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im 14/f
i like this guy
he knows but, he says he doesnt kno me well enough i mean we talk everyday on myspace but, nvr imporant things so, is it possible that he just doesnt kno me enough
i would like guy advice (link)
Myspace is risky, but I'm not judging you on that. The answer is simple really: talk to him about more serious stuff. Ask him about himself and tell him about yourself. But don't give out too much information, unless you know him from school or somewhere else. If he goes to your school and you know he is who is says he is (you never know with the internet these days) then I'd say try and talk in person and see if you connect. If you met through myspace, don't meet unless you ask someone. You never know who's on the other side of that conversation.

But good luck! And remember: be yourself!


I was at my dad's bosses house yesterday doing yardwork and I have a big crush on his son and I was mulching and he was mulching. My dad was there too. Apparently, he was looking at my boobs because my dad said stop looking at her boobs. My sister also said he was staring at my butt. I really like him, but I don't know how to interpret those kinds of signals. Can someone help me please?! (link)
I would give it a test run. Talk to him face to face and see what he looks at. If he looks at your eyes, then he's worth going after. If he continues to stare at your chest, or if he looks away when talking to you (never making eye contact) then I think he's not worth it. Also see HOW he talks to you. If he's rude or arrogant and doesn't ask about you, then he's probably also not worth it.


ok this is kinda bad i know but here goes. i'm 17/f and theres this guy i met online who's 20 (its legal where i am) We talked for awhile and he said all of this stuff about how he really liked me and i was amazing and beautiful and i wasn't really sure that i liked him but i liked being liked so i kept talking to him. I was his friend on facebook, along with about 70 other highschool girls with skanky pictures who he still talks too, but anyways he started talking dirty to me and we exchanged some pictures and such and eventually we met up. By this time i liked him too. We hung out for awhile..went to a movie and dinner...and then in his car...yeah....lol i feel like a slut but whatever.

And now he's saying stuff like he wants to have a threesome with my mom or my sister or one of my friends. and he talks to all of these skanky girls on facebook. But he also says stuff like i want to get you pregnant so you're stuck with me, i wanna be with you for ever, i wanna marry you, i want you to move in with me, and even...ugh i love you.

He swears all this stuff he says is true and he seems pretty sincere but if i'm the only girl for him like he's said then why is he still talking to so many other girls and wanting to have a threesome? (link)
Personally I think you need to say goodbye. He's no good he's only out to get a nut off. If he really wanted you he wouldn't talk to all those other "slutty" chicks. Yes you made a mistake but hey, we are only human. Set him straight. A good friend (a guy) once told me guys will say ANYTHING to get you into bed or to have you as eye candy with them all the time.


ok so this might go under dating, but anyways why are women all into mind games, do they enjoy messing up guys??
oh yeah im from argentina (link)

Well, for one thing, they're women. And women think and react with their emotions -- at least more than men do, in general. But it's really about testing them. And tests are ultimately all about control of the relationship.

The typical guy is usually clueless about the mind games women play. But play them they will, so you'd better be aware of what's going on.



A boy in my class who I have never really talked to named doug had asked me to jr. prom and I said sure because he is a cute kid and I felt bad. His friend Peter took one of my friends. Jr. Prom is over and I've been talking to Peter a lot. He has kind of hinted that he likes me and asked me to go with him to his friends bbq. I said sure because a lot of my friends were going. But when we went he kind of kept me away from everyone the whole time and kept making hints like "we are more than friends.." and it was weird. Luckily Doug and his friend Norm noticed I was not interested and saved me but man it was weird. Now Peter has been telling people he likes me and I dont know whether to give him a second chance or how to get rid of him without ruining my relationship with his friends. A little help? (link)
well you already said that his friends KNEW you weren't interested so I don't think you need to worry about them.

All I have to say is get Peter alone and tell him gently that you're not interested in him. It will probably hurt him either way but it's better than leading him into thinking something else(I know from personal experience, so trust me on this one.)


so i got this sunburn on my upper back/shoulders. and its peeled and now im tann..but i have plae spots from where it peeled. is there anything i can do to fix it. like buy anything or what? (link)
Applying self-tanner to the lighter areas will definitely darken them up. Self-tanner contains an ingredient that stimulates your skins own melanin production, so it should develop towards the same color as the rest of your tan. Avoid products that contain "bronzers" if you're worried about turning orange. Apply some regular lotion or vaseline to the dark side of your tan lines; that way if any self-tanner goes over into the dark area, it will get diluted down by the moisturizer and not develop as well. If you're really desperate and willing to throw some cash at this, you could go to a tanning salon that does spray-on tans, and have them airbrush tan the areas you want darkened.


I truely love receiving oral sex. Sometimes i get carried away and i start to push the back of the girls head so i go deeper in her mouth. Do think this is rude? would you get upset if you were in such a situation? (link)
I don't think it's rude so much as inconsiderate. I mean you don't need to be deep throated every time you get head? If the girl knew what she was doing when she was giving oral sex you wouldn't feel the need to do that! So I guess it's whoever you're receiving from haha. But yeah remember the distance from the mouth to the throat is all of 2-3 inches while a penis is oh 5-7? So yeah if she gags, don't blame her =]

Me personally, I wouldn't get upset because it'd never happen to me I know what I'm doing


I don't want to sound conceited or whiney or anything, but this is a seriously honest question. I haven't had good luck with boys lately, and I just want to know if it has to do with my looks or something. I'm very unconfident and I just want to get it straight so please be honest!

http://i106.photobucket.com/albums/m252/bballbabe4x3/n739808453_834886_1286.jpg
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you are pretty. but a guys not gonna ask you out if you dont have a good personality. so that means you need to get confident asap, as well as be able to talk to them comfortably.
laugh at their jokes, and then participate in their conversatoins. be flirty.
then youll be real lucky with boys ;)

edit: it alsoo looks like youve got a pretty good body haha so thats goin for you


I don't want to sound conceited or whiney or anything, but this is a seriously honest question. I haven't had good luck with boys lately, and I just want to know if it has to do with my looks or something. I'm very unconfident and I just want to get it straight so please be honest!

http://i106.photobucket.com/albums/m252/bballbabe4x3/n739808453_834886_1286.jpg
(link)
wow.
well the reason the guys are probably not liking you is because youre not confident.
but you DEFINITLY should be confident.
i kid you not, i expected an ugly or weird looking person but your picture came up and i was like WOWOW.
and i'm very very very honest.

you're a beautiful ladayyy=]


Okay So I have the messanger off of msn, and me n my crush (let's call him "Joe") chat on there about every other day or so. But the thing is I don't know what to say. I LOVE talking to him, but where i have this crush & all I tense up.

What do guys like to talk about. What should i Say? ( he goes 2 a different school so i can't talk about that)
WHAT WOULD YOU DO>......... HELP!

plz/thanks
-a.m.l (link)
im really good at talking to guys.
soooo all you gotta do is be like "so babe how was your day" and then hell be like good or something. if hes not the kinda person who woudl be like "it was good football practice was tough" or something like that right, thennn youd say "what did you do today," because yeah, same question, worded differently.
then you can ask what he did this weekend. if he says not much then you say "you shouldve called me!" or you can say "lets hang out next weekend ill make sure youll have more fun." all that kinda stuff.
im not sure if your like the flirty kinda person with him, or if your just friends, but you should deffinantlyyy try to get it to be flirty. like if he asks how was your day, you can be like "not so great cuz i didnt get to see youu." unless hes not into this, dont do it because then he'll get creeped out.
stop tensing up mann thats wierdd :)
if you ever need more help with "joeee" or talking to guys, come to mee! also, keep me updated with how it goes down with you twoo


Questions before I get the season 4
-Who all is going to have a baby?
-Is there anything going on with Nathan And Rachel, if so, what?
-Does Payton and Jake get together?
-Oh and who finds out that Dan killed Kieth?

Thanks!! =D (link)
loveeeeeee one tree hill. its great
im not really sure about your questions though, theyre kinda confusing...
-nathan and haley have a baby boy, named jamie. im not really sure what season your on about, but there was also a rumor or brooke having a baby, but she wasnt pregnant. karen also has a daughter, named lilly, (keiths the dad but hes dead of course), and lily and jamie are aunt/nephew, even though theyre the same agee.
-only flirting. nothing goes on with them. shes real interested in him, but hes not.
-not really. for like one episode i thinkkk
-so the girl that finds out dan killled keith was staying behind to get her diabetes meds, and was hiding in a classroom. shes lookin through the blinds, and she sees him kill him! its intensee!

hope that helpsss


When you go to the doctor how confident is it???
Meaning if you dont want them to tell your parents something will they keep it between you an them???
Or do they have to tell your parents everything?? (link)
its illegal to tell something to your parents wihtout your consent.
it is legal to tell them if you are planning to hurt yourself or others, though.
buuut, if your wondering about drinkin/drugs/sex all that kinda stuff, they cant tell it, or they can lose their jobs


13/f
this might be in the wrong category, but 4give me if it is.

so i had my first period like a month ago or something like that. and i know, your supposed to get a period every month. but itsz like 30-40 days now and i still didnt get it. well ive been feeling rather horny after mii first period and started to masturbate like everyday. but nothing else. is my period just irregular or could it be something else? any advice would be very much appreciated. thankx! (link)
this is normal.
your period will be irregular for the first two years, but normally its really irregular for the first 6 months.
and the reason you are horny is because in between cycles, ovulation makes girls hornyyy.
your fine!


I'm planning on making this an incredible summer. Any really fun ideas for a Summer to-do list? I'm 15, almost 16, and I'll pretty much do anything for fun. Just looking for a few creative ideas :) (link)
this is my summer to do list, i hope you might find some ideassss:
Colleges (start lookin at them)
Running. Good shape. (for field hockey in the fall. so if you play a fall sport, or just excerisize)
Learn to drive
Make money (car :)
Sell on eBay
Finish learning the piano songs (i quit and wanna start back up again)
Learn Portuguese again (books) (im tryna get better and become fluent again, so you could always try to learn a new language!)
Get real good at field hockey
Get new wardrobe
Give blood
Tattoos. Belly button piercing
Eat & Sleep well
Real good oral hygiene (aka teeth whitenning haha)

i tried to explain my goals with the parenthesese in case they didnt really make sense to you.
hope i helped!





do most girls have vibrators? and if so how often do they use them? (link)
i have one, most of my friends have one, and most of them, including me, use it every night.


Can u contract any STDs through fingering?? Like when a guy fingers you in the vagina (3rd base)??

18/f (link)
if he touches himself with an std first, and then touches you. or if he has an std such as aids, and he has a bleeding cut on his finger then you could get it.
its not very likely, but it is somewhat possible


bored.

suggestion? (link)
miniclips.com
game websites
etc.
give advice and help other people!
go out and excersize, since girls find that attractive =] (assuming your a guy because the "About the Questioner" says your a 16 year old malee)
study
theres lots to dooo


i'm 18 years old and i weigh 112 pounds. i think im around 5'5 inches or so.

am i at a healthy weight for my age and height?

thanks to everyone who answers! (link)
I think its a good weight

am-i-fat.com said:
You are marginally thin, eat more.
(your bmi is 19%)

I think its a good skinny though, like its attractive skinny. I'm 5'8 and 120, except I'm really athletic and all the weight is muscle though. I wouldn't consider myself THAT skinny, but it says im only 18%.

I'd say your good


what can you tell me about birth control pills? i dont know much...but id very much like to be put on them. so any information i can get is helpful. thanks :) (link)
you can go to planned parenthood for information. thats where i learned about them, and they will give you pills for free.
basic stuff: regulates periods, can reduce cramps, weight gain, does not protect stds, stuff like that.
i dont really know what you WANT to know about the pill, but if you have any specific or general questions about it, ask mee because i know lots about it!


i asked my bf for sex and he said no and so now im pissed off and im not talking to him.

is that a whoreish thing to do?? (link)
its not whorish cuz its your boyfriend, and so your not just slutting yourself to a random guy or anything haha
but you should notttt be pissed off, because you shouldnt be making him do something he doesnt want to do.
just wait till hes ready. pressuring people into something they arent comfortable with isnt good




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