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My name is Matthew. I try my best to serve the Lord as best I can. I also try to serve my fellow brother and sisters as best I can. Salvation is my goal for you.

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ok, wuts the average age when teens start having sex. I know, it's when your ready for it and all, but i'm jus wondering when is the average age when people start getting together?

this day and age. Around 10.

i just dumped my boyfriend last week because my friend that is a boy introduced me to these two hockey players and they were hot but they didnt go to my scholl but anyways i dumped my boyfriend for one of the hockey players that said he liked me and i believed him because we always used to talk on the phone and aol but then the night he told my friend he was going to ask me out he never did he left me single and this hurt me but i got over it and discoverd i still liked the boyfriend i just dumped but now the boyfriend i just dumped likes this other girl and goes out with her and now i dont know what to do he was really hurt when i dumped him and i didnt care and now when i want him back he likes another girl and now im hurt i really miss my old boyfriend and i wish he would come back to me

please help

i rate 5s

You screwed the pooch on this one. You just have to move on. He did. You hurt him for another guy. You dont deserve to have him back. Sorry mate. Find someone else.

please go to my webite! its my xanga site actually. its really good though. its like a journal filled with juicy secrets of mine (im perfectly fine with you reading them) just go to the bottom of the page nd click the "previous five" button till you get to the very begining. then of course go to the websites that i subscribed to (my friends xangas) and of course leave comments EVERY where you go. thank you thank you thank you!

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whats black magic?

Definatly has nothing to do with cars. However its "Evil Magic" or Voodoo, or opposite of white magic.....

Ok well Ive had this good friend for awhile (not too long) and before everything was fine... But she has been getting on my nerves like crazy for the past months. I'm having this party with only girls and it should be really fun.. but I dont want her to come.. I'm afriad she's going to find out and feel hurt. All i want is someway for her to get plans so she wont be able to come! But i know that I cant set that up! I need advice and not something like "tell her how you feel" BECAUSE THATS NOT AN OPTION

Tell her how you feel.

hi i have a 3 yearold daughter but latly she been out of control she dont listen she is very bossy she wont potty train she hits throws things around gets into everything what can i do to help with all of this everyone is getting mad cuz she is not potty trained yet ive tryed pottys and the adult toliet but nothing works ive tryed soap and spankings and took her toys away but nothing is working can someone help me

liz

Sounds like she is craving attention. You need to do this. When she starts throwing something around or has a temper, do NOT get angry. In these early years if they see that you react with anger this could frighten her. Do NOT spank her. Instead. Talk very calmly to her. In a smooth calm level tone explain what she is doing is bad. Hold her while you say this. A hug can calm a child down. Smile at her and such. SHow no signs of anger. Give her guildlines about these things. No throwing...etc. Enforce them. Eventually she will learn. As for potty training. All I can say is be paitent. She may not be ready to potty train. Sometimes it takes a little bit. So just relax.

Hope I helped!

do you believe in soul mates?

Yes.

ugh my dad has really been pissin me off lately...i have had alot of cell phones but my last one i lost and now i dont have one..i have been trying to save up for one but it takes to long..how do i get him to buy me the one i want? and my step-mom is a real bitch and last week-end i walked in on them having sex...i dont know what to do!

What does catching them have sex have to do with anything? Also. If my kid kept losing her phone, I wouldnt buy her any more. SO all I can say is save up kiddo.

I loathe myself, every tiny detail about myself. I hate my appearance...My
hair, my face, my teeth, my hands, my eyebrows, chest, stomach, back, arms, etc...I
hate every characteristic of my personality, every last one. I think of my self
as stupid, incompetent and worthless. Everything that goes wrong is my fault. I
suck at every thing I do. Seeking professional help is not an option for me, and
neither is getting help from a trusted adult. Even if either were an option, I’m
much, much, much to timid to ask for help...I don't think I even deserve to have
people waste there time on me to help me anyway.

Change yourself to something you like. Why do you hate yourself? Why waste your time hating yourself, when you can use that time to improve yourself. Complaining wont make you happy. Stop whining and do something about it. Fix what is wrong. Dont say you cant because its hard. Thats bullshit. Step up and take charge. No one is going to fix your problems except you.

me and my boyfriend broke up but we still love each other and hopefully might get back together. but im having second thoughts what does that mean?

It means you are not sure of going back with him.

Would you share with me your words of wisdom? I'm 20 and I just want to hear from anyone the important lessons in life they have learned so far.
It could be about work, love life, spirituality, money matters, passions, dealing with problems, beauty routine/secrets, etc. thanks!

Believe in yourself.

my sisters are goin to have a big important party on the sam day as my graduation and my parents don want me to go bc it is on the same day as my sisters party and my mom made a hair oppointment for me and my siters at 9 in the mornin and that is around when my graduation is. if i do go to graduaction my parents wont be there because the will be busy wit my sisters. i dont know what to do?? ( i am graduating 8th grade)plz help!!!

I say dont go to graduation. It doesnt matter. 8th grade is a grade no one cares about. I didnt go to my graduation. Its the High School and college ones that matter. Go to the party. Itll be more fun anyways.

People are always saying not to do anything until you're totally and fully ready. Well, my boyfriend is ready to finger me and I want him to and i want to be ready but like..how can i become ready?

First of all. You cant become ready. You just know. When you feel comfortable with it. Im guessing you too are like 13 or 12 or 5 or whatever. So dont get pregnant when your 15 like everyone else.

In your opinion, is 13 years old too young to be fingered? If you really can't get any STDs then what's the harm?

What is the harm? Lets see. It starts off with fingering, then eventually you will get bored with that and want more. In time you keep doing more and more things till sex. Then here comes the harm of STDS. Basically you may think there is no harm now, but you're young. Why do you have the need to do this? Why do you kids do this so early?

Okay, i like these 2 guys. both are really cute, and fun and funny. lets call them A and B. A is really hot, and also really popular. I don't know 2 much about him, and dont have any classes with him, but did awhile ago. B is also really cute, and slightly less popular, but he has a girl friend, who is ditzy, but really pretty. I have one class with him. I can't get over them, even though i dont stand a chance with either. what do i do?!?!?!?!?!?!

If you know you have no chance with either of them, you need to find someone else. Especially since one has a girlfriend. Dont mess with that essay. You need to gey a guy "C". Go for a friend or something.

Hope I helped!

Ok, my boyfriend and I were literally making out for 35 minuets now when I came inside I had white stuff around my mouth what in the world is this?

Its dried up spit. ou were making out so long that the edges got soaked and dried up and then your mouths rubbing together made it move around and form white crap all over. Nothing to worry about.

Hope I helped!

okay well i moved to Arizona a month ago, and I was 130 pounds when i moved here, I got depressed and sick and I lost enough weight to get down to 115 in just 3 months...just a week ago I was 113, and now im 105..I eat like a PIG and i dont excersize at ALL...is there something wrong with me? Is this normal??

I rate 5's

It is most likely due to the fact you moved away from your previous home. It happens to some people when they move. I would start excersizing, because when you get into your groove, you might gain all that weight back, plus more.

Hope I helped!

What does "shanking" mean?

Prision term. Build a crude tool used to kill fellow inmates. Shank was the slang word used to guards/officers didnt know what it meant. Consists of Sharpened toothbrushes, spoons, forks, wood...etc...List goes on. Basically its to stab someone. If someones says their going to shank you...watch out.

there are 2 realllllllyyyyyy weird guyzs in my math class. Lets say there names are jake and matt . one is a blonde and one is a brunette. they r realllllyyyy stupid and i wanna help them but the don't get anything so it's impossible how can i tell them they r stupid without saying they r stupid??:) thanx
Snoopy

You have no place to tell them their stupid. Just let them fail since its impossible to help them. Worry about you and let the teacher find some way of helping them.

Hope I helped!

I went on the video game and am still kind of confused. How many armored mainframes are there? Are they on all three levels? Do I have to blow up any of the screens too? Thanks so so much, I have been trying to beat this level forever and can't seem to get it!

I dont know exactly how many there are, but I think they are just on 2 levels. 2 in the front where borris drops his gun, 2 on the next level, and one or 2 in the room with the camera guns. Hope I helped! You dont have to blow up any screens by the way..

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