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Not interested.
A boy in my class who I have never really talked to named doug had asked me to jr. prom and I said sure because he is a cute kid and I felt bad. His friend Peter took one of my friends. Jr. Prom is over and I've been talking to Peter a lot. He has kind of hinted that he likes me and asked me to go with him to his friends bbq. I said sure because a lot of my friends were going. But when we went he kind of kept me away from everyone the whole time and kept making hints like "we are more than friends.." and it was weird. Luckily Doug and his friend Norm noticed I was not interested and saved me but man it was weird. Now Peter has been telling people he likes me and I dont know whether to give him a second chance or how to get rid of him without ruining my relationship with his friends. A little help?
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If I were you, I wouldn't give him a second chance. If you're not into him now, when you talk to him a lot as it is, your feelings probably won't change.
I would casually sit him down and tell him that while you love your friendship, you don't want any more than that. But if you do want to stay friends and you tell him that, stick to your word.
Put yourself in his shoes. If you liked a guy, and he wasn't really interested, wouldn't you like to know? The answer is probably yes.
By telling him how you feel, you're giving him the chance to find someone who likes him as much as he will like her.
Also, if you give him a second chance and you end up feeling the same as you do now, he may start liking you even more. If that happens, it will be a lot harder on him when you tell him that you don't like him.
He may be let down when you break the news to him, but it will be better for the both of you in the long run.
If you need any more help, let me know!
-Manders
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I've been in this situation so many times. A guy likes me, I don't really like him, but I like his friends so I keep talking to him, which sends him the wrong message.
Honestly, I think that this is one of those things, that we can't tell you what to do. This particular decision needs to come from you and only you.
Really, the way I see it, you're options are either: Try to give him a chance and if it doesn't work out, risk your relationship with his friends OR Tell him you're not interested, and risk your relationship with his friends.
Either way you're at jeopardy of losing other relationships. So my opinion is: find the nicest way possible to let him know that you're just not interested. Maybe you could try setting him up with another girl? Ultimately, it comes down to whether or not you're willing to give this kid a chance, but either way you need to be nice because you want to stay friends with his friends.
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Be like damn I don't wanna be mean but I'm not interested like that ya know an plus his friends will probably say fool she doesn't like u lol do it
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well you already said that his friends KNEW you weren't interested so I don't think you need to worry about them.
All I have to say is get Peter alone and tell him gently that you're not interested in him. It will probably hurt him either way but it's better than leading him into thinking something else(I know from personal experience, so trust me on this one.)
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