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pregnate grl again
Hey it's me again the 14/f that is pregnate..For those of you that don't remember or know me, I had a boyfriend in jail and the side relationship where I got pregnate and found out from a test. Pierre is his name..not mike..but anyway pierre wants this baby aborted..he said he's not going to lose his football career over me or the baby..i`m already 6 weeks and I love this baby more than anything now. Telling my boyfriend was hard.. even harder then telling my father! My boyfriend was really mad since he just got out of jail and everything and wanted to kill the crap out of pierre..well my boyfriend really loves me and you can tell..since he said he'll be the father since pierre won't....but what should i do..should i still consider abortion? because I really want this child...
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Hey,
Wow, that's really tough. Sounds like your parents are great though, and it's the right decision to stay in school. Mike seems like a great guy for offering to raise a child that isn't his, but...he was in JAIL. Is that really the environment you want your child to grow up in?
Really though. Screw Pierre. You are this baby's mother. You are the one who will be carrying around the weight of a child for nine months. You are the one who will be going through labor. It should be your decision what you do with your baby, and it seems you want to keep him/her. If Mike is willing to help you, that's awsome, but think about the jail time. Is that a safe house for your baby to live in?
I would love to be informed of anything new that develops. Feel free to email me or IM me. I hope I helped a little!
*Carrie
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I'm sure you're quite the idiot for being sexually active in the first place.
If I was your child I would NOT want to live with you. I wouldn't want to be raised by a total moron who had sex at such an early age in the first place.
Abortion isn't so bad, people. Babies aren't alive until born. It's called INSTINCT, that's why they suck their thumbs and breathe in the womb.
You're a moron. Best wishes to you and your child. Maybe you'll give it up for adoption.
Don't give me the 'how would it feel if you got aborted' crap. I wouldn't know. Innocent babies get reincarnated. Pro-choice will prevail in the end, so...it's your choice.
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well if your both willing to work at being the parents and you've both considered the things that would have to be done, and your both okay with that, and you both love eachother then i would say no to the abortion, but i would keep the baby especially if my b/f was as sweet and loving, and willing to be there for me like yours is,sounds like you've got a good b/f..don't lose him = ) ..good luck xOx KT
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Doesn't wanna lose his football career? What an asshole. Don't listen to anything he tells you. Pierre better warm up to the fact hes got child support payments for the next 18 years. Haha,keep your wang in your pants next time,frenchie. Love your baby but not its loser of a father. Don't consider abortion at all.
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No, if you really truely love that baby, you should keep it. It doesn't matter what ANYBODY else thinks. It's your decision, nobody else's. You're mom is there for you, and im sure she's is going to help you out through the whole thing. You should keep it, its your baby. Hope I helped...Xoxo..Amber*
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keep the baby!
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Talk to your parents..see what they think, and talk to pierre. But most of all remember that the ultimate decision is yours, not ANYONE elses.
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don't have an abortion! if you love that baby that's the last thing you want to do! i would just be a single parent. if your mom is going to support you, then you need no father figure around until your older! hope this helps!
~Alyssa
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keep the baby! if your boyfriend will be the fothe than let him who cares about the other guy u did half of the work to make it so keep it!
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DONT consider abortion! That is the worst thing you can do. After you have an abortion there is a chance that you can't ever get pregnant again! If anything have this baby and put it up for adoption if you dont think you are going to be able to take care and support the baby. That is the worst thing to do- to kill it. That is an innocent baby that hasn't done anything wrong and you want to kill it?! Dont do that! Have this baby and go from there.
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Hey there. Well, don't get the baby aborted, because you will regret it. And i'm glad your mother is supporting you, but why would she send Mike to jail for rape when he is not the real father?
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well i wouldnt aborte it.. i mean you have a guy willing to be the father of the child. thats great, and its your child you made it and you shouldnt just kill it because you are only 14, my friends step mom got pregnant at 13 and had her kid at 14 soo dont feel alone. and she did not aborte her kid either. and she made it, and he is now 20 something i think and he has a kid now. so i think you should no aborte that child and keep it -jiLl and raCh
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well, i think your mom has the right idea. and if your mom is going to support you and Mike is willing to be the father figure, then more power to ya. while it will be hard having a baby at 14, with all the support you say you have, i don't think it will be as hard as if, say, no one supported you and your parents kicked you out. so go ahead and have the kid. i know that you will probably make a great mother. go ahead and email me, my addy's metalkat86@hotmail.com i hope to hear from you soon, and i'd love pictures when the little one's born. i'm always here to help and feel free to come to me with any problems. btw, my mom's "shelbyjune" and she answered this question, too, so we are both able to help if you need it. later,
Kat
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ok first off. i dont think that he could be charged with rape becuase you let him have sex with you. There is not much she can do. For the baby...I think you should have it...Before it comes out find a nice family to keep it... School should be important...not if your baby is ok. PLEASE DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT HAVING AN ABOTION!!! And you are 14 i really dont know if you should be having sex at that young of an age...you cant take care of the baby when your that young...put it up for adoption.
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its nice that your bf is going to be the father since you did that..sice pierre doesnt want to ruin his football career you could keep the baby but he should have to pay child support..its not his decion(sp)to abort the child its your..but keep in mind aare you going to be able to support it?love it?ruin your school year for it?
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You should maybe keep the baby if you love it...and want it to be in this world...but knwo that there are complications during pergnancy specially since your 14 years old..when your giving birth you can die..and the baby can die...maybe abortion would be the best thing altho i really dont agree with abortion since you would be killing your baby..but what ever you decide to do you have to live with....so choose carefully....good luck and i wish you the best...
~Katie Leigh~
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If you love your baby..then don't have an abortion. I really think abortions are wrong..that's just by oppinion, but if your mom is supporting you and is willing to help you out, and your boyfriend is willing to be a father to it since pierre won't..then it sounds like you're in pretty good shape for having it. I mean, it'll be hard no doubt about it, but as long as you have the support you should be able to get thru finishing school. Think it over some more...bc you might realize that maybe you should have an aboriton, so don't exclude it from your options just yet. Talk to someone who has had a baby when they were your age or maybe a physchiatrist or guidance counsuler. Not that you're crazy but they can probably help you make the right decision. But they shouldn't make it for you. Get their input, but make sure you do what you want...good luck! and leave one in my inbox if you need any more help
=) HoPe I HeLpEd!
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No i would not consider abortion... esspecily this far into the process. You are a lucky one even though you dont have the father of your baby you hav a man (who seems nice) willing to be the father and help you through everything. If you have to in the end you can always give it to the annoyomus baby adoption center. good luck.
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No offence, but it doesn't sound like he really loves you if he told you that he wouldn'y lose anything over leaving you and the baby. He may though since he said that he would support you, thats really sweet. You should probably take the other guy to court, to make him pay child support. He NEEDS to gve you money, since he was the one that got you pregnet, look it up on websites, just type in 'child insurence' and it'll take you to a bunch of sites. Good luck!
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If pierre cant step up and be a father then send him to jail for rape. Do not give the baby an abortion and if pierre wont be the father then take your boyfriend who was in jail to be the father since he siad he would and all. if pierre wont be then who will. Also, If you get a abortion you could lose a chance of having this baby that you say really want.
~morgan
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Which is the guy that you cheated on your boyfriend with. I thought it was Pierre, and if it was Pierre that you had se with, then how can she send mike to jail for rape when it was pierre that got you pregnant. (" I did use a condom...it broke with me and pierre..it happened while my boyfriend was in jail") And then you said... ("mike is 16 turning 17 in 15 days...my mom said either he becomes a parents w. me or shes gonna send him to jail for rape")
How can she send someone who didn't do anything to you to jail for rape? Or are Mike and Pierre the same guy, and the guy from jail a no-name.
Well I say KEEP the baby. Would you like it if your mom decided to get an abortion when she was pregnant with you? If you are able to raise it, and the guy that was in jail is willing to father it, then you should have it. I'd be careful though. This guy was in jail, I mean what were the charges. If they were like murded, or attemted murded, or accessory to murder, or something like that where someone could've died or been really hurt then maybe this Jail guy has issues and it wouldn't be good to have him raise a child. Was he in jail for sexual abuse, or any other type of abuse? I wouldn't want someone like that raising my baby, especially if he's not the father. Now if it was like vandelism, then that isn't too bad (even if it's against the law) and he'd still be an okay father. You kind of confused me in this question, I read the last one when you had asked it, but I don't know if I answered it. If you want the child, keep it. It may have something wrong with it, or you may have to have a C-Section to get it out safely. But all in all it'll be worth it. Good luck, please keep me updated with questions in the inbox, or either of these e-mail adresses... Maniac_Munchkin@yahoo.com or Bull_Dawg_Babii@yahoo.com. Good luck with the pregnancy and the birthing process!! Hope all goes well with you, the ass whole father (what ass gives more about football than his own child?) and the jailbird/good guy.
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you should not have an abortion keep this child if mike is willing to be the father that great because hes stepping up to something thats not even his. well this is why i say you should let him be the father because i was three months pregant and i met this guy and he took over being the father of my son and was with me the rest of the way. so i hope you take my advice. if you wanna chat with me sometime just email me at Nicole9750@excite.com
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Hey, if Pierre can't step up to the plate and be a man, then he belongs in jail himself for rape. YOU ARE FOURTEEN. Thank your lucky stars and God in heaven your mom is supporting you and loving you. Not every girl can say that. But your mother is right. She should pursue the legal end of it. You are underage and he had no right taking advantage of you.
You are in for a very long road. Love you mom each and every day and support her as much as she will support you; you'll need each other for a long time. Kudos to your mom.
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Aww. Good luck in whatever your choice is. Do what you want. You stated you love the baby and dont want abortion, so keep the baby! You can support it! Your mom will help you as well as Mike or whoever it was who will be the dad! good luck if you need to talk more YOU KNO WERE TO FIND ME!
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NO NO NO NO..... Don't get an abortion... plz don't.. this guy pierre sounds like a real loser... hey you got a great guy who is willing to be the father.. you want this baby... you should be able to have it... I mean abortion is cruel your the one that made it... so keep it hope i helped hun keep me updated
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I really don't think you should abort it if you are soooo attached. Just follow your heart I guess!!!
REMY!!
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send your boyfriend to jail again? that's wrong unless it's pierre. but anyway don't abort!
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DONT YOU DARE GET AN ABORTION!! how would you feel if you're mother had an abortion on you?...i love it how your 14 and you're willing to take a very hard decision, many girls our age dont want to keep the baby..nor do their mother's agree on helping them. From what I see Pierre is basically a selfish lil bastard (sry if that offended you in anyways) but it showing he rather take his football career over you and his child..thats just wrong...keep me posted with the 411 I would love to hear what you name the child and all whether you decide to keep it or not.
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My thoughts on your question are dont get an abortion...no matter what, Have that baby, because its not good for one to get an abortion because that would mean that the baby got killed when it could have had a chance in liveing and haveing a life of its own, if anything give it up for adoption but dont get a abortion...I wouldnt even give the baby up for adoption either because if you do then you will regret it later...so just Keep the baby no matter what...its something thats apart of you so keep him or her and you'll have no regrets...I hope this helps, if you need anything at all you can ask me and I will help you out the best way I can!!-Nikki
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DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTION!!!! it is wrong and i will not back down on that argument. could you imagine in a few years walking down the street and seeing someone with a baby in their arms? do you know how much that would hurt you? its murder and how could you do that to your own child? and anyways why would you even consider abortion when you can support the baby? you shouldnt have anything to do with pierre anymore and if mike wants to be a part of it, let him. dont end this babys life. it will be almost like killing yourself. if you need anyone to talk to IM me on bLoNdAtHeArT146 or email me at swooshno5@hot-shot.com
*x3 KaTiE LyNn*
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