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Hey, I'm Samm and I'm 15-year-old freshman at Downingtown East High School. I've got a pretty average teenage life, except I'm in no way your average person. I doubt you'll ever meet someone exactly like me.



Feel free to drop one by in my inbox and I'll tell you what to do to the of my best ability in any situation. But remember, if it doesn't seem right, then don't do it. It's only my advice, not me telling you what to do.


PLEASE don't repeat questions. I appreciate all ratings and feedback, so please do it. It really gives me a good feel for how my advice is. Also, if you don't rate, and my advice is crap, I'd like to know so that I don't run the risk of telling someone to do that again.


Thanks.. and.. I hope I helped. =) ♥

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Lately my friends have been following the heard, you know, 'trendoids'. They always do whats popular at the time, and listen to the popular music. I hate that. I like being different. When an underground band i liked went mainstream, i stopped likeing them, because when everyone else likes them, it was no longer my thing. So my question is, am i trying TOO hard to be my own person? and am i being true to myself? thanks in advance, please no stupid answers!

Well, you're not really trying to be you, you're trying to be the opposite of everyone else. Finding yourself is one thing, but when you've already got yourself figured out, than why would you be so desperate to change? It's okay if you have something in common with other people sometimes.. really. Also, people tend to dislike those who just try waaaaay hard to stand out. Just be yourself.

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m/15 i like this girl and we talk on aol sometimes but a lot of times we have long awkward silence. i always try to ask her questions about things but i can't think of a lot of questions. can you give me some ideas? thx

Try talking about funny things that have happened in your life, maybe a movie that you just saw, a gay-ass teacher that you both have, an awesome teacher you both have, the school slut, the school idiot, your favorite music/bands/songs, what she's up to. Whatever you do, just make sure you're never boring her or interrogating her.

Good luck

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i got my period for the 4th month at the beginning of november. the very beginning. so i had it for like a 5 days. 2 days later i got it again and i still have it now heavy as ever. is this normal? it sucks so much nd i have used SO many pads!!!

Well, you're still just starting, so you're still going to be abnormally paced with them. No worries.

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What would a 14-15 year old girl think if they saw the guys cock jus the shape of it from your shorts, cause theyre basketball shorts. Would they think its gross, hot!, orweird ?

I'm fourteen, and I would think you were kinda gross just walking around with what looks like a boner. Not hott.

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I have a question about my friend. Well I guess you could say she is one of my best friends.
Well we had made plans tonight to rent and movie and then watch it at her appartment. She told me to arrive by 8 o clock. Well she phoned me at 5 and I wasnt dressed or anything yet. She asked me if I could do her a favour. I said "sure" before I knew what I was in for. Well it turned out she had put an add in the paper to sell two of her cats (she has 5). She told me that the girl buying the cats needed a ride home and could I do it because she (my friend) doesnt have a car. I was a little annoyed because I wasnt ready and she needed me there right away. Well being the loyal friend I was I showed up and one of the cats had escaped from its carrier, and then my friend made me chase around the house for the cat instead of her doing it! We finally caught her and then I had to load up my car with both the cats and their toys. Now heres the kicker: After I loaded up my car with all the cats and toys, I said to my friend "your'e coming with me right"? After all I didnt want to drive a complete stranger somewhere in my car all by myself, I would want my friend to come with me. Also, we still needed to rent the movie. Then she says "no, I'm not coming! So I had to drive this person to her house (who was extremely rude to me by the way). Then I had to rent the movie by myself!! When I finally got back to my friends by around 6 and all she could talk about was how sad she was that she had to give up her cats!!! She finally noticed that I looked upset and asked me what was wrong. I told her the girl I had to drive home was rude (but didnt mention I was more angry at her).
My question is, I am overeacting, or was that a really shitty thing that my "friend" did to me?

Completely rude. I mean, honestly, why would she leave you alone with a rude stranger to go waaaaaay out of your way and then complain to you? Rude, rude, rude. Bad friend.. bad! Next time, I would invite her over to your place.. and maybe have her do a little errand for you. =)

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Okay...I've had my period for exactly 2 years as of December 5. I want to use tampons, and I know how to put them in and all the dangers. But I have a few other questions:

Does it hurt going in/while its in/coming out?
What is an appropriate size?
What exactly does Toxic Shock Sydrome do to your body?
How do you know that you have TSS?

I rate.

It's a little uncomfortable going in, and I think it feels terrible coming out. But I mean, you get used to it.

I use the Playtex "Normal" (yellow) Slimfits. They work really well for me. But then again, it really depends on your flow and how big of a tampon you're willing to put up there.

TSS isn't strictly related to tampons, but is usually thought of that way. It can happen to men, women children.. It's a bacteria.

High fever, rapid drop in blood pressure, sunburn-like rash on the entire body, vomiting and diarrhea, severe muscle aches, bright red coloring of the eyes, throat, and vagina, headache, confusion, and disorientation, kidney and other organ failure are signs of TSS.

I'm getting some info from this site:
http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/girls/tss.html
So take a look there if you need more.

And most importantly.. tampons are fabulous, keep on trying! They're worth the discomfort the first few times.

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I'm 13, and in 7th grade. I recently found out like half the girls in my grade wear thongs?!?! I thought this was a little young, is it normal? How could I ask my mom if I could start wearing them, I'm pretty embarresed to ask.

Completely normal.. Some girls in my grade started in sixth. If I were you, I wouldn't ask your mother's opinion. Do your own laundry when she's not home, because she'll just get upset with you and think your a little slut. .. to put it nicely =)

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Do guys really find it sexy if girls gring with each other? im not quite sure and i wanted u guyses opinion

lol they LOOOVE it!


except for the shy one
or the one who is borderline gay


but who likes those guys anyway?

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(13/f)hey.. i know that doing sit ups makes your stomach flatter.. but it only seems to be working on my upper stomach.. but its not working on my lower stomach. Do you have any exercises that work for the lower stomach.. because i have abs on my upper stomach, but i want them on the lower also.
thanks, so much.

Here is what the problem may be: you're exercising, and the muscles are tight underneath, but there is flab over top of that. So, basically you have to diet. However, if you diet, you're not going to be able to chose where the fat is going to come off of. You should maintain a healthy diet (I wouldn't go with a diet plan being that you're only 13) and exercise. Burn more calories than you intake.

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ok im 13 and a female

this guy at school and i have gone out 4 times and just today he told me he really likes me still and we even madeout today but i have a boyfriend and hes got a girlfriend what should we do? should i tell him if he dumps his girlfriend then ill dump my boyfriend then we can go out? thx for helping!
**sleepiesheep**

First of all, to put it plainly, he was just completely unfaithful to his girlfriend, so what makes you think that he won't be unfaithful to you? "Oh, but he really likes me." Yeah, who knows if he'll "really like" someone while you two are dating? If I were you, I'd break up with your boyfriend, but don't go out with this scum bag that made out with you. Neither you or him deserve a relationship right now.

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okay so i just got contacts like 3 months ago but i have dark dark circles i cover it up with makeup n im tired of it n so i heard you could freeze spoons...do you use plastic or metal? and what exactly do you do?? And do you know any home remedies or inexpensive products i could buy like $10 or less

Dark circles SUCK.. I know. Ways to cover them up.. use the color wheel! So what's the opposite of blue/purple? A orange/yellow. So first put down a base coat of skin colored cover-up, than a yellowish orange tint, then foundation. It should cover a little better. Phsyician's Formula (sold at Wal*Mart) sells a pre-made yellowish orange tint. If you don't feel like spending the money, you can use a yellowish orange tinted eyeshadow(so as long as it isn't sparkely or whatever). Good luck.

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how do u make sweat pants look sexy? any advice *i rate 5 for any try that isnt just random*

Low riding, not too baggy, don't look sloppy, don't wear them with a tee shirt. Don't have messy hair or not enough makeup. Wear bright lip colors and thin, dark eyeliner.

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14/f...My friend Kate and I are crushing on the same guy, named Warren. I've only known him for about 2 weeks but Kate has known him for a whole year because they went to the same school last year. He talks to her way more than he talks to me because they are really good "friends." We both made a PROMISE that whatever happens we won't let him come between us. But whenever I see them talking I can't help but feel jealous. I know that I shouldn't be mad at her but I can't help what I feel. Please help me. I don't know what to do...in all parts of this situation.

Ughh, I know this situation all too well. Anyway, don't get mad at her.. just kind of snag him first. Flirt harder, make yourself up. But at the same time, it isn't a contest between you and your friend who can get him first. So flirt away.. but at the same time, keep your eyes open for other guys.

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Okay, I have really bad facial acne, and have had it for about 4-5 years now. I have tried almost everything it seems, but it just won't go away! If you have any advice on acne, or even acne scars (I have both, lucky me)I'd love to know! ThAnKs!!

Of course, I'm going to tell you the obvious.

1)see your dermo
2)ask about proactive

As for on-the-spot, right now, in the moment zits.. Toothpaste burns them. I know, gross. But it does.

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Ok, here's the deal:

In middle school, I got teased by these two boys on my bus. They'd yell at me from the back of the bus. So embarressing.

Anyways, they went off to high school when I went into the 8th grade, but now that I'm in the high school with them [I'm a freshmen, they're sophomores], I think they're going to start bothering me again!
What can I do/say to them to make them stop [if they try lol]


Mucho thanks

Chances are.. they'll probably get over that immature phase. But there are some guys that are total idiots that just.. don't ever get past that phase until they want some booty. Anyway. Make sure you're always walking with a friend in the hall to your classes, and when those boys make fun of you, simply give them looks that make you look uninterested by their rude and stupid remarks. Roll your eyes and let them know you're past being an immature middle schooler.. ask them when THEY will catch up with times too.

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okay there's this boy and i've liked him for such a long time. we went out b4 but we broke up a while ago. i still like him though! We still hang out and are really good freinds but I feel like he is treating me as just one fo the guys now. How can I show him that I still like him w/o anything drastic?

Well, I'm not sure if it's the best idea to show that you like him. Actually.. Scratch that.

Why did you guys break up? Is it something that happened, or just got bored? If something happened, than you should show him that you still care. If you guys just kinda.. broke up, than it's not such a good idea.

However, if you insist on showing him how much you like him, try hanging out with him more often, and don't let him forget about your feminism. And be flirtyyyyyyyyy!

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Ok..i love when guys play hard to get with me. Its just a turn on and everytime and guy does it..i like him even more. Well i used to like this one guy and he immediatly asked me out after he found out i liked him. That scared me and turned me off and i didnt like him nemore. Has this happened to anyone else. Please comment!

No, that's never happened to me. I understand where you're coming from though. It's no reason to scare you, or to make you not like him. So he's a compassionate guy who doesn't want to screw around with your feelings. That's anything BUT scary! Give him a shot.

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I have all these little red bumps on the sides of my face, back and chest..has anybody had this, and if so..what is it?

I forget what they are called.. but if they are what I'm thinking of, they're not zits.. And you can't really get rid of them, but to make them go down, use an exfoliator on your face once a week (even if the exfoliator says it's "gentle enough for daily use".. it's not. that's what my dermo said) and as for your back and chest, use a loofa. Good luck.

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What do you think about a guy that you ask over on a date, and he continually disses you?
I invited this guy over that I had liked for a long time.
I have a small but clean and nicely decorated appartment. Well he would say mean things about it, like when his tea got cold I told him I could zap it in my microwave and he said sarcastically "oh you have one of those"? Then when I asked him if he wanted to watch one of my movies he said "oh, it's the movie queen,". But the way he said it wasn't complimentary. Then he started asking me questions about my finaces! I kept trying to enagage him in conversation by showing him pictures but he looked completely bored. I felt very uncomfortable. I thought if I guy was into you he would say things to make you like him better. But the way he was acting it's like he was purposely trying to make me not like him.
Why do you think he was acting like this? He's still trying to be my friend. What should I do?

Well, it sounds like you're old enough, being that you live in your own appartment. If this guy is still completely immature, I'd forget about him. That behavior is completely unacceptable on a date! Especially since it was at your house, it's just rude. If you think he's good enough to be your friend, go ahead. But he's still in the state of mind that girls have cooties, so you should probably just be friends. Or maybe the opposite. Maybe he just wanted to get some booty. Either way, it's disrespectful.. Not worth yout time.

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my period is late by a few days which is really weird for me because i usually get it right on time. basketball season started up this month & i was wondering if it was because of that. my mom said that if you exercise a lot & you haven't exercised that much in awhile, that could be the reason. what are some other reasons?? idk if i should worry er not. i guess i should wait a few days & go to the doctor if i dont get it?? any ideas??

thanks!!

Late.. meaning you got it? If it's just a few days late, don't worry about it. Sometimes, sudden exercise can actually cancel a period. Don't worry about it.

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