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He ignores me
Hello, I'm 19/F. I know for sure that my bf ignores me sometimes. When I talk to him about it he always say that ignoring someone is very disrespectful and he would never do that but still he does. I've ask asked him tons of times if he ever ignores me and he always say no but I'm very sure he does sometimes. The problem is I'm sick and tired of asking him because he would think I'm an insecure person or something and no one what's that. What should I do?
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Rather than asking him "Why have you been ignoring me?", try asking "Why haven't I heard from you lately?". Believe moi, you will be more likely to get the truth this way.
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For Heaven's sake STOP asking him! "TONS OF TIMES" is too many!If he says he isn't ignoring you then from that point on you are basically not only calling him a liar but you bugging him about it as well! If you are 19 years old you have to know this isn't mature behavior. I apologize for being so forward but I am too old to beat around the bush! You asked what to do, so I am trying to be truthful! You ARE acting like an insecure person. Perhaps he HAS ignored you a few times(and if you are repeatedly asking him a question that he has already answered tons of times then it is understandable)! Start acting like a secure, confident woman and I am willing to bet your problem will go away all on it's own!
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Believe him, or break up with him?
You haven't told us WHY you feel your are being ignored, which makes it particularly difficult to respond to you. Without any reasons given for why you feel this way, then it does end up sounding like you are just being insecure.
It also sounds like your bigger problem is that you are sick of always picking at him about this. So stop. Believe him when he says he's not ignoring you, and just let him know if there is something you felt he missed, or didn't hear, or wasn't paying attention to. There are lots of entirely innocent reasons he might have missed something you were trying to let him know - assuming he's 'ignoring' you is become destructive to your relationship.
So either check your own bad behaviour on this subjects (the constant questioning and distrust), or break up with him.
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I know how you feel no one likes to ignored. I once pulled a nasty trick on my boss who swore he read all of our weekly sales reports. I wrote in one of mine what a great time his wife and I had on the town that week and while the expense for the night were on my expense report there was no way he would find it.
Well he never called me so I called him. Again he swore he read the report, I know his secretary read it for she called me on it. I asked her not to say anything. When he said he had read it I asked him to have his secretary bring the report in, this time that portion was highlighted for him to read. Fortunately we were good friends and all he did was call me some names I won't repeat but I accomplish my objective. I cannot say he read everyone's weekly reports but from that point on he read mine.
That won't work for you but maybe this will. Find the most obnoxious shirt you can and buy it for your boyfriend. Of course you talk to him about it first and if he is ignoring you he probably won't say anything to you. Then give it to him. When he reacts to it as I suspect he will. Remind him that you did tell him you were going to buy the shirt for him and expected him to wear hit but as usual he wasn't listening.
As they say the proof is in the proving. Don't spend a lot of money on this, What I'm saying is there are ways to prove to him, as I did, that as much as he say's he is you know he is not listening to you.
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