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Someone is blackmailing on kik. I sent him nude photo of mine, he want me to send again if I will not he said that he will post it online website wherein all country can see it. I dont know what to do. He said that he will spread it and all my friends can see it. Im afraid Im fron Hungary. Need help (link)
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The only way to stop a blackmailer is to take away their power. Tell him to go ahead and post it. If it gets around to people you know just tell them he used the picture illegally. That is all the explanation you have to offer. Believe me it won't matter 5 years from now. Just for future reference, I wouldn't send anymore nude photo's to guys you don't know that well!
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I'm 19 and my bf is 24 and we have a 10 month old kid together. We have roommates that live with us so our son sleeps in our room in his crib. Me and my boyfriend hardly ever have sex and he said he doesn't really care for it n that its just not important to him. I want sex pretty much every day but I would settle for once a week I guess. He doesn't even make me feel wanted. He isn't very touchy feely I'm the one that usually initiates the kissing or touching. He doesn't like to cuddle or hold each other we sleep on our own sides of the bed and I feel like were an old married couple that no longer even have any interest in sex. I'm driving myself crazy here!!! I got birth control because he had said we don't really have sex because he doesn't wanna get me pregnant again and I got that last month and since then we have only had sex once. How do I make him wanna have sex more. Y is he being like this? Please help me!!! (link)
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There is definitely a problem here but it is NOT sex. Lack of sexual desire is only a symptom of the real problem. It is not normal for a 24 year old to say he doesn't care for sex or that it isn't important. I would be inclined to agree with the others about the sleeping arrangements but I can't help but feel like there is a LOT more going on here. He doesn't want to cuddle, you have to initiate kissing or touching and he does not want to have sex with you so I am guessing he has a problem with YOU. It not only sounds like he has a problem but I think it is big problem. Maybe he is blaming you for ending up in this situation and is feeling resentful. He may feel like you trapped him into this relationship, but you can mark my words he is looking for a way out! He has already withdrawn from you sexually and emotionally, the only thing left is to remove himself physically. The two of you need to get the roommates out of the house, ask a relative to babysit and sit down for a long heart to heart talk about what is really wrong. If he does open up to you (and from what you are describing it may be too late for him to reach that level of intimacy with you)please listen to what he has to say, even if isn't pretty. I don't want to scare you but when you say he is acting like he doesn't want you.... he isn't acting! I have been around long enough to know, this guy is ready to bolt! The only hope you have of fixing this to to get him to talk it out. I would recommend couples counseling if possible. I think right now you are hanging on by a thread and that thread is your son. Whatever you do, let him vent. Please don't scream, yell, accuse, point fingers, place blame, plead or beg. Just be quiet and let him talk. I am guessing there is a volcano of emotion buried under all this coldness. He needs to be heard. I realize you are only 19 but you can't possibly believe "making him want sex more" is going to make all this go away! Maybe your lack of empathy for his feelings is a big turn off as well. If you really care for this man, stop worrying about how often YOU need sex and try to help him deal with whatever eating him up! I hope you are able to work this out, especially for your son's sake. Good luck!
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I am. 22 year old female. I work in a grocery store with this guy Mitch..several coworkers have confronted me saying that they think he has a big crush on me. I have noticed certain things to. He really doesn't talk to anyone but me, and the ones he does talk to he talks to me in a different kind of way and is most attentive to me. He looks at me in a certain way, he's always extremely excited and happy and always smiling when talking to me, his pupils diliate..he blushes a lot. We click extremely well. He will only bag for me, never anyone else..even if I'm at a register not next to him..he always laughs at things I say even if they're not funny..one time I was talking about a guy I liked and his happy giddy mood went to awkward sad and he looked at the ground and just said yeah..yeah..(totally not his personalityw me).I changed the subject bc I could tell he didn't like it. Does it sound like he likes me? (link)
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YES! Of course he likes you! Does he need to hit you on the head with a cantaloupe or something? Unfortunately Mitch doesn't seem to possess a lot of self confidence and he probably thinks you're out of his league. If you really like Mitch and want him to ask you out then try flirting back a little and see if he runs with it. If all else fails ask HIM out for lunch or a cup of coffee. I think once he finds out you are not going to crush him like a bug he will be more than happy to make the next move! Good luck!
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My mom and I are trying to relocate to Georgia. She just retired 2 weeks ago. She wants to get a new job in a warmer state down south, but none of the apartments will accept her because she doesn't have a job down there yet. I don't live there yet either, I live in a different state as well. But to get a job, people are wanting us to already have a place to live down there. She is only going to get about $500 from her retirement fund and most of the apartments want you to make 2-3 times the rent. Do you all have any suggestions as to what she can do? (link)
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I wish I had a little more info. It sounds like your Mom is retired but you are both planning to look for work? I also am assuming you plan to live together? The reason I'm asking is that your mom might be eligible for housing in retirement communities that you would not be accepted into because of you age. I would go online and look at the classified ads for the towns you have in mind. Many times private landlords are not nearly so strict as rental companies. I would also compile a list of references from former landlords and employers. If you have friends or relatives in Georgia you could enlist their help in trying to locate suitable housing. I was just wondering how you decided on Georgia(wonderful state where I grew up!) I am going to assume you have some idea of the location you are hoping to move to and have a list of perspective employers. You could gather a list of churches from that area as well and see if they might know of an available rental or have any other suggestions for you. It wouldn't hurt to contact the Chamber of Commerce either, sometimes they can be a wonderful source of information. Even if they aren't much help you've made some new friends and acquaintances in the area! You might have to settle for a more expensive rental on a month to month basis until you get settled and find work. I know it will all work out but here's the most important thing you have to do after you get there; eat a bowl of Brunswick stew for me! Good luck!
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My school break starts on Wednesday (May 28). I have to go to school 5 more times. That may sound like a little bit of time but school is really slow now and I just want it to be Summer. How do I just let this last almost week just fly by? (link)
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The kids in my school district would probably like to punch you in the face!LOL They have to go till June 12th! Just get through every day by repeating "At least I'm not one of those kids!" Seriously, you might not believe me but someday you will want these days back sooooo bad! Try to cherish them and make them last. Have fun with your friends and it will be over before you know it!
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I lost my phone at college and after I found it at the doorman's desk,I found that he has been fiddling with it. I had pattern lock on and I think my phone may have locked itself because he entered the wrong pattern too many times. But then I tried calling my phone and I couldn't answer the call. Could it be that my phone is really locked,or that the screen is broken? My phone is a Samsung Galaxy S4. (link)
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I am still laughing way too hard at Mr.Wombat's response! You need to call Samsung and explain the problem. Did you purchase an extended warranty from the store? If so they should replace it even if the screen is broken. Sorry, I'm a tech-tard and this is the best I can do! Good luck!
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A few months ago, I began seeing this really great guy. We attend the same university, but I am a sophomore and he is a senior. He is graduating next month, and after that, he plans on moving to a city six hours away from where we go to school.
We go out on dates and are physically intimate, but he told me straight up that once he moves, we are to be just friends. He doesn't do long-distance relationships.
He plans on visiting the university when he moves, but he told me that we would be strictly platonic, nothing physical.
He doesn't understand how much this upsets me. I have tried so hard to keep from having feelings for him, but he's the kind of guy I'd want to be with, and I fear that I will never meet anyone like him ever again. I don't think he has any real feelings for me, seeing as he essentially placed an expiration date on our relationship.
It pains me to admit this, but I don't think I can convince him to carry on the "relationship" when he moves. So how can I keep myself from going crazy for the next month or so? I enjoy being with him, but I always end up nearly crying because I keep thinking about how awful it's going to be when he leaves.
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Please, do not torture or embarrass yourself by allowing this relationship to continue for another month! Please, please, do not try to CONVINCE him of anything! You will NOT go crazy, I promise, because everything you have written about him so far proves that you are ALREADY crazy(I mean this in the kindest sense possible!)It is only by walking away from this now that you can restore your sanity!I do give him credit for being brutally honest about where you stand(that would be nowhere)so he really didn't do anything to you that you didn't allow or encourage. You are dead wrong however when you say he doesn't understand how this upsets you, he most certainly does, but he still wants sex right up until the day he leaves! You are wasting every good thing you have to offer on this person and he cares no more for you than a fly on the wall! Your greatest fear should be that you WILL meet someone like him again! Really,you need to dump this jerk yesterday!
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So my boyfriend is still a virgin & i know hes a clean guy. I gave him head the other day and i swalled. Now im paranoid because i read that HIV can be passed through oral. Is that true even though hes never been sexually active? (link)
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I think HPV is a much greater concern when it comes to oral sex. There are many types of HPV that are now associated with oral cancer. If his mother was infected with HPV, even though he has never been sexually active, this virus could be present in his body from his mother's blood crossing the placenta before he was born. This is unlikely, but you should always use condoms as a precaution no matter what type of sex you are having. When you go for a check up be honest with your GYN and get tested for STD's. It is better to be safe than sorry!
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Boyfriend is withdrawing how to spark his interest again
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I wish I knew what "withdrawing" means to you but I am going to assume he just doesn't seem as interested. Without knowing the history I hope we can rule out the old "I gave him sex and now he doesn't know me" scenario! If everything was fine before and you think he is just getting bored then shake things up a little bit! Have you ever watched Grease? I am not recommending you wear a skin tight body suit or smoke cigarettes but do get out of your rut! Get a new hairstyle, buy a new outfit(something you might not normally wear) take a class in something new and exciting like Karate or Jujitsu. Buy a new perfume or get a new hobby. Be a little mysterious, (he doesn't have to know everything about you!) You might also be surprised by how many new guys come out of the wood work once you make yourself more exciting and there is nothing like a little competition to re-spark a guys interest! Whatever you do please don't get all clingy and start begging. You will only embarrass yourself and the guy will just run instead of walk as he is leaving! If you do all these things and he still isn't interested, remember it's his loss! Good luck!
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Relationships scare the crap out of me. I can't fathom how one minute everything is good and the next it's not. My boyfriend and I have been in a low phase and he says he wants it to work out still and really loves me. But his actions aren't showing it lately (past week).
My best friend just got broken up with and was talking to me about it and he said that they just weren't happy and wanted different things. I think me and my guy want the same. But I feel like he would lie about it to make me happy. Which is the worst thing he could do because it's never gonna work if he isn't happy...and instead of carrying on with this I could work on bettering myself. I do love him though! Ugh why is love so hard and always leading in heartbreak?
I'm 23 by the way. (link)
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I don't see any reason why you would have to break up with your boyfriend in order to better yourself! As a matter of fact I think it may be just the kick start your relationship needs. Any self improvement builds self esteem. Self esteem is the cornerstone on which healthy relationships are built! You have to remember all relationships have their highs and lows. Just because your guy isn't showing it doesn't necessarily mean he isn't feeling it. Guys are notorious for bailing when things get bad and since he is hanging in there I think there is hope. You are trying to take his inventory, read his mind and then decide for him that he isn't happy! Forgive me if I'm wrong but I think you are scared he is going to dump you so you are looking for a reason to dump him first! It is actually quite ridiculous if you stop and think about it, YOU deciding HE isn't happy so you'd better break up with him! Change one person and you change the relationship! You could start out by making those positive changes in you and I'll bet it won't be long before you see some positive changes in him as well. If you really love him then why not take the challenge? Good luck!
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I started dating a girl in December, I'm not going to say all the normal love stuff, because, this was a normal relationship, we believed we were perfect for eachother, we loved eachother, ect. Her parents liked me, I went to church and all with them, they were Catholic I'm Baptist.
Well, she would always say how she's always hungry, she doesn't eat as much (later finding out they sometimes don't give her food for like a day or two), her parents call her names like slut, whore, bitch, just cause their mad or so, or they'd slap her, like, they slap her all the time when they don't get their way basically. Sometimes they whip them (her and her sister) with a belt I believe, but it never leaves bruises so she thinks it's "not illegal" because of that, but it burns and hurts her like hell. One time she said "my mother whipped me with a belt 15 times because I drew on the blinds"
Anyways on with the story, everything was normal, until the day before valentines day, her mom grounded her because we were 30 minutes late from the lake which was half a mile away. February 17th or 18th I forget, she got in a argument with her mom, as always the slapping, name calling, she was unhappy. We ran away in the middle of the night together, she said she was going to run away even if I didn't.
So, I protected her, we ran away, we were gone for 18 hours. When we came back, we went into the house and talked to the parents, well, the parents are HIGHLY manipulative and all so remember this later. The mother said how she doesn't even want my girlfriend there, if it wasn't for the dad she wouldn't be there, and responsibility this responsibility that, basically saying their all gonna die if she doesn't do things right, her mother is literally mentally unstable or something... The cop came obviously, the dad said I was a good kid he liked me and all, and we hugged when I left. Everything was normal.
The next day I went there, the mom was mad obviously, we hanged out for 2 or 3 weeks in a normal way. Then I had to goto another state for 3 weeks, I told them I was leaving, and I really was, but I had problems and went to the state over instead with my family for 5 days. Well, we snuck out when I got back because we knew we wouldn't be able to see eachother until the weekend, we always wanted to see eachother. This wasn't the first time we snuck out, and we've been caught 3 times before by her parents. They forgave us though each time.
This time, I lied to the mom sadly saying I was in Missouri. Acted like I was worried the next day ect, the sister had told the mom the truth I guess. The mother 2 days later (March 7th) filed a Protection Order, for no legit reason. Ill say the statements later. The P.O. was served to me March 9th
The dad, is like loyal to the wife because their catholic and all, not to bash the religion in any way. But he just is. I know he would never do this, he didn't file anything. Anyways I went to the house to reconcile with him and he just kept saying go, go, go bla bla no reason then just started saying I was too old. He knew I wasnt, he liked me, he was just doing this for the wife. Cops ended up coming I still refused to leave because I wanted to reconcile, then they tresspassed me.
Anyways, March 17th, I went to walmart, they were all there, the dad walked like "Hey (my name), I see you got a job!" What? "You're wearing your uniform!" Oh yeah "Well, bye!" he was all happy and everything.
After seeing me 3 more times he left with my gf to the car.
March 20th came, the P.O. court date, the statements on it were "Ran away, sneaking out to the lake several times, reporting bullying and saying everything will be okay" I reported her being bullied from people.. And they think thats bad? Hah. Well, the mom anyways. We told the judge about how their using me as a disclipinary tool, how they call her names and mental abuse, how I always just helped her. Not really detailing it but that's short for it, Judge said "Everything was in good intentions for her nothing was done wrong, all he did was help her." and set the P.O. for 3 months.
We got letters on March 24th and March 27th saying how they hurt her she doesn't wanna be there that they say their the "dictators" of the family and they slap her, call her bitch and slut, and that her Aunt threatened to kill me and has a plan and a gun in her car. And will do anything for her mom she doesn't care cause she loves her mom.
Sad.
April 3rd we violated it, she was being starved I heard so I was going to take her to McDonalds, cops caught us within 5 minutes because I "ran a stop sign", well I was on a slope. It was dark, so yeah.
April 9th, the mother chased me, followed me, I ran from her to my friends house and a cop started grabbing me for no reason when he came to investigate so I pushed him and got charged for assault and battery and a violation, went to jail for 6 days. I really did nothing wrong, this cop just started grabbing me then shoving me into the police car because I yelled my mothers number at my friend because he wouldnt let me call her, I KNEW the cops wouldn't call her thats why I tried. Cop wasnt listening to me say they were chasing me before all this, he detained me as soon as he saw me in my truck he said get out and I did then I was like am i being detained he was like yes. He cant do that without any further cause...
So yeah I was arrested. Went to jail for 6 days and now I'm under 24/7 supervision for awhile, we believe their going to give me probation in another state...
Well, we have around 3 open DHS cases on her, then 2 more from other people we believe. But DHS hasn't visited her since ending of March, its May now. And their all open cases.
Now here's where things get interesting, this just happened, and is why I'm looking for help.
2 days ago she showed up to my house, freezing, wet, covered in grass. It was a 4 mile walk to out here, through the lake woods and all. I was so sad I let her in, got her my sweats and got her warm, held her, she explained what happened how they hurt her and she doesn't wanna be there, she showed me a bruise which is the size of a french fry, my friend and her said it was bigger, it's 4 days old, still blood red.
Her mother ended up showing up, we called the cops, but she was saying she doesn't wanna be there they hurt her they hit her they call her names and just wanted help... A Sheriff came in, I was in the other room then because the PO, my mother was with them, my Gf had said all I've said how they hurt her and call her names she doesnt wanna be with them shes scared and unhappy and some stories on how they hurt before.
So sheriff took her to the police car and then talked to us then talked to her parents. There was another sheriff here then, they pulled out a letter. They talked for like 30 minutes. Now before we continue, this family is highly manipulative, believable, looks normal but when you leave their house their evil and hitting her. They've lie to the POLICE (not sheriff) to think were Sex Traffickers, idk if they believe it just because "were from Arizona" and my mother said it was okay if my Gf wanted to live with us, when she ran away, if it was okay with the parents. So because of that they lie about some stuff.
My gf said to the sheriff how when the police come her parents make them goto the room and their never really questioned or get to talk that the police and her parents just get along... So now theres gonna be more DHS and police involved I guess.
Anyways, sheriff sent her back with the mom, said theres going to be in-house DHS counciling, police, and all. It's devestating because my GF absoloutely doesnt want to be with them, they seriously hurt her. They wont let her go with her real mom the sheriff said "THAT IS NOT POSSIBLE" in a loud voice, because the mother lied to them we think.
The letter the mother showed them was a letter, in short, saying "I'm running away to see (my name)" which ruined everything I think. Because cops said she didn't run away because they hurt her, which is WHY she did run away, she told me, but yes, she came to me to tell me first, she wanted help they do hurt her.
What can we do?!
I've made about a 6 page letter to the dad since theres no Protection Order from him...
Were not doing this just so we can see eachother, that's part of the reason, but they really hurt her she wants out.
I have just turned 17 and she has just turned 15, at the end of April and beginning of May.
When she came here she said her mother had said "Now I see why (cousins name) mother let her boyfriend move in." (link)
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I am going to say some things you are probably not going to like or agree with but I am going to ask you to at least consider them. First of all you have to realize it is NOT your place to save this girl. You are only 17! This little girl is only 15 and you helped her to run away!I know you think you are helping but you are actually making things much worse for your girlfriend and yourself. You are literally destroying any hope for your future by choosing these illegal actions! I am sorry to be blunt but neither of you are mature enough to handle this type of situation on your own. If your girlfriend is being abused then she needs to get a respected adult on her side to help prove it, like a school counselor, a teacher or a clergyman. If you and she do not choose some other way to handle this situation soon I see it ending very badly, with you in jail and your girlfriend in a detention center! Here comes the second part you may not want to look at. Whether this girl is being abused or not she is NOT mature enough to care if she gets you in trouble! Frankly I think she is thriving on this drama and you are only too happy to play the part of the white knight riding in to the rescue. Someday when you are older you are really going to regret these decisions, although I know you don't believe it now. At 17 and 15 you are far too young to be trying to live anywhere together. You both need to finish school and prepare for your future. What if you are sitting somewhere 10 years from now with a criminal record, no education, no job, and no girl. Yes, it has happened even to the most "in love" couples once they get out there in the real world! If this girl tells you she is starved or has been beaten tell her to go to the school nurse or counselor and report it immediately. Once she sees you are not going to come running and try to whisk her away I think you will find her situation will suddenly improve!I think you are a great guy and very brave for wanting to help her but no matter how you look at this it isn't your battle. Do the right thing, do the mature thing, and tell her to report this through an adult. Good luck to you both!
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Hey guys, I'm 19/f and my boyfriend and I have been together for about 1 years and a half now. Our relationship is perfect except for one thing, and that is I'm not social at all. I'm more of a quiet, laid back person. My bf in quite the opposite. He loves to be social and I think he has been avoiding calling me because when we talk on the phone most of time he does all the talking and he talks for a very long time. Sometimes I interact and say a few things but I always feel like it's never good enough. He has tried to make me more social but it never works. Sometimes I think he deserved better like someone who he can talk to and get feedback and I'm not that person. What can I do?
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I hate to burst your bubble dear, but you and your boyfriend are not living anywhere NEAR Perfect!Your boyfriend is trying to change you and you feel like what you have to say is not good enough!I rarely ever advise a break up unless there is abuse but I am going to make an exception in your case! I don't like way you are putting yourself down and assuming YOU are the one who is wrong because you not outgoing. You actually go as far as to say he deserves better than you. Who's better than you? Someone outgoing and talkative? No, different maybe but not better! You are just a quiet type but there is nothing WRONG with you. He shouldn't try to change you or make you feel bad about who you are. Unless you want to live the rest of your life feeling inadequate and unappreciated you should get out of this relationship, before you get damaged any further. I am sure there is a great guy out there who will love your quiet thoughtful nature and he won't want to change a thing about you! I guess your question was what can you do? Tell your boyfriend you're sorry but your personalities are just not compatible and then move on. If this isn't the advice you want to hear then you can try to change into the fluttering little social butterfly he wants you to be but I think you'll be miserable! Good luck!
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So my boyfriend and I broke up for about 2 months now and I was begging him to be back with me for a while.. We were together for almost 2 years and we've broken up once before but got back together after 3 months of me trying to see him and convince him. Well lately ive been in no contact with him for a month now and he's always checked my snapchat stories ever since. Suddenly yesterday when i posted a picture of me on instagram of my trophy from tae kwon do competition he liked it right away. What does that like mean? I still have feelings for him but im trying not to hurt myself with high hopes but its hard still. The purpose of me in NC is just for me to heal a bit, improve myself, and ultimately make him miss me.
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You are on the right track by trying to improve yourself. Learning new skills and building self esteem are very important for a bright and self reliant future!I am going to be very blunt for a moment so please hear me out. Begging is for DOGS, not confident and secure young women! Please do not EVER beg, this will only diminish you in his eyes and make you look pathetic!If you have to try to convince a guy to take you back listen carefully:HE IS NOT WORTH IT! Look at all you have accomplished so far! You don't need him to validate you. Be proud of yourself. Continue to do things like this for yourself and someday a wonderful young man will come along who deserves you. This guy you're hung up on is not the one for you, you can trust me on this. Good luck!
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I have a boyfriend of over one year and I love him but I may be developing feelings for my guy best friend? He's so funny and understands me on another level. He never fails to cheer me up and no matter how irritated I get I always want to be there for him. The problem is I feel the same way for both my boyfriend and my bestfriend. I've obviously lived through a lot more with my boyfriend, but my friend is something else. But why should I risk such an amazing relationship? And why is that even crossing my mind. My boyfriend is such Ana amazig guy and deserves nothing but the best. But so does me best friend๐ญ god I don't know what to do, every passing day everything becomes harder. I can stare I to my best friends eyes even if the feelings aren't corresponded. Am I in love with two guys? (link)
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I am going to give you a very simple piece of advice. Toss a coin in the air. Heads, your boyfriend, tails your best friend. While the coin is still in the air you will have your answer because you will find yourself hoping for either heads or tails! Now that you know which one you want it doesn't get any easier! It is possible to love both of them but the coin will tell you which one you are IN love with. You do realize somebody has to get hurt, and it may be you. I hope it all works out the way you hope. Good luck!
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My parents are going through severe financial difficulties. I'm a student still at home at 21 as I can't afford to move out. I recently reconnected with my ex boyfriend whom my parents and brother disagree of. We had a big verbal fall out and broke up months ago. He was a big drinker but quit almost a year ago in order to save our relationship. He says he loves me and I love him. My family found out about this and have threatened that if I so much as befriend my ex I'll be kicked out, and that I've somehow betrayed them all. I seen my brothers messages to his girlfriend and they're quite abusive towards me. My family stalked and followed me to his house. They've become increasingly paranoid and I feel vulnerable and bullied by their behaviour. Should I try to move out? I can't stay any longer. It's constant verbal abuse and I'm not even sure what for any more. I always try to keep the peace but they are taking it too far telling me who to hang out with and even following me. Please advise me as I'm so shocked by their abusive words. I want my boyfriend back but don't want to lose my family, even though they're being cruel through their own problems. It's like they blame me and him for their own difficulties. (link)
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Unfortunately if you are living under your parent's roof and they are supporting you financially you have to live by their rules or move out. From what you have said here about your ex boyfriend being a "big drinker" it is understandable that your family would have concerns. Is it possible what you are viewing as cruelty and abuse could just be your family's way of trying to protect you? One of the most difficult things a parent ever has to face is knowing they couldn't save their child from making an awful mistake with their future. I realize you don't feel like this relationship is a mistak, but they do. Has your ex apologized or tried to make amends with your family? Has he proved himself to them that he stopped drinking and changed his life? I am quite sure they don't trust him, but trust is something you have to earn. If he is serious about having a relationship with you then he needs to be a man and step up to the plate and try to mend the relationship with your parents. It is not right for him to stay in the background and let you go to battle for him! If indeed this man is sincere and he does care about you then he wouldn't put you in the position of having to choose between him and your family. If he does come forward and give it his best shot to make it right with your family and they still won't accept him then you will have to choose but keep in mind it could create a permanent rift between you and your family. If you decide to do this make sure he's worth it! Good luck!
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Its been almost 3 years and they have had there good times and bad times but today i didnt talk to her because I didnt want to fight and when we spoke she kept fighting with me... I feel like dying because she is my life and i am so stressed out, what should I do? (link)
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. You didn't say if you live together or not(you could even be teenagers for all I know)so I am going to try to give you the best advice I can with the little bit of information I have. You need to step back from the situation and regain your bearings. From what you are describing here it sounds like you are really starting to lose it. You are so stressed out that you feel like dying(I really hope you were exaggerating)but if you mean that then you need to seek some counseling ASAP. If you really feel as if you might harm yourself either call a suicide hotline or go to the ER at the nearest hospital. This type of situation can escalate quickly and because of your present mental state you need to focus on what YOUR needs are right now. Even if you have to stay with a friend or some relatives you need to remove yourself from this situation until you can think clearly again. I understand that your feelings for your girlfriend are very deep and intense but the fact is, she can not be "your life". That is placing a very unfair burden on her. You are trying to say that your life depends upon her actions. You need to talk in depth with a counselor and try to understand that another person can never be responsible for your happiness or for your state of mind. Any time one person in a relationship loses themselves entirely in the other person that relationship is no longer healthy. It can become extremely toxic to both parties involved and sometimes end in tragedy. Please do not allow this to happen. You have to understand that you are each individuals in your own right. Even though you have a life with your partner you should also have hobbies and interests on your own outside of the relationship. If your relationship ended tomorrow you should be sad but not so devastated that you can not go on. Do you see the difference.Please,for now remove yourself from the situation and get some help.
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Hello, I'm 19/F. I know for sure that my bf ignores me sometimes. When I talk to him about it he always say that ignoring someone is very disrespectful and he would never do that but still he does. I've ask asked him tons of times if he ever ignores me and he always say no but I'm very sure he does sometimes. The problem is I'm sick and tired of asking him because he would think I'm an insecure person or something and no one what's that. What should I do? (link)
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For Heaven's sake STOP asking him! "TONS OF TIMES" is too many!If he says he isn't ignoring you then from that point on you are basically not only calling him a liar but you bugging him about it as well! If you are 19 years old you have to know this isn't mature behavior. I apologize for being so forward but I am too old to beat around the bush! You asked what to do, so I am trying to be truthful! You ARE acting like an insecure person. Perhaps he HAS ignored you a few times(and if you are repeatedly asking him a question that he has already answered tons of times then it is understandable)! Start acting like a secure, confident woman and I am willing to bet your problem will go away all on it's own!
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Ok so i need advice so me and my gf been together for bout 3 years well on and off and we have a beautiful 2 year old son i love him to death well me and gf have talked about getting married and etc.. but i feel da same way but idk like we argue a hell of alot and she dont trust me and i dont trust her but its not really dat i recently talked to my ex that i dated in 2009 to 2011 and we was sooo in love but it was long distance so we never seen each other in person but we video chatted all da time so now that i got a good job and able to pay for da trip see her now and idk what to to be honest she was da only girl i ever trusted and she knew better den anybody and we had so much in common but now all i think about is what if i had seen her just once in person how wud it been like wen i talked to her tonight we both just lit up and just talked bout how we used to be and we broke up cause we was far away but i wanna know if i should go or not like i know if i tell my gf she just gonna get emotional but i just wanr this thought to be gone out my head please help (link)
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You are right to question this. If you even remotely think you have feelings for your ex PLEASE do not marry your current girlfriend! Even though you have a child together it would be so unfair to everyone involved. Your first few sentences say it all as far as I'm concerned. You mention your son, that you love him to death, but you never mention loving your girlfriend. You also say that you don't trust each other and pardon me for saying so but I am not sure you CAN be trusted where your ex is concerned. I am pretty sure even if you haven't told her your gf has an idea that something isn't right! You need to take a little time for yourself and get your head on straight about what you really want. Trying to ignore your feelings for your ex will not make them go away! Even if it doesn't work out with your ex I don't think you and your current gf are anywhere near being ready for marriage. Please don't allow yourself to get pressured into something you are not ready for. A lot of people could end up getting hurt! Good luck!
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I'm 14 and there's this boy I've had feelings for since about January, he's felt the same about me ever since then too and we've been out twice but it didn't really work. He is 13.
I'm not sure if he still likes me but I know for sure that I'm still crazy in love with him, I see him everyday at school and when I'm not looking my friends say they catch him staring at me and I have seen him doing it before when he thought I wasn't looking! When I try to make eye contact with him he quickly turns away or turns around and walks backwards looking at his friends.
Why is this?
But, I still really really like him! We used to talk so much and about everything! He'd pop up to me every night even just if it's quick and there's nothing to talk about, now he doesn't say anything to me ๐ค
I honestly can't stop thinking about him, I walk wherever he goes at lunch just so I can see him and I always feel like I feel sick or I have butterflies all the time because I love him so much! It actually hurts sometimes! I find myself reading our old messages and stalking his Facebook profile all the time, I can't help it! ๐
But why do I feel like this?
Can I stop it?
Someone please help me ๐
Thank you! X
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It is totally normal for a girl your age to feel this way! I wish you would have explained a little more about what "didn't work". I think that is where the answer lies about the way he is treating you now. Maybe he upset with you over why it didn't work or maybe he is embarrassed about it. Try to find out what went wrong. If he won't talk to you try to get someone to ask him why he doesn't like you anymore. Once you find out why then maybe you can fix it. You might owe him an apology for something you don't even realize! Whatever you do though, please don't stalk him, guys really hate this. The best thing you can do if he won't make up with you is to totally ignore him. Walk away when you see him coming and if you catch him looking your way turn around. He might just decide he wants you if he thinks you don't want him anymore! If not, it's his loss and I am sure there are lots of other boys who like you for a girlfriend! Good luck!
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21/f, 27/m
I posted a question up about a guy that I met online and was giving me mixed signals at first. We spoke about giving mixed signals and stuff afterward. I mentioned that I am not a "booty call" and that if he was looking for one, to look elsewhere. He told me that he hasn't done a "booty call" in years and that he does not know if we would work out or not, he just wanted to try it out and see.
Ever since that talk, things went back to normal. He was still a gentleman and we still spent time together. We went wine tasting but I apparently was a bit off because I had a lot on my mind. But technically, I felt like he was not sure if he was actually being truthful to me. Long story short, we had sex. I wanted to see if he was going to stop talking to me right afterward, he didn't. He told me that he still liked me and wanted me to stay the night. He still spoke to me everyday.
The last day I saw him was two days ago... He brought me back a rose from his trip. And hours later we went to his friend's house warming party. He kissed me, held my hand, etc in front of his friends. To be honest, I'm awkward in big groups of people. It takes me a while to warm up to them since the only person I knew was him. After the party, he told me it was okay that I was quiet and he understood.
He invited me to come in, when I did, we spoke, etc. I can tell that he wanted to have sex again but I told him it was a bad idea because 1) I needed to go home to take my birth control since I left it at home, 2) My sister came home this weekend and kept asking where I was along with her boyfriend, and 3) I could tell that he was tired and sleepy. I told him these reasons and his response was, "so what?" .... But I eventually did leave and he gave me a kiss before I walked out the door.
The next day, he did not text me at all. Which was strange because he always texts me. So, I texted him asking if he was okay and if I did anything wrong. He told me that he thought I said I was busy that day and I said, "not really." And then I asked what he was up to and he said, "working out. You?" I told him that I just got done having dinner with a friend and he was taking me somewhere. He said, "probably back to his house." And i said, "no. he's picking something up from his friend's house." and he said, "lol, ok". I asked if he was worried, he said "no" then "I'm going to sleep. Have a good one" which threw me off because he never says, "have a good one" he always says, "sweet dreams" with a kissy face.
I asked him if he was SURE that there was nothing wrong and he said he's sure and that he's great actually. It's become the second day and he still hasn't spoken to me. I noticed that he's become more active on the website that we met on so I was thinking maybe he met someone else? Did I do something wrong? Or was it true the whole time? I was just a booty call? (link)
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This one isn't hard to figure out! He was fine right up until you told him you were having dinner with a male friend and then stopping at someone's house. I think he got the wrong impression and got jealous. Maybe he read more into your relationship than you realized and then he ended up kicking himself and feeling like a jerk when he realized he was not the only one you were going out with. The line"probably back to his house" says it all. He thinks you were going to have sex with this guy and he felt not only jealous but probably incredibly stupid!The two of you never really discussed whether or not you were exclusive, right? Unfortunately, I am pretty sure he assumed that was the case. I don't think he met someone else, he assumes you did! If you really like him give him a call and try to clear things up. Good luck!
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