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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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well okay on thursday night my mom picked my sister and i up from my gradmas house at 1am, even though so was supposed to pick us up around 8:30. she was so drunk, and i was scared to get in the car. my sisters 7 and was asleep so i carried her outside with me. i get in the car and my mom goes crazy for NO REASON! she's being so mean, and i asked her why are you doing this to yourself? and she called me names. we got out of the car when we were home and i was on the phone with my gram and she hit me in the face and tried to get my cell phone, but i ran down street until she got inside, then i went in and ran up in my dads room (the attick.) he has a lock in the inside that i locked it. and sooo, she comes upstairs and trys to open in and calls me EVERYTHING in the world. a cunt, she hopes i was never born, ALL FOR NOTHING! as i was on the phone with my gram she heres everything. my dad comes home from work bout 1:45 and my moms passed out in her room and my sister is forced to sleep with her. she hurt me sooo badly, and i got no sorry. i wanna move out more then anything in the world. since then we haven't even talked. even before this TERRIBLE DRUNK DISASTER she was always so rude and treated me so much different then my sister. i don't like her, and i need help. sorry this is longg.
It's terrible that you have to go through such a thing. Just remember that none of this is your fault. Your Mom is probably an alcoholic or has a mental disorder, which is an illness...and at this point she can't help what she is doing either. This does not mean you should feel sorry for her because you shouldn't. Your Grandma probably doesn't know how to stand up to your Mom. Because if I were your Grandma, I wouldn't have allowed you to go home, and I would have called the police if I had to. There's a couple of things you can do, one is call a local drug and alcohol treatment center and ask about an intervention. They can explain what it is all about over the phone. Since it's not likely that your Mom will get help visit this site and call the phone number on here...there's people that want to help you. Don't feel trapped, there is a way out, even if your Mom won't change, you can still help yourself be a survivor.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html
I really like fruits. I make LIME-enade (like lemonade but with lime)every day and drink it.
For the first time this month my dad noticed and yelled at me because he said drinking one glass using a whole lime a day is bad and that it's just like drinking vinegar, it'll like shrink your organisms and then you'll have trouble eating and digesting food, something like that.
I thought it was good for you though because of the "you should have atleast 3-4 servings of fruit a day".
Sometimes my friends have those drinking contests and who and drinks the most wins. I like to make it healthy by making them drink PURE LIME juice without any sugar or water at all.
But after what my dad told me, I'm not sure no more: is it good for you or bad? By the way, this is what and how much I use for my one glass of LIMEenade a day: One whole lime, SQUEEZED, water filled to the top, and sugar.
The only thing that will be harmful about the limeade that you are making is the sugar. Of course it depends on how much sugar you use. If you have good dental hygiene habits I certainly wouldn't worry about it. Limes are excellent sources of vitamins and minerals. One per day will not hurt you. However, it's important to eat a variety of fruits because when you eat just one type daily you may be missing out on other vitamins that you need. I don't know where your Dad came up with the idea that lime juice will shrink your "organisms" although it does have antimicrobial properties due to the citric acid. Which is a good thing.
He is probably meaning "organs"...but he'd have to show me proof before I'd believe that. I've never heard of such a thing. Besides you are mixing the lime juice with water and the PH will change...it's doubtful that there is anything harmful about what you are doing.
what are the simptoms of mono and can you have it more then once?
I actually did have mono twice. There are two types of viruses that cause mono, one is the Epstein Barr Virus and the other is Cytomegalovirus.
A person can have cold or flu like symptoms initially, such as a sore throat, cough, runny nose and swollen lymph nodes in the neck. Usually a fever over 100 is present. Severe fatigue can surface, weakness and aches in muscles along with nausea and vomiting. My abodomen was tender and spleen swollen..this is pretty typical. Jandice can even occur which will be evident by yellowing of the eyes, or bile in the urine...this is usually in the more severe stages. Everyone may not have all of these symptoms, the a common factor seems to be an ill feeling, temperature along with the weakness and fatigue.
I think way too much and I can't help it, I've been doing this since I was a little kid. I overreact to the most stupid things. For example, I have trouble falling asleep because I'm up worrying about college and I'm only a SOPHOMORE in high school. My mom yelled at me for being late for school today and I wanted to cry about it. And, my friend didn't say bye to me when I left school and it got me in the worst mood. My mind immediately jumps to the worst scenario, like "OMG she didn't say bye because she hates you!" and I freak out about it. Sometimes I wish I could turn my mind off, because now I'm getting in these terrible moods and yelling at people because I worry too much. I always think that people hate me but I know that's not true. Ugh I wish I could just stop. And right now I'm worrying about worrying. Ahhh. Any suggestions on how I could just get myself to calm down a bit and stop thinking about everything? Thanks.
There's a couple of things you can try. Make a worry box: Decorate a shoe box, write your thoughts down and then put the papers in the box and put the box out of sight. Your worries are put away and can't escape from the box.
Another technique is called thought stopping, this site explains it much better than I can.
http://changingminds.org/techniques/conversion/thought_stopping.htm#sto
I personally dont get many pimples, but whenever I do, they're horrible and huge! Unfortunatly its just one of those weeks and its so big that I just wanna hide from the world. Anyone have any suggestions as what to do?
serious answers only please! Thanks in advance :]
This is actually a different kind of acne..usually called cystic acne. It's harder to get rid of those types of pimples and they have a tendency to scar. A doctor can do several things for you like prescribe medications and/or inject the pimple with cortisone which will make it go away fairly quick. For home treatment if you are able to take OTC Ibuprofen, it will help with the inflammation. The acne spot treatment dabbed on a couple of times a day will help with healing. In between times try applying an ice cube wrapped in plastic for few minutes at time to help the swelling go down. Try drinking extra water to help remove the toxins from your body too.
ya so basically i had no clue what topic to put this under. but i have this thing were i will be in a deep deeeeep sleep and if someone comes in my room or cracks the door open say my mom or my bro and i will pop out of a deep sleep jump and just look at them... its weird because im not meaning to wake up its just a reatcion and its also weird because everyone in my house is mad quiet when it comes to people sleeping but it doesnt matter if they dont make a noise i will pop up out of a deep sleep and just look at them.. and i can also tell if someone is staring at me because i can be in shcool doin what i gotta do and ill just stop doin what im doin and look up right at the person thats staring at me. and it could be someone right on the other side of the room and i kno who is starin at me out of like 20 people. One last thing, and if im in my room up and everythin just chillin in my chair that has its back faced to the door, my bro will try an sneak up on me and before he can open the door all the way i will turn around and catch him..
lol i kno this may sound dumb but im just askin if this weird or just a normal reation that most ppl have???
In your case it seems to me that you are very accurate about the presence of others. It takes a special sort of person to do this, especially when sleeping. You are probably what the experts call an intuitive, meaning you pick up on the energy field that other people project. There's a book and CD out about this it's by psychiatrist and called energy healing. So in a sense..it's not that you are abnormal, but you have a gift that not everyone has. You may be able to develop this gift into other areas too.
Hello,
We got a new coach for my high school swim team. She is pretty tough. We have a morning practice and an afternoon practice. However, I have way too much homework to actually do all this swimming! I am very concerned about my work and it comes first. Also, I will only have twenty less minutes to change into my uniform, get to my locker and get to class after getting out of swimming. I also have no time to eat breakfast. My parents keep on saying that they will talk to her, but I don't even know if I want to be on such a demanding team. I do swimming for personal enjoyment and exercise, not to be super competitive. I don't think my mom understands that I am not a competitive person and will break down under such a high-stress regimen. Any advice? I am involved 2 clubs, but without swimming, no sports.
Thanks.
Eating breakfast is certainly important, and you won't be able to concentrate as well without it. If you enjoy swimming for recreational reasons of course you should continue swimming, but on your own schedule. Perhaps there are summer swim sports that you can join and drop the competition during the school year. The involvement in a sport is important but unless you plan to continue that sport as a career, your grades are a priority right now. If you burn the candle at both ends, you will burn out. Sports in high school should be fun, but when they become ultra demanding the fun is gone, too bad coaches don't see it that way too. Sometimes we have to know when to say "when".
I do have a crate,
puppy has extremely high anxiety when I shut the crate..
throw a treat, give stuffy, and kong..
I do hate those pee pads
We have a wire kennel type crate that our pup can see through on all sides. She was an orphaned pup though and we have been using that crate since she was 4 weeks old so she only whines when she needs to go outside. She is spending more and more time supervised outside the crate now and never complains about going back in. Sounds like you have a frustrated pup, perhaps consulting with a person who specializes in dog behavior can evaluate your puppy and give you some tips. Otherwise since the puppy has high anxiety ask the vet about something to help with relaxation. The pet store sells something on that line that helps calm dogs. It might be worth checking in to. Small dogs seem to be harder to housebreak, but with patience, it will happen eventually. Best of luck.
for the past week or so my balls have been aching slightly. its not that painful but it is worrying me. it comes and goes every now and then and sometimes i feel it one and then it moves to the other. ive never had sex before so i dont think its an std but i do want to know whats going on and how i can stop it.
any ideas?
Rather than take any medication for this, you should see your Dr. There's a couple of things that can cause this..infection for one. The doc won't think it's odd because this is a fairly common problem. Most of the time without treatment the symptoms you have described will only get worse and can even lead to hospitalization or emergency surgery that could cause the removal of your testicle. I'm not trying to scare you, but personally I know someone that had this happen.
I'm going to set the scene here by first giving some background information:
My brother, Dustin: 23 years old; senior in college; has a two year old son; unmarried and single; lives on his own.
I, Natalie: 16 years old; high school junior; unemployed (my parents told me not to work so I can concentrate on school); live with both of my parents.
Story:
My brother was over at my parents' house (where I live) last night. He was drinking and trying to show off to impress a girl his age that was also at my house. He was complaining about EVERYTHING. He said, "I'm a grown man, 23, and I can take care of myself".
However, my parents pay half of his rent, help him take care of his child, pay his college tuition, and supply him with a part time job (he works for my parents, who own their own business). The comment he made was very disrespectful to my parents.
When he gets to see his child every other weekend, my mom drives about thirty minutes away to pick up my brother and his son to bring them out to my house. My brother practically pushes the parental responsibilities that are needed to take care of a two year old on to my mother. She ALWAYS changes his diaper, feeds him, and plays with him while my brother sits on the couch. My brother gets frustrated when his own child is barely whining.
I think his actions as an “adult” are completely wrong. I know I can’t tell my brother how to live or act, but how could I effectively express my opinion of him?
You as a younger sibling you can certainly express your opinion, but it's probably not going to be very effective. Perhaps you can ask another family member (other than your parents) or an older adult to speak to your brother about his behavior. It sounds like he should go to some parenting classes, maybe your Mom can convince him to do so. He needs to learn to tolerate and care for his own child.
While there are some 23 year old males more responsible than your brother, I am certain that there are many more just like your brother. If your parents force him to be on his own, with no help from them after he graduates he will either step up to the plate and grow up or fail miserably--in which he will eventually learn from his own mistakes. It might not be until he's 30, but hopefully it will happen someday. In my opinion someone is not really grown up until they take care of every aspect of their life without help from others....sure he's capable of it, but will he?
As far as you, I think it's great that you see this as a problem that needs addressed. It shows your maturity, and It sounds like you are not willing to make the same mistakes that he has. Best of luck to you & your family.
I have a 5 month old purebread Shih Tzu.
When I'm gone longer than 5 hours, I put a pee pad down for her to go on..
She chews it up!!! or when I come home I catch her lying on it after she goes pee on it!!
I need some advise..
Thanks
jeanette
I am not sure if you are using a crate to house break your pup or not. It sounds like she might have too much room to care if the area she sleeps in stays clean.
After training a lot of dogs. I have found that crate training is the best method. You can do away with the "pee-pads" that way, and save yourself a little expense and mess. Personally I think the pads reinforce that it is okay to go in the house.
http://www.mixedbreedpups.com/housebreaking.htm
alright so lately.. i've been having like serious issues with my stomach and stuff. Does anybody know a website where like you could type in symptoms, and then they give you a possible list of what you have? Because I can't figure it out. And I just went to the doctor about 2 months ago for this.. but it showed up as nothing, but it just seems to be getting worse and worse.. but i'm too scared to ask my mom to take me back again. Especially since my family doesn't have a lot of money since my dad died.. so like i think that if i knew what it could possibly be, then i could like know that it's not horrible. So can somebody PLEASE help me find a website that can let you do that? Or like if somebody knows a bunch of medical stuff, let me know please!! thankssomuch!
Try this web site: http://www.webmd.com/diseases_and_conditions/symptom_checker.htm
You can ask me a private question if you like. I would just need to know more details.
Thanks
In the past month and a half, sometimes when my fiance eats pizza, his lips swell up to about 3 times their normal size a few hours afterwards. It starts in one corner on one lip and slowly travels all the way around until everything is completely swollen. He says that it feels kind of numb. We get Benadryl and he takes 2, but it doesn't seem to help at all. It's just his lips. He's never had any problems like this in the past and we're not getting pizza from new places or anything. I know he needs to see a doctor about it, that's not what I'm asking. I'm just really interested in how this could have happened. Does anybody have any ideas about what could be causing this? Are they putting some kind of new ingredient or spice in pizza now? Could he have developed an allergy to something at age 21? Has anything like this happened to anyone before? Thanks.
Since foods with tomatoes are common, I would assume this would happen at other times if that ingredient was the cause. With most allergic reactions it takes a few times of exposure to the allergen to have noticiable symptoms. Allergies are funny things, they show up and go away in some people at random ages. More than likely each exposure will create a greater reaction. Since it is his "lips" that swell this is a potentially dangerous situation because it could lead to air way swelling with other exposures.(Which is life threatening)
OTC doses of benadryl will only work to a degree, and at some point will not help anymore. He would need a stronger medicine like epinephrine to reverse the reaction. I know of some people that are allergic to MSG which is a flavor enhancer, that is commonly used in chinese food, but I am not sure if it is added to pizza ingredients.
It is a law that all additives and ingredients must be listed on food labels. If you can, go to the place where you purchased a pizza that he reacted to and ask for copies of the product lables. Then make an appointment with an allergist.
The allergist will be able to test for common allergies. Often they use a device that has several small needles on it that are infiltrated with common allergens. These needles are then pricked into the skin, and if the person is allergic to the substance the skin will react.
I believe since your bf has a potentially life threatening allergy it would be in his best interest to investigate so he can avoid the potenital for future complications.
what does it mean to be physically ready to have sex?
I suppose when this is said it means that one has passed puberty and has a sexual drive and the sex organs & hormones have developed. We all know that the physical characteristics show up before one is emotionally ready.
i'll make this short, how do i break my cell phone, like to the piont of no revival?
Run over it with a car! Submerse it in water for a few hours! Stomp on it! Throw a brick on it! Stab it with a screw driver! Why would you want to do that?
For some reason i somehow managed to pull a muscle or hurt something at least in my leg last night while sleeping and it hurts! Ive done it before, just not recently and im not sure how i do it. Right now my calf area still hurts even though i tried stretching it. Is there any way i can keep myself from pulling a muscle while sleeping? Is this even considered pulling a muscle or something else?
As the other's already mentioned you probably had a muscle spasm or "charlie horse" in your calf while you were sleeping. If this wakes you up you may even feel the spasm--the muscle will feel contracted. At that moment try stretching your toes toward you to help relax the muscle. Putting moist heat on your leg will help with the pain, and ask your Dr or pharmacist about OTC medications. Many people who get these type of spasms are lacking in vitamin D, calcium, magnesium and potassium. If you don't take vitamins try eating a banana and drinking milk every day. If you have tenderness, redness, swelling or the area feels warm to the touch please see a Dr right away as this could be a more serious condition that requires medical intervention.
Ok,I have 2 animals.A kitten,and a dog.Here's the problem:THE DOG IS AFRAID OF THE CAT!!Here's more decripsion:
Dog: Male Pekingese will be 4yrs on Jan 1 pure Name:Andy
Kitten female Pursian will be 1yr on x-mas pure Name:Fluff
What do i do to help.We got Andy 4 $125.And Fluff was $200.I don't want to give up ethier.Plez help me help Andy get over his fear of Fluff!
Some dogs and cats can learn to get along, others never do. Don't punish the cat or the dog, but try to distract them when they are in the same room. If the cat goes after the dog, you will have to interupt her. By constantly repeating this the cat may learn that the dog is off limits. Otherwise if this doesn't work, try not to worry about it so much, because both of them will pick up on your anxiety and make the problem worse. If you ignore the animals they may just be able to work it out on their own.
I was pondering this for awhile, and I have really bad upper-digestive problems, mainly acid-reflux (like REALLY bad), and heartburn. I get a lot of spasms in my throat, frequent shortness of breath (especially exercising), and i'm always coughing. I am not sure if these symptoms are just from other reasons, but people keep telling me I might have cancer, or somewhere to the chance of developing it. Maybe asthma as well from my breathing problems. I get confused on this. And I need what to look for in cancer (like in the throat) and the symptoms of asthma (maybe other breathing conditions) also, if it does sound like I have anything to seek a Doctor with, what could I possibily have (in your educated opinion/guess).
I would like to hear that there is not anything wrong with me, but I keep getting on-going symptoms with breathing, and acid-problems. I'd say I had these for a year now. So please list me symptoms/signs for conditions I may have, and again, I have these symptoms:
*Frequent shortness of breath (especially when exercising during short periods of time and waking up/going to sleep)
*Breathing spasms, especially when waking up.
* Bad acid-reflux, heartburn, any acid-conditions, that actually occur several times a day, even WITHOUT junkfood, eaying before bed, WITH OTC meds, and all the other rules of treating it.
* Coughing frequently from the time I wake up to when I go to bed (I don't know about while I am sleeping).
So just help me out here. Thanks in advance! And I apoligize for how long this is, I just want the most accurate answers as possible. =)
Hope you've seen a doctor by now, if not please go right away. The symptoms you are describing are classic for cardiac or heart problems, but of course only a doctor can diagnose you. Asthma or respiratory problems alone do not usually cause acid reflux, but heart problems cause breathing difficulties and acid reflux.
How can I tell if a guy likes me? Like, what are the signs, and i know there are alot of different ones.
It depends on your age, but basically body language is a way to tell.
http://www.adamanddrew.com/signs.cfm
one of my best friends has a gf from our "click." she's not the best gf though, he likes her and all but she is obsessed w/ drama. if he forgets to find her in the hall after 3rd period she doesn't talk to him for a week 0.o I find this quite stupid and feel she is not right for him, however she is a nice girl otherwise and if they do break up, our click will be kinda awkward...anyway he's a really cool guy and I would hate for him to be dumped or for him to have to dump her if something else stupid happens...
kk thnx for help guys
-van
You are right it would be awkward if they break up. However, even the best friendships are always evolving. So if they do break up, most likely things in the click will have a way of working out. One of both of them will move on to other friendships and relationships. Just try your hardest to remain neutral and not take sides. Otherwise you or other "click" members may get the blame for something that's not your fault.