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Q: there is this boy who i flirt with a lot and whenever we hang out with a group of friends that group always talks about how we should go out which makes things really awkward and they also dare us to kiss each other but i don't want to do that yet.

how can i handle being put in that situation?

well if you like the boy, you should joke with after someone says that.
like if someone goes you guys should go out. be like "yah man ask me outt" and smile and laugh.
or if someone says hook up be like "ha yeah kiss me" and like pretend to go in

Q: wher can i view the picture that i took from the photographers at six flags?

they gaveme this ticket and i was suppose to go the the photo place over there but i didnt

is there any way i can find it in the internet?

i went to the website of six flags photos and im not registered co zi dont have a card but what do i do to biew my picture!! i still have the ticket and the numebr of the pic!!!!!!!!

i wanna see it!

the only way to see it is at six flags.
they give you a ticket and you go to booth thing and they let you see it/ buyy it.
you cant see it on the internet or website

Q: i know this question is asked all the time but.
how do you make out?
like.. if he has hi tounge in your mouth what do you with yours?!

well while your kissing your tounge kind of go together and caress.

Q: I've been having problems with one of my friends because she's always all over my boyfriend and sometimes I think she pays more attention to him than me and we are suppose to be best friends like for example i'll be there with my boyfriend and then she comes and give him a kiss in the cheek and i already talked to her but she says that they are only friends. What do you think i should do?

i thnk that you should sit her done and say that if shes your true friend.. she leave your boyfriend alone for a while because its making you unconfortable. is she is a true friend, then she will back off. I also think you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you feel unconfortable about this situation. you could maybe tell him to tell her to stop. Maybe shell be a little embarassed, and stop.

Hope i helped. anymore questions, just ask =]

Q: i asked my bf for sex and he said no and so now im pissed off and im not talking to him.

is that a whoreish thing to do??

no its not whorish. but you shouldnt be mad at your boyfriend. he probably just isnt ready. but when he is.. it will be special. dont make him rush into something that hes not ready for, it might ruin the relationship

Q: I just wanted to know why everyone uses advicenators.

I was using google yesterday and I found this site. I really like it, since I can give advice and feel that I am actually doing something. Plus it helps pass the time haha.

So, why do you use advicenators?

well i use it because i think its fun. and its also something i believe i am very good at. and it gives whoever the chance at recieving and giving advice =]

Q: so on ichat next to my screen name is usually two camera (to show i have a mac) now there is only one!!! how do i get my two back!! i only use a mac!!!

the two cameras dont show you have a mac. its shows that you have a camera on your mac. sometimes the camera just doesnt work for alittle. it should go back to normal. give it some time.

Q: 13/F
I got a couple of questions about this kinda stuff, do you guys mind answering them?
1. Does you hymen break if you use tampons, just like having sex?
2. What would you recomend ; tampons or pads?
3. I've been getting discharge (not too heavy) nearly every day since 5th April, and i'm kinda worried; anything i can do/is it alright?
4. Is there any signs if i'm gonna start soon, cos i'm kinda worried about it?

Thanks lol :D

BTW should this question be in sex or somethin else lol ? thnx xx

1) your hymen can break when using a tampon. not always but for different people it can.
2)until i was 15 i used pads because my mom would never let me wear tampons but now i use tampons. tampons are muchhh easyer. you can just totally forget about your period for a couple of hours.
3)you cant really control your discharge, but during some time of your period cycle, it does happen. totally normal.
4)dont worry about getting your period. everyone gets it and theres nothing to worry about. of course its suck and its annoying but its no biggy. you just have to get used to it.

Q: do u have to use lube when giving a handjob?
if so,what should i use?
but is there anyway to do it without it?

ask the guys opinion.
lube would make it go more smoothly. and it wont be as dry. but you can do it with out.

Q: Whats the difference between cum, ejaculation, and masturbation??? and which do girls and guys do??

I know this is kinda weird but im just wonderin.

Thanks

cum is a mixture of sperm cells and different fluids. when a male ejaculates, cum comes out of his penis. its also maturbation.

guys-all
girls- masturbate.

Q: i know this may sound disturbing but my bf said that i gave him a boner and next time i should something about it..what does he mean and how? lol

it means that he is reallly turned on and that his penis is erected. you can do many things about it. you could give him a handjob, or blowjob, or sex. theres many things.

Q: 15/f
me and my bf have been goin out for 5months and 1week. and he lives 30 mins away so i only see him on the weekends for a day or 2. and last week i told him i loved him and he didnt say it back. that night on aim he explained he wasnt ready to say it. we have been to 3rd base and we go to 3rd base everytime i see him like twice everytime i see him. and everytime we do that i really just wanna do "it" but i know im to young and were both not ready but i dont know how to fight these urges. and i dont kno if i should tell my boyfriend that i've been wanting to or not. i just dont know how to handle this and get these urges away and if i should tell him about these "urges"....any suggestions....THANK YOU!

i dont think you should tell him.. cuz if he knew, hed probably make you or guilt or even trick you into doing it. i think that you should try maybe pleasuring yourself more often to fight the urges. hope i helpedd =]

Q: Im kind of shy so im not all that loud during sex and until recently it hasnt been a problem but the guy ive been seeing kind of thinks i dont like him or like having sex with him so since im not going to be loud or anything like that considering his roommate and my friend are on the bunk above us usually how can i show him or whateve that i do like having sex with him?

maybe while having sex, tell him it feels good and you like it. that way your not loud, and he knows.

Q: i guess i was just curious for a girl if having sex without a condom feels better than having sex with a condom? like having a guy cum inside you i guess? i'm not planning on having sex without a condom it's just a question, so please do not lecture me on using condoms, kthanks.

well of course it feels better having no condom cuz theres not as much friction or anything. but they both feel good.

Q: so my firend said that guys like asain girls, i asked why and she said its cuz their "tighter" im guessing tighter down there. Is that true? and do guys really care about that all that much?

many guys are different. it depends on what they are into. many guys do like asians but others dont.
and also, so guys like it when a girl is tighter, but some guys doent. it depends on the guy.

Q: Ok, im 16/f and a virgin. I really want a guy's opinion on this, but girls, if you know, you can answer to. Does it make a difference to guys if a girl is a virgin or not? Do you guys find it appealing, sexy, unusual, gross or what? Is it true that some guys sleep with virgins just becuase the want to devirginize them? Also, what is your opinion of phone/ internet sex? Thanks!

i think that most guys dont really care, but every guy is differnt. as for internet/phone sex, i personaly like it sometimes. it just makes you kind of horny. doesnt really do anything. hope i helped =]

Q: Hey!, I'm Ashley. I'm 16.
i've known my this boy Henry for almost three years. He is friends with some of my best guy friends. We flirted on and off for about two years but never went out because we hardly saw each other. This past summer Henry started hanging out with my neighbor and best friend Ryan who i've known my entire life. This put him closer and we saw each other more and more. Then he asked me out and we were dating for two and a half months. we recently took a break but now we both want to get back together but Ryan now likes me as more than a friend and is jealous of Henry. When ever he can he tries to separate us, and tells me lies about Henry. He advises me not to take him back. I only see Ryan as a friend so I don't have feelings for him but I don't want to lose him either. I feel that he will get very angry is Henry and I start up again as a couple. I don't know what to do.. advice please? :)

thanks so much-
Ashley

i think that you should tell ryan that you dont think of him that way. also explain to him that you like Henry and thay he needs to leave you guys alone. tell him you dont want to lose him as a friend, but he cant do that

Q: 19/f he is 19/m
I just broke up with this wonderful guy after 2 years and 4 months of dating. and I don't know how to get over this.
He was my first true love (as corny as that sounds) and we had all these plans to do together, to be together.
But he and I had a roller coaster relationship.
He is bipolar and schizophrenic, and has a whole boatload of other mental problems (but won't take his medication), and I took care of him when he had all his court stuff, and when he was in the hospital for 2 1/2 months.
I was the one who bent over backwards to make his life easier and so he would be happy.
But he wanted so much to live his life the way he wanted.
But that meant promiscuous sex, and drugs and addictions, and I told him I can't be around for that.
I can't do that anymore, because when is he going to be around to take care of me?
He told me the only time he's been happy the past few months when we have sex, and that just totally blew my mind.
I thought he was happy with me and he told me he wasn't because he wants someone that is more along his lines of thinking.
But I really do love him so much and it hurts so badly.
so please please help me get over him.
Because it hurts too much.

it looks to me that you did the right thing. you did everything you could for him.. and he took you forgranted. its gunna take you a while to get over him but you have to. and if he ever wants to get back together.. think of this. think of the reason you broke up with him

Q: My name is fdakl and I am from India. I need help. There is this really annoying girl named Lisa Somas in my grade.... i dont know what to do. She follows me around all the time. How do i give her the hint that i dont really like her?

suck your dick?

Q: i'm 18 years old.

if your ready.. then go for it. if you need time.. just wait alittle.
if your not sure.. id wait for a little.

hope i helped =]

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Hi, my name is Lisa. I am very exited and devoted in becoming a columnist. I love giving advice and i think i am rather good at it. i just say to you what i would do you what i think is best. You can ask me any question no matter what. ill always answer. Thanks =]