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girlfriend troubles II
Hello all,
What does it mean when ur Gf of 2 1/2 years makes me decide all the time, gives me options, (eg) go to my house her house or out, then when i say, choose my house she will tell me she has no way to get here, it really pisses me off, because she should know what she wants and not make things difficult. what should i think from this? i hope that makes sence, i know it probly isnt that big of a deal to you but it is to me. Thanks
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Hey,
From what I can gather, she wants the romance back. When she says she has no way to get there, she, in her mind, is waiting for you to be a gentleman and offer to pick her up and drive her there. Might I suggest you plan a very romantic evening for her? Maybe pick her up, open the door for her. Drive to a fancy dinner, pull out her chair. Pay for her dinner. Take her to a movie and buy her popcorn. That sort of thing will remind her that you are still capable of providing romance, and probably get her off your back.
Good Luck. Please inform me of how everything went!
*Carrie
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In the scenario you provided, it sounds like she wants to be romanced again?
After 2 1/2 yrs, maybe she feels like things are a bit too comfortable...ie: she wanted youtocome and pick her up.
As to her making you decide, maybe she wants feedback? Maybe she's afraid you won't like her suggestions?Maybe she dosn't care what you two do, as long as you are together?
Really, I guess you have to ask yourself if it's that big of a deal or whether you can work it through, a 2 1/2 yr relationship seems something too precious to toss away on something as trivial (no offence) as this.
Take care :)
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your girlfriend is just trying to make you happy she dosnt want to decide because she might be afraid of you saying... do we have to... or you say yes and then you turn out being board or something...your girlfriend doing this is just trying to make sure that you get what you want...and that she dosnt mind what you decide as long as you end up doing something together xoxox brige
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Just ask her why she's doing it. She probably doesn't realize she's doing it in the first place. Giving you options means she cares about your opinion, so it's not really a bad thing. Just whenever she says she has no way of getting there, politely ask her why she mentioned it in the first place. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin
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hey! dont worry hun! all that this means is taht you8r girlfriend is extremly considerate of your feelings! It may seem like she is 'clingy' and unclear right now, but if you tell her that she can decide this time, or talk to her polietly about it im sure evrything will turn out alright!
i hope i helped!! xo hayley
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Tell her what you just told me ! She needs to know that you shouldn't be making all the decisions for her. xo !
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Relationships begin to crumble after a while when people notice small things about each other that they dislike, and then the dislike grows and the people grow apart. Main point, deal with it, it's not that big of a deal unless you make it a big deal. You can talk to her about it, but that might cause an unnecessary argument. Don't let the small stuff get on your nerves. Good luck with her.
-Farren
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she is trying to share the control with you.. it seems to me like maybe she has been to controling.. so she has decided to actually let you make some descisions to let you know you still share the control.. even if the options arent really possible..
if she has been like this from the word go? then id say she is just a wierd one :P just tell her you dont like it when she gives you choices that arent possible and she should stop :P
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