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Question Posted Tuesday May 10 2005, 12:40 am

(16/f)
well, i recently broke up with my boyfriend. before we broke up, we told each other that even if we did brake up, we still wanted to be friends. it has been almost a week since we broke up and the jerk won't even talk to me. i have tried talking to him, being as nice as i possibly can under the circumstances. what is up with this? is he taking time and wasting away what we could have or does he not want anything to do with me? thanks in advance.

signed
confused & ready to kill the dude


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Gtownhelper321 answered Monday May 16 2005, 1:38 am:
14/f ok this is how most guys are hes just mad that you broke up with him see there is two posible outcomes of this. He might end up not talking to you anymore i mean you might get a hello and goodbye but thats it. The second one is he will talk to you in like a few days hes just mad he got dumped and he will just have to get over it.

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boiicrazibabi answered Thursday May 12 2005, 9:37 pm:
well, if he's gonna act that way, get yourself another man!Who needs jerks like that?

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shake answered Wednesday May 11 2005, 9:38 pm:
How bout, young relationships never last. You both knew you'd break up. Its not an 'if we do' question, its a 'when we do' question.

You're dumb not to realise this.

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BeautifulXDismay answered Wednesday May 11 2005, 9:20 pm:
Sounds alot like what is going on with me. DONT wait for him. I wasted away 9 months of my life for the asshole. Just move on. Best thing for you.

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augustagurrl answered Tuesday May 10 2005, 8:42 pm:
he might just be sore about you breaking up, or maybe hes just being a jerk. if he's not gonna be nice when you give him the chance, you're just wasting your time
hope i help
xoxo

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VanityScore answered Tuesday May 10 2005, 7:33 pm:
Ok, it sounds like your boyfriend falls under one of these categories:

1. He's scared of talking to you after the break up for fear he will develop feelings for you again/He still has feelings for you
2. He thinks it's just too awkward.
3. He's an ass.

Just keep trying to talk to him (he should warm up to you, or just get over it).. if he makes no effort to talk to you after about 3 weeks, then he falls under the third category...

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PerkyPeacock answered Tuesday May 10 2005, 5:44 am:
just give him time, he likely wants to be your friend, but just can't do it yet. it's scary when you first get broken up with, it's awkward, and confusing, hell it's downright terrifying. but he needs time to move past that and relearn how to be just friends. give it a few more weeks, and if he's still being awkward, talk to him about it and see if there's any way for you to help.

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karenR answered Tuesday May 10 2005, 4:29 am:
I think it takes a little time to get over the hurt of a break up before a friendship can be completley renewed. Just give it a little time. :)

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bigzcenter answered Tuesday May 10 2005, 1:57 am:
no offense but if a girl roke up with me i really wouldnt want to talk to them for a while. i could say i still wan tto be friends but i wouldnt want to talk for a while give him some time.

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sublime_burritos answered Tuesday May 10 2005, 1:47 am:
it hasn't even been a week, give the guy some time to heal. it looks like you're not entirely ready to be his friend yet either, considering you referred to him as "the jerk" and you said you were ready to kill him. if you keep forcing your frienship on him while he's still hurting, it will drive him away forever. but if you wait a month, or two months, or however long it takes for both of you to truely get over what you had and move on, then try to calmly rebuild your friendship. even then, you may not be able to be friends just because of your past relationship, but your best bet is to give him some room to breathe and try again later. time heals all! hope i helped <3

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angelinluv6767 answered Tuesday May 10 2005, 1:38 am:
the same thing happened to me. before me adn this guy broke up we always said we were still gonna be close but when we broke up, he wouldnt talk to me. I tried talkin to him but he wouldnt talk to me either! Its been 7 months since then, and we still arent talking. i would day just give him time and try to talk to him again in like a week, and if he still doesnt talk to you i would say just not to be friends. i know it will be hard, but it might be the best thing. hope it helped!

&hearts; candace

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Kr4z3y_Ch3lly answered Tuesday May 10 2005, 1:19 am:
hes probibly still hurt about what happend and cant face you cause it hurts to much...so just give it time..he'll talk to you sooner or later..if he doesnt try talking to him or call him..or ask one of his friends whats wrong...but i think hes just trying to get over the break up! good luck!!

michelle&hearts;

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KaTiE_LyNn answered Tuesday May 10 2005, 12:57 am:
honestly, you don't need to be friends with him. it will make the pain harder to deal with. being friends might give him the hope that you will get back together, and you probably won't. if worst comes to worst, just talk to him.
x3 KaTiE LyNn

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