically work in an office environment. So I'll train about office basics for 7 weeks and then they'll put me where they need me (( hopefully somewhere like Spain, San Diego or even on a boat )). Other "safe" jobs include, Coreman (( like a nurse, etc.--you'll work in the hospitals on base )), Journalist, etc. People always think of the military as a dangerous thing to do but honestly, depending on what your job is, its pretty safe.
Not to mention the money situation. You get paid once you start bootcamp. My cousin right now (( she's already done bootcamp, schooling & she's stationed in Virginia )) is getting paid $1400 a month + $250.00 for a food allowance. She's an E-2 right now. Every year or so, you have the opportunity to get promoted to an E-3, E-4... & that means a higher rank, plus a higher pay. Also, if you decide to get an apartment off base they'll give you all that PLUS $900.00 a month to pay for housing (( if you live on base, you get $1400 + $250 AND you're staying there free of rent, etc. )). Your best bet is to live off base, find a place and split the rent with someone. Then you can use the rest of your $900 to pay for car payments, insurance, etc. seeing as that you'll need a car & having a car is great! lol. But yea. The Navy does take care of you, its actually a good thing.
Also, when you do decide to either go to a 4 year college, 2 year college, take online courses or further your educations somehow, the Navy will pay for it. Its really good.
Its also a good place to start your family. After 2 years, I believe, you're able to marry and have kids. Then they'll give you family deals etc. & better housing on base. If you have 1 kid, you get 2 bedrooms, 2 kids, 3 bedrooms. && when you retire in the Navy, you have REALLY good benefits. Once again, I'm assuming you're a girl... the girl to guy ratio is like 1 to 30. You'll have no problem with finding a good guy.
Sure you have to leave your friends and family back home but seriously, you don't want to be stuck going to a community college + living at home. I believe EVERYONE should get out & experience new things and meet new people. Once you're out there, you won't regret it. And if you get stationed on a ship, they're out there for I think 6 months @ a time and they stop at all different ports around the world. You have the opportunity to get off and see some new cultures, try new foods and meet new people, its insane. I'm definately excited.
And just because you're in the Navy doesn't mean you have to be a total L7 in uniform all the time. You can do a lot of other stuff as well--its basically just a job. When you're off you can go do other stuff, go to parties, concerts, etc. You just get paid good & you're living on your own yet they take good care of you.
I'm sorry this was so long. I hope I don't sound like I'm trying to sell anything to you, I'm just showing you how its a good option. If you want more info, go to http://www.navy.com.
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16/f
i REALLY REALLY like this boy. hes soo cute and nice. i talk to him online kind of alot but we never really talk in school. hes a year older so i dont have any classes with him. and when we pass each other in the halls we never say hi. he says that hes kinda shy when it comes to talking to girls and im the same way when it comes to guys. i want to invite him to the movies but i dont want him to think that im being too forward cause i dont know how he feels about me. and i dont want to invite more friends cause i want to it to be just me and him. but i want to start talking to him in school too. so what do i do?
You should say something like "You know what I just realized? We've NEVER talked at school before. Tomorrow, I'm gonna say hi to you & you should say hi back, lol". Since you guys often pass eachother in the halls you should get into the habit of saying hi to eachother. The both of you are shy and the internet is a good way of communication in that case. If you tell him online that you'll say hi to him ahead of time he'll be expecting it and you'll have no other choice but to do so, lol.
As for asking him to the movies, try and get into the habit of saying hi to him and maybe strike up a conversation with him during lunch or something. Then ask him if he wants to hang out. Hopefully I helped.
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what is a recipe for chocolate chip cookies from scratch?? include everything please.
This is something you can google.
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how do i get my crush to stop crossing my mind every other second, litterally. its distracting me from my social, and school life. i know things wouldnt work out and bla blah but i just need to know HOW TO GET HIM OFF MY MIND??! its taking over my life. thanks.
Haha, I used to be just like you. Honestly I don't know how I got over him--well not OVER him but the fact of daydreaming every other 5 minutes. If you're a teenager, its bound to happen. Just stay focused on schoolwork. Use the thought of your grades to help motivate you and stay on top of things. I don't know if you ever got like this, but dreaming about him and then also knowing that things won't work out kind of depressed me a little. I would use that and it helped me realize that I don't want to be depressed. What makes people happy? Having a social life. So instead of sitting there dreaming about something that will never happen, call your friends and go to the movies... or do that science worksheet that you had for homework last night that you couldn't seem to do before.
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My Mom read my journal/diary and found that i had had sex before, (not anymore) and she went ballistic. She is now taking me to a gyno tomorrow, and i really dont want to go, (besides, im not haveING sex, I had it once before) and shes putting me on birth control. I was wondering , does she have any right to force me to do these things? She cant force me to go to the gyno, and she cant force me to have birth control right? (Birth control being a shot of hormones) I dont want these things to happen.. Do i have a say in what happens to me? 14 yrs old and obviously female if that helps.
Since you are only 14 then yea, she does have a say so in these things. If you were 18 that would be a whole different story. Honestly though, I don't think it would hurt just to do all this.
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you know that song.."ive got sunshine on a cloudy day" and then its all MY GIRL my girl my girl.
WHO SINGS THIS?
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The Temptations.
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hello, i have myspace but i want to change the song and video that i have right now. i want to put a song on from my media player. can ido that, if so how?
I would recommend you going to http://www.song2play.com & finding a song there, most likely they'll have what you're looking for. Or go to the band's myspace site and see if they have the song there that you can 'add' to your myspace. Hope this helps.
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My mom has a drinking problem. She has gotten drunk at least 3 or 4 times. I hate it when she gets drunk. My sister and I told her to not buy wine again and she promised she wouldn't, but tonight she was got drunk because she has been hiding wine from us. The next day she ALWAYS denies it. What should I do to make her admit that she lied and to make her stop??
Video tape her. Then talk about it with her the next day like you normally do. When she really starts to deny it, break out the tape and show it to her. Tell her she either changes or someone else will take care of it.
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I have a cd burner drive but no program to burn it. I have found this website http://www.nch.com.au/burn/
where i can download a program express burn for free.
I want to know if it is 1 good
2 legal
3 virus free
4 easy to use
5 easy to install
6 not just a scam and i have to pay later
7 and if any one would reccomend that program or any other freeware I can use to burn cd's
I don't have a program eithr, I use Windows Media Player. If you have it, theres little tabs like "Library" "Now Playing" and then theres "Burn". You should try that.
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hey i'm a guy, and one of my friends got pregnant. the whole school found out and eventually her parents did too. right now shes feeling terrible and her parents flipped out on her. i heard her talking to some of her friends and said she was considering getting an abortion. i asked her about it and she said shes worried and afraid its a bad idea. what should i tell her about it? i mean i don't think she should get one, but how do i help her with what she wants to know? thanks
In my opinion, abortion is wrong. If I were you, I'd take the time to look @ the other websites a few of the people before me left you. I think that she should let the baby have life... if she can't/isn't willing to raise it, give it up for adoption. At least let it live.
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I used to like a guy during the whole summer, and he knew, and there was a possibility he liked me, but then he went off to University, Could that be the reason why he did not start anything? Also, he has a girlfriend now (but she asked him out hehe), how do I become friends with him, and try to make him think you are over him? I dont want to tell him "im over you" because I am afraid that he will feel even more uncomfortable being around me than he does now. Thank you so much, and I will rate.
Just be yourself around him. Don't send him signals, don't flirt, just be a good friend. I don't know if this helps or not... I've never been in this situation, but I figured I'd try my best.
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