well, i recently broke up with my boyfriend. before we broke up, we told each other that even if we did brake up, we still wanted to be friends. it has been almost a week since we broke up and the jerk won't even talk to me. i have tried talking to him, being as nice as i possibly can under the circumstances. what is up with this? is he taking time and wasting away what we could have or does he not want anything to do with me? thanks in advance.
PerkyPeacock answered Tuesday May 10 2005, 1:44 am: just give him time, he likely wants to be your friend, but just can't do it yet. it's scary when you first get broken up with, it's awkward, and confusing, hell it's downright terrifying. but he needs time to move past that and relearn how to be just friends. give it a few more weeks, and if he's still being awkward, talk to him about it and see if there's any way for you to help. [ PerkyPeacock's advice column | Ask PerkyPeacock A Question ]
sublime_burritos answered Monday May 9 2005, 9:47 pm: it hasn't even been a week, give the guy some time to heal. it looks like you're not entirely ready to be his friend yet either, considering you referred to him as "the jerk" and you said you were ready to kill him. if you keep forcing your frienship on him while he's still hurting, it will drive him away forever. but if you wait a month, or two months, or however long it takes for both of you to truely get over what you had and move on, then try to calmly rebuild your friendship. even then, you may not be able to be friends just because of your past relationship, but your best bet is to give him some room to breathe and try again later. time heals all! hope i helped <3 [ sublime_burritos's advice column | Ask sublime_burritos A Question ]
angelinluv6767 answered Monday May 9 2005, 9:38 pm: the same thing happened to me. before me adn this guy broke up we always said we were still gonna be close but when we broke up, he wouldnt talk to me. I tried talkin to him but he wouldnt talk to me either! Its been 7 months since then, and we still arent talking. i would day just give him time and try to talk to him again in like a week, and if he still doesnt talk to you i would say just not to be friends. i know it will be hard, but it might be the best thing. hope it helped!
Kr4z3y_Ch3lly answered Monday May 9 2005, 9:19 pm: hes probibly still hurt about what happend and cant face you cause it hurts to much...so just give it time..he'll talk to you sooner or later..if he doesnt try talking to him or call him..or ask one of his friends whats wrong...but i think hes just trying to get over the break up! good luck!!
KaTiE_LyNn answered Monday May 9 2005, 8:57 pm: honestly, you don't need to be friends with him. it will make the pain harder to deal with. being friends might give him the hope that you will get back together, and you probably won't. if worst comes to worst, just talk to him.
x3 KaTiE LyNn [ KaTiE_LyNn's advice column | Ask KaTiE_LyNn A Question ]
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