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how do i convince her
hey i'm a guy, and one of my friends got pregnant. the whole school found out and eventually her parents did too. right now shes feeling terrible and her parents flipped out on her. i heard her talking to some of her friends and said she was considering getting an abortion. i asked her about it and she said shes worried and afraid its a bad idea. what should i tell her about it? i mean i don't think she should get one, but how do i help her with what she wants to know? thanks
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You cant TELL her what to do, for definate, its all down to her, its her body and her life, you should be there for her and make sure she knows that, maybe get soem imformation for her about abortion, and about young parenthood, they shouldny be pro or against though, just neutral facts, just be there to hold her hand through it all, if she does get an abortion, dont leave her because you think its wrong, its her decision, stay a good friend because she'l still need help whether she has an abortion or not
hope shes ok
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Your advice, coming straight from someone who HAS had a abortion can tell you to please try to talk her out of it. What happened to me that day has tormented me more than words could ever say. Just try to be there for her and most importantly dont sound judgmental when you talk to her. If she has computer access tell her to write to rachelna0@yahoo.com It is another person like me but she is the same age as your friend and is going through the exact same thing RIGHT NOW. Maybe she can help your friend by letting her know what to expect with her pregnancy. Best of luck and Congrats! for being a good enough friend to take the time to write for advice on helping her. If you need any more advice feel free to write anytime or go to: teenadvice.about.com/od/optionsabortion/
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I think the most important thing you can offer her now is your support and friendship. Unfortunately, many people look down on pregnant teens, especially those that choose abortion. I don't necessarily agree with abortion unless there are special circumstances (for instance rape or if the pregnancy is dangerous to the mother's health), but I do believe it's a personal choice. If she asks your opinion, let her know how you feel and why you feel that way. However, tell her that whatever she decides, it's her choice and you'll be there for her.
If she hasn't already, encourage her to visit her family doctor, health department or planned parenthood office. They can explain her options so she can make an informed choice.
You can do some research online to find loads of information regarding abortion. However, since abortion tends to be a hot issue, be aware that some sites may offer a biased view. I'm giving you a link to a page that offers some information in what I think is an unbiased manner. It explains how each type is done, side effects, possible health risks, cost, what to expect, etc.
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Aw well 1st off your such a good guy friend!Look everything up the good and then bad stuuf about it.I mean everyone has there opinion about it but just let her decide after you telling her all the stuff you find out.You're so sweet about helping her! ♥
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tell her its completely up to her, and give her the pros and cons of having a kid, and let her decide on her own.
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personally im pro choice. its a bad choice to make but i dont think the government should get involved in making those decisions. you have to inform her. explain to her vividly what actually happens during an abortion and give her reasons why it is better to keep the baby and work through it. i know people who have gotten an abortion and they haven't been able to live with themselves since. they say that they felt horrible and empty. and that they were the worst people ever and if they could, they would take it back. don't let your friend make the same mistake my friends did.
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In my opinion, abortion is wrong. If I were you, I'd take the time to look @ the other websites a few of the people before me left you. I think that she should let the baby have life... if she can't/isn't willing to raise it, give it up for adoption. At least let it live.
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to be honest it depends on if she is ready for this responsibility. i think you should tell her it is up to her and support her through the whole thing.. also an abortion is not a bad thing- think about it liek this not having an abortion is just as bad because all your doing is bringing a baby into a world that is no good for it and i dunno thats jsut how i feel anyways good luck to you and your friend
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She should NOT get an abortion. The abortion agencies are TERRIBLE. Planned parenthood will pay for your abortion, but if you want to keep your baby, they won't give you any financial help, but will ask you over and over to abort.
Here's a link from someone who used to be an abortionist, talking about the evils of the agency.
Abortionists speak
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[Link](Mouse over link to see full location) For people who aren't sure
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To be completely honest, it's not your choice if she gets one or not. Right now people are going to be talking about her and asking her questions and annoying her to death. She really needs you to just be a supportive friend. If she does ask your opinon on this don't be afarid to say what you really feel. Until then just be there for her.
But what you can do is help her get facts from both views. Show her the dangers of an abortion. Show her the dangers of not getting one. Try search google from some sites
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