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Self-conscious? Or just embarrased?
At school dances, I never dance. I know..you'll say "then why do you go?". I just go and hang out with my friends. It's actually pretty fun. But they dance sometimes, and I don't. I guess I'm just not much of a dancer. I think I'm self-conscious or just embarrassed because I think I can't dance...I'm not sure. I'm probably afraid of what people will think of me, like if I dance bad/can't dance right or something. I'm just nervous. I've never slow danced with anyone either. So my first time will be a little scary. Anyway, back to my question. What do you think I can do to get over this? I need help, because I want to be dancing and having more fun than I usually do at the next dance.
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Alright, I feel your pain, I am EXACTLY the same way! Dancing is a scary thing. You are close to a person, you have to be aware of what your body does. And, of course, how hot the guy that you are dancing with is! *wink*
I don't think there is such a thing as "not knowing how to dance." Dance is really just the movement of your body in whatever way feels right. Try listening to music in your room and dancing to it. I bet it will help you be more confident in front of people.
As for slow dancing:
Usually, when you slow dance, the guy is the leader. If you put your arms around his neck, but don't get SUPER close, all that is left is to follow his movements.
Good luck! Please, let me know how it worked out!
*Carrie
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Don't be so self- concious. The whole poin tto dancing is just to let go of everything and be in the moment. I promise you half of the people dancing can't dance, but they do because it's fun and they enjoy. Just get with a group of your friends and have fun with it. Don't think about anyone else or what anyone else thinks about you. What if people think you are a bad dancer? That's all they think about you. That doesn't mean they won't ever like you and will never talk to you or anything. I bet you've thought other people are bad dancers, but they still have fun with it and they don't care. If you know that you are a bad dancer, then it is ok. Atleast you accept the fact, and then you can just have fun with the rest of the dance. By the way slow dancing isn't a big deal. You just move back and forth. Basically, my advice is HAVE FUN WITH DANCING! If people see you having fun, they won't think wow she's a bad dancer. They'll think wow she's having so much fun I want to go hang out with her.
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I have the same problem I don't like to dance infront of people either let me tell ya just get out and have fun! As for the slow dancing don't worry I'm in eighth grade and my first slow dance was a year ago and let me just say it wasn't that bad I was nervous at first but they arn't that bad it does make it easier when the person you are dancing with knows where to keep their hands if you get my drift but I was nervous and there is nothing to worry about just have fun and if you don't feel comfortable then don't dance simple.
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Well people there are probably worse dancers then you and I know that it takes time to get comfortable to dance and its not the easiest to break down tose walls...but like just go out on the dance floor with your friends and get in the hype and get into the music and do your thing,...just remember a school dance is where evryone is there to have fun dotn be seriouse bout it just have fun!
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Well, I was kinda like that. Me being black everyone thinks that its automatic that I should know how to dance, but I don't dance, I mosh *lol* But what I do to get over it is dance with a group of my friends who won't make fun of me, even if my moves aren't that great. Before you go to a dance, have your friends show you some wicked dance moves. Just feel the groove, thats all I can really tell you. Slow dancing...*sigh!* I'm the type of girl who will jsut go up to the guy I like and ask him. to slow dance, but I haven't done that in a while. It all depends on your personality when it comes to slow dancing. But I'm positive you'll figure something out.
MAd love,
Victoria
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My friend had the same problem as you. Why don't you ask your friends to teach you how to dance? It's pretty easy; all you have to do is to find the beat of the music and just move and dance. Or you could sign up for a hip hop dance class or anything else and learn to dance that way. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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I am kind of like that too. Its very common among many girls. But being conscious all the time spoils the fun. Your friends are kind of right. If you come to a dance you should a little. :) You could try practicing at home a slow easy dance. Not too fast so that you dont mess up or get embaressed. It will help. Trust me. Slowly you will get into dancing in front of everyone. Slow dancing is also really easy. I am not joking but you can try dancing with a broom if you have no one to practice slow dancing with at home. It might help. I dont think i was much of a help but anyways hope my advice helped at least a little :)
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Take this advice (coming from a dancer), why don't you take a class? i mean i go to hang out w/ my friends too, but we all dance. just do what some of the kids @ my school do, dance w/ your friends. and dan't be afraid of slow dancing, it's really fun!!!
~Alyssa
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well i was like that too i never used to dance at all but i got over that because i really dont care what people think about me and what im doing.. all that matters is that im having fun with my friends and having a good time! so dont be scared just have fun ... and slow danceing is easy you just put your hands around his shoulders/neck and he pretty much does the rest and you just move back and forth and in slow circles! - rach and jill
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okay. dancing, well its not as complicated as it seems. i know it sounds corny, but practice at home. put on some music you love, and just move! i know that sounds dumb, but just do whatever feels right to the music. follow what you see your friends doing. you'll have a much better time at these dances if your up there moving, even if its the littlest bit. it'll eventually become natural. once it feels natural, thats when your fear will go away. *as for slow dancing, do not worry about that at all. put your hands around the guys neck, he'll put his around your waist, and just sway back and forth.
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