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Down there my inner lips on my vagina are bigger than the outter ones, so it looks gross. is this normal?

thats tottaly normal, everyones body shapes are different
itd be boring if everyone as teh same :)
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i have a split persinality 1 of them im just a plain old teenager and im in a cristianrock band where i play base and sing and always do right the other side of me im a relly bad kid i did do drugs but quit but i still dip drink and do sexual things and steal and im always depresed but im not bipoler weve tested that and what should i do

I dont think you should entirly jump to going straight to the doctors
i think that your still only a teenager and that your confused
you need to try and find yourself
you might find that your true self is a mixture of these two "personalities"
the actions you mentioned are actions, and arent related to your actual personality and temperament, you can still be a nice person but drink, i thin you just need to try and find yourself and that might take time, but if it does get any worse then i would suggest going to maybe your school counsellor.
But as it is, i think your sound just like a confused teenager (not being patronising)
good luck :)
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I really want a gorgeous corset that can be worn with jeans or nice trousers. there's plenty of sexy lingere ones but does anyone know where to get day/evening wear corsets in the U.K?

thank you x

Marks an spencers, errrm, HnM? you canmodifie lingerie ones to wear as night ones, jut by putting a light jacket or shawl around your shoulders, depending on how c-through it is, if you cant find one anywhere in shops, try the interent xx

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i'm 15, and i really want my nose pierced. my dad would not let me get it pierced, no matter how much i beg, no matter what. on the other hand, my mom said she would let me get it pierced, in a heart beat. obviously i'm not going to have my mom take me to get my nose-pierced, as my parents are still together, and i'm not going to have them get into a huge argument over some stupid little thing. so, since i'm kind of an idiot (haha), i've been thinking about piercing my own nose. i know my dad would make me take it out, if he saw it. so maybe piercing it, and then putting a flathead pin in, and putting a little concealer on over it would hide it? probably not. but what my main question is, is would piercing my own nose be really dangerous? i know that i could get an infection. but would it travel up to my brain and kill me? well, not so extreme, but could i really be putting myself in a life or death situation? if you haven't noticed from my other questions, i'm paranoid of everything. sorry.

thanks for any help that you could give me, though.

I really wouldnt pierce it youself, seriously, iv peirced my own ears and stuff, (iv had 7 n each ear at one point) but i wouldnt suggest your nose and it has loads and loads nerves and stuff in certain places, it wouldnt kill you, well it shouldnt do, but it could get seriously infected, and you dont want something thats gonna scar just for a little peircing, how about waiting till your 16, you should be able to get it done without a guardian then, but i should tell your dad that you really want it done, and say to him that its your choice when your 16, you can also tell him that if you get it done profeshionally then it wont get infected, and it its really that noticable when you get home, could you please have a trial period of a week, or something like that, hope i helped
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im trying to find a new way of funking up my room. ive got loads of products like make up and hair stuff that i need to find storage for. i want somewhere i can display them but im bored of the original things like shelves which i already have 3 of full of stuff.

Also i have loads of belts that are draping over my wardrobe stick leaving little room for my clothes

so can any one give me any ideas of how to make unusual storage for my make up products? but some where they can be seen.

and also some ideas for my belts.

how about mini hammocks? it depends how much money you have a stuff, but if you dont have much, tehn yer mini hammocks, you can make them as well as buy them, in funky colours, or what about just hooks on your wall?
hope i helped
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I want to make my room really cool.
I have a blue comforter, pink egg chair, and blue curtains in my room. I want to make it more decorative without making it look cluttered. Does anyone have any ideas that I could make at home, or get stuff at like a drug store. I have white christmas lights wrapped over my closet so its pretty cool. My room is somewhat big, and is filled with wood furniture. If you have any ideas, please help.

For my room, (i have a pretty big room) i just tryed to make it look and feel as comfortabl as i could, so i could have my friends over and stuff, one wall i covered in photos of my friends, one wall i made a collage or stuff i cut out of maggazines, and i also have material on my walls and posters and stuff, but if you want to keep room pretty minimilist (sp?) then i suggest throws, just over furniture and stuff, from the colours you sed your room was, i suggest plain whit, or really pale pink or something liek that, nothing to crazy or it will clash, hope i helped :)
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hey i'm a guy, and one of my friends got pregnant. the whole school found out and eventually her parents did too. right now shes feeling terrible and her parents flipped out on her. i heard her talking to some of her friends and said she was considering getting an abortion. i asked her about it and she said shes worried and afraid its a bad idea. what should i tell her about it? i mean i don't think she should get one, but how do i help her with what she wants to know? thanks

You cant TELL her what to do, for definate, its all down to her, its her body and her life, you should be there for her and make sure she knows that, maybe get soem imformation for her about abortion, and about young parenthood, they shouldny be pro or against though, just neutral facts, just be there to hold her hand through it all, if she does get an abortion, dont leave her because you think its wrong, its her decision, stay a good friend because she'l still need help whether she has an abortion or not
hope shes ok
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is 16 years old too old for a 14 year old?
because i don't think its a problem and it never ever seemed like a problem until one of my friends brought it up. hes totally cool with it. and he doesn't like force me to do anything. its nice. but is he really too old?

No he's not too old, as long as your comfortable with him, its fine, im 14 and my last bf was 19, i dont think age makes much difference wen its only about 5 years, if your were 13 and he was 17, it would be differnt because youv only been a teeanger for a year, but liek i said, as long as you feel comfortable with him, he's not pressuring you into anything, then its fine, but its then again, thats the same with everyguy, two years difference is really nothing, dont sweat it and enjoy your life :)
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My ex-best friend is trying to move in on my best friends. She's being moody, and since her mother is a witch, (like her, and overprotective) she's "brainwashed" her into just...being that way. I'm getting so tired of it. She's already moody and protective of everything she does. She's not all that pretty, and I'm not saying I'm better than her, but everything about her is ANNOYING. Andd I have to see her every single freakin day at school. What should I do. It's really getting old. I hate her.


Signed,
Frustrated >:(

What do you mean by *that way* im a wiccan (witch) and we tend not to be all moody and stuff, so i wouldny blame it on that, if shes over protective then try and tell her, say that your your own person and dont need her hanging over you all the time, why should her being not that prety annoy you? i dont think anyone can really hate anyone when their still in school, just try and block her out if she annoys you that much, if she says something that makes you angry, dont scream and shout just walk away, she'l eventually get the message.
hope i helped
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I usually sleep really well, but last night I didn't fall asleep until 2 o clock in the morning. I don't know why. I think it might've been because I was talking to this one guy and I really didn't want ot sign off and go to bed but I had too. So i was thinking about him and stuff and I couldn't sleep.
Does anyone have anything that might help me sleep?

Nooo, dont use sleeping pills yet! Try (i know this sounds a bit silly) but hot chocolate, erm, close your eyes and mke up a dream in your head then you gradually fall asleep, but yer, agreeing with a a person before sounds like you like this guy a lot :)
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ok, in october i'm going to be 13 and I want to have a really memorable party to mark me being a teenager. Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do? It can be anything as long as it's suited to that time of year (october.) Thanks! :)

I had a party on the beach wow u could have a massive halloween party on the beach that would be soooo cool you could have a sleepover on your birthday if you have anym8s who live near you get them to have a sleep over to and then sneak round thers in the middleof the night thats wat i do wen eva i have a sleepover you could do that then do the party thing on halloween! just make sure you let people know its a birthday party as well or else you wont get any presents :(
lol
XxX Rohan

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so ever since my boyfriend dumped me ((about 4 days ago)) ive been having thots and dreams that sum1 is out to kill me.
i keep thinking that sum1 is guna come in my bedroom and shoot me or sumthin. i know this isnt normal, and im so confused why this is happening!
im scaring myself but i can help it! *i rate*

Dont worry its just paranoia but if its scarying you and you want to stop having the dreams then speak to your ex and dont tell him your having the dreams but just tell him that you hope theres no hard feelings from him or sleep with rosemary under your pillow (i know it sounds strange but it really works) :D Hope it works whatever you do
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How do i overcome my shyness? Im like really shy around people i don’t know but once i get to know em im not what do i do? I don’t wanna be like this well at least this shy cuz people judge me.

Me and my friends play the 'hello' game (you have to b in a crowd of about 6 friends though) you just say hello to random people in the street and score yourselves on how they reply like 'hello' back would be 1 'hello how are you' 1s 5 a smile is half a point and so on the one with the least points at the end of so many people has to buy every1 a drink or something like that its well fun :)
hope this helps XxX wish_piskie

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im back the one who like 3 people

well i like greg and al l but the thing is he is nice and all to me but can be mean to others. well anyways do you think it is bad when you act different around soem1 you really like and you dont know why and they act differnt ever since they know that you like them and they dotn act liek how they used to. well ttyl lyts!

I have been in the EXACT same situation and yer it is totally crap :(
And no it is not ok they shudnt do it try tlkin to the person nd if that doesnt work then let things lie for awhile and then try tlking to him again :)
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i hate boys...why do they feel the need to tear out my heart and rip it to pieces?! >:0 :(

Hun when boys treat you like that you gotta give them a taste of there own medicene,its fun!
And whatever you do its always priceless to see there faces. Just remember one thing thats always helped me through relationship problems n when guys are being mean is to remember we dont need guys guys need us!
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Hey! I was wondering if anyone new any "Inspirational" Friendship type songs. The songs I have so far are; Wind Beneath My Wings, I Believe I Can Fly, I Turn To You, Live Like You Were Dying, Ask Me, Coming Out Of The Dark, Hero, Angel, Angels Among Us, Angels In Waiting, I'll Be (By Reba). I know not all of those are Inspirational songs. But if you know any that someone can realate to because of a hard time. Like Ask Me is about sexual abuse, or songs about anxiety or depression post them too! Thanks!

one of the best inspirational songs is switchfoot Meant to live i know switchfoot are normally quite heavy but this song is really beautiful
hope this helpds XxX

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