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i feel like such a whore!
i asked my bf for sex and he said no and so now im pissed off and im not talking to him.
is that a whoreish thing to do??
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he's not even a virgin!?!?! wow. i thought he just didn't want to give up his virginity. but no, he just doesn't want to sleep you. face it honey, he doesn't want you.
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I think it would take anyone aback if you told them you wanted to have sex then and there. He's not used to this aggressive or sexual side of you. How was he to react? He could have said yes or should have said no. He didn't though.
He likely wasn't rejecting you but probably just isn't ready for that. Get over your anger, pull in your horns and talk to him about what happened. You'll find he loves you but just may not be willing to take that step yet or didn't know what to do with your assertiveness. Don't feel bad as a lot of guys/men would be thinking "where the hell is this coming from?"
Not every one would be wanting to pounce on you immediately after be told this. He's obviously not ready for this and didn't know how to respond.
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no its not whorish. but you shouldnt be mad at your boyfriend. he probably just isnt ready. but when he is.. it will be special. dont make him rush into something that hes not ready for, it might ruin the relationship
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its not whorish cuz its your boyfriend, and so your not just slutting yourself to a random guy or anything haha
but you should notttt be pissed off, because you shouldnt be making him do something he doesnt want to do.
just wait till hes ready. pressuring people into something they arent comfortable with isnt good
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Wow.
Such irony.
Not you, the person who answered you below me. Its beautiful to see such immature 14 year old horny teen perspective coming from a username like "Arealman"
Ok, so its more annoying, but I was still amused.
Anyway, your question.
Your boyfriend said no. You are hurt. That parts normal and understandable. It sucks to be rejected. But, at this point, you don't know why.
With more information I could be more accurate in a prediction, but what its all going to boil down to is talking to him again and asking you why.
What I will tell you, is that if a teenaged boy turns down sex, theres usually a good reason (for him, at least)
He might be religious (you didnt say, so I didnt know). Even more likely, he's nervous as hell. Is it possible you kinda surprised him with the request for sex?
If you just were doing what you normally do, and you asked for sex, he might well have panicked. Even if he isnt a virgin (which Im betting he is) he could have performance anxiety and worry about if you'll like it, if you'll laugh at him, if anything bad will happen. And when all that is up in his head, getting hard and having sex just aren't on the menu. He might just not be ready for it yet.
Talk to him. Ask him what he thinks about sex.
Also, a little perspective. If a guy asked a girl for sex and she said no, and he didnt talk to her for a while after that, every single person in this country would say he was an asshole for not being sensitive to her needs.
Just because youre the girl and he's the guy and guys are "supposed" to be constantly horny and always up for sex doesnt mean that it works that way in the real world. Be careful, or you might break up with a decent guy for some horny moron like "arealman" down there.
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It's not whorish. It just isn't very nice.
Remember: Guys have just as much right to say no to sex as girls do! They might not say no as often, but they still have every right to do so.
Either talk to him about this, respectfully, or dump him and go find a guy who is happy to give you what you want.
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It's not "whoreish"... just very selfish.
You shouldn't EVER pressure anyone into having sex. He's your boyfriend - you are supposed to be the one that stands by his decisions and wait until he is ready. You getting all pissy because he doesn't want to is just damn right rude. Apologize and say you'll wait for whenever he is ready and wants it.
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it's not whorish at all, you're in a relationship, but it is kind of unfair. If the tables were turned and he were mad at you for not wanting to have sex, he would look like a pig and he would be in the wrong. No matter how strong your sex drive is, you have to consider if he is ready or not.
good luck! <3
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