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13/f. I’m having a problem. There’s this guy who likes me. He hasn’t told me directly, but it’s still totally obvious. And I don’t like him back. He’s a good student, but the thing is, he’s really unattractive…..he’s got loads of zits, a humongous head, scary blue-gray eyes, and his vocal chords are all messed up. Because of this defect, he talks really quietly in this bizarre falsetto. It’s almost impossible to carry on a conversation with him. I’m a little creeped out that he likes me, and I hate myself for it. He has feelings and can’t help the way he looks and the way he talks. I feel so shallow for not being able to get beyond his physical appearance. I know this from personal experience, because boys used to be freaked out at the idea of me liking any one of them because I’m an unpopular loner, I’m clumsy, I don’t wear nice clothes, and I’m crazy about operas and musicals, and I have a really brutal sense of humor. I had resolved that I’d never judge a person just by trivial qualities, and now I’m being a hypocrite. I feel guilty whenever I have my eye on guys who have…….a normal voice.
Im having a mental conflict. What should I do?
Heeeeeeelllpppppppppppppppppp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Either tell him straight foreward he seems like a nice guy, but you're just not interested. You can tell him you're not looking for a boyfriend right now, tell him you're too busy for anything right now. Tell him you have a boyfriend from another school (( haha )). Or just simply avoid him. I know some of these may not be very nice, but honestly--they're what I would do.
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Tell him the truth. He may be hurt. But it's just life. Life isn't fair to anyone. I'm like you and ther's a guy who likes me at my school, and he's so weird. Everyone teases him so I feel guilty. I'm almost exactly in your situation. so like I said just tell him the truth.
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Hey, you're only human. No matter who you are, from a preppy girl to what you describe yourself as, you're going to know when your phisically attracted to someone and when you're not. Judging people is normal, no matter what the situation. In you case, it's someone you obiously dont have feelings for. Could you build feelings for him? Maybe. But as of now, it's not likely. Don't worry about the thought of him and instead pay attention to those you feel a true attraction to. They're going to be many guys that like you & you won't have those feelings back. Its easier to let the guy know (nicely) that you don't have felings for him than to let yourself feel bad about it.
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