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***I KNOW ITS LONG BUT I REALLY NEED HELP!!!!***
14/f...My friend Kate and I are crushing on the same guy, named Warren. I've only known him for about 2 weeks but Kate has known him for a whole year because they went to the same school last year. He talks to her way more than he talks to me because they are really good "friends." We both made a PROMISE that whatever happens we won't let him come between us. But whenever I see them talking I can't help but feel jealous. I know that I shouldn't be mad at her but I can't help what I feel. Please help me. I don't know what to do...in all parts of this situation.
<3 ELLE
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It's okay to feel jealous. Just keep talking to him and you'll get close to him. It's not always a good idea to like a guy that your friend likes though. Since she has known him longer, she has the advantage too.
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Ughh, I know this situation all too well. Anyway, don't get mad at her.. just kind of snag him first. Flirt harder, make yourself up. But at the same time, it isn't a contest between you and your friend who can get him first. So flirt away.. but at the same time, keep your eyes open for other guys.
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To keep your side of the promise, you need to talk to your friend about how you feel. Be honest with her and say that you know that you both promised that you wouldn't let this guy come between you, but that you can't help but feel jealous of their relationship. Not speaking out about it will only make you feel more jealous and resentful of them, so speak up honestly early on about how the both of you can stop this happening. Perhaps she could include you more in conversations with him? It's naturally akward when two people in a trio know each other already and have their own raport, but with effort from both you and Kate you can both grow closer to this guy without feeling like you are competing with each other.
It does take effort, but it's worth the akwardness of talking about this with your friend to keep your friendship healthy. All the best.
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Thats is a very messy situation, if you both keep your promises then you should not be jealous. Don't let a guy come between you, friendship id forever, and plus you cn always talk to him, make converation and maybe you and him will become better friends. If you both can't keep from feeling jealous then I would suggest that both of you try to keep your distances from him, and respect eachothers promises. Or you could see which one of you he wants to date, but I would highly suggest the distance between him and you two. Good luck, remember you two are really good friends and he is justa guy.
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