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Oh, don't worry, he totally likes you. In fact, he likes you so much that he's going to propose to you (even if you're only thirteen) and you guys are going to get married, and live together happily ever after forever and always and have ten children in the country with the best jobs ever until you die at an old age together in your sleep!If you know that's not how life works, and you want some real advice, you have my undivided attention. Ask me anything, and I'll try and figure it out for you (unless it has anything to do with geometry).
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okay, well i like this guy hes my neighbor and he just broke up with is girlfriend like a week ago and ifound out that he likes my friend. but she doesnt like him back. he talkes to me sometimes like on the bus mostly and i know he likes me because my friends boyfriend that is his friend saw that in my friends phone i love ryan who is the guy i like and he told him so idk what to do if i should stop liking him because i really like him i have for a couple of years no please help i rate high*
Ok.. you should definently try to talk to him more. I mean, he's right next door... go over and borrow a cup of sugar or something! Lol, kidding. But the more you talk to him, the more likely he is to like you back... try to flirt a little bit (SUBTLY! Don't scare him..)
After a while.. you should probably tell him that you think of him as more than a friend (or the guy next door) (Haha, I am so corny... k sorry.) And if he doesn't like you back, that's when I would give up on him. Sometimes there's chemistry, but no destiny... maybe you guys would be better off just as friends? But until you find that out... I'd go for it!! Talk to him!! Let him find out more about you.
ok i have a friend who has this b/f. HE and she have been going out for 5 months at the most and he has already popped the question... She doesnt' know what to do... She is barely graduationg this year and he is still a junior. She fills presherd and stuff and he has already been talking about having kids with her... she is scared and she even feels like not coming to school because hes here... what should she do? She doesn't want to hurt him though so please give good advice i rate high.....
thank you
some-1-whocares...
That's kind of a short time to already be asking someone to get married... but whatever... ok, your friend definently needs to talk to him about this. If she feels pressured and is trying to avoid him, then maybe she should break up with him...... it doesn't sound like she's exactly happy with it.
The more she tries to avoid him, the more she's hurting him.. she just needs to tell him how she feels. It still will hurt him, but there's really no other advice I can offer... maybe a promise ring instead?
I dont know what to do!! I have really liked this guy for the past year. He is just so awesome to be around. I can talk to him about anything, act goofy, whatever. He is almost perfect. I even love all of his cute flaws, its insane I know! So the problem is, we never officially dated because he was a freshman in college this year and I was a senior in highschool still. He lived about 3 hours away, and it just made things difficult. Well, he just moved back to the cities for the summer, and next year I am going to a college only 10 minutes away from where he goes. Sounds like everything is great now huh!? Well, I just don't know what to do. This past year we have become best friends, and I don't want to lose that at all, especially since we will be so close/in the same city now for a long time.
Can anyone help me here!? I would really appreciate anyones input..especially if they have been in a similar situation!! Thanks everyone!
Well, if you like this guy as much as you say you do, you should be willing to risk it (mean as that sounds)... plus, why wouldn't you want to date your best friend? He already knows a bunch of stuff about you... and is less likely to mess stuff up.
I dated my best friend on and off last year. And even through all the break ups and stuff, we're still best friends, and he's always there for me... even when he was the guy who hurt my feelings... (he hit himself for that one). Just because there's a break up (or break ups...) doesn't mean that you guys are all of a sudden going to stop being friends or something... I'm still friends with all of my ex boyfriends (except for one)
ok i need help me n' my x broke up brutal and he likes my best friend but my best friend doesnt like him at all but the problem is i still like him the way we met is he liked another one of my best friend bout 2 months ago and my best friend didnt like him so me and him became alott closer and we went to go see white noise as instinct i grabbed his hand and things went from there...we liked eachother alot but things got rocky with my friends and his friends and he broke up with me once then we got back together and he broke up with me again everything i hear or see reminds me of him some of my friends say its my first love but i dont know i had to tell him i didnt like him anymore cuz i didnt want it to be akward between us he said he wasnt gonna give up on my best friend what should i do
Well, your best friend it seems, has given up on him.. if she ever even considered him. I think you should move on. It sounds like he's trying to date your whole group of friends, or something.
It hasn't worked out obviously... and maybe it's not supposed to. Sometimes there's chemistry, but no destiny. I know that's what happened with me and my ex-boyfriend (who is now my best friend and we still do everything together)... And I liked him for a while after we broke up, but every time we got back together, it just didn't work out. It turned out that giving up on the relationship was the best thing we ever did.
But not everyone is like me and my ex. Maybe you guys are meant to be together... so if you want to be daring, tell him you like him, and ask where he sees this going... he said he likes your best friend, and even though you can't seem to get over him, it may not be for the best to like him... one way to get over him is to find another guy to like! Don't look for the future in the past! (sorry it was really long!!)
ok im going 2 a new school and i hav a new friend.. she and i both like the same guy... and unfortunately he won't tell ne 1 who he likes at the moment... and he never tells ne 1 if its the newest person i school.... and im not sure if he likes me... but my friend says he does.... she isn't mad at me... but i dont' want 2 her 2 no that i like him.... what should i do 2 find out if he likes me? should i ask him myself?
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Thanx, Hope (lil hil)
Definently ask!! There's got to be a reason he's not telling anyone.. or maybe he's just shy about it, or something along those lines... you never know until you find out.
You should probably tell your friend that you like this guy... and ask her if she's okay with it. And if you decide to date him.. definently ask her if she's okay with it. Why let a guy come between your friendship? Make sure you're honest with her... because if you're not, it'll come back to haunt you later.
(16/f)
well, i recently broke up with my boyfriend. before we broke up, we told each other that even if we did brake up, we still wanted to be friends. it has been almost a week since we broke up and the jerk won't even talk to me. i have tried talking to him, being as nice as i possibly can under the circumstances. what is up with this? is he taking time and wasting away what we could have or does he not want anything to do with me? thanks in advance.
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confused & ready to kill the dude
Ok, it sounds like your boyfriend falls under one of these categories:
1. He's scared of talking to you after the break up for fear he will develop feelings for you again/He still has feelings for you
2. He thinks it's just too awkward.
3. He's an ass.
Just keep trying to talk to him (he should warm up to you, or just get over it).. if he makes no effort to talk to you after about 3 weeks, then he falls under the third category...
I was with a guy named Liam back in December. We were doing great, until my ex boyfriends sister told Liam that I cheated on him with my ex boyfriend. Liam and me split a week afterwards because of that. Now, 5 months later, my friend calls up with him on 3way on the phone with her and him, and now me. He tells me that my ex boyfriend (Richard) had talked to him a few days ago. Richard told Liam that none of what his sister said was true, and that me and Richard were over and did nothing before me and Liam even started going out. Liam told me he felt very bad that he broke up with me over a rumor. We started going out that night, after he heard our song over the phone that I was playing for him, which he asked me out within 10 minutes of the ending of the song. Its been a day and a half, and he already thinks I haven't forgave him about the whole Richard thing, and he already had 2 of his best friends (one being my bestest friend ever, and the other being just a friend of mine) ask me if I would rather be friends with Liam than be with him. I love Liam, but we aren't working so far. What should I do?
A day and a half? You shouldn't be worried over it.. he's just trying to make sure you really forgive him. Because most girls just say "It's fine." when it's not... He's just trying to make sure everything's okay with you.
Well, it'll always be awkward when you get back together with someone after 5 months... You said you guys were doing great-- you can't just expect to go back to the way you were. It takes time to get back to that... and forgiveness.
You should try and make things work with Liam, if you really love him. Stay with him, and see how it goes. You guys were great together before, so there's a huge chance you'll be great together now!
I really really like this guy named Brian. He's so great and we've been good friends, since 2nd grade. He told me he likes me, but he just wants a break. We danced and hung out at a dance last month, and we had a great time. We started dating then, and we just broke up the other day, because he said he thought of me more as a sister figure and not a girlfriend. I'm totally beat up over the situation, and I'm really not sure what to do. He tells me that he wants to have sex with me (which i wouldn't do, and i think he's joking) he calls me pretty all the time, and tells me he loves me. =( What should I tell him?
You should tell him to remember that you're broken up. I mean, he's your ex, and you still have feelings for him, so this has got to be hard on you... but why is he leading you on? I'm sorry.. but brothers don't lead thier sisters on and want to have sex with them (even if they're joking...)
You should also probably tell him how you feel for him, and even if he doesn't feel that way about you, at least you've got it out of the clear... and he'll probably try to stop confusing you. If not, tell him to stop... because that's not fair to you.
SRY THIS IS LONG ILL RATE A 5 TO ANY1 WHO ANSWERS IT!!!
okay..im really confused and have no idea what to do...im stuck between 2 guys...the one guy i went out with for about 8 months and we recently broke up about a month and a half ago...well all of a sudden after a month of not talking to me he calls me and says he misses me and wants to get back together with me...the other guy i went out with about a year and a half ago...we have been good friends ever since we broke up...and he recently had a gf but broke up with her bc he liked me and wants to go out with me...i dont know what to do bc i like both of them sooo much and it's so hard...i thought it was going to b easy bc the one guy i thought we werent going to talk to again...SOMEONE HELP PLEASE!!
I think the one guy who went out with you for about 8 months sounds a little fishy. I mean he didn't talk to you for about a month and a half, then all of a sudden comes running back? I personally would be a little miffed if some guy did that to me... it just sounds so out of the blue, you know... it makes me wonder exactly WHY he came back, after all this time.
If I had to choose, I'd go with the one you dated a year and a half ago, because he at least remained friends with you... but with me and my ex-boyfriend's experience backed behind me.....
... You can't find the future in the past.
so last nite i went to my friends party, and there was a boy. lets name him jordan. so jordan was reeally cool and my friend thinks he was showing off infront of me. except the problem is that i will never see him again, and i really l;iked jordan. what should i do? should i ask my friend who held the party for his screen name and maybe have a long ship with him????
If you like him, then why not get his screen name? There's no harm in trying to get him to like you, is there? And I mean, you just met him.. and you guys have a mutual friend... are you sure you won't see him again? Maybe you could get this friend to invite the both of you (along with some other people) to the movies or something...
Female,16
The guy i like is really shy about girls, hes never had a gf before, and we are really good friends. ive liked him a long time, and i figured it was just time to tell him. I guess he really had no clue.. yesterday i talk to him alone after school, and said you know i like you and he was silent scuffing his feet and half smiling and he said THANK YOU.. tell me what is that suppose to mean? thank yOU!? and then he said wow this really caught me off guard i i.. and his friend walked by and siad lets go, i need a ride home, so hes said well i guess ill talk to you later and left...do you think maybe he jsut didnt know what to say, usually he'd say oh well lets jsut be friend or somthing like that but he said thank you, and its such a neutral comment... plus most people i know think he likes me.. so do you think maybe he was jsut caught off guard and didnt know what to say or what?
Ask him what he was going to say! His friend stopped him halfway, but I think it sounds like he was going to say he likes you too. Shy guys are complicated, but the only way you'll know what he was trying to say is if you ask him.
ok so im dating this guy tom...we have only been dating for a few days now but he has met my parents and they love him...my entire family and even my brothers friends adore him... its so cute...well the day he met my family i also met his mother...well..she hates me...when i was around she seemed to like me just fine but tom called me like 2hrs after he left and he told me that his mom hates me and doesnt want him and i dating...like he said that he doesnt want us to break up because he realli likes me and stuff like that and of course i dont want us to break up either...i mean ive only met the woman once and shes messing up my relationship with her son already...i was realli polite and stuff when i met her and stuff and im realli not a bad person...im just a simple 16yr old girl...its like im sum whore or anything but she hates me...neither tom nor i kno why she hates me...what am i supposed to do??
First of all, get Tom to find a legitimate reason for her hating you. She just can't 'hate' you for no reason. It could be just because you're dating her son. Some mothers are over-protective like that.
Or if you're the confident type, you could confront her with this information. Ask her why yourself, then try and talk it out. *violence will not help in this situaiton*
There's really not much you can do, besides change yourself and try to get her to like you, but I think that's bull crap. If this woman doesn't like you, then that's her problem... Just make sure that his mother isn't going to interfere with your relationship and control his love life. Much less, yours.
okay well im a freshman and i have a boyfriend (a junior) who used to smoke and party all the time. And i kno he likes to drink but i told him if he ever went back to smoking or got drunk that i would leave him with no questions asked. And i have this trusting problem... i dunno it's just realy hard for me to belive people. Like i always think their lieing to me or will eventually. I have my reasons why (family issues id rather not discuss. And he swears on his life that he won't get drunk ever again. But what if hes lieing to me and has been lately?? But i kno he loves me alot and wouldn't do anything that wouldn't make me happy. But i still have my doubts. Do you think he still drinks? And any ideas on how to help with this trusting thing? Any advice at all in general id be willing to take! thanks so much i love you!
I don't think he drinks. If he said he wouldn't, then he probably won't. Most people are true to thier word... and if he really loves you as you said, then he won't drink. But if you're really unsure about it, ask him. Or ask around... but if he finds out about that, he might get mad...
I don't think anyone can really help you with the trust thing, you just have to push it to the back of your mind, and try to have faith in him... I mean, it doesn't sound like he's let you down before, otherwise you guys wouldn't be together now. Counseling might help too... weird as that sounds. But I know that some of my friends go to therapy for trust issues, and it's helped them...
im a female 16 and me & my bf have been on & off for 2 years now we are long distance and it started out as a summer romance at the beach because my family spends the summer up there but turned into love. ok im madley in love with my boyfreind & when i talked to him the other day he said his freind came over and told him he should take this one girl he dated while we were seperated to the prom. i asked him if he was and he said he wasnt going to and he told his freind no but im kinda scared do you think hes still seeing this girl? do you think mabey he was hinting that he wanted to go to the prom and that mabey we should go? please tell me what you think.
I think he might be hinting that you guys should go together. So you should see what's up with that... tell him that it would be awesome if you guys went to the prom together. Or something random, like that. If he doesn't want to go together, that's when I'd be suspicious..
As for this other girl, as long as you go to the prom with your boyfriend, she should be long gone (unless she's a slut.) ...this is difficult, because it's long distance, and a rocky relationship. He could be seeing her... but it's doubtful. I mean, 2 years is a long time, and he obviously knows he can get her.. so if he wanted to, why wouldn't he? I mean, has he ever cheated before, or anything? Do you have reasons not to trust him? And what's the girl like if you know her? Would she do anything with someone else's boyfriend/her ex?
13 (almost 14)/f
I'm almost in the 8th grade and I like this guy in the 8th grade going to 9th. He's really nice and sweet and we have a lot in common. The problems are:
-he is going to high school next year
-I've known him for a while, but havent really talked to him until recently
-he has no idea about my feelings...
I really like him and he's totally nice and sweet and he's one of the few guys in my school taller than me (it's my curse) but I can't see any way for us to be together. I really want it to work out, but I dont think he even likes me.....
Should I keep trying or just give up?
I think you should keep trying, because if you don't, you could regret it. My friend had the same problem (though the guy was in 10th, and she was in 8th)... and they ended up going out. Two of my guy friends in 9th are dating a girl in 8th right now, actually. (They're in high school, the girls are in middle school)
You never know whether guys truly like you or not, and that's the confusing part about them... so he could like you!! Maybe you're just being humble... you should try to tell him how you feel before he leaves for high school.
There's always a way to see him/talk to him. We have the phone and the internet, so talking to him should be no problem. And just because he won't go to your school doesn't mean you guys can't hang out or anything. There's conflicting schedules and all, but you guys can't be busy ALL the time... I mean, you might have to ask him to do something with you first, but he'll probably return the favor.
P.S.-- Guys usually start growing in high school, so if it doesn't work out with this guy, there will be taller ones! Hooray for puberty!
Female 16...Is it wrong to go out with youre exboyfriends brother Even if he likes u? And what if your still in love with his brother but really want to go out with him?
If you still like your ex, then I don't think you shouldn't go out with his brother. It sounds like some form of a revenge plan-- not only that, but if the brother really likes you, then you'll end up hurting his feelings too, if he finds out that you still like your ex.
Not only that, but by dating his brother it means you will still have to deal with/see your ex... and think of what this could do to his family.
I think you should try to begin dating again, and try to get over your ex... but not by dating your ex's brother.
okay, well i like this guy but he doesnt like me i dont even think he likes me as a friend i dont know why i mean i talk to him on the bus and all but thats it. and i overheard him say he doesnt like me but i have liked this guy for a really long time. im 14 and have never had a boyfriend or even danced with a guy i know its pathetic...so could someone please help me because im at the end of 8th grade and i really want a boyfriend or just someone to like me back and i seem really pathetic..i know but idk what to do please help me...
--desperate for love
The way to get this guy to like you (even if it's just as a friend) is to be nice to him, and talk to him more. If your bus ride's like 15 minutes... that's not a whole lot of talking, you know?
Doesn't like you as in doesn't like you at all? Maybe you're coming on too strong? Or maybe it's just that he simply doesn't like your personality or something? (sorry, that sounded really mean)... I know it's hard to get over someone you've liked for a really long time, but if he doesn't like you, then maybe you should try meeting other guys... Guys that will like you...
and date you.
Okay, well I really liked this guy Chris. But then this guy Scott started to like me. Anyways I went on a date with Chris last night and now that I think about it I didn't have that muchf un with him. I don't even really like him that much it's liek since I can have him I'm bored of him. Anyways this otehr guy Scott I kind of like him a bit but I odn't know if I shoudl even start with him cuase I'm afraid I'll get bored with him to. i get bored with all guys but I don't know why does anyone else? I like this otehr guy but he's so out of my league so I just gave up. I don't really know what I'm asking I guess should I just stick with Chris since I gave him teh impression that I liked him or should I go for Scott or really try for teh guy I really like? And does anyone else get bored with every guy they date afetr like a few weeks? Or is it just me?
One more for four square! Lol, just kidding. Okay, well if you want my opinion, you should try for the guy you really like. To me, dating is only fun when it's with someone you truly like. And you never know if they like you, and who says he's out of your league?
Oh, trust me. I've been in a situation like that. And usually, for me, it's like a couple of DAYS before I decide that I don't like them and am bored of them... but yeah, definently go for the guy you truly like!
i REEEEEEELY like this kid.. and well we flirt ALOT.. and ive heard that he likes me.. but i dont know if its true or not..and im not the kind to ask some one if they like me.. and i rely wanna know.. cuz i like him alot.. hes in my gym class.. and we have soo much fun in gym! but i rell a little uncomferatable bc i rely like him..
Does he flirt with anyone else? If not, then congrats, because he probably does like you. There is only your definition of flirting to worry about. But it's probably not too out of proportion or anything... if you've heard he likes you, then it's a good sign.
Get a friend to ask him, or ask him yourself online. I think the one person's advice about the note in the locker is brilliant...
... I might try that.
ok so there is this guy and well i like him so much... he means alot to me b/c we have been friends.. but god he just gives me these huge butterflys everytime i see him... but he tells ppl that he doesnt like me... but then one day he told a friend of mine that he starting to really like me.. we flirt alot and he calls me by nicknames he waits for me after class and i dont know i guess i just think that he might like me alittle more then just a friend.. should i stick with him in hopes that he will come around? or should i just move on? can some help me cause my frieds say i am obsest.. i dotn think so just like him alot!!!
Ok.. it sounds like he likes you back. But you never really can be sure, because my best guy friend is just a really nice guy. And he like pays for my ticket when we go to the movies, and let's me eat some of his food, and wear his jacket when I'm cold, all sorts of cute stuff like that. But he just doesn't like me that way, and I don't like him that way.
I think you should tell this guy how you feel, and see where it goes from there. If he told somebody he's starting to like you, then chances are, he's starting to like you!