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You know, I never liked filling these out. Mostly because I don't know who I am. I don't know if I'm smart or funny, I don't know if I'm pretty or a complete lunatic. So I can't tell you anything about me without the risk of lying, and I don't lie. So, instead of trying to fit each little aspect of my personality the way I see it into this little space. I'm here to be a shoulder to lean on, someone to vent to, a friend who you can always count on. So, I'll give you the best advice I can, and if it goes against ANY of your values, PLEASE don't listen. If it's complete crap, tell me, and I won't give it again. Otherwise, please rate me so I know how to do better in the future.
*Carrie

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hello :]

I am 14, and about 5'7'', and weigh 140. is that too much? cause lately, i have started feeling better about my body because I am very athletic. Currently I am on 2 sports teams, out excerising almost every day/night. Also, what are some ways you would reccomend to work on upper leg/buttocks areas? I think cellulite is the main thing bugging me in that area, and also my stomach. My school is going to dorney in less than a week, and I would like to just slightly change how I look for that. Thank you in advance!

Hmm, my school is going to Dorney in a week too.
I bet I know you!

Anyway...

Have you ever heard of the BMI scale? It calculates your "Body Mass Index", and gives you a number. Depending on how this number fits into the scale, you can tell whether you are overweight, underweight, or at the 'desirable' weight. Here is the scale:

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heyy carrie,
i meant by judging him as in i might c him w/ his friend nd think tht hes funny or nice but i dont really kno him so i dont kno... u kno.... neway nd i feel like im stalking him :'( i mean i always think about him nd glance at him nd he cs me smtimes i feel horrible
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Ahh..now I understand. What I don't get, is why that could possibly make you feel horrible? If you like him, and he sees you look at him, why is that bad? If you're worried about judging him, get to know him a little better. Strike up conversation when he sees you looking. You never know, he may have been looking too...
*Carrie

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i REALLY like this guy almost love him, yea baisically, we were nvr on the same "team" in school but weve been in band 2gether 4 3 yrs now, ne way i keep staring at him and i think hes seen me doing this nd i dunno if he thinks tht im totally like crazy or mayb if he likes me 2 i wanna go out with him but we kindof kno each othr but not really, is it wrong to want to go out with him or am i just judging him, though i ikno him a bit nd really Like him? THANX
???...

First off:
"i REALLY like this guy"
And you ask if i's wrong to want to go out with him? Of course not! If you have feelings for him, nothing can be wrong about that. You asked if you were judging him...judging him by what? Looks? Reputation?
If you like him, take a shot, what's the worst thing that could happen?
Good luck!
*Carrie

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I would like to try tampons but wonder if they will break my hymen?

No, that's a load of crap. An urban legend made up by someone who had nothing better to do. A tampon does nothing but block the blood flow from your period, I promise.
*Carrie

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I'm a republican, and every single one of my friends are democrats. If they insult the president (Even though they know that I'm republican) then it's okay, but if I say any republican views they all look at me like I'm a bad person. What should I do? I'm not the kind of person to just sit back in any type of debate but I can't help but feel like my opinion doesn't matter just because it's not a democratic one.

Hey!
Ok, I can't say that I haven't been there, but I was on the other side. I've been a Democrat all my life, and I don't agree at all with the people who say that you 'shouldn't form views at a young age.' It's good to have opinions, and convictions, and to fight for them, as long as you know what you're talking about. Are you a Republican just because your parents are? Or are you a Republican because you believe in the things that the Republican party stands for?
I promise you that your friends care about your opinions, maybe they're just too stubborn to admit that you may be right on some issues, or maybe they're only Democrats because their parents are. Try something. The next time they're talking about their Democratic views, try challenging them (if you know the reasons behind your own veiws). A good debate is always fun, but don't let it get too personal, you don't want to hurt a friendship.
I hope this helped, if you need anything, feel free to drop a message in my inbox with some more details and I'll try to help as best I can. Good luck!
*Carrie

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hi , im a 14 year old boy and im currently in love with a girl but i dont think she likes me ... I've asked her out several times but it never works out . she is my best freind and i dont want to ruin that ... I dont know what to do . can you help me ? i want to be with her so bad . i dream about her all the time


Thanks ....
Worthless

Ok, first off, I refuse to call you worthless. Your name can be Wonderful..got it? Good.
So:
Dear Wonderful,
I really have all the information I need. When you've asked her out, has //she// said 'No' or has it just not worked out? Because hon, if she's said no, then she probably doesn't like you. And I know that sucks, it happens to me all the time, but there's nothing you can do about it. She may come around eventually, or she may not, but if she doesn't you're just going to have to be content with being her best friend, letting her lean on you when she needs you. I'm sorry this isn't what you wanted to hear, but you need to remeber that you're absolutely wonderful, and that it's her loss if she doesn't realize that.
*Carrie

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i put ny clothes in the wash and i did not notice i put my white top in and my jeans have died it how can i get it back white with out bleaching it? please help

You can't, really. See, what happened was that the blue dye from your jeans has bled into the white fabric. You can try to bleach it, but that may turn the shirt yellow-ish if you use too much. If it wasn't expensive, I say you should go buy another one. Sorry!
*Carrie

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Theres this New kid in my grade and i wanna talk to him and ask him questions and such but i dunno i have no idea how to start out. Me and my friends titled him a Bad Boy. So how should i get to know him?

I've been the new kid //tons// of times, and I can't tell you how awful it is to be new AND have a bad reputation. Has he done anything to deserve the title 'Bad Boy'? Or is that just you and your friends unjustly sterotyping him? Maybe he's a realy nice kid, and just shy. How tot alk to him? There's no need for strategy hon, just go up to him at his locker, in the lunch room, and start talking. Say something like 'Hey, I'm [insert name here]. I haven't seen you around before, you're new right?' Then ask him where he's from, and say something about that place. I promise you, he'll be so grateful to have a friend. Try inviting him to sit with you and your friends at lunch.
So try that, and please, stop trying to fit him into some kind of category. You don't know him, let him show you who he really is.
*Carrie

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okay this is gonna be kinda hard to answer. whats that song that goes...'I love the way it turns me onnn..ring my bell ring my bell' its on that tommy hillfigure fragrence or w/e its called lol commercial.

'True Star Women' was recently released with the input and assistance of Beyonce Knowles. Enrique Iglesias has joined forces with Tommy Hilfiger & Estee Lauder and their “True Star Men” TV commercial will feature Enrique and the track 'Ring My Bell' taken from his new album to be released later this fall.
*Carrie

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My face is always kind of shiny. Are there any products or anything I could do to get rid of this?

Hey,
Do you wear make-up? If so, try using an anti-shine powder on yout T-Zone (Your forehead, nose, and chin) to limit the shine. These products can be found at your local drugstore for less than $5. Also, at night, when you wash your face, try using a 'Shine Control' or 'Blemish Fighting' face wash. The 'Blemish Fighting' wash helps to prevent acne, and therefore is great for getting rid of oils and grease on your face. Then, when you're done washing, use a toner. 'Burts Bee's Garden Tomato Toner' is GREAT, and it smells //fabulous//.
Good luck!
*Carrie

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I really think I love this guy.. but he doesn't go to my school and I haven't seen him in a year. I really miss him because I, deep down, have always loved him. I try to make plans, but he's always playin hockey. I REALLY need to see him.. what can I do?

P.S. =>more info: i'm 13 (so is he) im in 7th grade (so is he) he's totally hott, and sweet (so am i... ok i'm juss sweet, im like OK but he thinks im hott) and he lives near me (we're only one school district apart.

THANKS FOR YOUR TIME!

Try going to one of his hockey games. It shows 2 things.

1) That you are intetrested in his sport
2) That you are possibly interested in //him//

If that isn't possible, try going to his house (since he lives near you) and ask him to explain hockey to you. Even if you understand it, guys like it when they get to talk about something they enjoy.

Hope this helped you...please, tell me how it worked out!
*Carrie

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Well, I have this friend, and it seems like every time she gets a boyfriend, she forgets about all of her friends. It drives me crazy b/c we're supposed to be like best friends but everytime she just meets a new guy and like...ditches all of us. And then she wont hang ot with us unless he can come and all she does is like make out in front of us with him. Im getting really annoyed with her but I dont know if i should say something or not...

Wow, sounds tough. I think every girl goes through this at some point. Here is my advice:

Try talking to her about it. Say something like "(name) I really hate it when you drop us all for your boyfriend. I mean, boys are temporary, but friends are forever." If it is the PDA's that freak you out, confront her about it, or simply walk away when they do it. Sorry to say, but you really can't stop it from happening.

Hope this helped...please, fill me in on what happens and I'm always here if you need more advice!
*Carrie

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At school dances, I never dance. I know..you'll say "then why do you go?". I just go and hang out with my friends. It's actually pretty fun. But they dance sometimes, and I don't. I guess I'm just not much of a dancer. I think I'm self-conscious or just embarrassed because I think I can't dance...I'm not sure. I'm probably afraid of what people will think of me, like if I dance bad/can't dance right or something. I'm just nervous. I've never slow danced with anyone either. So my first time will be a little scary. Anyway, back to my question. What do you think I can do to get over this? I need help, because I want to be dancing and having more fun than I usually do at the next dance.

Hey!

Alright, I feel your pain, I am EXACTLY the same way! Dancing is a scary thing. You are close to a person, you have to be aware of what your body does. And, of course, how hot the guy that you are dancing with is! *wink*

I don't think there is such a thing as "not knowing how to dance." Dance is really just the movement of your body in whatever way feels right. Try listening to music in your room and dancing to it. I bet it will help you be more confident in front of people.

As for slow dancing:
Usually, when you slow dance, the guy is the leader. If you put your arms around his neck, but don't get SUPER close, all that is left is to follow his movements.

Good luck! Please, let me know how it worked out!
*Carrie

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My bestfriend and I... dont really get along... we can't be around eachother for more then 10 minutes or we'll start fighting.. n i have 2 other bestfriends (all four of us are bestfriends lol) and they think it gets annoying but me and my friend are trying to work it out but we cant.. n i just wanna kno if u think this is a good friendship.. so tell me wat u think.. thanx a bunch!

"My bestfriend and I... dont really get along... we can't be around eachother for more then 10 minutes or we'll start fighting"
That doesn't sound like you are best friends to me! Maybe she isn't worth the pain of fighting so much. I mean, you can't enjoy it, and I'm sure she doesn't either. You should try and talk to her about it, but if all else fails...write her off.
*Carrie

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Hey it's me again the 14/f that is pregnate..For those of you that don't remember or know me, I had a boyfriend in jail and the side relationship where I got pregnate and found out from a test. Pierre is his name..not mike..but anyway pierre wants this baby aborted..he said he's not going to lose his football career over me or the baby..i`m already 6 weeks and I love this baby more than anything now. Telling my boyfriend was hard.. even harder then telling my father! My boyfriend was really mad since he just got out of jail and everything and wanted to kill the crap out of pierre..well my boyfriend really loves me and you can tell..since he said he'll be the father since pierre won't....but what should i do..should i still consider abortion? because I really want this child...

Hey,
Wow, that's really tough. Sounds like your parents are great though, and it's the right decision to stay in school. Mike seems like a great guy for offering to raise a child that isn't his, but...he was in JAIL. Is that really the environment you want your child to grow up in?

Really though. Screw Pierre. You are this baby's mother. You are the one who will be carrying around the weight of a child for nine months. You are the one who will be going through labor. It should be your decision what you do with your baby, and it seems you want to keep him/her. If Mike is willing to help you, that's awsome, but think about the jail time. Is that a safe house for your baby to live in?

I would love to be informed of anything new that develops. Feel free to email me or IM me. I hope I helped a little!
*Carrie

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heu guys! any help would be appreciated... for the past couple months i've been getting really bad headaches, and it hurts to look at light or hear noises and stuff. Well I think they might be migraines. I try to tell mom but she won't listen. Is there anything i can do at home to make them better? and medicine doesn't work...

Hey!

I've been getting migranes for a feew years now. They're awful aren't they? If Advil and Asprin don't work, try calling your pediatrician directly instead of going through your mom. You can tell him how you feel and he may convince your mom to take you in. There are also some over the counter drugs that probably won't be amazing, but they will dull the pain a bit.

If none of that works, you can always try my method:

1) Put some comfy clothes on. You don't want to be restricted or uncomfortable.
2) Lie is bed with the covers
3) Take an eye mask to get rid of the light
4) Close your door for the quiet
5) Place a hot washcloth over your eyes
6) Try to sleep it off!

Good Luck! Please contact me with any new developments!
*Carrie

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Hello all,
What does it mean when ur Gf of 2 1/2 years makes me decide all the time, gives me options, (eg) go to my house her house or out, then when i say, choose my house she will tell me she has no way to get here, it really pisses me off, because she should know what she wants and not make things difficult. what should i think from this? i hope that makes sence, i know it probly isnt that big of a deal to you but it is to me. Thanks

Hey,
From what I can gather, she wants the romance back. When she says she has no way to get there, she, in her mind, is waiting for you to be a gentleman and offer to pick her up and drive her there. Might I suggest you plan a very romantic evening for her? Maybe pick her up, open the door for her. Drive to a fancy dinner, pull out her chair. Pay for her dinner. Take her to a movie and buy her popcorn. That sort of thing will remind her that you are still capable of providing romance, and probably get her off your back.

Good Luck. Please inform me of how everything went!
*Carrie

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I recently acquired a thermonuclear missile through my contacts in the Russian black market, and intend to launch it next Tuesday when I get back from my morning classes and lectures (I always make time for fun after I've been working). I might even fire it before then if I get particularly bored by an essay or run out of cigarettes. Problem is I'm in two minds over what capital city to launch it at. The obvious choice would be Paris, of course...but then I do value originality, and Oslo is just asking for its very own mushroom cloud. Then there's Istanbul, Rome, and Toronto...all of which suck in their own very special and unique ways. And of course it would be simply hilarious to get either Hiroshima or Nagasaki again...I don't want to take this thing too seriosuly. But then I also believe in equality of distribution. Oh there are just so many factors to way up...what's a guy to do?

Hell, if I crank this thing up all the way I could give the moon a little something to think about. Or would that just be a waste of a perfectly good missile? I have to admit...I'm lost for a solution.

Help, guys?

*Laughs ass off*

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When I started Junior High, I noticed this guy and he seemed pretty cool. At first I kind of thought he was weird because of the way he looked (long hair,converse high-tops..etc) but then I got to know him and sort of developed a crush on him. By the end of 7th grade I became OBSESSED and one night with a box cutter, I just carved his name into my arm. He never noticed. It seemed like he had a crush on me too for a while, he would call me things like "cutie" and "sweetie" . The beginning of the year he seemed like he liked me still, and I hadn't told him about my scar. I needed to get it off my chest, so I told my friend who has him 6th period to tell him and she did. After school he looked scared and luckily he didn't see me. The next few days he would look at me and the stare at the ground. He supposedly said he "hated me" because I carved his name into my arm. It doesn't make sense, how could he change his feelings that quickly? Now he thinks I'm this weirdo. What should I do? I still have major feelings for him, even though I don't show it. Because I feel like I can't. Please help me.

Hey,
Wow, harsh. I don't really know how to say this, but carving his name into your arm is a form of self-mutilation. If you have been doing anything else like that you should really get help. There are hundreds of people out there who are willing to help you, and you should contact one of them.

It's good that you told him about it, it would have been worse if he had found out for himself. Try telling him that you are sorry if you weirded him out by doing what you did but that it was just an expression of your feelings.

Please, let me know how everything goes, and GOOD LUCK!
*Carrie
*Carrie

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What ages do most people with Cerebral Palsy die??

- Thanks....

Cerebral Palsy is a horrible disease, but it does not cause people to live a life too much different than someone without it. Of course, there are certain precautions and arrangements that must be made, especially if a person becomes impaired in the arms or legs. The lifespan of those with more severe forms, especially spastic quadriplegia, is often considerably shortened. However, over 90% of infants with CP survive into adulthood.
*Carrie

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