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my friend and her bf
Well, I have this friend, and it seems like every time she gets a boyfriend, she forgets about all of her friends. It drives me crazy b/c we're supposed to be like best friends but everytime she just meets a new guy and like...ditches all of us. And then she wont hang ot with us unless he can come and all she does is like make out in front of us with him. Im getting really annoyed with her but I dont know if i should say something or not...
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Wow, sounds tough. I think every girl goes through this at some point. Here is my advice:
Try talking to her about it. Say something like "(name) I really hate it when you drop us all for your boyfriend. I mean, boys are temporary, but friends are forever." If it is the PDA's that freak you out, confront her about it, or simply walk away when they do it. Sorry to say, but you really can't stop it from happening.
Hope this helped...please, fill me in on what happens and I'm always here if you need more advice!
*Carrie
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Well if it bugs you that much then i would bring it up with her but be careful becuase she could take this personal. You'll have to explain it's nothing against her but when she get's with guys she's a totally different person. She might take it personal and might not talk to you for a while but at least she knows how you feel... she will get over it. Hope i helped
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You should say something. If it is making you and your friends mad, then say something. It may upset her, but even though she meets a guy that doesn't give her the right to ditch you. That's completely unfair. Talk to all of your friends and then you guys should all go to this girl and tell her how you girls feel. But if you let it slide by, then nothing will change and it will continually be like this. Don't be afraid, if you two are best friends then you should be able to talk about things like this. Talk about it, don't let it go, trust me, that's no way to solve anything!!
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Why dont yoy try talking to her about it and tell her shes a very special friend but if she has a boy friend not o ditch all her other friends if she puts her boyfriend before friends then shes not much of a best friend roxie xxx
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you should definately say something to her. dont just keep quiet about something that bugs you, confront her and tell her how you feel. Just tell her that she really gets on you nerves doing what she does. hope she sees your point. good luck!! ♥ stefnie
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Unfortunately, this often happens. Girls meets boy, girl forgets everyone else exists, girl loses boy, girl ultimately loses everyone else.
Stop that last step before it happens. How?
TALK TO HER!!! She probably doesn't even realize she is ignoring y'all or forgetting all about you. Go up to her -- SOON -- and ask her to join you for a quick Coke or something. Whatever you do, don't lash out at her or be accusing or anything like that. Be concerned and loving. Tell her that you've seen this type of behavior/thing go on before and you and her other girlfriends feel left out whenever she has a new boyfriend. And that you'd like to be able to go out with her occasionally without her boyfriend just because she's your friend. You'll always be her friend, but she really hurts your feelings . . . are you getting the feel of how the conversation might go? Hope it helps.
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i think you shud deff say something because wht shes doing isnt right, like ya its good to spend time qith her boyfriend but she shud have time for her friends too because your the ones that are gonna be there for her threw everything .. good luck <3
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Well, first of all, you do need to talk to her, I'd think. She may be your friend, but she's probably not psychic. She can't know it bothers you if you don't tell her, so tell her!
Secondly, you gotta know that some people have a really difficult time balancing friends and a boyfriend. Maybe point out to her that you miss those times when it used to be just you two hanging out, or "just the girls." Let her know you'd rather she not bring her boyfriend everywhere with her. Remind her that you can still spend time together, and she can see her boyfriend, just the two of them, another time. She might need a little help balancing you guys and her guy, even if she doesn't think so...just help her out a little bit. Next time she asks to bring her boyfriend along, say you were really hoping it would just be the girls, and you'd rather he didn't join her. Just be nice about it. Help her out, but talk to her about what you're thinking, first. I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
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absolutely say something to her. i know it seems like, how could she not realize you would be mad, but people get wrapped up in the rush of a new relationship. especially since this has happened repeatedly, she obviously doesn't realize what shes doing. decide on one person to talk to her. she'll respond much better to one good friend than a gang of people who shes just finding out have been mad at her together behind her back. just bring it up casually, let her know that it feels like her new boyfriends are always more important than her friends. tell her that more than being mad, your hurt. and that your not asking her not to have boyfriends, just to be aware of how shes treating the rest of her friends. expect her to be mad. expect her to start defending herself. don't fight her, you've made your point. its up to her what happens from there.
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ok, listen to this, this is why i have no friends at the moment, they all hate me because i did what your friend did, and you know what, they NEVER told me that they were mad at me, they had to have my worst enemy tell me that they hate me, ((how rude)) so definitaly if you have a problem with your friend def tell her and talk to her about it, it will make you feel better and it will make her feel better that she bugs her best friends that she doesn't want to do. so please tell her before things get crazy and you guys HATE eachother. x0 Renee
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