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Do the Parents actually have to go in with their kids into an r rated film...or could they just go with them and say "Yah these are my kids they have my permission to go to the movie". and i dont want anything like ooh just sneak into the movie....thanks abunch

well whenever i've gone into an R rated movie, my mom or dad would just go with me to buy the tickets.. but they would never come into the movie with me. hearts;

i wanna make my legs a little biggers so i can wear skirts and + short ny fashion tips please give as much advice as u can im desperate

i totally have the same problem as youuuu. =) haha but i've been just eating more. and by eating more i mean more GOOD foods and HEALTHY things.. not junkkkkk. also, you should work out to build muscle =) try running or doing squats.. or do the stair master or the olyptical! =) they work fantastically ♥ good luckk =)

i like him
hes likes me
hes got girlfriend
im fridgid
help lol

welllllllllllll he's kinda dumb for having a girlfriend when he likes you lol.. just tell him that.. say "well if you like me, then why are you going out with her?" and if he says he likes her too, then he needs to get over that as well. he needs to figure out who he wants and what he wants with whoever he wants and whoever he doesn't want lol.. just nicely tell him that, and i'm sure he'll understand =) good luckk ♥

if you have to debate with yourself whether or not you love someone, then you cant really be in love with then huh?

alright.. well i think that if you're debating with yourself, then you MIGHT love them, but not like, trueeeeee looveeee. like for the first few months of my relationship, my boyfriend and i both said i love you and all that.. and i did love him. but back then, it was more of a 'i care very very deeply about you' love. but i remember one day, i was cleaning my room, and it was an ordinary day. and all of a sudden, i felt really strange and had that butterflies in my stomach kinda thing and was very light on my feet.. it was almost as though i felt sick but i liked it and i never wanted the feeling to go away. that day i just knew that i was truely IN LOVE with him. and not 'i care very very deeply about you' love.. it was 'i can't be without you, i need you and i want all of you all to myself forever until i die and i love you more than anything' love. i just felt it and one day, it will hit you for sure. i believe there are a few stages of falling in love.. the first one is friend love, the next one is caring very deeply about someone love, the next one is the confused stage, and it develops from that into either not love, or true head over heels absolutely crazzzzzyyyyy loveeee. trust me, one day you'll know for sure =) ♥

i'm 125lbs
i'm 13
i'm 5'2
i've been told i'm average weight, i've been told i'm slightly underweight, & i've been told i'm morbidly obese
and i've been told i'm just plain fat
i don't think my appearence is fat.. but..
is this a healthy weight?

according to all the charts i've looked at, you are perfect in weight =) you shouldn't go by what anyone says but the doctors and/or any reliable charts =) [♥]

okay well i'm 13 and a female and i had already lost my virginity and this girl at school had found out now she's telling every one what should i do? i mean i don't want her to and at first she promised me she wouldn't tell any one then she goes off and tells the girls that will twist and spread rumors like "did you know so-and-so had sex with 20 different guys?"(when it was only one) or "yea she works at a strip club downtown"(i don't hello)

i don't know what to do and now my reputation is on the line.please help!

and thanks!

okay well there are many options.. i'll give you some =]

1.) paybacks a bitch, and revenge is a mother effer. so basically, you can give her a taste of her own medecine and ruin her rep.

2.) deny everything. simple explain to people how she always starts rumors and she got mad at you so she made that up.

3.) confront her about it and let try to get HER to make everyone think she was only kidding. just go up to her and say why the eff would you say that? you could even yell at her in public to embarrass her if you wanna =] whatever you wanttt.

4.) simply brush it off. if people ask you, just say 'whatever.. believe what you want.' and act totally unphased by the whole thing.

** now, due to the face that i don't know you or your personality, i can't tell you which one you should do. personally, i would either do #2, deny everything. or #4, act unphased. but thats just because i hate to get involved in things lol. so its up to you.. good luck! & at least now you know that you really can't trust anyone but yourself ♥

when guys have sex for the first time , why do they always cum quickly?
I mean im sure they have masturbated before..
And since they cum so quickly , would it still be enjoyable?

well, sex is like, the best feeling ever for guys. and it feels WAY better than masturbation. and the quicker they ejaculate, the better it felt. so since sex feels so good for them, and its like the first time they ever felt something so good, it's overwhelming so they cum very quickly :] and yes, since they cum so quickly, it's even MORE enjoyable. hope i helped ♥

okay so im 15 and me nd my b/f had sex like a week ago and we didnt use protection. i no i shouldve but it was only for like a few seconds and weve done it b4 and nuthing happened but this time when he came out of me, he had cummed right on the bed like right after he pulled out..is there any possible way i could be pregnant?

there is a slight chance because of pre-cum. pre-cum is clear and look more like water and doesn't come out nearly as much as actual white cum does. it sucks though, because guys can't feel pre-cum coming. so yes, there is a chance. you shouldn't worry though, because that will only delay your period, and make you worry longer. if you want to be extra sure, take a pregnancy test. good luckk!! ♥ =]

Do guys shave down there usually or not? I want to know what to expect (not that im doing anything anytime soon. just curious)

well it really all depends on the guyyy.. some do and some dont.. same with girls shaving. but i'm pretty positive that more girls shave than guys.. personally, i don't know of very many that do. if the guy is realllllyyyy sexually active, and gets with alot of girls, then he's more likely to shave. but if he's just a normal guy looking for more than just sex, then there's a slimmer chance of him shaving. so it all depends on the guy =] but i don't think that the majority of guys do. ♥

I'm in my last semester of college, and have my hardest class yet to complete. Lately I've been having 'senioritis.' I tend to procrastinate a lot; I do get things done eventually, but I really need to stay focused. I'll sit around and waste time, and before i know it, a couple of hours have passed by, and i haven't gotten much studying done.
Does anyone have any advice on good study skills? And maybe time management too.. Thanks :)

ok well you're almost done with college, and i'm just a little sophomore in high school.. but i've had your sameee exact problem for everrr, and i'm just now finally beginning to conquer it.

i can never get studying done at home. to me, home is for relaxing and having fun- not for studying. i suggest going to the library to study.. tahts what i do when i really need to study hard. because at the library, there's nothing else to do BUT study. and when you go, don't bring your ipod, psp, or any sort of distraction. maybe don't even bring your cellphone. you should basically try to FORCE yourself to study. make it so that there's nothing else to do BUT study. bring only school books and studying materials with you so that there are NO distractions. you should bring a drink with you.. because when i study intensely, i get tired and uncomfortable and bored. being hydrated really does keep you awake. maybe bring a little snack.. like an apple or those chewy quaker oats granola bars. wear something comfortable so you don't get distracted with adjusting anything. because when i'm studying, the littlest thing can distract me. like seeing a penny on the floor across the floor, i'll walk alllll the way over to it slowly to get it just to waste time.

but you can also make studying fun! i always make up rhymes to remember things. like, did you ever hear of "please excuse my dear aunt sally"? [parenthesis, exponent, multiply, divide, add, subtract] i am CONSTANTLY making up things like that. because to me, it's fun and really helps me to remember things better.

another thing, don't avoid studying the harder things. do practice problems over and over agian until you have them down to where you can do them all the way through with zero error. another good studying tip is to make flashcards. you can carry them all over with you, and flip through them anywhere- in the line at a store, while being bored at your house, at the dry cleaners, really- anything.

so i know that was an extremely long answer, but i hope it was helpfullll ♥ good luckkkk!!

man man man let me tell you a story i was on the bus and i like this boy(he's my friend) i asked for his number then he gave it 2 me but he hesitated i called him at like 8:30 he was like call me back im busy so i called him back like a 1h n 30m later so he didnt answer so i told my friend to call him and see if he answers she called and she was like i got the wrong number so i waited 10m 2 call him back but he didnt answer from my number so iwas like alright then i never called him again but the next day i told my friend charisse to call him from block so he answer and she was like you like ravin and he said as a friend and she said yall 2 go 2 gether and he said no we dont so they kept on going back and forth i got mad so after mardi gras holiday i was on the bus and i didnt talk to him but after the homeroom bell rang he was staring me down i was like hey jeremy and he said hey sooooo i seen him all through the day and we never spoke but on the bus there were two seats left one next to me and one next to a girl michelle so he sat with her and he was like my seat buddy and he turned around and said hey ravin(was he trying to make me jelous?) i said hi jeremy so the boy behind me kept on askin for my phone number so i was like no then jjeremy started looking all in michelle's face when a slow song came on and she was smiling and laughing and saying move move but i reallly like him and i used to think he liked me but now i think he likes michelle !! im so mad i need advice please?

alright well it seems like this boy knows you like him, and wants to play tricky little mind games with you. so if i were you, i would just play them right back. give him a taste of his own medecine. don't always give him the oppurtunity to sit with you.. sit with another boy but still occasionally glance at him and catch his eye. don't constantly call him, because that will make you seem desperate and thats obviously not what this guy's into. play hard to get, but don't be mean. its ok to still let him know that you like him by dropping hints, but make sure that he knows that he's not the only boy you can get. theres a chance he likes you, but i think that either he likes michelle, or he's just flirting with her to make you jealous.. good luck with everything hun ♥

13/f im straight.my bff is a lesbian.she wrote a love note to her girlfriend.the teacher took the note and they both got suspended and might or not come back.if it was a boy/girl relationship they wouldnt get suspended but a girl and a girl would?.we go to a catholic school.can they do that~what should i do?what should they do? help

well theres two options;

she could stand up for what she believes in, and protest that it's not fair.. but homosexuality IS against the catholic religon.. [i don't see the big deal in being homosexual, i think everyone should do what they want] but thats one thing that i don't like about cathlicism.. so they can protest their freedom of speech, and risk getting in more trouble..

ORRRRRRRRRRRRR,

she could just pretend that it was a joke.. me and my friend kelsey write joking love letters to each other.. but they're so dumb that it's ridiculous that it's obvious.. just pretend that it was a joke.. or say that it was like supposed to be to a guy, and when the note was addressed to the girl, it was like an example of what she wanted to say to a guy and she wanted to know what her girlfriend would think.. like, you could say that earlier in the day, your bffs girlfriend wanted to know what she should say to a guy, or her boyfriend or something.. and your bff wrote back saying what she thought she should say :] good luckk

hey what are some cute songs i can put on my myspace? or itunes?

they dont have to be brand new songs?

like having it to deal with

*breaking up and totally over it
*liking someone new
*starting over
*friends
*life
*confused about love
*liking someone new and hopin they love you??

thankkkssss

paula de anda; walk away
aly & aj; chemicals react :]
aslyn; be the girl
high school musical; start of something new [haha]
jojo; how to touch a girl
oasis; wonderwall
pink; you and your hand :] hahahaa

and yeah those are the best ones i can think offff :] good luck with everything [the new guy you like] hehe ♥

14/f
well yeah i have this big problem. i totally hate myself. i wouldn't even mind killing myself right now. i have NO friends cause people think i'm weird. well i am (i dress kinda emo and stuff like that) but sooooo what??? i think i'm ugly like a piece of old shit. my mom always says i am ssoooooooooo pretty and well i dunno. guys often look at me when i go out but still i hate myself. like everybody hates me in school. no guy likes me. i am in love with a guy who liked me back but i screwed it up cause i said the biggest shit ever. i am the ONLY one who haven't had a bf and it pisses me of. like my best friend is like really ugly no offence 2 her and she allready had 2 boyfriends. i feel so hated. and i think i am so fat. i dunno if i really am cause i think i c myself differently in the mirrow then other people c me. my mom tells me that's my problem. she tells me i am like the most pretty girl ever but everytime i look in the mirrow i start crying.
and i bet my mom just tells me i'm pretty cause i'm her daughter
i really don't know what 2 do anymore. i don't wanna crie my heart out every day and i kinda don't really wanna kill myself either.
please don't give me mean answers i'm pissed of enough for today
just help

alright well i think that you're just too negative about things.. things could be alot worse babe.. trust me. you just need to get a better perspective on life and realize that everything doesn't suck. when you're born, you're given a body and a unique personality.. it's your choice what to do with it. you can cover them up, show then off, dress them up, hide them.. whatever you want to do. i didn't get my first boyfriend until i was 15 years old.. and now i'm 16 and we've been together ever since [8 months]. you you really need to just sit tight and wait! and realize that things really aren't as bad as they seem.. the whole thing that is basically worrying you, is not having a boyfriend. you don't need a boyfrined to like yourself.. you need to do that on your own before you expect anyone to like you. people arent going to start liking you until you like yourself. guys are attracted to confidence. so if i were you, i would first concentrate on boosting your self esteem. maybe stop dressing 'emo' and dress cuter. do something new with your hair.. maybe get a new haircut, something cute.. get some new clothes! stop focusing on the bad things, and look at the good ones. you should start working out and exercising. it's like a high after you work up a sweat and see results. like i said, your body is like a blank canvas that you can do whatever you want to do with.. since you think that what you're doing right now isn't working for you, try switching it uppp, and try doing something new with yourself =]

*** by the way.. NEVERRRRRR kill yourself or become suicidal. don't. you don't know how selfish and stupid it is and what you leave behind. look at your mother, isn't it obvious how much she loves you? how would she feel if she knew that you did that? exactly: horrible. so don't do ittttt!!!! [ok sorry if that sounded bitchy, i really didn't mean for it to sound like that.. suicide's just a pretty touchy thing for me.. so don't do it.. trust meeeee it could be worseeee.]

good luck hun ♥ if you want more advice, feel free to IM me =] i'd be glad to help you out with anythingggg =]

Hi.

First, you give amazing advice. I've never got any from you, but from what I've read, its pretty good.

Anyways, on your profile pic, the picture on the bottom left, what type of camera or phone is that? I think its pretty cool.

Also, what did you get suspended for?

hey thanks =]

my phone is a verizon lg vcast. now they have a newer vcast called the envy.. i got mine about a year ago.

and i was banned because someone rated me lower than i wanted.. so i filed whats called an 'abuse report' and i accidently double clicked so it showed up twice.. and the administrators got mad at me for double clicking. and i didn't fill it out enough.. so if you ever want to file an abuse report, be careful.. they're picky lol

♥ ♥ ♥

15/f. ok well i'm thinking of getting my hair colored in some way. natural colors lol not like pink or red! i was just wondering what you think would look good and where. like highlights, lowlights, color underneath.

http://i18.tinypic.com/2mobin7.jpg

thanks!

well personally, i absolutely LOVE your hair. the cut, color, everything! but i think it would look reallllyy good like hilary duff's brown =] lol like this: http://www.hilarynews.com/wp-content/uploads/2006/07/glam-jam11.jpg

i think any shade of lightish brown would look fantastic on you =] it would reallllyy bring out your gorgeous eyes =] good luck hun!!! ♥

15/f. does anybody know of a store that has cute jeans in a 00? i already get all of my jeans from delias, but i own all of the pairs there and i need new jeans =]

thanks! nothing too expensive..i guess i'll pay up to about $40.

and if it helps i live in PA =]

ok well i allllwayyyys get my jeans from hollister. they're the only ones that fit! lol. they're all $40 and they have realllyy cute jeans, but no 00's. just 0's. but their jeans are small enough, that i bet they would fit you! because i too wear a 00 in delia's and basically anywhere else, but in hollister i'm a 0. =] here's their website: www.hollisterco.com and also, abercrombie has good jeans as wellll =] but their jeans are really expensive.. like sometimes 80 or moreee. but they do have 00's and 0's. www.abercrombie.com you can also try american eagle! but some of their jeans are too big for me.. but here's their website www.ae.com american eagle's jeans are usually from $30-$50, depending on the pair. you can also try department stores! like kohls, macys, jcpenny, bonton, boscovs, nordstrom, strawbridges, and more! good luck hun!! ♥

i'm having some issues at home, and i'm really stressed out and just stuff like that. anyway, i really hate crying or being sad around people or talking about my problems... but last night i was hanging out with some of my friends and i just couldn't stop crying! i layed on my friend and just cried... i'm almost positive he knew i was crying...but anyway, i felt bad afterwords so i texted him and told him i was sorry and he won't reply... could he be mad at me?

he probably just didn't get the text. =] just wait it out.. he might just feel a little out of place because guys usually aren't very comfortable with things like that.. so just give it timee. maybe if he doesn't respond in an hour or so, text him again and tell her that there's just been alot on your mind, and you felt comfortable enough around him to let it out.. i'm sure he understands.. he probably just didn't get your message. =] good luck! ♥

Is there a way to tell when a guy has a boner in class?

well the only way to know if a guy has a boner, is to either ask him, actually look or 'glance' at it yourself, ask someone else to look for you, or feeling it. if he's 'decent' in size it will be clear that he has one lol.. but yeah those are basically the only ways to know if he has one. his mannerisms won't change or anythingggggg =]

My classmate is having a party and she invited everyone in the class except me. I talked to her online and here's our conversation...

Me - why didnt i get an invite ?
Friend - huh?
Me - an invitation to your bday
Her - ...?? what ??
Me - i saw the invitations sam showed me
***SHE BLOCKS ME***

we arent like best friends but i hate how she invited random boys and not me!!!!!! we've never been in a fight and now im crying because she hates me

i feel like i have no friends now

how do i handle this situation?

i'm pretty sure its not a big deallll.. its just a birthday party.. why cry and think you have no friends cause you didn't get invited? it could end up being a surprise party for you! lol. it's really not that big of deal.. just try confronting her in school, and don't fret. =] good luck ♥

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